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Fallen in love?
May 03 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Limerance..a state where you can become obsessed sexually and romantically even with someone you have never met...It's a crazy kinda love for sure and can occupy your headspace to an unhealthy degree...but it sounds like you are almost over it OP..There is lots of information online about Limerance why it happens etc. XxFreya
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Its happened to me. Recently in here. Love is perhaps not the right word but it hurt the same. Never happened before and i can assure you, will never happen again. Took me by surprise and totally out of character but i know what caused it and wont go down that path again. Never met her and never will, she is just a vacant name within the forum history archives.
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RHP User
11 years ago
eight months this has gone on for. Longest I've gone not looking what she's up to is two weeks. I've now gone a week without looking her up. Whenever I think about her I'm immediately down, Jesus I've got to kick her like a drug. Thank god she's shown no interest in me! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
it's how we met :) I first saw a pic of my now wifey as a suggestion of a possible friend on facebook, as we had quite a few mutual friends. what started from there as a cheeky perv with a hope of a new 'friend', ended up with her coming over Australia to see if this connection we had developed had anything behind it... turns out it did, and I now can't imagine life without her! so I'll always recommend to go with your gut- take that chance... they wouldn't call it 'falling' in love if you had any control over the feeling :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Infatuation......... one small step from stalker.
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RHP User
11 years ago
"She is just a vacant name within the forum history archives" I hope for her sake she doesn't read that as wether Limerance, Love or just a strong online friendship that would be hurtful and belittle whatever it was to her. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that show called catfish ? Sums it all up...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll probably need allow myself to fall again (will become very fond of someone) the last time I laid eyes on her was 3 years ago and still miss her. Her name was Angela but I called her jersey :)) the killer was distance. Unlike your post we did meet and lasted 3 years :)) It's the way life goes at times.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Wish couples would sign who is posting...... Well if she was here to read it, she wouldn't be a vacant name.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's strange how many men on that vanilla sites fall head over heels for me as soon as they see my profile. Shame they all live in the US. Or, well, Nigeria. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Did a stupid thing once and spent too long just messaging each other and it got quite intense. When we eventually met she wasn't interested it hurt like a bitch and taught me a very valuable lesson.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' It's strange how many men on that vanilla sites fall head over heels for me as soon as they see my profile. Shame they all live in the US. Or, well, Nigeria. ;-) Had a well hung african man who was interested in meeting. From Mozambique from memory. Strung him along for 2 months by which time he was interested in a gay marriage. He was intrigued that I owned a large holiday property in Mauritius, very well cashed up and that I wanted to fly him over to the holiday property for a month of fun and sunshine so we could have a threesome with my girlfriend that was going with me. He was so much in love he forgot to ask me for money for the trip and in the end told i him to send me his bank details so I could deposit a large sum that would take care of his destitute family for several years. I think he was in love in the end.
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RHP User
11 years ago
the fact she is in NY and thousands of men perv over her. Hell she gets ten marriage proposals a day! 150,000 followers on facebook. Yeah I figure I have too much to lose to think I could be the 'one'....besides I love my wife too much I just wouldn't know a good thing if it kicked me in the crouch - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd be in NY now! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
if you're reading this, inbox me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quote: "I have too much to lose to think I could be the 'one'....besides I love my wife too much" Sorry, but that was really funny. :-D
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'littlewings' if you're reading this, inbox me. why did they can it anyway?- one of the better shows on tv
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RHP User
11 years ago
lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You don't have to be a member to logon and read the fora xxFreys
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
But couldnt see why you would snuffle your account and then mozzie around a little later. Cheerio out there just in case......
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RHP User
11 years ago
How one could get emphatuated with another, but I can't see how you could become obsessed with a woman who does not show the same back, especially if you are married and say you love your wife. I have recently come out of a ten year marriage which actually started from MySpace which was back at the dawn of modern social networking, and we were crazy about each other so it can work, but if I was in a relationship at the time it wouldn't have happened, and it will never happen again. Just disregard everything I have said, go for what feels right, life is to short to wonder what if... I have no idea about anything.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wish I'd been a married person... Would've been way less painful.... Hardy hah harrhh - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
i figure would bug me too much. She had three lovers on the go last year but she's been single supposedly all of this year, so far. She's a staunch vegetarian, which I respect but I'd say she'd lean towards wanting to be with a vegetarian. All madness really, I could go over there and see her in a bar and probably not even approach her ha ha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
all this talk of her I had to chec what she was up to. Now saying about coming to Aus for a month in 2015.....shit, I've got to forget this woman - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes you do need to forget her...i hope you googled Limerance,it will explain the state you are I and I do think this thread is contributing to your obsession...get some help in dealing with this..xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I did look up Limerance. Many thanks for that and I do feel I need to talk to someone professionally about this. I'm also annoyed in the fact I wouldn't know a good thing if it bit me on the arse. My wife is an amazing woman and she would be destroyed if I explained how I felt. I have discussed this woman I was jealous of etc. but I l've got to shut her out! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
guess they had to make way for another fucking cooking show.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Spides, it is a bit mad you know. She doesn't even know who you are and doesn't know you are alive and never will. Possibly you may need some professional help over this one. The classic assumption would be that something must be lacking in your life/wife if you are obsessing over a pin up girl and avoiding your real life. It's like those Japanese dudes that fall in love with pillows and blow up dolls and take them out on dates and things. It isn't real dude. Just my two cents of amateur psychology.
