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Elaborate Excuses...
July 04 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just get the old standard "I have to work". By the way, I think you both are gorgeous! Who are these crazy people that cancel on you?!?
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RHP User
11 years ago
you guys are a pair of studmuffins :) and I get the 'have to work' thing all the time too. Work is often the reason I get laid, not the excuse to get out of it, lol. I still prefer a shit excuse to a no show, that is fucking irritating!
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
The dog ate the phone (due to silence or no contact)...... buggered If I'm or anyone is going to sitting around waiting for the dog to shit it out! Sorry OP's this has happened to you. You are both gorgeous BTW. It's happened to a lot of people on here...and believe me when I say it's not you - it's them! People do come up with excuses and blah blah blah, it says a lot about them. Oh one man said to me once - believe a man/person if he/they use his kids or mum as an excuse, as a good man will never use close loved ones or the ones they love like that. *Thanks Kizza* :) Keep your chins up you sexy couple - I'm sure something out of the blue is just around the corner. :) Foxy xxx
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
To me it's a catch 22. How does one believe them?? If one uses work as an excuse it says to me their job role and what they do for employment, is not that important to them. That being said, if your professional life is worth it and of high importance, why would people use something that is that important to them as an excuse?? If someone really really was interested in wanting to see me they would work around me and compromise to see me Ask me when I am free? I would never use work as an excuse...however sometimes work hrs and things do change. I'm sure if someone wanted to see another, parties compromise, negotiate, make plans for it to happen and follow/action that through...I guess some people can't do that. :( Well that's how I see it. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
People do things that leave us scratching our heads. Why would people want to not meet an attractive couple like you guys. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was a man who said his best friend had been killed in a car accident and that he had to look after the man's family....months later he contacted me again, he didn't remember our previous contact....he denied that he had ever said such a thing...yadda,yada...but that is not something I would confuse or forget.....btw some people just don't have any intention of ever meeting... They just like the thrill of the possible....sometimes it's jusdt the male half of a couple,and ooops...the wife is unaware....trust me Sexys,it ain't pretty you ,its pathetic them xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
...was going to meet a girl who I had been chatting to / texting for a good 3-4 weeks. She was gorgeous, keen, and ticked all my boxes... And then came the day we decided to meet, she didn't want to travel too far, but couldn't accommodate, so I suggested do the 'motel/hotel' thing in close proximity to her place - she was happy with that. After a confirming conversation with her on the phone, I then proceeded to book a room around a particular area in Melbourne...and once I made the booking, I texted her. She responded "Oh...sorry babe...I didn't realize but (suburb) is actually a bit far for me at the moment..." I was like "But you just agreed to it 5 mins ago over the phone, now Ive made the booking and given the people there my credit card and everything!" No response. Me: "It's ok...it's no big deal, I'll just cancel the booking and we can go elsewhere! no dramas :)" No response. Me "Come on...it's nothing to worry about, just let me know what you want to do?" No response. I then made one phonecall - which rang out - and then decided to let it go. That whole night, I was left thinking 'How on earth did this happen? I had it in the bag now she won't even answer!?" To this day I still wonder what exactly what went wrong...
