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Fake orgasms
December 02 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
We all fake it sometimes. Get over yourself!
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Take the bloody pressure off a female in your company having to orgasm. Sometimes we don't, it's as simple as that. Sometimes women fake it to stop the relentless hunt a man is on to create an orgasm for a woman, and the woman knows its just not going to happen that particular time. An amazing, knee trembling time can be had even without having an orgasm. Try asking her why she may have faked in the past....and listen carefully to her answer. Its not about you, be objective rather than subjective. If you go in guns blazing (as your use of capitals implies), then the situation is going to get very uncomfortable very quickly.
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RHP User
8 years ago
But... Whilst you may wish to see the truth from her experiences with you... Others have clearly made her feel as though that’s just not possible. Unfortunately through continued exposure to these other guys, faking it becomes “just the said thing” in order to prevent the sooky or persistent need to make her orgasm attitude. I hope you and your lady friend continue down your seemingly positive path... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
What Jonesy said... remove the pressure. I think (and this is just my opinion) that given your age (or mine), that your partner wast most likely raised in an environment where women were told that males like sex, and females don’t... that is a double edged sword which can negatively impact both men and women. In the past I have faked orgasms for a few reasons... because I just wanted it done, because I was tired, or not in the mood, or my lover was just lazy or inconsiderate. Other times, when I did communicate that I wasn’t enjoying something, or wanted something different, my partner took it as a personal failure, and egos were damaged, and then it was thrown back at me later. Never again would I fake an orgasm, because I now know that I don’t owe anyone sex, under any circumstances, so I would just say no if I was tired, annoyed, or whatever. I also now know that it’s absolutely ok to ask for what I want, and if my lover doesn’t like it, then he’s not someone I want in my life anyway. It is also ok for either partner to not orgasm - there is plenty of pleasure in the journey 😉 It did take me 40 something years to learn that, or perhaps it’s better to say, unlearn what I was taught growing up. Communicate, be open, don’t take it personally, remove the pressure 👍🏼
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RHP User
8 years ago
"yeah, I guess the tank was empty - probably dehydrated from hockey" or rip your little rubber baggy off post haste and toss it in the bin, it's not like she's inspecting to see if it is full of jizz, hell, just pull out, dribble on her arse and groan appropriately. Women don't have a monopoly on faking orgasms - equality in the bedroom. ;) Obviously not a problem for _me_, since I was blessed with the ability to hold my breathe for up to an hour while also performing oral sex with a passion and fervor one may think it was a gift bestowed by the gods of antiquity (or you may think "eh, its ok, whatever") :p
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RHP User
8 years ago
3 in 40 years. Nuff said
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RHP User
8 years ago
Stop big noting yourself - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
About orgasms isn’t going to make her have one any quicker. Take a chill pill. Putting pressure on her to do what YOU think she should experience with you is a sure way to ensure she’ll be faking it in the near future. Anti, Betty, Jonesy, all yes 👍read and learn. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I hear what the OP is saying, rather than faking it, just be honest! I get that women sometimes wont get "Over the line" - i get that! I think what the OP is trying to say here is that rather than be dis honest = just speak the truth - simple. If you bother to read the post, you will notice he is not saying he will guarantee to make her orgasm - he is just wanting honesty!
