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Excuse me, do you mind if I f*%k your wife?
July 17 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Interesting question and I find it difficult to imagine that situation... But put the shoe on the other foot - how would you go about sequestering the male half of a couple at a sex party?
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erotictouch4u
14 years ago
Not been in that situation, but if they came together as a couple to the club then it would be hard to tell if they came to play together or separately, so wouldn't it be proper and polite to ask them together as a couple ? Then you can find out if they want you as a 3some or separately too. ET xox
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RHP User
14 years ago
the question should be directed to both the male and the female .. if it were me and If it were only directed at one of us.. then the other wound say NO .. and me personally If it were only directed to the male I was with .. and he siad YES with out consulting me .. then I would say NO to both of them .. sorry .. but feel it is always a 2waystreet
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RHP User
14 years ago
well at the end of the day even if the guy has ask the man if he can rogers his partner, even he says yes like in our case. My bf will come to me and tell me and it is up to me if i say yes he just tells the guy what ever i say goes just follow the rules any woman that lets her man have the final say who rogers her is someone who real doesnt want to be there and she has no mind of her own
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well Meeks, It is our choice and we decide together how and who. If a guy asked us at a party / club the response would be, "wheres your wife?" and "Sorry mate we only play couple to couple" The logic going, you are not fucking my wife unless I fuck your wife and its a fair swap, that is your wife is of a comparable standard to my wife. Also my wife and I presume yours would have to approve the same ...that they are receiving a comparable standard in swapping husbands. Neither of us are going to take one for the team, if we both are not completely happy it is not going to happen. The guy that asks without his wife has nothing to trade so he misses out with us. We are extremely comfortable with our way because playing with others at a party or club is just not that important, we are not going to be used by others its by our rules. We know there is a lot of chicks that are only interested in girl / girl and not having sex with other guys, well their husbands have to deal that and not come looking at us. Your example of a guy asking the husband will be non event with us.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Underneath politeness I think we are more 'animal' than 'human' - especially when it comes to sex.In much of fury animal world, the male marks out his territory and any other male has to either deal with the male head on or go for a sneaky "steal".Yes, this does sound very chauvinistic, but I think with most guys (swingin party or any social situation), if they like the look of some girl and she's with a guy, the guy will first start a conversation with him and then say something like, "and who is your lovely partner" (hoping he will say, 'oh, she's just a friend from work' haha...). If its at a swingers party, for those same 'territory' type reasons most guys will ask him first if its OK to take the next step. But as kissmetenderly says, in most cases it will always be up to the woman to say yes or no and to spell out the rules... Occasionally in a master/sub situation, the rule already created is that he makes all the decisions. But this is the exception rather than the rule in my experience...
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RHP User
14 years ago
You're single..right?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Not chauvinistic at least, and probably would be considered just 'good manners' but have a think about it from another angle they need to ask the other man, cos he's the one that has the potential for kicking his arse if he hasn't . It could be a self preservation thingy no one wants to have to watch their back with their pants down. And I guess us women aren't so scary, and if we're all wet n ready it's a pretty good indication that we're going to say, "Why yes, I'd love you to fuck me, thanks for asking"
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RHP User
14 years ago
If I were you, specifically, in that moment, I'd have most likely only been offended and/or pissed off at the time they wasted that could have been spent penetrating you!!! ROFLMAO!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sex clubs. See it time and time again... I personally get affronted when some dude asks me if he can root the person I happen to be screwing at the time. It makes me feel like I'm controlling someone. I mean to say... she does have a voice and perhaps, unless pre-occupied, perfectly capable of using it... ears to hear the question above all the screaming... and free will... and her own preferences... and I would hope.. is only in that situation because she chooses to be there in that environment.. and as it happens at that particular moment somehow interacting with me. Plus, its terrible annoying to have to stop what I am doing and pay some fuckwit attention when I'm busy working on the fun bits... this one time in band camp, during double penetration I had to remove my earmuffs to answer a guy who wanted to know if I mind if he was next.. I'm like wtf..... And wtf is it with guys opening a closed door anyway... take it from me... no matter how good looking you might be.. or think you are.. the reception is not going to be a warm welcome merely on account of the inconvenient interruption!!And of course he should ask her directly ... but more appropriately.. he should really be asked by her.... I mean, jiggling a latched door so that it opens.. walking in and then asking the bloke if he can bang that sheila is simply pathetic. It's embarrassing that people of my gender should be so fucked up in the head to think that's alright.Now... a handsome lad in a shower cubicle... flashing his bits in a coy kind of way... and she notices him and says "would you like to root my man friend"... that on the other hand is perfectly ok in my book.HugsStalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