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MissBishere
11 years ago
From the same guy 1. In hospital with pneumonia 2. Car accident on his way 3. Bulging disc All of these were within a few weeks of each other. Even if they are all real it's just a bit to much drama for me. I no longer give people 3 chances either. And I agree you guys are gorgeous! Don't even get me started on the ones that just don't show up. On the other hand I have had to cancel for various reasons to so I wonder if those guys think I was lying and bailed on them? It's a conundrum - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
but, its only until you have exchanged a few messages before you know or not.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
Forgot go mention with all of the above reasons i mentioned, the guy contacted me after our agreed meeting time and after the time he knew I would I longer be available to state his case. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow Missb72. You can really pick them.. I hope you wiped him out of your life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow! Those are some funny stories and some lovely compliments too by the way ;) Interestingly enough we were actually out with the last couple for drinks and then all of a sudden the stories started to unfold and haven't heard from them since! And here we were both thinking it was going well lol! Oh well, seems to us from all of the private messages we are receiving in response to this as well is that it goes on more often than not. Missb72; that same guy!!?? Stay away from that wank, you'll probably break something standing next to him!!! :DIn all seriousness though, it's pretty f*%#ing pathetic lol! :D
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who are these people, you guys are hot !!!!!!! I've that the flu excuse once but that's it so far
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
Apparently has his bookkeeper coming over tonight... Oh well I guess they may hold the title of hottest state but flaking out is universal. Don't take it personally, when single guys flake out I tend to think they've had an offer from a single, or their girlfriends' not buying it. Couples seem to follow through a bit more than the guys but their excuses are usually more believable or sometimes they're just honest (in one case they wanted a guarantee fuck and we wanted meet first). We appreciate honesty, not enough of it out there...
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RHP User
11 years ago
They pull out cos they think you're too hot for them to handle ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had the 'sick dog' and 'work' excuses. Another one was, 'I'm back with my girlfriend'. I'm also guilty of cancelling for legit reasons, eg. Sick kids or sick me, etc. but have never stood anyone up and go silent. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
11 years ago
Good evening all. Is it because people can be cowards on-line? Do they treat others this way beyond this site? We were contacted recently by a couple on here, really anxious to meet, wanted it to happen rather quickly but was not possible because of hubbies shift work. We were to meet up when the Mrs of the couple returned from overseas. I messaged to say welcome back, no pressure from us for anything else and we have been blocked. What the ????????? Sexilicious, it is their loss. As hubby said to me, and I say to you, they have missed out on an opportunity to meet some really great people :) Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
That totally baffles me!! Why on earth would someone do that? What terrible behaviour.
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RHP User
11 years ago
She was pacifying you :( - Posted from rhpmobile
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howdoesthisgo
11 years ago
Had been msg/phone calls for weeks...arranged for me to drive to Perth (4hrs) I book motel for 2nights (him to pay for one night) Spoke the night b4 leaving..sent messages whilst travelling down...3months later still no word from him..was very lucky that I could call on FB to fill the void but costs of travel there n back, accommodation ... Bloody peeved off.. Don't travel for anyone now... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
....a no show, then a phone call with a perfectly legitimate excuse....but eight weeks later? And asking for another date. And yes, it was a "No"
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' I just get the old standard "I have to work". By the way, I think you both are gorgeous! Who are these crazy people that cancel on you?!? I just don't believe it any more when people repeat the old "I've been busy with work" excuse.No-one works 24/7!!We ALL have down time and what we choose to do with it says a lot about us.