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RHP User
8 years ago
... men learnt not to attach their delicate egos to women's orgasms! It's not like a technical manual to operate a machine. Some days, you use this move and that lick and you trigger an orgasm... or two. Other days, you repeat the same steps and it just doesn't happen. Women aren't machines. A myriad of factors affect whether we orgasm or not. Biologically, a female brain is hardwired to process several different thoughts simultaneously. Often, the orgasm is not just because a man is a super great sex god... It's about the mutual connection and trust, how obsessed a man is with whether or not she orgasms, what's going on in her life atm, hormonal fluctuations, what happened at work, receiving a shocking bill post retail therapy, etc etc etc. 🤣 Women fake it because some men just don't get it. It's either fake it, or risk friction burns because the guy just won't give up because of his obsession to hold on to bragging rights. 😛🤣
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RHP User
8 years ago
In fact I think some of you barely scanned it before jumping on the high horse. It's obvious some of the replies have been made in ignorance of what the OP has said, ignorance is not bliss here and wilful ignorance is contemptible. You don't need me to remind you that everyone is different, some women climax easily and others don't. I've heard it said more than once that sex is still enjoyable without an orgasm.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Yes, I understand what you are saying, and I agree that the OP is looking for honesty. But is he ready to accept that honesty without personalising it and making the partner feel like piece of dog poo? Once I read his profile and post...twice....carefully... I came to the conclusion that he also wants her to orgasm every time she is with him....to quote: "Devoted to satisfying my partner....If I can't bring enough to her table then there's no point." What pressure that places in a woman! Terrible! I also took umbrage at "absolutely destroy the authenticity I proudly wear on my sleeve in my profile". What? I simply do not understand how a fake orgasm is related to the OP's authenticity.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Touch. Thanks, nothing like good honest cruelty is there? Maybe being a carer for decades has something to do with it. Luvitruf. Thanks to you too, exactly what I was trying to say. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think you are missing the point... the OP called his post a rant, he used caps in a couple of places, and this is obviously an issue which is emotive for him. I understand the OP’s desire for honest and genuine interactions, and I also understand that he was possibly using this thread as a way to vent his frustration. From most of the responses above, I see a group of women who are trying to help him out with reasons as to why women may fake an orgasm, and offer an approach which will end in discussion, rather than an argument 🙄 If you had bothered to read my response, I also specifically addressed why some women may feel uncomfortable with being honest around this. *I am making the assumption that it was the male half of your profile who wrote your post, from the style of writing? As a side note, it’s good forum manners to sign off as either Mr or Mrs, or however you want to refer to yourself, so the rest of us know who we are reading/addressing 👍🏼
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RHP User
8 years ago
Snap 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
In this topic and your previous topic about women's orgasms. To me, your attitude and approach is completely off-putting. You think you're so different to those 'other' men you put down, but you're still making it all about you and what you want. You're not much different at all. I have my ideas about why you are this way when it comes to women and sex, but going by past responses I'm sure you wouldn't take any suggestions on board anyway.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'the_antichrist' But... Whilst you may wish to see the truth from her experiences with you... Others have clearly made her feel as though that’s just not possible. Unfortunately through continued exposure to these other guys, faking it becomes “just the said thing” in order to prevent the sooky or persistent need to make her orgasm attitude. I hope you and your lady friend continue down your seemingly positive path... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'MsJonesy' Yes, I understand what you are saying, and I agree that the OP is looking for honesty. But is he ready to accept that honesty without personalising it and making the partner feel like piece of dog poo? Once I read his profile and post...twice....carefully... I came to the conclusion that he also wants her to orgasm every time she is with him....to quote: "Devoted to satisfying my partner....If I can't bring enough to her table then there's no point." What pressure that places in a woman! Terrible! I also took umbrage at "absolutely destroy the authenticity I proudly wear on my sleeve in my profile". What? I simply do not understand how a fake orgasm is related to the OP's authenticity. Yes I am ready to accept her honesty! That's the point! You clearly don't see where I am coming from. "Devoted to satisfying my partner" does NOT require an orgasm every time, or even any time. "Satisfying my partner" can mean anything from a lovely massage, to lying in bed chatting and laughing, to actual sex, with or without orgasm. I have always had the viewpoint that whatever happens, happens. So, if I'm heading down the wrong path, I want to be told, guided. I want to learn. That also is "devoted to pleasing my partner". I just want honesty. I'm sure that it's true that many men are fixated on one more orgasm, one more notch on the gunbelt. I am not one of them. An orgasm, especially mutual orgasms, is a delightful ending, but not in any way a requirement. Re the table, you are reading far too much into it. Nowhere do I talk about orgasms. "Enough" is whatever it is! If "enough" is walking the dog together, then that's what it is - "enough".