It does seem rather rude to interrupt someone mid-orgasmic pleasure......sort of like the olden days when someone taps your shoulder to cut in on a dance .... pmsl
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RHP User
14 years ago
Exactly Stalkers, I mean why didn't they ask me if I minded if they could root my mate. Huh??? xxMeeks
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RHP User
14 years ago
Good point Meeks and really one that we had never really given any thought to but one that now you raise it we realise just how damn often it happens in that Gazz gets asked if the guy can play with Sheba. He will always tell those doing the asking that it is not his call as Sheba can and does what she wants and it is all her decision, but yes she has never been asked upfront first at a sex club.She has however taken the lead on more than one occasion and approached a guy and generally has success, although at times there is performance anxiety that the male suffers. We have asked some guys about it and they generally say that if they are asked then 'it affects them' as they are not in control .............. go figure, and here we were thinking a root is a root is a root.And as for door latches, easy fixed as Sheba did recent;ly when a guy forced his way in. Her and the assembled tv's told him to get naked, and just when he thought yippeeee, out came the flogger :)Shell and Gaz
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' Not chauvinistic at least, and probably would be considered just 'good manners' but have a think about it from another angle they need to ask the other man, cos he's the one that has the potential for kicking his arse if he hasn't . It could be a self preservation thingy no one wants to have to watch their back with their pants down. Well picked - you got it in one! It's the same instinct that makes a man prefer to sit with his back to a corner in a public place. It's safer... and besides, the view is better...
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erotictouch4u
14 years ago
Not having been in one of these clubs, I would think it polite (if that happens in sex clubs) to ask both together. After all, you wouldn't know if they came to play together or separately and it would show you treat them with equal respect. ET xox
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have posted in the forums about this very thing!! It seemed most believed it was perfectly acceptable and I was being a bit nit picky for being offended that what I wanted did not really come into it....I still maintain, If Andrew and I are standing side by side and a man walks up to us and asks Andrew permission to sleep with me then that man has no chance! Now, if he asks Andrews permission to ask me, that would be another story, but that is NOT how it happens.I am not Andrews possession to be bartered, swapped, traded and negotiated for. Ask me if I am the one you want, then I will clear it with my partner. Maybe even ask Andrew while I am not there if it is ok to ask me....Andrew knows me well enough to pity the poor man that thinks asking him in front of me gives him any kind of chance.Grrrrrrr, am getting all riled up and and angry at the very thought! This is one of my very passionate about soap box things that just does my head in. It insults me offends me and makes me mad!!! AND to top it off I have never had a woman do ask me before they through themselves on Andy, quite the opposite, I find women try to divide and conquer and that is the only other thing that makes me angrier!Ok....I am done now :PKisses, Salina
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RHP User
14 years ago
I did not re read before I posted in my feisty grrr moment!Throw, not through.....and all those other spelling and grammar errors oops :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'GonzosDilemma' Interesting question and I find it difficult to imagine that situation... But put the shoe on the other foot - how would you go about sequestering the male half of a couple at a sex party? Well the place that I was at last night didn't really have couples. If I wanted a male all I needed to do is cock an eyebrow at them really. heheheHowever, if I was at a couples club... I would go up and start a conversation with the both of them first and take things from there. Probably hope that one of them makes the suggestion first. :P xxMeeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes, I completely understand the whole animal kingdom analogy, and that men don't want to step on other men's toes or get beaten up. Good point DGT... well not really because if you are in a sex club or party the assumption is that everyone is there for a meet and greet and boink. So really if you are interested in someone you should ask them directly. It is up to the woman or man to then check with their partner if that is their rule. Jeez I wasn't even wearing my cockbait collar. :PxxMeeks