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RHP User
11 years ago
SexyliciousGC, you are both gorgeous, and look so happy, its their loss.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But to pick a few ones yes work is the most common, stuck in traffic due to accident (waited at the meeting place for over an hour then gave up, went home to check location and of course there was no accident), after the most mind blowing meeting i had with someone of rhp he left me mid arvo saying he had to go home to feed the dog ?!?, i got an " i am tired" with no other reply or explanation at 7 pm on the finally agred meeting date after weeks of sms with someone, "my friend rang and he got his wallet stoled have to go help him out right now so cant meet up " ....oh dear do i need to go on?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Last weekend I had a "couple" contact me off this site. Yes they contacted me , me messaged back n forth, they asked me to meet them at a hotel in the city. Yes all good , I booked a room for myself as they were staying in the same hotel. So after I have checked in, I contacted them, after the ph not answering, they ( he) rang me back, said I'll see you in 15 minutes. Well a hour later I was asked if I bought the champagne with me ....... I'd never heard about having to bring anything. So he wasn't happy I didn't bring them 2 bottles of champagne. 3 hours later he txts n says they should be ready soon, give them 15 minutes and come up. I had great pleasure in telling him never to contact me again, as I had my own party happening without them involved. I was once told, make sure you talk to both parties before making arrangements, I guess that's where I went wrong, he was doing all the talking.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Firstly i don't think its a looks thing with you to, I think anyone would be more than happy to see and play with you. Secondly that's pretty poor form on the invitees behalf. Clear communication and a basic amount of respect would ensure that it shouldnt happen, and the stomach to say thanks but no thanks is always appreciated from both sides i find.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That story is crazy but we can relate and have had similar! Sucks big time! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you again for all the compliments by the way :) Very kind xxxxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's happened to us all at some stage.. Seems there's "Way too many" shallow people in the lifestyle who only wants a session with Jennifer and Jake..We just fob it off and hold our heads high..As it's their loss, not our as we know how much fun we are.. Enjoy your journey guys!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its the fact that they are "scared", and chicken out. It always comes back to confidence. Their confidence isn't as good as what they thought it might be... Don't stress, your better off without them. ;-)
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
LMAO @ The Bookkeeper excuse. It's not just in WA that excuse of of the Bookkeeper has been used. I've had it here in QLD. I think...the same - had an offer of an other woman who's dress up in a receptionist outfit and will be taking dicktation! I love that excuse - makes me laff and laff. Good luck to them and the dicktation I say. Foxy
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zoe69r
11 years ago
pffffftttt why do ppl do this ? it mucks everyone around and its then twice as hard for us real guys to try and even get a look in sideways . never make excuses if I say im going to meet you I will meet you
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RHP User
11 years ago
there was 1 guy who offered to fly down from QLD to meet me last year which I declined as I hadn't even seen a clear face pic of him then everything went quiet as I expected for a few weeks and suddenly he messaged me again said he was staying in Melbourne for a few weeks ,I told him that hubby had a meeting in Melb in a week so we could arrange a meet for a drink and that hubby would be there at all times and all good . Well the messages were coming through every day saying how much he was looking forward to catching up and I repeatedly asked him for a clear face pic but never got one , oh well I thought its only for a drink in public and hubby will be there so went ahead and arranged to meet him on queens Warf at the public bar at 7 o'clock .At 7.30 no show so I tried to ring no answer then a text a few minutes later my car is broken down ,ok I said smelling a rat "do you want us to meet u at a pub near you "" how about my motel room" he said" no Id rather somewhere public "then he said" well I don't want to waist my time if we aren't going to fuck""but I haven't even seen what you look like clearly" I said "well you are going to have to trust me" he said "don't think so bye" I said then he called me all the names under the sun for leading him on
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'girlhavingfun71' I repeatedly asked him for a clear face pic but never got one , oh well I thought I would say in probably 80 percent - if not more - of cases, there would have been signs that someone was going to end up being a knob, or 'time-waster' as they are referred to often on here (I personally dislike the term). Something like refusing to provide a face pic would immediately set alarm bells off in my head, and there's no way in hell I'd be arranging to meet them. And there are so many stories like this - they message endlessly and won't commit to a date, they just seem 'a bit off', they did this, didn't do this, etc., but people still pursue a meet and it almost inevitably ends badly. I've said it before and I'll say it again, if something seems off then it probably is and you're probably going to be wasting your time trying to pursue anything further with them. Of course there aren't always signs, but if there are then take notice of them, say 'see ya' and move on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
we can vouch for Mary we've met her for real and they really missed out. But it is very rare indeed when anything comes of an online contact. online for most people means fake. and really bad behaviour. In the old days it used to be exchanging letters via contact magazines, or meeting at parties, much more reliable, My suggestion is if you meet people at parties or other ways then make the most of them, then get to know them and play with them, they may not be perfect but they are real. to get variety, travel, have games, met at new venues, try tantra with them, grow sexually with them, make friends etc etc otherwise 99% of the time you are just wasting your time believing in online contacts. A bird in the hand is worth 500 online.
