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First threesome advice for single guy with a couple...
April 02 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
your FIRST 3some at 38??? Shit man.. I had my first threesome at 8!!!!! Of course.. both of the others were Cathollic priests!! *shrugs*
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe not exactly the reply I was looking for Cavey. But thanks anyway. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Put some light music on and chill out for a while Not to long tho Don't be pushy and make sure you ask the man first if you would like to touch the lady That's a big help Have a great night - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
How experienced is the couple? They may be comfortable taking the lead on this? When you are back at your place I would ask. So what do you like, what would you like to do, do you have any rules I should be aware of. If you are all new to the situation you need to be clear on the rules.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yeah, I think you're right about that - they seem like they've had one or two regular couples in the past... That's how I was going to play the night, completely by ear, unless something specific emerges.Something I didn't really anticipate however, and maybe I'm over-thinking it - this seems to be a lot of the husbands' idea.The fact that the woman did state that the husband is prohibited from seeing a single female, actually threw a bit of a warning sign. I mean, it is what it is. She's bi-curious, but not happy to see her husband with another girl...It'll be in interesting night, I'm looking forward to it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
it is all tongue in cheek mate I figured you would LOTS of real stuff... so a little of my humour should get snuck in
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well first be respectful the the other male. If he is cool then you will have a ball. Make sure you are talking with the male and maybe tell him you are happy to follow his lead at least for the first time. We have mfm fun and its all fun but if the other guy is rude or disrespectful to my man even to the point of not sharing and giving everyone ago then it doesn't work. You both work together and you will love it. But be yourself. Don't drink to much as with the drink and nerves your thing might not work as well. Good luck and have fun.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would ask about that. Have they done it before because you don't want to have an awkward situations or potentially any jealous moments. Ask them over email now. Or over dinner with a glass of wine might be good too. That way there is no pressure at this point. For me, I would be open and say this is your first threesome and that you hope that everyone feels comfortable to speak up if they are not comfortable, etc. I have a feeling that sometimes people get into these situations then don't feel comfortable about putting a stop to something that isn't their thing. Sorry I am probably sounding like a doomsayer but I just think if you get that out of the way straight up everyone can then relax and get into it. I have seen people who look like Bambi in the headlights and I am left wondering are they really enjoying it? Or completely freaking out. Lol Also, the reality can be very different to your fantasies and performing in front of people sometimes puts people off. So don't put too much pressure on yourself or have any expectations on how things will go. What happens, happens. Have fun!! And let us know how you get on. :D
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RHP User
13 years ago
I will, thanks Meeka. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'bisubtouse' Well first be respectful the the other male. If he is cool then you will have a ball. Make sure you are talking with the male and maybe tell him you are happy to follow his lead at least for the first time. We have mfm fun and its all fun but if the other guy is rude or disrespectful to my man even to the point of not sharing and giving everyone ago then it doesn't work. You both work together and you will love it. But be yourself. Don't drink to much as with the drink and nerves your thing might not work as well. Good luck and have fun. God, I couldn't imagine being rude in a situation like that, that's crazy. People are weird.
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RHP User
13 years ago
GOLD Fuck i laughed on that one .. Classic
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RHP User
13 years ago
Bless you Cavey.... twice.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't know why but I love being a third wheel. If they are experienced I'm sure things will go fine :) like bisub said don't drink any more than a couple drinks otherwise the nerves and alcohol will play havoc. In all the times I've partook in MFM threesomes it has always been about the girl and her pleasure. Just remember that and you'll do fine. Relax and have fun !
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RHP User
13 years ago
I confess to being utterly shocked that in an MMF, the spare M has to ask the other M what he can and can't do to the F! Trust me, when it comes to touching my body, it's me you need to ask. Follow the original M's lead? Sure, he's presumably experienced with the woman among other things. But ask his permission? Not so sure.
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RHP User
13 years ago
wowwow... Where you been mate????