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' And I guess us women aren't so scary, and if we're all wet n ready it's a pretty good indication that we're going to say, "Why yes, I'd love you to fuck me, thanks for asking" LOL... not necessarily DGT. I am fussy, I don't want to root just anyone that walks through the door. :PAlthough admittedly one guy did ask me, after following me around all night but even though everyone was naked, or close too it, he had his clothes still on. I mean what the?? Get your gear off mate and I might consider it, I mean really I need to inspect the goods first otherwise I simply can not make an informed decision. Can I?? Not sure if I have ever said, Thanks for asking either. Wow I am a rude biatch!xxMeeks
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RHP User
14 years ago
Salina, I understand where you are coming from. To be honest I am a newbie to the scene so I was amused by it really. Also I am single and was there with a male friend which I think makes a difference. xxMeeks
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erotictouch4u
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Not sure if I have ever said, Thanks for asking either. Wow I am a rude biatch!xxMeeks Some can afford to be, others wish they had the chances to ET xox
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RHP User
14 years ago
See, this i what I can't get past about gangers parties /sex clubs..the "tap" in the first place....shiversI think its a male "posession" thing mixed in with a healthy dose of " I dont want hubby bashing the shit outta me" if he has misread situation.Am definatly with DGT..a self preservation thing..As for us.. I'm a fussy bugger and the whole "she's doing my man so I have to do you"...is a big fat no no. Id rather be doing the tapping lol...and hence I think we'll stay away from those type of parties unless we knew exactly who were going. I wouldnt mind watching tho being the perve that I am,and hubby could join in if he so desires no permision needed and dont bother asking him lol..we make up our own minds.Mrs Sat..who thinks a party would be cool with certain people that she knows...hmmmmm
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well meeka i think it all depends on the guy asking,some guys think that they can just pound any female that they look at.But i think alot og guys ask becuase they are scared of the females partner,well in our case i think thats the way,because i think alot of guys get scared when they see me standing next to mrs cns.I think when they see a big guy standing next to a female they get scared to come straight out and ask the female directly. When your 6'5 and 130kg like me standing next to someone who is 5'5 they allways seem to ask me instead of mrs cns, like they think im going to beat them to a pulp if they dont ask me,which is not the case.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Quoting 'D_G_T' And I guess us women aren't so scary, and if we're all wet n ready it's a pretty good indication that we're going to say, "Why yes, I'd love you to fuck me, thanks for asking" LOL... not necessarily DGT. I am fussy, I don't want to root just anyone that walks through the door. :PAlthough admittedly one guy did ask me, after following me around all night but even though everyone was naked, or close too it, he had his clothes still on. I mean what the?? Get your gear off mate and I might consider it, I mean really I need to inspect the goods first otherwise I simply can not make an informed decision. Can I?? Not sure if I have ever said, Thanks for asking either. Wow I am a rude biatch!xxMeeks Oh not just wet n ready for anyone Meeks, I actually did mean if that particular person had gotten you in that state, he has to earn it . I can see how it would annoy some women, just as it wouldnt bother some others. The perhaps more independant girls who are there with a buddy/friend would prefer to be asked personally. In a lot of married couples situations (outside this situation) we do tend to defer to the husband to answer the tough ones, eg: a pushy car salesman or someone who had made us a bit uncomfy somehow. That's a natural thing to happen, and a great example would be the question Mr.Just Enough asked recently about what to do when a man is getting a bit too in the moment ? and the majority of us suggesting it was his place to then step in. I look at it in a similar light, no matter how confident the woman is at these parties, the man will always be the protector if it comes down to the bottom line. We can huff n puff all we want about being able to look after ourselves but they really do know we're stuffed with marshmallows heehee
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RHP User
14 years ago
an introduction first then see how it goes should be the normal I would think now ..... what was the final result ??? who got laid and who got laid out ??? and being asked is sure better than just feeling one apendage leave and another just take its place without a word ......... then again us country boys may be more polite than the city blokes Andy
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RHP User
14 years ago
