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FWB, a conversation with myself....
October 29 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
......just congratulations Jose!!! Makes me all tingley and mushy inside when someone 'gets it' and learns something new about themself....& is comfortable to tell everyone as well ! Your awakening has just begun......there is more to come, enjoy treasure....xxx ic
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RHP User
16 years ago
Narrow-minded views being turned around are cause only for celebration. Always. So I say let's celebrate! Any excuse for a part-ay! :P lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Oh I like your internal dialogue and have had the same myself. Mrs Pup was very inexperienced and of course thought I was a sex god, which was nice but my rational self knew her blind affection had little basis. It turned out she had a naughty mind to go with the body of sin so a-exploring we went. Sure there were niggling fears that she may find better but also the acceptance of what will be will be. Stepping outside the norm for a relationship has had it's ups and downs, as it would have had if we stayed within them. Luckily we feel closer today than we did yesterday and look forward to being closer still tomorrow. To have a FWB and want to keep them all to yourself I perceive as a tad selfish or maybe needy but a normal human reaction. As a "friend" isn't someone you have sole dibs on then you should surely share them. It's just the same with "best-friends" there's often a jealousy that if you support their close friendships with others you may lose top spot but in reality if you don't you're not best-friend worthy so I guess the same goes for FWB?I have a desire to find a man of such fine form to give Mrs Pup a night she'll never forget. I know she needs more than a hotbod (the girl has such depth attached to her orgasm-string) and would only truly enjoy the experience if the connection was total. Not sure if we'll ever do it as when I discuss it with her she laughs and says she has it already. Is some of this my insecurity and trying to test our "true soul mate" status? I'm sure some is. So it won't be a planned thing but the fantasy of a chance meeting does sit well with me.Am I anywhere near "on topic"?Disclaimer to lurkers: please no private messages alerting me to your complete compatibility! Something to respond to this then say it here. We really don't respond well to hopeful private responses to my forum ramblings (Apart from yours Gaz).
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RHP User
16 years ago
yes, u r very on topic...i was not trying to say that i would want to hog a fwb, that would never be my intention...but it was a dialogue that i did have...and and so right about best friends, it's not about who is THE best friend, it's about what you give and take in a friendshipinteresting, that i always seem to give, and not take much...and good luck in your search, i am certain u will find what u want for mrs pup...cheers and thanks for your thoughts mr pupJose...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its what fwb is all about.. and can be quite testing sometimes. I too have come full circle..i used to get a tad mad when i saw my fwb with another chic..I knew he had quite a few, and yet i was comfy just having one extra.. Now that my life has changed direction, i have done a lot of thinking and now understand that a fwb is just that.. and that both parties can (and often do) have a few on the go at the one time.. I dont feel guilty, and either do they... as long as your up front from the start and can be honest and dont complicate things, then thats good with me.. I believe that people can be attracted to some of their friends and if you take it to the next level that it can go either way... so far i have been lucky and our friendships have got stronger, but its still just that.... friends! No ownership, no getting jealous, and no living in a fantasy world.. We all have different friends we rely on for different reasons, some are good with crisis situations.. some stuck in party mode..and others ya just love being around cos they make ya feel dam good.. So I say love thy friend for who and what they are to you...and vice versa.. FWB is more about being able to cross that line as often as desired and being able to keep it real... no headfks, simply just 'friends' ... with benefits. So now i dont get jealous..or mad...I get happy!!.. Cos if they do find "the one" then i would be really happy for them... as im sure they would be for me.. Think I would even thro in a "HI 5"... - Y -
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RHP User
16 years ago
That's a beautifully rewarding and selfless headspace to be at Jose. Live and let love bebe, your like a Buddhist now on the path to eternal happiness. Nose rubs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ya is made of the good stuff Jose'..what a lovely soul. kisses on ya bits xx Miss Honey xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
There's nothing like self discovery if you grow from it and puts you in a good headspace...Thus you feel you've becominga more fulfilled person...is wonderful thing to hear...thankx for sharing with us....your journey has only just began...wow how much more sweeter can you get...ya is a great guy any way..... PS least ya get an answer when ya talk to yourself.....hahaha
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RHP User
16 years ago
the engine stands up and claps.. nice post.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well done for having an open mind Jose. The path to enlightenment never looked so full of friendships and fun..... Go you good thing ! Dog.
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