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Hawt1
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' 3 in 40 years. Nuff said Touch is this a necessary and informative, humorous or even positive contribution to this conversation? Same as you deplore shaming for other things. Double standards. If the Op had one partner in his lifetime it does not lessen the point he is making. Pure Peony yes, if only men and women did not attach so much ego to it, relax enjoy yourselves. A long term partner and myself have had a discussion over this topic.. we both have the odd moment where we just can not cum and have made the point to each other that that is ok. Honest "communication", should not be a dirty word. We have also had moments where the orgasm flood gates from either side just open :) Hell I even went multiple for the one and only time in my life. Jamaica I applaud your approach, great you had this conversation with your friend. A good catalyst possibly for other couples to negotiate their past prejudices of social conditioning and fragile ego's.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
As nice as it is making your partner orgasm.. If on that Occassion she or he doesn't feel it for whatever reason, who cares.. Only makes the time the mind and body are in the ON mode that much better... Besides ' who says you need too orgasm every time ? That's more a unrealistic expectation .. So if any lady ever fakes her orgasm for me , she's wasting her time... I'm happy to share our bodies anyway..
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RHP User
8 years ago
and couldn't agree more ladies....... I think referring back to this op's forum topic post about the confusion of being unattached. He should be feeling lucky he has a woman who would take him on let alone being worried about the orgasm issue. Just saying...........
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't fake orgasm, never have! MY orgasm is, in my opinion, MY journey, and OUR journey is what we make of having sex together, with or without the pressure of having to perform. For a bit of an outline, I was kind of taught Not to orgasm very early on. A lot of pleasure was provided but no release was given. It left it's mark forever more. I did teach myself to orgasm with me but with someone else was another thing. I could go on, orgasm was my first topic in the forum... Society makes it sound like orgasm is an easy thing for women, something we can *ALL* do at the drop of a hat and multiple times without even thinking about it. Pffft, Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hubby still struggles with the desire for me to come before him because it intensifies his pleasure as well. I get that, and the desire/to meet society expectations that is out there too. There is so much to it. I wouldn't swap him for the world, Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Hawt1'Jamaica I applaud your approach, great you had this conversation with your friend. A good catalyst possibly for other couples to negotiate their past prejudices of social conditioning and fragile ego's. Thanks, I appreciate that. If there's any real connection with a partner, a faked orgasm is an opportunity missed. An opportunity to teach/learn/share. Maybe Itouch would like to have a go at being a carer for a couple of decades
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RHP User
8 years ago
I said more but it seems to have gone 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Really highlights that men feel less masculine and less worthy of a call back if their partners don’t achieve the same heights as their partners have been able to lift them to... Whereas women seem to see the quality in play heightened based upon factors that aren’t physical.... Which to a neurotic male, which I’m sure there are plenty here, will suggest to them they’re failing both physically and on psychological/emotional level... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' ... men learnt not to attach their delicate egos to women's orgasms! I sure as hell don't. My ego is fulfilled when I climax...hopefully she has already come along for the ride, as it were. That out to do it, nice shit stir! should cop a bit of flack from the peanut gallery here even is I am kidding! CM who is now leaving singing the catchy Beatles tune ''Come together''!
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RHP User
8 years ago
You are so far off what I said, and that is purely your spin. I have absolutely no idea how you can interpret what I said into the implications you are trying to give it. Please don't insult my intelligence by telling me that is what I meant.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There may be issues there, but shaming the guy over number of sexual partners and amount of experience is just nasty and uncalled for.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Maybe they need to listen to the women's opinions, take the action of acceptance that it's not all about them and their weak egos, and stop feeling like a failure then. That's way more empowering than it sounds? Look at it from the female perspective then I suppose... Do women feel like they have to make other women cum?Do women feel like they have to fake it for other women? None of the above here... Peachy, is grateful for more then the pleasure through sex as far as the call back of my life went.