It is interesting Sal.... dudes always seem to ask the dude... maybe it is just so that they don't get a belt around the lug ... I can imagine few scenarios less likely to illicit a negative response than to waltz on up to a woman in the throws of passion with some bloke... and to say.. "can I do that" as if the bloke isn't even there... already doing whatever it is he's already doing.... competently or otherwise.... So yeah.. I can see how someone might be tempted to ask the dude... in fear a fat lip.... it's just rude... asking him or her.. its rude either way... it's rude to ask her as if the guy isn't there.... it's rude to ask him as if she has no say.... frankly it's just all together rude and intrusive... and warrants a quick reply....Now... being invited to join in is another story altogether... it's better for two people to work this out between themselves rather than one put demands on the other... make the other person take one for the team so to speak... That's tricky... comes down to appreciating what your partner is interested in I guess... if you can work that out, then I suppose it's easier.As for guys and girls standing around watching with their hands on their dicks... well as Meeka suggested... all that is necessary is a nod and a wink most of the time.... so people who are standing by like that... should wait for the nod and a wink if one is coming... rather than being rude and asking... Just don't ask. That's simple enough to appreciate surely. In fact, thanks Meeks... I've just decided that if anyone asks while in the throws of enjoyment... rather than my previously faithful retort.... "Jesus mate.. can't you see I'm working here... just ask her yourself.. look... she's right there under my big fat cock...." ... I'm simply going to say "No, fuck off"HugsStalkyQuoting 'SalAndy' I have posted in the forums about this very thing!! It seemed most believed it was perfectly acceptable and I was being a bit nit picky for being offended that what I wanted did not really come into it....I still maintain, If Andrew and I are standing side by side and a man walks up to us and asks Andrew permission to sleep with me then that man has no chance! Now, if he asks Andrews permission to ask me, that would be another story, but that is NOT how it happens.I am not Andrews possession to be bartered, swapped, traded and negotiated for. Ask me if I am the one you want, then I will clear it with my partner. Maybe even ask Andrew while I am not there if it is ok to ask me....Andrew knows me well enough to pity the poor man that thinks asking him in front of me gives him any kind of chance.Grrrrrrr, am getting all riled up and and angry at the very thought! This is one of my very passionate about soap box things that just does my head in. It insults me offends me and makes me mad!!! AND to top it off I have never had a woman do ask me before they through themselves on Andy, quite the opposite, I find women try to divide and conquer and that is the only other thing that makes me angrier!Ok....I am done now :PKisses, Salina
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RHP User
14 years ago
lolz... matter of fact... Ive got a new idea... next guy that comes along and asks me if he can "fuck my wife"... I'm going to tell him it depends on his successful completion of the interview process... ask him to strip off show us his dick.... and then reject him.HugsStalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sounds good Stalkers. Although my personal favourite was " only if she can watch me fuck you first"
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RHP User
14 years ago
We're all different. What one deems acceptable, another deems a piss-off. Some are understanding, while some would just rather tear you a new one. And it applies here. It's a tricky subject...and what makes it harder is that there are no rules or guidelines for people to follow. Sure, as Stalky has said, if you're already "busy" with a girl (or vice versa...lets not get too gender specific here...), it is common sense to think that going up and asking at that point would be rude. Fair enough. But what about a swingers club where a couple are just sitting and having a drink at that particular point? It's been said that if they're there, surely they're there to swing with others. BUT, I know thats not always the case. Some go for the atmosphere...the relaxed environment...for the perve. So to not ask the permission of the partner in this case, may well indeed land you with a fat lip. I've seen it happen...The whole point is, yes, it would be great if a guy was decent enough to ask the female of the couple whether she would like to play (Or vice versa)...but it would also be great if everyone was understanding as well. And until everyone knows the rules, and plays by the same ones, we're going to have conflict, hostility, and a different opinion. Fact.And for anyone who cares, I won't approach couples in clubs. I figure if she's really interested, she'll let me know...
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RHP User
14 years ago
lmfao... only a genius would have thought to come up with that one Meeks. :pHugsStalky Quoting 'Meeka100' Sounds good Stalkers. Although my personal favourite was " only if she can watch me fuck you first"
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RHP User
14 years ago
Better still, talk to the couple as a couple and ask other questions like what are looking for tonight? Do you play separately or together only? etc etc....You can find out with less forward questions as to the females availability.xx Salina
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RHP User
14 years ago
Some threads are so informative... . Given there is this 'ask or be beaten' perception out there.... has anyone see that sort of attitude in the 'scene'? I can understand if you're chatting up some guys hairdresser/beauty shop owner girlfriend in a country pub... But given you're in a club where 'anything goes, but no means no', surely there's no etiquette or requirement to ask the guy. If he's shocked that some guy is strolling up to his naked girfriend interested in more than small talk, perhaps he wrote the address down wrong or thought he was at the local pool. . Maybe it's part of the thrill for them. I can't see the sense in asking the person you won't be fucking whether you can fuck her... But I can see that getting the green light from hubby might be a turn on for some. . 'Can I fuck your wife?' "Don't see why not mate, give her a call... are you leaving already?"
