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March 09 2019

Ok - talk to me about events... I’m dying to go to one this year but am worried they could potentially be cliquey and as it would be my first time attending one don’t want to walk away with a sour taste in my mouth. What’s your favourite event to attend and why? Is it better to start with something small or rip the bandaid off and dive into something big? What were your thoughts -after - about the first event you attended? And what’s the go with the “exclusive” events? Who decides who’s invited and why are those people considered “exclusive”? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Maybe send a message to events co ordinator on rhp, we are sure they can help you out. Guess the word "Exclusive" means not open to everyone. It's good to have vetted (exclusive) events. So you know people are real, not time wasters, fakes, have something in common and are likely to turn up. Event co oordinators generally don't make money from the events, they do it to support the lifestyle and community. If they target certain areas of the lifestyle, let them.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Definitely something to be said for the 'rip the bandaid off' approach If you are that way inclined. You have each other. Just approach both naughty and social events with an easygoing vibe and you should be fine. Good luck.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I don't think I've ever been to any "exclusive" events 🤔 I would assume exclusions in this kind of community would be on marital status (only wanting couples, etc), age range maybe, and there's usually always limitations on the amount of single men. I absolutely love the Meet & Greet events. I've been going to them for 3yrs now. They can be whatever you want them to be. A night out of dancing and socialising, you can sit back and people watch (I did a bit of that last year because at the time I wasn't aware I had a broken foot, I just kept sitting to rest it!) 😂 You can possibly 'pick up' also... 😉

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Eiliethiya - I only ask about exclusive events because there’s one advertised by rhp popping up in my feed lol

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  • Rlee552

    Rlee552

    7 years ago

    Lol. I am very surprised that turn of phrase has not led to a barrage of comments. Do what you feel comfortable with. I firmly believe though that there is a risk of paralysis by analysis. We over analyse and don’t end up doing anything.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I do understand “vetting” people, that’s fine.. Having to purchase tickets reduces it being a free for all and allows organisers to have a good even mix of people and genuine people wanting to attend will purchase the tickets and not make an issue of it. I’m excited about ripping the bandaid off on a few experiences this year - I just have to wrangle my partner free to be able to join me!!! Lol

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  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    7 years ago

    Meet and greets are the best place to start. Went to my first one 3 years ago and found an amazing collection of people who were not judgemental in any way. Being the only trans amongst 100+ people was rattling the core. So if l could do it, walk in the park for you OP. Since, I've been to meet and greets in 4 states. You meet peeps, have a drink with them and more often than not, find yourself at an after party till the sun comes up. Often it's a weekends worth of events if you are from interstate. A pre meet and greet night on the Friday night. Backing up on the m&g night can be challenging. Then Sunday recovery brunch. Climb on a plane and resume normal transmission.......

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  • curiousnhorny05

    curiousnhorny05

    7 years ago

    Going to the right venue is a good start. I found clubs quite good for meeting people. Sometimes it’s nice also to have friends in this lifestyle as well. It can be lonely sometimes. We went to one club that wasn’t great I’m guessing not enough vetting. The second club much more fun and I figure if your going as a couple you can still have a little fun together. It’s fun to get dressed all sexy too :)

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  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    7 years ago

    depends on what sort of person you are ,do you get on the mini mouse. roller coaster and get used to that then the next biggest and finally end up going on colossus and loving it , or are you the sort of person who goes straight to colossus has a love hate relationship but grow to love it and anything smaller is a cake walk after that , can’t speak highly enough about genuine meet and greets. for a first event. and then it’s up to you what you do afterwards , or come to saints and do the flirt meet and greet the next night. in march plenty of interstaters sure to be fun both nights but totally different , mr b

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  • Freaky_Fun

    Freaky_Fun

    7 years ago

    You would be very welcome at the Qld Meet and Greet. Make a weekend of it. We even do pick ups from the airport if we can fit it in. I don't and won't do cliquey. And l push that point leading up to the night. Consider yourself counted in, there decided for you 😁

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I enjoy the social meets most....I get to just walk about putting faces to posts, and watch people in their animated state... I don’t notice cliques at all as I’m too busy making my own experiences for the night....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Just came from a very recent posted event today. Was fun. Though I don't go much due to time constraints.I believe its the initial one that is a 'step' . I started with club events at first. Small gathering

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  • SxcMissM

    SxcMissM

    7 years ago

    I say rip the band aid off jump in boots an all Meet and Greets are great and there is no pressure whatsoever, its just a bunch of people that all have a common interest, and if you attend events where the hosts are great they tend to introduce you to everyone, My second MnG was after Saints last October and fantastic Freaky made sure i wasn't just on my own and introduced me to other attendees. What events are you considering attending?

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  • FredAndGinger2

    FredAndGinger2

    7 years ago

    We organise and host social events, light play events, exclusive events and naughty weekend aways. We talk to lots of people and since our events are very accessible to newbies we also therefore hear a lot of feedback from newbies. By far most people are very comfortable to come along to a social meet and greet event because it is a purely social event and there's no pressure to do anything. A few people do report feeling a little excluded because they see cliquey groups. Our interpretation is that people mistake happy and chatty groups of people as cliques of friends when in fact each event is different groups of people. The difference is that some people are more social than others and actively socialise and connect with others, whereas others are less comfortable. Just three years ago when we were new to the swinging scene. We were very shy and sat in the corner at various events. We eventually found our feet and became very comfortable talking to others. We enjoyed the social events so much that we decided to start FlirtParties to fill a need to help others meet and connect with each other. Our social meets regularly get 60-90 people and is easily the best way to meet new people and make friends. Take a look at our next Melbourne meet and greet on the day after Saints and Sinners Ball on 30th March. All verified couples and women are welcome to this event. Come along and we have a chat directly to us. We love to meet new people and make new friends. We can put you in touch with others. https://redhotpie.com.au/Mobile/Event/Detail.aspx?id=58374

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Freaky_fun - you have no idea how much I want to join you at your event!!!! Mrb - saints and sinners Melbourne style is definitely on my agenda however it’s a bit too close to make it happen this time...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Rlee552 - I’ve never had a sour taste in my mouth that’s ever led me to spill a drop 😉😈

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    SxcMissM - I’m not sure but current mood is I’m kind of not wanting to sit in the shadows anymore if you know what I mean lol (nobody puts baby in a corner 😂) I just want to experience an event. I want to be social. Not all events are going to suit around whatever life has happening for us but hoping we can make something fit in.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    FredandGinger2 - you guys sound amazing. I’m not sure our schedule would allow us to get to Melbourne end of the month but Melbourne is a place I’ve always wanted to visit - not sure why but it just is.. For us it’s a matter of the stars, moons and planets aligning sometimes lol

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    The event at Dubbo on this coming Saturday night will have a lot of first timers there and is a good opportunity to meet like minded people in a safe environment We really enjoy running them and seeing people connect and mingle!

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