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RHP User
11 years ago
i couldn't agree more and I have spoken with the model via Tumblr but nothing sexual. Perhaps it's the glamour of her being in NY, I have been there too and thought the place was okay lol. The model even reminds me of my wife in a way. If you knew me, you'd realize this is so out of character. From the outside is see myself as a dumb arse but that doesn't stop me thinking of this woman and whenever I do, a dark cloud comes over me and my stomach drops !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh geez, drop the word love right there, because well umm, what you've actually described, sounds to me, pretty much exactly an addiction.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Ive seen so many people with addictions. You see them checking their phones. Constantly doing nonsensical messages and posts as they reply to people in far away places. They sweat up in terror if they leave their phones behind. The first thing thing they do in the morning is log into their social media site. And last thing at night is a final check for messages. Their life revolves around it. They avoid their friends because they wouldnt understand. Would hate to be like that........ Yep. I'm fucked........
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RHP User
11 years ago
you could be right. My only escape would be late at night as I know they wouldn't be updating tumblr or Facebook! It's a very slow process, gradually slowly I'm letting go, but it's taking a very long time. Feels like I'm checking up on an ex....madness. Thankfully they no longer post about their sex life. I've never subscribed to her private blog which is a $1 a month! Never gone there thank god - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But Any, a very simple disctinction, is that you've not confused that behaviour with love. You (me, and hey, Imma going to say most folk) own it and recognise it. Spide's obsession seems singular and from the tit bits he has described, is distruptive to his normal life.
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RHP User
11 years ago
yeah I did say Love is a big word...but I can be sitting with friends having a laugh and she comes into my head, I think of her with another man and I just sink! Or reference on the tv in New York....I'm just hoping with time it disappears - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Slap yourself upside the head NOW!! You are married to someone you say is wonderful yet you're obsessing over an imaginary (in your world) figure. This woman is marketing herself and her image for profit etc and to suit the sex sells market. (Like some of us in here :) ironic isn't it? Why would you dither away your life on an infatuation and sorry but to her you'd be just another stalker out of tens of thousands. Sorry to be insensitive BUT YOU ARE A NOBODY in this persons universe yet you are your wife's UNIVERSE. You do need help, you aren't in love you're fooling yourself and you're just a crazed fan. Who wants one of those let alone to be one? Get a grip man and see it for what it is. Araps your situation is totally different, you had people in common who could vouch for you; and it's not been a bed of roses for your relationship all the time either. Your situation is a rarity. This guy is creaming himself over an image, like the 1900 numbers where men think they're talking to some hottie when it's just your average woman working a nightshift to makeenfs meet while she's knitting a jumper. The fact there's a term for this "Limerance" is just scary but then there's people who like to dress up as furry animals and lick each other too 😏 like me ~ Indy
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is a song by Moderat - called Sick With It. Pretty sure it's a song about exactly this. Come see my perfect mediacenter All my money, all my time I´ve spent on it All specialized, All reinvented State of the art to enter the internet. I can hear my deamons yowling and howling Into the cyberspace they´re calling me Login the pass Pandoras box is open My head, my feet , my brain, is driving me insane. My blood, my lungs, my veins, are burning up in flames It makes you feel like ice cold winter In this labyrinth of filth and sin Some things are sweet and some even sweeter Link by link the ice is getting thin On my deadly journey right to the center This draging twister takes me under I ´m willing to survive, can´t surrender To the call of this phony splendour Good luck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
i know I'll never go to New York to see her. I have a wife who adores me, as I do her...something's are not worth hurting people over - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
More than anyone else.
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RHP User
11 years ago
bang on, I couldn't agree more and it shits me (excuse my language) - Posted from rhpmobile
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