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RHP User
14 years ago
But it doesn't really bother me. As the female half of the couple, I don't even bat an eyelid when Mr W get's asked "can I bang your missus" (or something to that effect, but maybe less bogany). It's just guys being guys I think. In fact, I almost think I prefer it that way, so that I know what his feelings are about the guy that I'm playing with. I know it probably shouldn't matter what Mr W thinks of him, but for some reason it does. Just like if some girl is coming on to him, if I don't much like the look of her (for whatever petty reason), then I don't really want him to play with her. I don't even know if I'm making sense Mrs W xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Jean_Girard'. If he's shocked that some guy is strolling up to his naked girfriend interested in more than small talk, perhaps he wrote the address down wrong or thought he was at the local pool. . 'Can I fuck your wife?' "Don't see why not mate, give her a call... are you leaving already?" That is brilliant JG!!! And I agree... if any bloke wants to go to a sex club then have a fight because someone wants to poke his Mrs well he really shouldn't be there. Unless the other guy was deliberately rude of insulting of course. xxMeeka
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'SalAndy' Better still, talk to the couple as a couple and ask other questions like what are looking for tonight? Do you play separately or together only? etc etc....You can find out with less forward questions as to the females availability.xx Salina Sounds exactly like what I do here on RHP. Perhaps you should write the code of ethics for some swingers clubs...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'Jean_Girard'. If he's shocked that some guy is strolling up to his naked girfriend interested in more than small talk, perhaps he wrote the address down wrong or thought he was at the local pool. . 'Can I fuck your wife?' "Don't see why not mate, give her a call... are you leaving already?" That is brilliant JG!!! And I agree... if any bloke wants to go to a sex club then have a fight because someone wants to poke his Mrs well he really shouldn't be there. Unless the other guy was deliberately rude of insulting of course. xxMeeka Absolutely, then the husband will say No and the guy asking will ask to hear from the lady ....its the last time the couple ever attends a sex club and the couple have left within 5 minutes.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'SalAndy'Better still, talk to the couple as a couple and ask other questions like what are looking for tonight? Do you play separately or together only? etc etc....You can find out with less forward questions as to the females availability.xx Salina I think Sal has a great point. A bit of respect will most likely take you a lot further in an environment like that methinks . And that perhaps is where KD is coming from too. If you go to a club as a 'couple', regardless of how willing the couple are to play separately, it doesn't hurt to probably make the effort to acknowledge the couple and cater to that in your approach (or not) accordingly.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem'I think Sal has a great point. A bit of respect will most likely take you a lot further in an environment like that methinks . And that perhaps is where KD is coming from too. If you go to a club as a 'couple', regardless of how willing the couple are to play separately, it doesn't hurt to probably make the effort to acknowledge the couple and cater to that in your approach (or not) accordingly. Spot on. Whilst I don't really agree with a guy going up to the hubby and asking his permission to fuck his missus, I do think there should still be that respect that he IS still there, and should still be taken into account. Apparently, the reason why I've made quite a few friends with couples on here, is because I treat them as a couple. I speak to them both...and if both of them aren't pleased, then nothing is obviously going to happen is it? I don't really see why swingers clubs should be that much different...besides the fact that it takes a little more balls to strike up initial contact face-to-face. And just as a hypothetical from a guys perspective, sometimes it might be easier to be shot down from the hubby, rather than the missus first...At the end of the day though, would anyone with any self respect, really go ahead and fuck anyone who doesn't have simple respect and courtesy? No matter which one of the couple was asked....
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've never seen two guys coming to blows in these situations. Frankly people are usually very respectful of the word "no"... and for the overly enthusiastic, usually even more effective when followed by the words "piss off"."Excuse my mate... can I fuck your wife?""Mate... you really need to go and ask her husband... he's down the hall in the suspended chair trialling all the wishful thinkers"HugsStalky Quoting 'Jean_Girard' Some threads are so informative... . Given there is this 'ask or be beaten' perception out there.... has anyone see that sort of attitude in the 'scene'? . 'Can I fuck your wife?' "Don't see why not mate, give her a call... are you leaving already?"
