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Expiring chats for guest members

April 10 2026

Just wanted to put up a post about the fact that for guest members there is a time limit of 7 days we have to respond to messages. Some paid members may not be aware of this and just assume a guest is no longer interested or the member is still waiting for a reply that the guest cannot make. Yes, I know 7 days sounds like plenty of time but people take breaks, get busy with life or receive a lot of messages so may not get around to responding within that time limit. I am told by a paid member that this count down does not appear on their side of the screen so they may not be aware that the chat thread has expired 🤷🏼‍♀️ Just an FYI 😁

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BarberBoss1981

one month ago

Its also not up to paying members to chase up guests who didnt reply in the 7 days. Some of the paid subscriptions only allow a certain amount of messages to be sent each day so they probably dont want to waste it on someone who hasnt replied to the first one. If guests are missing opportunities then the solution is purchase the minimum subscription.

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RHP User

one month ago

What could be done to alert the messenger that you may still be interested if the window of reply has elapsed? A like? A fav? Like a photo? Friend request?

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Nightglider

one month ago

I actually had a similar forum post rejected a while ago. Many paid members don’t know this. I’ve been paid and am now a guest. Have had chats with people that went well, like with one couple I had. But I didn’t want to crowd or chase them and respected their space so chat has now expired. Which is ok. But have also noticed they view my profile from time to time, without reaching out again. As someone else has said, paid membership is available if we really want to connect with someone we have chatted to before. It is also good for paid members to understand the rules too. I’ll often advise now early in chat if I connect well with someone.

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OpalRose

one month ago

For the remaining 99% of us, we will reply if we are interested and don’t want you continually reaching out every 7 days just in case. A lack of reply is a no. Don’t confuse no with maybe and continually try to get our attention. We worry you might get confused by a no in real life too and just continue!!

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PartnersnCrime

one month ago

Soooo what's you suggestion to people with paid subscriptions? To go and chase regularly all fizzled conversations? They also have their busy lives. Every paid member was on free account at some point, so I think most people know of the limitation. I guess if you're interested in someone and going away knowing you have a free account, you may say "Hey, Im going away, I'll be back on XX, can you message me then because I have a free account and won't be able to message you". This way people know

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sublime

one month ago

A simple acknowledgment of the message might be a great idea, “Hi thanks for your message, definitely interested, just a little snowed under ect, May keep the lines of communication open

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MsSuperFoxy

one month ago

This is exactly why I like to met within a week because I'm not sitting around chasing expired messages. Not every unanswered message is someone being rude. Sometimes chats expire, people get busy, or the interest just isn’t there. Also, having a paid membership doesn’t create an obligation on the other side. Attraction isn’t a transaction and replies aren’t guaranteed. There seems to be a growing expectation that sending a message should lead to a response and when it doesn’t it gets labelled as ghosting. Sometimes it’s not ghosting. It’s just a lack of interest. Ms Foxy

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RHP User

one month ago

The other is hitting it off but not having anything planned or not able to organize anything for a while. We can’t go in to organize anything a month down the track unless there is constant communication and who’s got time for that. maybe removing it for match’s as they’ve matched and responded so should be free to communicate 🤷‍♀️

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JLSX_01

one month ago

Simple solution is to just add this before closing out the message guests get a certain amount of free likes, one favourite and no limit on sending or accepting friend requests. If this message has unfortunately expired, the ability to reply, give either one of us a like, favourite or friend request to reconnect.

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SweetSerenade

one month ago

If you're on a free membership then it's up to you to follow up if you're interested. Or simply pay for membership, it's pretty cheap. Pestering with faves, likes, or friend requests is tacky and cheap, we block guest accounts that friend request us as we clearly state in our profile we'll only add you if we've met you in person.

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RavenKitty

one month ago

This! 💯 Thank-you for reminding others about us guest members not being available to reply back in time therefore can't make contact again after 7 days, a little frustrating at times tbh.

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