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Women fake it because they have had enough and don't want to continue, and that's the easiest way of doing that with new people. Is it honest , no. I know this isn't your intention JB but a lot of the phrases you use raises red flags for me. Things like.. I am not in charge, this is what I want, it's what I think should happen. Your words are saying one thing, but something about the way you are wording it makes me believe that you are not really being genuine. That you are saying things because you feel it's the "right" thing to say. Perhaps you really feel you are in charge? And it's obviously its not just me that feels this way hence some of the reactions you've received from the other women. I know it's difficult to get your message across in the written form and a lot of things are lost in translation, and I could be wrong - but at the end of the day it's about other people's perceptions and at the moment I dont believe you are being seen the way you Would like to be. As for your authentic profile. I feel sorry for your wife that you discuss these issues, and your marital issues on a public forum with your face on display. I think you feel having your face on your profile is authentic - I see it as being disrespectful to your wife and your life together. I feel uncomfortable about it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Totally agree with luck dragon. Seen it before on here from you. Stop telling us how great you think you are. Ment to get wiser as you get older. And you sure as hell are not 62 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Really, thanks... I've learned a few things: 1. My ego is fine, intact and dandy. The comments/discussions about men's "fragile" egos have confirmed that, in spades. 2. Orgasms will happen or not. But hey I knew that anyway. It's many years since I held the concept of "making her cum" in my mind. Our most recent get together was a beautiful time in bed, followed by time in the spa. Nary an orgasm in sight, totally happy. Lots of kissing and cuddling, MASSIVE pleasure, zero pressure to "perform". 3. I need to be even more aware than I already am as to how to bring pleasure to our sexual experiences. How to listen better. Ask better questions about "Pleasure", whatever that might look like. Need to fine-tune that a bit. 4. Some people try to see things from someone else's viewpoint. Some don't. That's life. So, thanks. Those of you who threw stones, no biggie - water off a duck's back. The only criticisms I will take seriously are from fellow-carers. You know, that boring "walk in someone else's shoes" stuff Peace
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RHP User
8 years ago
We're supposed to feel sorry for neurotic males who are basing their sexual enjoyment on living up to some imagined pre-lover? It's a funny thing I haven't seen this conditioning in women. No wonder women are conditioned to be virgins... No challenge there, hey? Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' Women fake it because they have had enough and don't want to continue, and that's the easiest way of doing that with new people. Is it honest , no. I know this isn't your intention JB but a lot of the phrases you use raises red flags for me. Things like.. I am not in charge, this is what I want, it's what I think should happen. Your words are saying one thing, but something about the way you are wording it makes me believe that you are not really being genuine. That you are saying things because you feel it's the "right" thing to say. Perhaps you really feel you are in charge? And it's obviously its not just me that feels this way hence some of the reactions you've received from the other women. I know it's difficult to get your message across in the written form and a lot of things are lost in translation, and I could be wrong - but at the end of the day it's about other people's perceptions and at the moment I dont believe you are being seen the way you Would like to be. As for your authentic profile. I feel sorry for your wife that you discuss these issues, and your marital issues on a public forum with your face on display. I think you feel having your face on your profile is authentic - I see it as being disrespectful to your wife and your life together. I feel uncomfortable about it. Shit - I just deleted my pic (in response to your comments) and lost all of a long response. Maybe later. You raise some excellent points, which I wanted to respond to
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' We're supposed to feel sorry for neurotic males who are basing their "partner's sexual enjoyment on living up to some imagined pre-lover? It's a funny thing I haven't seen this conditioning in women. No wonder women are conditioned to be virgins... No challenge there, hey? Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
“Maybe they need to listen to the women's opinions, take the action of acceptance that it's not all about them and their weak egos, and stop feeling like a failure then. “ You lost my attention and what respect I had after reading this.... And I’m not even going continue to contemplate how condescending that statement sounds....it’ll piss me off even more than I am... Good day ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't believe that I was at all disrespectful, or throwing stones in my post on this thread. Certainly wasn't my intention. I don't particularly like the way you present yourself in the forums, or those who you seem to be buddied up with, but each to their own. I was genuinely just trying to share information which I thought might be helpful, given your OP... but whatevs... On the carer thing... I'm interested to know how you know who is a carer and who isn't? Not all of us like to share every facet of our personal lives in this very public arena. To make assumptions on that is ignorant, at best. If you are only interested in the opinions of those who you know are carers, perhaps you are posting in the wrong arena? Maybe a support group would be more appropriate? Either way, I wont bother you with my thoughts on any future threads you post. I'll leave you and your mates to it, that way you're more likely to get the responses you want, as opposed to people actually answering your OP