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RHP User
14 years ago
Now... that's a different scenario altogether... in those circumstances I agree it is best to have a discussion with a couple... as a couple. As a single... I'm always a shy reserved type and always wait to be asked in so far as couples are concerned... although a nod and a wink is good enough to get my attention. In case you were wondering KD... no need to ask for permission with respect to me personally.... so please... go ahead and jump right on in and snuggle up when my back is turned. :pHugsStalky Quoting 'KD7884' We're all different. What one deems acceptable, another deems a piss-off. Some are understanding, while some would just rather tear you a new one. And it applies here. It's a tricky subject...and what makes it harder is that there are no rules or guidelines for people to follow. Sure, as Stalky has said, if you're already "busy" with a girl (or vice versa...lets not get too gender specific here...), it is common sense to think that going up and asking at that point would be rude. Fair enough. But what about a swingers club where a couple are just sitting and having a drink at that particular point? It's been said that if they're there, surely they're there to swing with others. BUT, I know thats not always the case. Some go for the atmosphere...the relaxed environment...for the perve. So to not ask the permission of the partner in this case, may well indeed land you with a fat lip. I've seen it happen...The whole point is, yes, it would be great if a guy was decent enough to ask the female of the couple whether she would like to play (Or vice versa)...but it would also be great if everyone was understanding as well. And until everyone knows the rules, and plays by the same ones, we're going to have conflict, hostility, and a different opinion. Fact.And for anyone who cares, I won't approach couples in clubs. I figure if she's really interested, she'll let me know...
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RHP User
14 years ago
It is simply common courtosy for the guy to ask the hubby etc if he can have sex with his wife.After all he doesn't want any trouble and he wants to make sure it is ok.Then the hubby can tell the wife and the wife obviously makes the decision after the hubby and wife have communicated about it.and then accept or deny this man her body.The couple would chat about it and then make the decision as to whether he is allowed to go that extra mile.That is what we have seen over the years and it works for them all.Leesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
If we are at a party or a club and one of us haqppens across a likely bonk, we will at least ask each other if it is OK. Generally we go as a couple and play as a couple and while we do occasionally play alone we always do so with the other's approval. Just a bit a check and balance thing. He - being a male, sometimes has his decision making controlled by Mr. Johnson so at times he needs to get the message 'not with that skanky-ho you don't, not on my watch'. He does however see the inner beauty of people and prefers to 'fuck the mind' more than the body.. Not so much the other way as she is bloody fussy for superficial looks and sometimes cannot see what lies underneath.
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RHP User
14 years ago
what Leesa said works for us..
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RHP User
14 years ago
I dont see the big deal in seeking a husbands , boyfriends, friends approval if someone wants to fuck thier wife / gf etc . ? Particularly in a scene where alot of the aggressors are not , what you came there for..Mrs JJ always approves who she wants to fuck and who she doesnt. A protential suitor would need the very basics to get her attention.. a few manners and a lil respect and some sort of attraction, surely thats not much to ask ? We both would think alot more about the guy who has some personality than the guy who only has a stiff dick to please.If a man does'nt know how to show these few basics skills and brushed past me to get to Mrs JJ, thats showing contempt and he would get what he deserves.People alway talk here on rhp about setting your own rules and boundrys.. These are ours..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Personally i think it goes the same way for a girl that wants to fuck my hubby.If you are rude to me, you have no chance...if you talk to me nicely and treat me with respect, you might be allowed..lolIf you ask me first you have a good ticket chance of me saying yes, if you play up to my hubby and then just ask him and not me..i will tell him NFW....lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
If both the male & female of the relationship is at a sex party, whether it be husband and wife, or just partners, I mean duh???? what are they there for? They are going to a sex party, so why ask permission to have the woman? If you dont want a man to have sex with your partner, dont go to parties. I have been to several sex parties and I never heard a man ask permission to another man to have sex with his partner/wife. If you dont want another men to have her.. don't go to the party sweetie.
