F55
Endings?
June 19 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
IMHO While I do not excuse this mans rude behaviour of not confirming with you your "date" by not replying, thats so weak and just plain rude, I also dont buy into the excuse you have used that you were too busy with family and friends to keep in contact with this person. If you really like someone it takes less than 10 second to fire off a nice sms. So I have to assume on a sub conscious level you werent really that interested and he picked up on that. Your indifference was probably, in his eyes just as rude as his subseqeunt behaviour and he paid back accordingly. Childish and immature but that was his choice. Its simple. Treat people exactly how you wish to be treated and if they treat you badly, first look at your own behaviours, did by chance your actions warrant this bad behaviour by them ? and if you really feel that you didnt and your are not at fault and that this other person or guy is simply a tosser, in the way they treated you, acknowledge and let it go, they arent worth your time and effort and you simply move on Im not a coward. I have no problem divesting a lover. I must admit I dont always do it face to face, simply due to distance, work commitments, time differences and the easiness of technology. I dont like to email or sms "bad news" but thats the 21st century ways of communicating. Just in the last months Ive been notified of one marriage and one death via FB. No one rings anymore with good or bad news You sound lovely Awesome 71, so Im sure another lover will come along in due course and if you are really both into each other, then Im sure you will both find the time for each other.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I tell them I am the hare you are the hound. I will not call you , you have to text me if you want more.I also have a husband so they know I am not sex on tap.Its hard when people do want to see more of you , but you have moved on down the road.sometimes its best not to reply, because then people will ask that dreaded questionWHY? yes even on rhp the sex can get flat, as its the new that is often part of the excitement.No harm though in being polite but even then it can go pear shaped.I pick guys that are specific to what I want, sex ONLY with no promise of repeat business. so far so good, and I do have regular lovers but see them so infrequently it works welltrick is to have a few going at a time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd sort of gone off this guy a bit... I wasn't THAT into him, I mean the sex was ok and I was attracted but... Meh, just wasn't that into him and was distracted by someone I'm very into so that was the reason for the slack communication at the time. I'm just fascinated that someone would burn their bridges like that. Melbourne is a small town after all. I'm wondering if anyone who has gone the cut all communication route would say that it's justified because of a.b.c.or whatever. Tuscan it's interesting that you say that you do it because you don't want the confrontation of the 'why'? Me, I've never been asked why nor ever asked...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'EasyVirtue' You sound lovely Awesome 71, so Im sure another lover will come along in due course and if you are really both into each other, then Im sure you will both find the time for each other.Looks like there's a job going. We've been working on our CV........
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RHP User
13 years ago
then Brizvegas is teensy weeny.. I just sing that song....you know the one from the Sound of Music...noooo not the Lonely Goatherd one...the one that goes.....So long farewell,auf weidersehen goodbye I leave and heave a sigh and say Goodbye-goodbye I'm glad to go I cannot tell a lie I flit I float I flee,I fly.......and after that they just run off screaming
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sounds like a very immature guy. Surely a text explaining is better than nothing. Bizarre.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71' I'd sort of gone off this guy a bit... I wasn't THAT into him, I mean the sex was ok and I was attracted but... Meh, just wasn't that into him and was distracted by someone I'm very into so that was the reason for the slack communication at the time. I'm just fascinated that someone would burn their bridges like that. Melbourne is a small town after all. I'm wondering if anyone who has gone the cut all communication route would say that it's justified because of a.b.c.or whatever. Tuscan it's interesting that you say that you do it because you don't want the confrontation of the 'why'? Me, I've never been asked why nor ever asked...but I try to be nice about it. And to be honest i tell my lovers they are not the only one, and they get that. Cant please everyone, and some have told me they would not see me again, as they got a girlfriend or work or what ever , thats ok with me. For women its not so bad as there is always a new one to come along.if they do not text it does not bother mesome drop of the grid for months. they say "I will not see you again," then up they pop again :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
As a bloke were expected to make the first move and once we are involved some way another then are expected to keep in contact and work out what your thinking (women are complicated)if your emailing /texting all the time then all of a sudden it stops or slows down then straight away we start thinking shit I wonder what I said or did (if you feel like you had something together) so then you think we'll if contact has slowed down then the interest has stopped (have a think how you end a relation ship when you were 16) so unless either party gets a reason or appolagie for it then you just take it as a hint it ain't working any more (same as any relation ship if its a mate partner or wife (hubby) you both usually notice a change) so it's a way of moving on these days Hope this made a little sence
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sweetgem
13 years ago