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' I don't believe that I was at all disrespectful, or throwing stones in my post on this thread. Certainly wasn't my intention. I don't particularly like the way you present yourself in the forums, or those who you seem to be buddied up with, but each to their own. I was genuinely just trying to share information which I thought might be helpful, given your OP... but whatevs... On the carer thing... I'm interested to know how you know who is a carer and who isn't? Not all of us like to share every facet of our personal lives in this very public arena. To make assumptions on that is ignorant, at best. If you are only interested in the opinions of those who you know are carers, perhaps you are posting in the wrong arena? Maybe a support group would be more appropriate? Either way, I wont bother you with my thoughts on any future threads you post. I'll leave you and your mates to it, that way you're more likely to get the responses you want, as opposed to people actually answering your OP I'm actually thankful for all opinions. I didn't single anyone out for stone throwing. You certainly don't stick in my mind. Those who threw stones did just that. And, when I finish posting, I will go back and respond to you, as you deserve. Re buddies on this site. I don't have any. And "making assumptions is ignorant" is so true. You might like to note the number of people who have done so about me. I have taken note of all posts, and am happy to "lift my game" in all possible ways.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting you, these are your words "4. Some people try to see things from someone else's viewpoint. Some don't. That's life" Pot kettle black
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
The intent of the OPs post l think...... The thread seemed to skew a little.........well.....a lot.😁 Just seemed to highlight fragile egos in the guys. Being around this scene a while, l never think about fake orgasms, male or female. This scene enables the participants to accept each other's moods, situations and or shortcomings. If you or your partner don't cum, it's about giving your best in the moment. Act with maturity and just accept that it's not right. There is always the next morning if you have a sleepover or its a play, always next time. If you have to fake something, you shouldn't be together. Be honest. A mature decent partner will accept that things were not perfect. Took much drink, bad day, bad back, just tired. Whatever. An understanding human will accept it, a good time still had. Stop. A kiss and a cuddle says a lot more than a blow.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' What Jonesy said... remove the pressure. I think (and this is just my opinion) that given your age (or mine), that your partner wast most likely raised in an environment where women were told that males like sex, and females don’t... that is a double edged sword which can negatively impact both men and women. In the past I have faked orgasms for a few reasons... because I just wanted it done, because I was tired, or not in the mood, or my lover was just lazy or inconsiderate. Other times, when I did communicate that I wasn’t enjoying something, or wanted something different, my partner took it as a personal failure, and egos were damaged, and then it was thrown back at me later. Never again would I fake an orgasm, because I now know that I don’t owe anyone sex, under any circumstances, so I would just say no if I was tired, annoyed, or whatever. I also now know that it’s absolutely ok to ask for what I want, and if my lover doesn’t like it, then he’s not someone I want in my life anyway. It is also ok for either partner to not orgasm - there is plenty of pleasure in the journey 😉 It did take me 40 something years to learn that, or perhaps it’s better to say, unlearn what I was taught growing up. Communicate, be open, don’t take it personally, remove the pressure 👍🏼 As promised, my comments. Let's clear the air here. I do NOT demand/want/force orgasm. What I want is "pleasure", whatever that may be. As I keep saying, that might be simply massage, walking the dog, or watching porn together. I don't ever want to pressure anyone. I just want what is right, wonderful, beautiful for my partner and US. I want, like you, communication. TELL me what I am doing right, and what I'm doing wrong. And like you are suggesting, I don't take anything personally. You say you'll never fake an orgasm. GOOD! There's too much to learn from that potential "failure". I know only too well from my other partners how corrosive and destructive pre-conditioning is. I have spent DECADES trying to deal with that. "Thrown back at me later". I'm sorry for that. That was appalling. What else can I say? I'm a guy, dealing with stuff. We all deal with stuff. You were NOT on my hit list for stone throwing! They know who they are. Thank you for listening