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RHP User
14 years ago
spunkybum, that is outrageous...i would hate to go the parties that you do..free for all no asking ...no way!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Im with you... we're here for a good time but that doesnt mean its open slather to just anybody...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'spunkybum5252'If both the male & female of the relationship is at a sex party, whether it be husband and wife, or just partners, I mean duh???? what are they there for? They are going to a sex party, so why ask permission to have the woman? If you dont want a man to have sex with your partner, dont go to parties. I have been to several sex parties and I never heard a man ask permission to another man to have sex with his partner/wife. If you dont want another men to have her.. don't go to the party sweetie. No Way! Its a whole lot more complicated than that, we would go to swap partners with the opposite sex and we both would expect to get laid not just one of us. Our motto all or none. For example female bi play is very big in this lifestyle a lot of ladies are only interested in the girlie play and don't want another guy except their husband inside them. Thats fine, but we are not going to supply the lady just for her husband. We hear it all the time from couples that the wife gets laid and the husband complaining he does not, but thats their fault for agreeing ......silly them, they should have said nope, only couple to couple!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I must admit, I find that all very strange when husband and wife go to an event.... and wife has a rule that she doesn't play with other men.... but husband is there to play with someone else's wife... All I can say is good luck to him.... and good for her sticking up for herself and not taking one for the team! However, I often wonder if the reason she chooses not to play with other dudes.. is because of the insecurities her husband has.HugsStalky Quoting 'JustEnough' No Way! Its a whole lot more complicated than that, we would go to swap partners with the opposite sex and we both would expect to get laid not just one of us. Our motto all or none. For example female bi play is very big in this lifestyle a lot of ladies are only interested in the girlie play and don't want another guy except their husband inside them. Thats fine, but we are not going to supply the lady just for her husband. We hear it all the time from couples that the wife gets laid and the husband complaining he does not, but thats their fault for agreeing ......silly them, they should have said nope, only couple to couple!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'stalky'However, I often wonder if the reason she chooses not to play with other dudes.. is because of the insecurities her husband has.HugsStalky Wellwhatdoyouknow, We agree 100% with that. We can remember meeting up with couple for lunch and decided to book a apartment that evening for dinner, a couple wines and play. Just before we hit the bedroom her husband says just a bit of light touching, and watching others so we agreed. Then in the bedroom I noticed her husband had his cock in my wives mouth, so I thought he had loosened up thats not light touching. Well 5 minutes later I get my Mrs snuggle up ME AND HIS WIFE and whispers to me, you better leave his wife alone he is ready to explode.......she was right we were all in our cars going home within 5 minutes! He was one of those guys who listed his wife as bi when she wasnt! He reckoned he did that because most did when we asked him why.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I never play with other men, i just don't want to and wont, i am very much in love and happy with what i have and don't need any other men to have sex with.On the other hand if the guys wanna play i am happy to watch or join in with a girl but no guys.That is just our rules and i am glad and honored that people accept them and don't bother us or me.Leesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
I can hardly imagine that your men would fall into the "too emotionally insecure for her to play too" category Leesa... there's two of them for starters!!HugsGaz Quoting 'couplesint' I never play with other men, i just don't want to and wont, i am very much in love and happy with what i have and don't need any other men to have sex with.On the other hand if the guys wanna play i am happy to watch or join in with a girl but no guys.That is just our rules and i am glad and honored that people accept them and don't bother us or me.Leesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
We are fine with you not wanting other guys, we really dont care, if your boys approached us they would get told our rules and we expect the same respect you demand. I think we are on the same page.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thats right Stalky, they dont at all, it is my choice as i am more than happy with what i have and dont want anyone else to touch my body or have sex with me other than my guys.SO i suppose i am different than others if they choose to do that , great good on them, but it is not me.Leesa xxxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thats right Just.. and my boys would not approach anyone with out consulting me and the others first, i respect others rules and they respect ours..playing is not that important to us and we dont go looking for it at all.If it happens it happens and simple as that.
