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Etiquette and Manners or Am I Too Old Fashioned

December 29 2010

The word etiquette as explained in the English language "conventional requirements as to social behavior; proprieties of conduct as established in any class or community or for any occasion." The word manners as explained in the English language "ways of behaving with reference to polite standards; social comportment: That child has good manners." We realise this subject may have been touched on, but we can not help but feel that this environment (RHP, swinging etc.) is one that above all others should command a higher degree of the subject matter than perhaps any other forum. Some of the people we have extracted excuses from have offered things along the lines of "we are very busy" or "we did not have time" or one of our favourites "we don't live for RHP". Indeed!! and I am sure that most if not all of us have had this happen.....but the recipient has taken the time to read the message, check out your profile and then decide that, the fact that they have been offered, an introduction to the most intimate and vulnerable side of the senders life does not warrant a reply!!! What has happened to our manners people? or am I living in the past?????

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RHP User

15 years ago

We try and reply to all of our flirts and messages but sometimes by the time we get back on here to check - there are numerous messages and it is quite time consuming going through all the flirts, many whom aren't in our age range or what we have clearly indicated that we are looking for. And we are often receiving messages from people that have forgotten that they have already messaged us so we face the question do we respond AGAIN or just ignore them?! We also often reply to a message politely saying that we are too busy atm (as we are) or they are just not what we are looking for and all too often get an aggressive or boastful response about what we are missing and almost begging us to reconsider. How is this good manners not to respect our boundaries?! After a while of taking abuse from people who don't know you just because we are simply not interested - is it no wonder people just choose to ignore messages?! However, I do understand where you are coming from and for the most part agree that we should be attempting to respond to people who have taken the time to read our profiles (thoroughly or not;-) xx

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RHP User

15 years ago

Thanks Threesperfect, if we have replied to a message saying "thanks, but no thanks" and they persist then it is not us that is lacking in manners, people who persist after being replied to with a polite no should realise that their behaviour borders on stalking and their continued persistance is unwanted, fortunately there is a block function for these type of people. The times we have received a no thanks, we have simply replied with "thanks for taking the time to reply". Also you can go through say 20 messages, decide which ones you don't like and use a template to reply to them all in 1 go, so it takes very little time. Anyhow, how are you enjoying RHP so far? is it everything we said it would be? hope to catch up with the two of you soon ;-)

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RHP User

15 years ago

Hi again, I agree totally ;-) All going ok, not much action at this time of the year and being busy and all but hoping that changes shortly hehehe I heard you had a good New Years Eve?! :-P xx

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