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' The intent of the OPs post l think...... The thread seemed to skew a little.........well.....a lot.😁 Just seemed to highlight fragile egos in the guys. Being around this scene a while, l never think about fake orgasms, male or female. This scene enables the participants to accept each other's moods, situations and or shortcomings. If you or your partner don't cum, it's about giving your best in the moment. Act with maturity and just accept that it's not right. There is always the next morning if you have a sleepover or its a play, always next time. If you have to fake something, you shouldn't be together. Be honest. A mature decent partner will accept that things were not perfect. Took much drink, bad day, bad back, just tired. Whatever. An understanding human will accept it, a good time still had. Stop. A kiss and a cuddle says a lot more than a blow.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Believe it or not, I’ve faked a few orgasms to take a break. Dead root, bad day, just tired, 3rd root of a big weekend. Shit happens. Sometimes you just know that fakin’ it is going to cause less angst than retiring hurt. Women know it, well, me to. No biggie.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' Believe it or not, I’ve faked a few orgasms to take a break. Dead root, bad day, just tired, 3rd root of a big weekend. Shit happens. Sometimes you just know that fakin’ it is going to cause less angst than retiring hurt. Women know it, well, me to. No biggie.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' I don't believe that I was at all disrespectful, or throwing stones in my post on this thread. Certainly wasn't my intention. I don't particularly like the way you present yourself in the forums, or those who you seem to be buddied up with, but each to their own. I was genuinely just trying to share information which I thought might be helpful, given your OP... but whatevs... On the carer thing... I'm interested to know how you know who is a carer and who isn't? Not all of us like to share every facet of our personal lives in this very public arena. To make assumptions on that is ignorant, at best. If you are only interested in the opinions of those who you know are carers, perhaps you are posting in the wrong arena? Maybe a support group would be more appropriate? Either way, I wont bother you with my thoughts on any future threads you post. I'll leave you and your mates to it, that way you're more likely to get the responses you want, as opposed to people actually answering your OP And I don't have any "buddies" on this forum
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happiestcpl
8 years ago
down:)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' ... men learnt not to attach their delicate egos to women's orgasms! though it's also one of the first things women like to toss out there in a heated break up/when disparaging a guy "you never made me cum", "I said 'adequate' to be kind" or similar stuff
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RHP User
8 years ago
However I have met you and chatted with you over a coffee. As another hubby in a sexless marriage I do understand how it can be. There's always a good set of double standards in place, that's life. There's times when some can do no wrong and there's times when some can do no right. That's life...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Philacrocorax' However I have met you and chatted with you over a coffee. As another hubby in a sexless marriage I do understand how it can be. There's always a good set of double standards in place, that's life. There's times when some can do no wrong and there's times when some can do no right. That's life...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is there a moderator in the house?
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jimmx
8 years ago
It's all about the journey, not the destination :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Am I wrong in saying that the orgasm is the main point of sex for a lot of men? That’s a serious question and not saying anything either way. If your main aim is to blow your load (whether it’s a blow and go or making sweet sweet lurve), it would be difficult to understand that sometimes others don’t always orgasm or perhaps don’t even see it as the most important factor of sex. It would be hard not to take a partner rarely coming when you both have sex personally - even just a little.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Women get so pissy when the guy doesn’t cum.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There's no need to make it personal. But luckily my ego knows not to take on other people's issues. Or I might be shattered. L O L. My orgasm, my problem. I don't plan on feeling sorry for any fool who selfishly decides it's all about them. You obviously didn't get my point... Meh... You keep on feeling sorry for yourself... 🍑 🍐 L
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RHP User
8 years ago
🤔...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Poor bloke... Poor bloody woman who can't perform. I still don't and won't fake it out of respect for myself and my partner. After a lifetime of it, I can assure you The Problem Is Mine, and pity the poor fool who tries to make it about him. Somehow my partner of 30+ years copes and with a shit load of understanding and patience our sex life improves all the time... 🍑y🍐L
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks to the salty ones... If any of you even bothered to acknowledge between trying to cut the OO’s balls off at his neck, you’d understand this isn’t really about sex at all... It’s about communication....which some of you profess at being experts in yet still fuck it up... The OP’s thread is a rant yes...but to paraphrase it into 1 very simple paragraph... “How on earth do you women expect to develop a deeper sexual connection with your partner when you fake your orgasms?? I’m a big boy and can handle the truth....unlike those in your past, so start engaging more, after all isn’t that how we learn how to please you as an individual, and not treat you like the collective as you quite often bitch about??” - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Anything else you think men should care less about ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yeah Stirry, you are totally on context and lacking in listening skills, congrats. 🍑y. It is my belief that I share respect by not faking it. I am clear in my communications and go out of my way to reassure partners I am happy. If they push it, they aren't listening either. You sound like it's all the man's problem. You are not giving me any of the examples you refer to as respect. So, I'm not thinking you are getting where I am COMING from at all. 🍑y