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luvsilver
13 years ago
Think he just signed up to be an alter boy at the local catholic church Cavey!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had a 3some just the other week actually.......I decided to roll over and swap hands for a bit :p But to answer your question on a more serious note, I'm with Meeks :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have been at a sex club with my lover and men have come up to him and asked "can I fuck your wife". Can you believe it! PMSL. My friend is always taken a back and says don't ask me mate ask her. It he is feeling naughty he will tell them only if she can watch me fuck you first. You can just imagine what I say to that. Hehe
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hilarious!!! I only ever just go with the flow.. To me asking permission from either party would just feel contrived and sounds like a major turnoff for everyone involved.. Sounds too much like a business transaction. Never go into a meeting expecting anything I say. Enjoy the moment and if it ends up with all of you in bed fucking like rabbits great, if not then you enjoyed a night out regardless.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Or perhaps it's a cuckold situation?? If the husband is prohibited from playing with single girls, there may be more to it. Ofcourse, that shouldn't affect your enjoyment of the evening because if that's the case the husband will derive most of his pleasure from watching you pleasure his wife. Quoting 'Freeandfun74'Yeah, I think you're right about that - they seem like they've had one or two regular couples in the past... That's how I was going to play the night, completely by ear, unless something specific emerges. Something I didn't really anticipate however, and maybe I'm over-thinking it - this seems to be a lot of the husbands' idea.The fact that the woman did state that the husband is prohibited from seeing a single female, actually threw a bit of a warning sign. I mean, it is what it is. She's bi-curious, but not happy to see her husband with another girl...It'll be in interesting night, I'm looking forward to it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you're right. I'd never ask - that's not cool. I'm a pretty perceptive, adaptable, easy going guy, and a good judge of any given situation. Given that she's possibly playing passenger to his fantasy means I'll be giving all of my attention to her signals - and his - in order to make them both feel as comfortable as possible. Again, this is about them, not me. (don't think I won't enjoy it though!) I think by the time we've suited up, been out for dinner, put away a bottle or two of red and had a good laugh with some cocktail making back at mine, things will be rolling along fairy naturally on their own, to be honest. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think having to ask the husband's permission is too much, but how about discussing with him her likes, wants, boundaries and (secret) desires? When I played with two men, one of the biggest turn-ons for me was reading the emails they had sent each other behind my back, talking about what drives me wild and what they would do to me..
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had my first experience about 2 months ago with a married couple. We met for a drink and got on really well. The lady and I hit it off in terms of mutual attraction (the fact that she had a figure hugging dress with a low neckline kind of helped). Hubby and I are from different backgrounds but we got along well and all three of us got really comfy with each other over a few drinks and agreed to meet up as soon as it could be arranged for a play.I asked lots of questions of them both together, what they like, what they don't, what boundaries they wish to remain within. He disappeared at one point for about 15 minutes to give wifey and myself time to chat. That was good as I wanted to make sure she was as keen for it to happen for as much as her own reasons as his, but was a bit shy in discussing what she liked but said she was happy to leave it to unfold naturally on the day and hubby would cover off on all of that via phone before we met. A couple of discussions with hubby on the phone over the next couple of weeks gave me an idea of what she liked and what she didn't. The former was a longer list than the latter so all good!!!They were pretty experienced so once we got into it it went fairly smooth and he directed traffic a bit (so to speak) as he knew her body so well. Got the impression she was happy to let it all happen to her (why the hell wouldn't she??) and I just relaxed and went with it. Be prepared to laugh at yourself if things don't go quite as smooth as what you may liek at times. Takes a bit of co-ordination to get 3 bodies moving together in sync and one last thing.....do a bit of flexibility and strength training prior.....my leg muscles were sore for a couple of days after LOL.Co-moo-nee-kashun is the key I would definitely say Freeandfun. Hope it goes well for you mate.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yeah, I thought about that actually... the more I think about it, the more I like the idea. I guess it could also be a good way to break the ice a bit more knowing a bit of inside info - and him knowing that I know that inside info, if you catch my drift.Knowing things that drive her crazy would be a fantastic addition to the night... Her NOT knowing that I know those things would be even better. :)Apparently part of the novelty for her is to dress up and make a night of it. Suiting up was my idea. I love ANY excuse to put the suit on... ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Define crazy monkey sex? Please note, I already know what it is, I just want you to describe it for me. ;)...shame I'm not quite six foot tall, but my three pairs of Chucks do make me a little taller, especially if worn all at once.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some good tips there, thanks very much. Time for a phone call or two I think. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
The kind of sex that leaves clothes all over the place, bedsheets torn, neighbours complaining and the odd scratch or two. Messy, primeval debauchery with no no holes* barred and free from all inhibitions. Sound good? *Not a typo
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RHP User
13 years ago
What time should I come over...? And I can't believe you totally ignored my Chuck Taylors/height reference!