That I have only had one semi regular FB whom I met of RHP since I joined half a year ago. But the guy and I had a really bad fall out and we ended up didn't want to be friends anymore. So we both told each other not to get in touch again!!! For me, if I don't want to continue with someone, I will frankly tell him that I am no longer interested, but not in a rude tone like that lol I will say I have other priorities to get through and won't have the energy to play, instead of being plain rude. I usually get away with this excuse without hurting the man's feelings, because he knows he's not my boyfriend and FB comes and goes. It's sad in a way, but that's the rule of the game! :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Yes my lovers leave me eventually, yes sometimes it hurts but in all instances I believe it dignifies both of us to say our farewells. I don't want them to drop off the face of the earth and disappear leaving me wondering WTF or WHY? I wouldn't do it to anyone myself. Does it hurt to say "thank you, I've truly enjoyed every moment we've shared together. That I will think back on those moments with you and smile. I will remember the laughter and chats and fun at having shared my body with you and how I delighted in yours. I will miss you and I wish you every joy and happiness for the future. Your lover." for someone long-term you've made love to. I mean does hurt to give closure? To do the rught thing and just say "Sorry babe but I think this has run it's course, thanks for the smile." Lol if it was a simple short term fuck n run thing. I don't give of my time nor my body lightly. I also don't expect that my lovers would do so either. If that were the case they wouldn't become my lover. Simple. Not a coward, but when it comes time to say goodbye I like it face to face, maybe one last lovemaking session. This cruel to be kind shit doesn't wash here. There will be no fuss n feathers or BUT WHY's it'll just be. (Sigh) I have a pending "use by date" looming and well, it is what it is. I do however think that given the choice he will let me go gently and I will accept that with the dignity and grace we both deserve.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm sorry to hear that he's being so immature, you sound lovely OP :( personally, I think it's a common courtesy to at least fire off a quick text - you're overwhelmed with work, personal circumstances, seeing someone new, etc. If they're an old liaison I would feel some sort of connection with them and I wouldn't want to ruin what was good while it lasted with childish practises.
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Nothing lasts forever Ppl will come into your life n exit your life just as quickly
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RHP User
12 years ago
True cheeky, but I think people do deserve a "thank you and good luck for the future" It's just manners, a bit like replying to " proper" messages. Hp xo- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Fuck you eastern staters don't know how good you've got it !Perths dating community fits in shoebox in middle o road !Add to that $50.00 airfare between capitals ! Sheesh !Hows this,by txt, "met someone else cya."
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I'm currently accepting and screening potential replacements with "good manners". Please apply within ;-P Safari
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RHP User
12 years ago
What ? mmmm... ...checks comb over... HP xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh Safari, we all have a use by date and want to enjoy what we can while we can. Your in a new area with checking out new talent by now . Sadly we missed our chance.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think things just naturally run their coursethats just how it is for meif it's not a relationship...why worry...just not contacting or whatever will send the signal
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On_Safari
12 years ago
....where are you?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Interesting responses. I suppose he did know that I was cooling off but I'm still curious about why he would make a date with me... Then cut off communication. And thanks for the concern, I'm not hurt or upset. I wasn't that into him and I know it's not about me. He is very immature and already has a bit of a rep as a timewaster.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71'I'd sort of gone off this guy a bit... I wasn't THAT into him, I mean the sex was ok and I was attracted but... Meh, just wasn't that into him and was distracted by someone I'm very into so that was the reason for the slack communication at the time. Quoting 'Awesome71'I wasn't that into him and I know it's not about me. He is very immature and already has a bit of a rep as a timewaster. Considering you admit you're probably just as much to blame as him due to your disinterest and slack communication, I find your second comment rather uncalled-for. Bitching about fellow member is not mature.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Even.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I recently ended a fwb relationship. Things were getting too weird and intense. I tried to do the 'thanks but no more, good luck' chat but he became abusive. Walking away quickly! The funniest part for me was when he tried to hurt me by saying he'd been screwing 2 other women during the same timeframe.....I never asked him not to and I didn't care that he was. Amazing sex but not worth the headfuck or abuse.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ms Direct, do you ever get nose bleeds from being in such a lofty place? Seems like you're trawling the forums lately to find things of which to disapprove. No identifiers there... I was responding to what others said. Big deal!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71'Ms Direct, do you ever get nose bleeds from being in such a lofty place? Seems like you're trawling the forums lately to find things of which to disapprove. No. But thank you for proving my point.