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RHP User
8 years ago
We are just being polite. :p Ask how many women will keep going with terrible sex and fake an orgasm with someone new. It’s more polite to do that and just not see them again. Bet there are plenty of women and men who do that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
This thread is about communication? I disagree.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’m most happy to do so ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' Women get so pissy when the guy doesn’t cumThe whole thing is screwed up. Both male and female. There is loads of pressure on men to give women one. There is pressure on women to have one and ,maybe also men, I don't know? So I didn't even realise men didn't pretty much always have one till recently. Honestly it was never on my radar. I never had heard about it or experienced it till I came on here. So when it did happen I admit I was surprised. He was on medication that made it hard for him to cum. (so he said LOL). I know we both were a bit anxious. Yes ,I probably experienced the self doubt and ego bruising that men can experience. At the end of the day most of us do want to give our partner a pleasurable experience. Its great to have an orgasm. Who doesn't like that feeling? I get what the OP is saying and applaud him for trying to communicate with his lady. It just came across as a bit preachy.People will often continue to fake orgasms for a number of reasons but often underlying its because they think something is wrong with them for not having one? People also don't want to hear about truth because they think there is something wrong with them for not giving one. Shame is a powerful deterrent to speaking the truth. Google orgasm and you will see a thousand hits on - How to give a mind blowing orgasm, How to have a better orgasm. Why you should be having better orgasms, What he can do to give you the best orgasm of your life. How to cum every time etc etc etc. Is it any wonder people get insecure about it ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Earlier I made a comment that must be hard to not let it be a personal worry when your partner doesn’t orgasm. My comment was for both men and women not just men. After being shot down by someone, I had responded by explaining a situation I was in and what pressure that put on me..... but my commment didnt make it and I can’t be bothered rewriting the whole thing. So, I personally can understand how disconcerting it can be when a partner rarely comes - and I am not talking about someone experience a trauma or having a medical condition. That’s different. I was thinking about my situation where the guy I was seeing chose not too. But it’s hardy important really. Don’t worry, be happy peeps. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
"If you respect yourself you won't fake anything in life." I was 18 when I was told this. Perhaps you could help by telling her it is the journey that matters, not the destination. It is hard to tell sometimes where selfishness stops and selflessness starts. I do not think anyone was disrespectful here, just talking from their own experience.(Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
You are so right EarthQueen... about everything. Thank you for saying it so eloquently. "Google orgasm and you will see a thousand hits on - How to give a mind blowing orgasm, How to have a better orgasm. Why you should be having better orgasms, What he can do to give you the best orgasm of your life. How to cum every time etc etc etc. Is it any wonder people get insecure about it ? " But at the end of the day, your every orgasm is yours. No one gave you any. Nevertheless, It is not the end of the world if we do not have one when sharing intimate moments.(Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
There’s definitely been a few occasions where I couldn’t orgasm, stress and mental fatigue play a big part for Guys too! The moment can easily still be super hot, raunchy fun or intimate and sensual. Both pleasureable in there own right. Yes it’s very easy for us to over step the line of wanting women to orgasm. Society conditions men early on about that now, then we learn, that the reality is all women are different. I’ve had experiences of hours long sex, with both nil and so many Big Os you could not count them. I still remember both fondly for different reasons. I don’t see faking as a way out just poor communication. I’ll Continue having sex without the orgasm stress, guess what, it’s still fucking good 😬 BB - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Some meds definitely make it hard to orgasm, I’ve had personal experience with that. I know when I’m with someone if it’s likely, I think CandyD mentioned desensitisation that can interfere. It can and does mess with your head not giving your partner something they really desire. For me it’s only ever been orgasm/cumming it interferes with and I can maintain a normal erection, what ever the hell that is...... whoops, side topic 🤦♂️ BB - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes meds do mess with your ‘gasm I was on some anti depressants for a while and it screwed things about, however there was an orgasm of sorts, in the head, think orgasm mixed with ice cream headache, no ejaculation. Was a strange time indeed.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
I have read the same thing happens with women on another forum. Anxiety and depression meds can stop a woman from having an orgasm and cause big libido drop. As if anxiety and depression weren't enough already. Sorry OP a bit off topic but useful info nonetheless.