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RHP User
13 years ago
CAVEMAN sex... Well.. sometimes it gets even moreso Because.. he doesn't mind if teeth and nails break his skin.. and even better if you dont mind it on your body too.. You know.. for days.. sometimes weeks after.. you find yourself pushing into the bruises, or dressing any open wounds... feeling the painfulness.. it makes you hard again.. just the memories of the night.. She has left the clothes you TORE off her in your bedroom.. like she was marking her territory. The stains on the bedding or carpets. She might even send you candid photos of the marks and wounds on her body for a couple of days.. Then.. one day.. a month later or so.. she comes to visit.. she walks in.. and you see *That* glint in he eyes.. and you know you are in for a rematch... with vengenance... Fck Yeah!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freeandfun74'What time should I come over...? And I can't believe you totally ignored my Chuck Taylors/height reference! Three pairs of Chuck Taylor's do not a tall man make.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Golden rule no hogging share your toys blows kiss with ruby red lipstick on and shouts...let the games begin
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' Golden rule no hogging share your toys Hogging: The practice of groups of men who target overweight or obese women, typically for sexual encounters with the aim of taking advantage of the female's low self-esteem or to amuse themselves or their friends. (Source: Wikipedia) Damn, you cannot say ANYTHING around here!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Exactly :) And priceless!
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RHP User
13 years ago
We're all the same height when we're horizontal! ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Our greatest advice is - show up, be on time and smell good. No shows - WHY?? They can txt, call, email and skype for ages but then nothing, zip! Cost mony to get a room and time organise sitters etc etc - no second chances for them. On time - respect is what this is about. Ringing an hour AFTER the meeting time is not polite. Smelling good - for her this is an amazing first sense and heightens the meeting from the onset. Thats just some things we like but everyone is alittle different but we bet you there is some common ground re showing up and being on time. Good luck.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Wunfa'I had my first experience about 2 months ago with a married couple. We met for a drink and got on really well. The lady and I hit it off in terms of mutual attraction (the fact that she had a figure hugging dress with a low neckline kind of helped). Hubby and I are from different backgrounds but we got along well and all three of us got really comfy with each other over a few drinks and agreed to meet up as soon as it could be arranged for a play.I asked lots of questions of them both together, what they like, what they don't, what boundaries they wish to remain within. He disappeared at one point for about 15 minutes to give wifey and myself time to chat. That was good as I wanted to make sure she was as keen for it to happen for as much as her own reasons as his, but was a bit shy in discussing what she liked but said she was happy to leave it to unfold naturally on the day and hubby would cover off on all of that via phone before we met. A couple of discussions with hubby on the phone over the next couple of weeks gave me an idea of what she liked and what she didn't. The former was a longer list than the latter so all good!!!They were pretty experienced so once we got into it it went fairly smooth and he directed traffic a bit (so to speak) as he knew her body so well. Got the impression she was happy to let it all happen to her (why the hell wouldn't she??) and I just relaxed and went with it. Be prepared to laugh at yourself if things don't go quite as smooth as what you may liek at times. Takes a bit of co-ordination to get 3 bodies moving together in sync and one last thing.....do a bit of flexibility and strength training prior.....my leg muscles were sore for a couple of days after LOL.Co-moo-nee-kashun is the key I would definitely say Freeandfun. Hope it goes well for you mate. Theres an example of behaving respectfully if I've ever seen one :) Nice post Wunfa.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I have been at a sex club with my lover and men have come up to him and asked "can I fuck your wife". Can you believe it! PMSL. My friend is always taken a back and says don't ask me mate ask her. It he is feeling naughty he will tell them only if she can watch me fuck you first. You can just imagine what I say to that. Hehe Yeah I can just see the look on the straight guys face... Its like TAXI...and mildred honey we are leaving the building!