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RHP User
14 years ago
As the male half of this profile, it is entirely up to the girls. I would be offended if i was asked and the mrs wasnt asked first. We play separately at parties and iam comfortable with my partners judgement if she chooses to play. The same goes for me. I would never ask the husbands/boy friends permission ... i would ask the girl. If she has to confer with her partner that is the way it is. It comes down to your own rules.It really isnt that complicated at a party or club. We are there for fun and on the nite we hope that it is good for us both. Meeka, come visit NQ and i am sure we can show you a good time :D
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RHP User
14 years ago
An enthusiastic conversation started between my wife and a single man at a swingers club. I whispered in her ear that if she wanted to go and have some fun it was fun with me. I wandered off to play pool and they snuck off to a room. Later she reported having a wonderful time and I couldn't have been happier for her.EasyMrA
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Genius_Ironman
14 years ago
Even at a swing club it would seem normal to engage in some meaningless nattering, and leverage the conversation into the direction you want it to go. Couples there have a variety of hidden agendas, they could just be there for the first time & looking, or trying to find a couple to take home with them, or only after a woman for a 3some. If they are hot to play it should be obvious after 10 mins or so. If it is a couple you talk to both of them. Starting a conversation with "Hey can I fuck your wife" would be demonstrating an obvious lack of social skills, intoxication or maybe Aspergers, none of which are endearing. Of course if she is wearing a collar & lead it might be acceptable.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For Dan. :P
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On_Safari
12 years ago
So Meeks after making myself known to the couple I would politely ask the Wife "May I play with your husband?" Secretly thinking to myself I want to impale myself on his cock and make his body my playground!!! 😈 BUT having been with a few couples now I actually find that the Ladies practically undress the husband and lay him out before you like a feast 😳 which err, saves alot of drama and is kinda of nice really. Anyway I'm limited in my experience but that's what I've discovered. In the same token though it's usually the Wives/Girlfriends who have suggested taking their men for a "test drive 'round the block" lol wouldn't you under those circumstances 😇 "drive it like you stole it!!" ~ Indy happy to test drive under adult supervision.
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madotara69
12 years ago
If a bloke came up to us and asked Tara if he could fuck her without adressing me as well, then I would more than likely think he was a rude cunt and that is just a man thing. Tara would know it any way, so it would do him no favours. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well sure if you are both standing there together. But not all couples stick so closely together all night. ;-)
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madotara69
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been mid bonk when I turned my head to find a stiff cock inches from my face. He asked me "can I come on your tits" .... My bonking buddy was not amused. Lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I have had women offering up their husbands/BF as well. As far as I can see most of the "negotiations" are done by wifey. :P
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madotara69
12 years ago
We were in a group, not naked but might have well been. A little male bonding and a fellow managed to slip right past me and lay a kiss that got some juices flowing, it really was nothing to do with control at all, the guy was a gentleman about the whole thing and I did not even for a second consider it rude that Tara was thoroughly enjoying the moment. I can only imagine what he may have been thinking
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' We were in a group, not naked but might have well been. A little male bonding and a fellow managed to slip right past me and lay a kiss that got some juices flowing, it really was nothing to do with control at all, the guy was a gentleman about the whole thing and I did not even for a second consider it rude that Tara was thoroughly enjoying the moment. I can only imagine what he may have been thinking I know what Tara was thinking. She reminds me often.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You know when you go to the airport and see the dude directing the plane with the ping pong bats.... bring a few of them in. Red for no, green for go. ;-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been to CC with a male friend a few times and haven't encountered any man asking him to share his toy. Just in case, I will instruct him to tell any guy who approaches him to go for it. Can't wait for their excited little faces to go all sad when I then tell them no.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I think it's VERY IMPORTANT that the Ladies are comfy with each other. I'd hate for anyone to feel put out, left out or struck out. I love it when the Lady likes me enough to allow her man to enjoy me and vice versa. The first time was so surreal......I felt very looked after by both of them and equally considered. ~ and that's mean Mea!! Lol take a polaroid so we can all see the faces.
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gazpacho
12 years ago
I have to laugh. Seriously. I mean.. how awkward is it. Excuse me... can I please fuck your wife? No.... no ... no... Nevr. Don't even ask. Think it.. yes.. but ask? Oh gawd no. How rude.. I mean... ask the woman directly and ignore her partner? Oh ffs hell no. There's only one way I know that feels right.... It's be so fucking sensational that you get yourself an invite. Everything else just reeks of desperate... or wrongness.. or something. At least, it feels that way to me. Give me a sting strong signal at least... for instance grab hold of my cock. that works. HugsGazpacho
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' I have to laugh. Seriously. I mean.. how awkward is it. Excuse me... can I please fuck your wife? No.... no ... no... Nevr. Don't even ask. Think it.. yes.. but ask? Oh gawd no. How rude.. I mean... ask the woman directly and ignore her partner? Oh ffs hell no. There's only one way I know that feels right.... It's be so fucking sensational that you get yourself an invite. Everything else just reeks of desperate... or wrongness.. or something. At least, it feels that way to me. Give me a sting strong signal at least... for instance grab hold of my cock. that works. HugsGazpacho Read through the whole thread
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