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RHP User
8 years ago
What I like about is that you take time to actually digest another’s point of view and post a considered response, wether affirmative or negative, it’s a pleasure having a discussion with someone who is not merely looking for a space to put a knife through your ribs. Respect. X
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Thanks💋 It’s great that guys like you and BB and many others here can be so honest. I’ve learnt so much. Me thinks we need some new blood in these forums though. Come out of the woodwork lurkers. We know you’re there. We don’t bite too hard and if we do you’re probably never going to meet us anyway 🤓 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Jamaica Boy did bring some new blood to RHP, and that is his congealing over there. 😱
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Quoting 'Philacrocorax' Jamaica Boy did bring some new blood to RHP, and that is his congealing over there. 😱 It's only a flesh wound ....or maybe a paper cut. Painful, yet heals quickly. You listen to the Wombats?
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RHP User
8 years ago
and what do you like about me? 😉 No, don't answer that 😂😂
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Hawt1
8 years ago
A reason I desire a partner to cum... IT FEELS FUGING AWSOME, just to leave the ego thing aside for a bit. Uncontrollable vaginal contractions, be it pulsing or spasmingBut as I stated before if it doesn't happen and she has enough, I would much rather being told... "It's not going to happen this time babe".
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RHP User
8 years ago
JB knows exactly how to use a lemon and that is how he got away with a scratch or two. 😜
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RHP User
8 years ago
Eh... I've never hit below the belt with comments like that. That's just crass. 😝 TBH, intention means everything. Often, faking it is to make someone feel good about himself. It doesn't stem from a nasty place / spite at all. It's being sensitive to others' feelings and being considerate. Old-fashioned maybe, but definitely not irrelevant.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Some women can't orgasm with intercourse.. So ' faking it ' is for the sake of who she's with... My ex faked orgasms for years until one day she broke down crying.. When I asked her what's wrong , she apologised saying she has never cum with intercourse with anyone. Then she told me how her first BF used to complain and abuse her because she wouldn't cum' so from then on she started faking it ... I really felt for her and let it know it didn't matter .. We just found other ways to make her cum..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Looks like JB got some sort of infection and needed to go somewhere a little less grubby. This would have to be one of the worst threads I have seen on RHP. Personal attacks, defending positions which were never challenged and all round lofty attitudes.
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RHP User
8 years ago
don't think he's gone anywhere 😎
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ive faked a few myself over the years...for one reason or another....
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RHP User
8 years ago
I get told am great at giving multiple orgasms !! Not sure why some squirts and orgasm really loud - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
8 years ago
The energy it takes building up during and that short amount of time settling with the after thigies she does...sometimes she is time poor, not the energy and fakes it, sure it’s to help me feel better and for that I appreciate, but I know when she fakes it, simply not the same and she doesn’t argue on the odd occasion when it comes up. Reckon if you have a guy who is so into you, not don’t fake, but keep in mind he likely knows when you do. (How? It’s a secret) Mado Mado Tara xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Especially if Bunnings is on the cards after sex.. Wow there is a special on tools. I better finish quick cause the 4package kit deal on powertools might sell out. That is an excuse a mate faked it and told me while he was with his girlfriend during condom sex... I dont know why he would fake it with her...she is extremely HOT... but anyway each to their own. So he faked it quick smart before the sausage sizzle closed. Apparently he likes the burnt sausage and a soda pop.
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HotNightsGC
8 years ago
“That would absolutely destroy the authenticity I proudly wear on my sleeve in my profile”. For goodness sake! Stop putting so much pressure on a casual relationship. So what if she fakes it once every now and then? Would you even know if she did? And if you enjoy each other’s company and have a great time, does it even matter. Your being a bit immature about it all. Don’t put relationship standards on a NSA arrangement! - Posted from rhpmobile
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