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Beariigood
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' The dog ate the phone (due to silence or no contact)...... buggered If I'm or anyone is going to sitting around waiting for the dog to shit it out! Sorry OP's this has happened to you. You are both gorgeous BTW. It's happened to a lot of people on here...and believe me when I say it's not you - it's them! People do come up with excuses and blah blah blah, it says a lot about them. Oh one man said to me once - believe a man/person if he/they use his kids or mum as an excuse, as a good man will never use close loved ones or the ones they love like that. *Thanks Kizza* :) Keep your chins up you sexy couple - I'm sure something out of the blue is just around the corner. :) Foxy xxx Foxy if the dog ate the phone i would find some way to still contact you and meet your hot Not sure why people don't meet when you say you will its just polite and right thing to do at lest meet person chat see where it leads
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RHP User
11 years ago
Shouldn't have used the term 'knob' in my previous comment. I actually don't think that all people who don't show are awful people, some would just find that the reality is a bit too much for them and instead of confessing that they take the easy way out. Who of us hasn't made a flimsy excuse for something in our lives or caused some drama for someone else (other than those few perfect people here ).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' ....a no show, then a phone call with a perfectly legitimate excuse....but eight weeks later? Did he just wake up from a two-month coma? I disagree with Foxy/Kizza's statement about believing a man when he uses his mother or kids as an excuse. Sure, good guys would never lie about either, but I've come across those who did just that. Apart from that Luckdragon said it all for me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I prefer,no excuse, just a ...Sorry I can't make it....at least that is what I say....unless it is someone I know,and then I might explain further....Meeting new people can be exhausting, sometimes I am quite frankly not in the mood...xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Shouldn't have used the term 'knob' in my previous comment. I actually don't think that all people who don't show are awful people, some would just find that the reality is a bit too much for them and instead of confessing that they take the easy way out. Who of us hasn't made a flimsy excuse for something in our lives or caused some drama for someone else (other than those few perfect people here ). Absolutely agree Luckdragon23, they're just a big pain in our not so perfect arses...
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RHP User
11 years ago
The best was I just ate and now im bloated so I won't be able to fuck you tonight
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RHP User
11 years ago
We believe there should be a section guys where you can relay your stories and name and shame the profile so others are made wary of them.Its all too easy for some people on the site to push the block button with no excuse and hide behind it .We always accept the children excuse as it can always happen unplanned ,sickness, sitters pulling out etc. Anyway goodluck ,you guys are real and genuine and have a lot more going for you then some of the fakes on here that bring on the sudden excuse .
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canbefun4u2
11 years ago
its funny how people need to get out of a meet , why do it , no one will ever know , like the time i meet a couple for drinks , meet great fun chatting, the lady of the couple couldn`t waite till back at the motel room to have fun , we jumped into our own cars to drive to motel witch i book and payed for , leading the way , the couple made a wrong turn and by the time i turned around , no sight of them ,,,,,, tryed to call their phone , no answer , pissed off , i stayed in the room ,,,,,, aweek later get a call from the couple she was all oh sorry for the setup and no show blamed her hubby telling me he wasn`t feelling to well , but offed me a chance to catch up giving me there address , i went around to the house , and bingo was their house, she answered the door , lets just say she played well and had fun on a few more dates , oh less hubby he didn`t and don`t know lol i play with her ,,,,
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RHP User
11 years ago
I went on a nice first date to a restaurant..The lady asked about seeing me again half way through the night..we even joked about the third date etc.Then a week later I got the " I've got a few things on at the moment, but we will do it soon" excuse.I thought..ok..no problem. Then 2 weeks later I sent a message asking if everything was ok (yes, thats my gullible side obviously) No reply. week later I called..(from a private number),reply was.."oh Hi.... Im at work at the moment, can I call you later?" I still havent heard. Very disappointing to say the least, and also quite rude too. I dont treat people that way and Im upfront, so why cant people return the same? :( There have been more too and also some VERY nice meets as well.