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RHP User
12 years ago
different people, different mindset ! I prefer face to face, but if situation is sticky its better to communicate via phone/net .
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RHP User
12 years ago
If he is going to be like that then no great loss, one has to understand nothing lasts forever in these forums so it is inevitable that there is a parting of ways, some just don't know how to break in respectful manner, good thing you weren't in a serious relationship, a) he may not take rejection well, b) if he breaks up in this manner it would have left you angry and upset, so again no great loss.
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RHP User
12 years ago
it evaporates with fewer calls, fewer messages, no response to messages and then... nothing!Despite each one of the ones I've met saying they are different... I don't think so lolBut then, as I've heard many times, this is RHP what do you expect?Sadly I do expect, more than that high schoolish behaviour
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RHP User
12 years ago
RHP, it's other similar places too. So is it the people who frequent these places... Or are these places merely reflections of the wider community ? Hp xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hate the silent treatment. You are just not sure what is going on. Awesome, if things are not working out, let him know. A friend of mine is in that situation and it is driving her crazy. If you want a break, say so and then everyone can move on. Sure, you might get a few who can't but they have restraining orders for that
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RHP User
12 years ago
yeah because restraining orders work so well! NOT!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' RHP, it's other similar places too. So is it the people who frequent these places... Or are these places merely reflections of the wider community ? Hp xo of the wider community, & not the people who frequent these places... because then what does that make me?? Perhaps I just suck at selecting the decent ones... who knows
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RHP User
12 years ago
OE, women seem to love the bad boys. It is rife in literature, television and movies. So, I guess it is just real life reflecting art. I think there are more decent ones out there than not. Just looking at a meet and greet, most of the guys are polite and friendly. Of course, can't say how they are behind closed doors but if their public demeanour is any indication, you will find one or more decent guys. 30 messages huh. Damn, I only sent you 16. Should have kept it up and I could have gone out with you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Damn, you've got a head start on me ! Just a heads up for me... Did you send her 16 of the same message...? OE, nice smile girl. Hp xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' Damn, you've got a head start on me ! Just a heads up for me... Did you send her 16 of the same message...? OE, nice smile girl. Hp xo Nah, just shooting the breeze with OE. She said I was not the droid she was looking for. Good luck HP. See OE, even HP says you have a nice smile
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RHP User
12 years ago
For starters if I was sleeping with someone (FWB) they would have some importance to me and a mutual relationship/friendship.I would prefer if I they didn't want to continue, I would hope that they had enough respectfulness, that they would say something to my face. No use leaving someone in the loop as I think that's a cruel and disrespectful.I'd rather have the "uncomfortable" talk than nothing. I need closure as that helps me to move on.Sometimes we have to put ourselves in an uncomfortable situations and get outside our comfort zones to have "the talk".I think sometimes people think of other peoples feelings before themselves and they just don't like hurting people or are afraid how the other might react. Maybe that is why they say nothing??Break ups do hurt but over time that hurt does fade away.Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Casually waving your hand across her and saying "I have a 19 inch whanger... You ARE looking for a 19 inch whanger..." OE has nice teeth :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've tried waving my hand and she thought I looked ridiculous. She must be impervious to Jedi Mind Tricks. :( I did try saying I was Goldenrod but she was looking for R2.
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RHP User
12 years ago
DAMN ! I hate those ones ! Hp xo
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