Fantasy or reality?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I think as you go you will get better at vetting out the time wasters and you will get better at assessing the people that are for real. Don't feel bad, I think all of us have some first time horror stories. As for the rough guy... I approached a gorgeous guy on here once and we met for a drink. He wasn't rough... But he didn't really dress up either. I think it was because he didn't really believe that I would turn up. He was gorgeous.... But very immature. Shame. :( I don't agree about putting myself in the window at clearance prices though. I am very valuable and I am a damn good catch for someone one day. People only treat you poorly if you allow them too. xx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Meeka, yes, I know logically your right but still it's frustrating, hence why I wondered who on here just live the fantasy and are too scared by reality. My perspective on being in the shop window, alas to many I am damaged goods, so that means far fewer tend to look, fewer still want to buy. It is the realistic advantage that women have over ts women. It's why many do not disclose their past but that can be seen as misleading. Interestingly, many would be outraged should a ts not disclose their past, but how many non ts on here tell you their story, few I bet. Society is a perspective of those who seek others to conform to their view. Am I cheap? No, but I have a smaller pool to chose from.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Bahahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Smilingwithfun

  12 years ago

  Don't judge the world by a few. We are all to important to let the actions of a few sway us.

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  On_Safari

  12 years ago

  I'm sure the boys go though much the sane scenario at times. Like Meeka said oft times they get "stood up" last minute. After a while I guess they just expect a no show and when that kady actually does show up well..... As women here we are outnumbered quite significantly and yes tgere are allsorts to be had here. Some never intend to meet and get off on the attention/approaching others, a little flirt here and there and come meet n greet time disappear, others are seasoned players, sone are sleazes and then there's the odd one who'll tick all the boxes. It's a numbers game Christiets. ie for every 100 or so flirts there might be a message. For every message 1:200 might end up in an actual meeting. Of those actual meetings 1:10 might over a 12mth period might.....just MIGHT be the one worth giving your body to. Same goes for couples though I find those scenarios somewhat easier. (Shrugs) you aren't alone, there are men and women here worth the wait it just takes a bit of screening to find them. In the meantime, finding a shag can settle an itch or alternatively....explore and love your own body a little more. :) happy trails ~ Indy

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I've had similar experiences over the years Christiets though I have had more crappy dates from vanilla websites than from RHP or it's similar sites. Here are some high(?)lights:- I had one guy turn up dressed like he'd just been to the gym, kinda smelled that way too and not in a good way. - I have had one who looked nothing like his pic, nice enough guy, hung out for a night but nothing further. But I learned my lesson there. - When in a relationship, we met with a couple who were fun at first and then the chick got super drunk at our house and started screaming at her boyfriend, for three hours, had to ask them to leave but they wouldn't. Had some very upset neighbors the next day.- The worst I find is the bores, I had one guy that I met who turned up with (and this is going back some years) a portable CD player and giant headphones and spent half the date crapping on about the DJ'ing he wanted to get into, the other half listening to some track he was "perfecting".- Have also had the couples (there seems to be a lot out there) that agree to a time to come over (back when I was in a relationship) who just never showed up, disappeared completely (not answering messages). Were they really a couple? Were they genuine? Did they chicken out? Surely not THAT many people have emergency situations on the day they agree to meet someone. These days I don't bother with couples really, it's too much hard work and they seem to only be interested in themselves and treat the chick like a sex toy. I don't meet a lot of people from here either. I have met 2 guys from RHP and the other site in the past six months, both turned out to be great fun and are becoming regular F'sWB. I have a couple that I met years ago for that type of play, they are some of my best friends so I don't need any more than that. So I guess I'm getting to the stage where I'm considering leaving the internet world behind (if only I could get away from these damn forums!!).

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Sadly it's not a lifestyle choice that has anything to do with people's actions... For me I'd say 1 in 15 show up for me n 1 in 8 that showed where nothing like there profile n or pics... Guys seem to struggle girls seem to have the pick of any but I cld see how a trans girl would suffer as well and that's sad really as I'd imagine how hard it is to change in the first place... I take my hat of to u for getting amongst it all :)) keep ur chin up lovely ;),

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  If you have had the full operation I don't see why you have to tell anyone. It's none of their business. I would only tell someone if I thought it had the potential to be more than a casual thing. :)

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  N4November

  12 years ago

  I’ve loved RHP from the start and of course there has been some failures but in the main - at least 95% - has been freaking awesome!! Its already been suggested but you really have to be diligent and vet everyone you come into contact with. Have the bullshit radar on and above everything else, go with your gut instinct. I get a sense that perhaps you are trying to ‘fit’ with the person you are meeting. Hold firm with your sense of self and don’t compromise on your core values or beliefs. Like attracts like so this will shine through and only when you think there might be a reason to meet them, go then. If its just sex, look for just sex. But I have used RHP for both sex and dating and have had a blast! Having no expectations is the way to go for when everything goes absolutely right! I met my partner here on rhp and we have been together 3 years. And yes, he likes to share me as I love to share him. Good luck!! :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  To the guys and in response to Stir a lot, I guess when I was in your shoes I would probably said the same, the difference I can only recall what Ginger Rogers said of Fred Astair, " I do everything he does only backwards and in high heels" It's the value of perspective, I have a unique view that others do not. Unique. There is nothing wrong with fantasy or the scariness of actually taking it further and it's a big step. I know but you have to take courage in both hands and try. Indi, I am sure your numbers are right and that in itself is pretty sobering but still we try don't we? Meeka, I am 8 years as a full time female, live, eat sleep and work as a woman, preop because of high bp, but at last have all clear for surgery in 2014. I prefer to view it as life saving, not life threatening, again, perspective. I have to start somewhere, and there ARE some nice people here. Male and female.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Thanks Bay girl, yes, I think trying too hard is a problem, gut instinct sometimes you throw out of the window, but your right, if I keep my own standards then I am more likely to find what I want, it will just take a little longer! I am still exploring possibilities, male or female... should be an interesting time .....

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  On_Safari

  12 years ago

  Ginger Rogers said of Fred Astaire, " I do everything he does only backwards and in high heels" Yes Christie IT DEFINATELY is about perspective!!

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