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melbcpl01
11 years ago
What also amazes us is the winks , you send a wink to someone , they respond with in interested please send me a message , so you send them a nice message with your contact details included only to have them not respond to your message and put you on thier block list , they dont even have the decentcy to respond to you message . Makes you wonder why they are even on the site
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RHP User
11 years ago
In some ways, it is better that the person made the effort of concocting an excuse rather than just be a no show. Not much better but it show at least that they felt a pang of guilt which required them to justify their actions. I speak from bitter experience where 2 couples in the last 4 weeks have done no shows and then disappeared off the face of the earth (or RHP anyway). I sort of understand that they may have got cold feet at the last minute but after getting my hopes up from the messages, it would have been nice to at least tell me they weren't going to be at the nominated bar instead of leaving me look like a dill.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'goodtimes1958' The best was I just ate and now im bloated so I won't be able to fuck you tonight That is just hilarious! The funniest thing I have heard in a long time!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well we wouldnt worry about it we certainly would love to meet ,pity about the distance .hang in there sexy people will allways find you if there real.
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RHP User
11 years ago
While we have had our fair share, maybe they are not all excuses? I often worry that we are bagged into that category. We run our own business, we also have children. Both our kids and us are very active and most evenings are packed with extra curricular activities. We also don't have much nearby family (and the few that we do have found out our secret so hesitiate to ask them to baby sit as they will make poor assumptions.) It's damn difficult to find any time to include some adult fun! We occasionally get invites to parties etc and starting wonder why they don't give up on us as it always seems to be wrong time or something on! I for one am often surprised that people are happy to believe us and be patient! (Although I'm sure we make it worth their while in the end.... **Cheeky grin**)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will also say that's why we have also become a little selective in who we agree to meet. While we are always honest about it we usually limit ourselves to relatively local people so at least we have more of a chance in catching up. Has made our playtime and success at finding the right people rather painfully rare these days though....
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wannabyummymummy
11 years ago
Maybe you should be flattered that they put so much effort into an excuse lol I havent really had too many "excuses" per se they just tend to stop calling/texting back, they disappear into the great abyss of men/couples never to be seen again. I have been accused of making excuses before when i have had to work around kids/work/ other commitments but that is their issue really not mine, some people have been messed around so much that they can no longer tell the difference between genuine time shortages and excuses, here's the tip people, if the person is willing to give you an alternate time to meet they probably are genuine, and if in doubt invoke the "two strikes and you're out"rule (works for me) You two have a great profile and i am sure you are not the issue, just chalk it all up to a good laugh and try not to get too jaded.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Rather than have them show up then leave without giving you an explanation; then there are the blow and gos, the four-strokers, the premies, the ones who look nothing like their pics, the ones who smoke and say they don't. The list goes on.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mad Manx: That sounds just like our situation! SurroundedbySin: Now that would be a busy forum! xx We've had to stand a few people up quite a number of times over the years (kids, real life shiz) and a majority don't bother with us anymore lol! Their loss! We've had some fun over the seven years we've been doing this and we've met all types. The rude the snobs the sooks (most of them the male half) the sneaks and the liars you name it; but we've also met our best of friends on here and people who have become a part of our daily life. We're not disheartened by the people that leave us high and dry at a pub because the dog ate the cat or whatever the excuse is at the time, we get a laugh out of it and we'll be sure to meet many more genuine people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always speak on the phone before I meet someone....in both cases it may have been what I call ,the Single Male Couple...there are lots here..weird but true xQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
And things that make Alice in Wonderland sound like the truth.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Poor form any way you look at it. I'm brand new - & yup I've been chatting only. But when I finally made a meet time - nervous as hell - I still turned up! Had a fantabulous time too. - Posted from rhpmobile
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