Events Solo?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  is hump day ..right! Only ask them on Thursday and you should be OK!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Put your big girls blouse on and go on your own.... I did at first and found like minded people. Now I have no problems with humps.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  In short..... Miss inspirit summed it up.But even though you state youve not had confidence issues before, I read your topic and the question I see is.... how do I meet people and make friends?!IF you have no friends to go with you... first you should contemplate... why not?!A solid social life and social circle is essential, and a very attractive trait to others.However, accepting your comment about a lack of friends to go out with.... you have two choices....1. sit home, do nothing, and slump deeper inside yourself and this questionOR2. Fake it until you make it, commit yourself to going out solo, force yourself to be friendly, sociable, personable... and MAKE associates/friends for social events. And accept that at social events there will be other solo people in the same boat, and theyre more than happy to talk to other solos so that both of you dont look like you're solo.Ive gone to a few singles nights with a mate of mine that Ive known sicne we were 10.He is mostly deaf and finds it hard to keep pace at noisy venues so he's asked me to tag along.The number of guys in particular, who stand around the periphery of the crowd, clutching their drink, eyes scanning the room wishing they knew how to get involved in conversation....... when they should just accept that people are at such events because they are in the same boat and WANT to meet new and interesting people.So at those events Ive become a bit of a facilitator and just talked to these guys, gotten them to open up a bit then thrown them into the mix by leading them into the women at the events.Its really not a difficult thing to do.Fun people love being around other fun people.DG

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Have you ever been to the Couples Club in Surry Hills? On Sunday nights they allow single men. It's great for just watching if you're not quite ready to play, and the downstairs play areas are dark enough for people not to take notice of you if you don't want them to. Look them up online.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  If you mean RHP events, make some friends first through forums, chat or messages then turn up to events they are going to. Even if you don't know anyone, there will be quite a number of strangers there so most of you will be in the same boat. People are generally nice, so they will be welcoming. The main problem is actually getting out of the house. It is just inertia. With friends, you have to go out because people are depending on you. On your own, you might go "I can't be bothered really, better to do the gardening or watch the telly". Don't over think it, if you want to go, just leave your house and wander to the event. At least you get to mix with people. As DG said, there most probably will be a lot of guys (and some women) in the same boat as you.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  its not an issue of having friends but more ones who A would like to go and B are into that sort of thing. I lack this!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  hii- Posted from rhpmobile

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