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'tuscanred' Golden rule no hogging share your toys Hogging: The practice of groups of men who target overweight or obese women, typically for sexual encounters with the aim of taking advantage of the female's low self-esteem or to amuse themselves or their friends. (Source: Wikipedia) Damn, you cannot say ANYTHING around here! thanks for that and last night, no hogging or sharing,the guy did not show up! I shit you not , he had played with my girlfriend before and was doing the ten thousand horny text thing, and then nada ohhhh shit, maybe it was me.........sniffs under my armpits Bwaaaaaaaaaaaah I frightened him away poor luv gues there is another rule for threesomes never let a guy know that there are going to be two women, hide one behind the door and when he is up to his balls I can jump out and yell SUPRISE! any hooooooooooooow, lucky gor her, another hottie RHP came but then by that time I had left the building , but my girlfriend had a veryyyyyyyyyyyyy nice time , lucky cow. TR the third wheel in a threesomeand Cavey, I spat my tea over my keyboard, you funny thing
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Freeandfun74'We're all the same height when we're horizontal! ;) There is so much MFM fun to be had standing up! Vertical DP is incredibly hot!
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cbdlivin
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Freeandfun74'We're all the same height when we're horizontal! ;) There is so much MFM fun to be had standing up! Vertical DP is incredibly hot! Yes it is, you are a lucky girl
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RHP User
13 years ago
My advice from experience is watch your sexual manners, it's not about you it's about them, your a willing participant but also an invited party. Try to be cool and go with the flow, but don't impose yourself. and don't cum too fast :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
From what I'm reading I just don't think this is for you. Sounds like you might be putting yourself into a situation where you don't feel comfortable, maybe you're just not ready for this just yet. I find set ups come with some expectations attached, maybe try picking up a couple off the cuff from a club or bar first before venturing into this territory. However I could be completely misreading this situation and if so please ignore everything I just said :)Good luck!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just go with the flow !! I love , love love 3soms To be the centre of attention a GREEDY GIRL I AM HE HE :)))) .The hardest part is acturally getting it started, a spa is always a good starter.mmmmmm sweet memories I am horny as remembering HOT NIGHTS !!!! MMMMM Good Luck xxxxx
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AsingleguySEQ
13 years ago
I'll always remember my first mfm ... but will come back to that!As has been said - make sure you are on time (if meeting in a public place be a little early).Make sure you present really well. Showered, shave (where ever needed) and some good quality perfume/deoderant.Be patient. This is about them (IMHO her mostly) ... let her decide.Don't expect ANYTHING ... and you will not be disappointed!Enjoy whatever happens ... and control yourself and your own desires.My first MFM happened some years ago - had been chatting to the couple a while. We met a couple of times for drinks. Then back at their place - they were experienced and comfortable. The first time nothing happened. The 2nd time they took the lead (especially her) and decided how and what would happen! It was a great night and over too quickly ... lesson learned - be prepared to hold back and watch! And I ached all over!The next time we got together I was far more comfortable - as were they - and we enjoyed a long night of hot and horny times!They then introduced me to a single F friend of theirs who was bi ... an MFMF followed that was my first real experience.I am still in contact with them and we are good friends.Mrs H and I have had fun with a few single males ... and when they are good they are worth every penny and give us both a great time. When they are not they are a waste of oxygen (and cock). We are very selective when it comes to singles (especially M, some F's too). Our last regular single (M) has moved away so we don't see him as much as we used to - he was (and probably still is) good value. Unfortunately he was a rarity. Shame there are so many tossers out there that ruin the chances of the few decent singles!
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RHP User
13 years ago
when they come back to yours everything will be fine....Just relax enjoy and do what cums naturally MMF is awesome, my only real advice is EVERYONE needs to be pleased....So be a gentleman - my personal rule is "everyone happy is the only way to go", a few drinks and a lovely evening will do the trick - enjoy and cultivate because after initial trepidation it can become unbe-fucking-liveable beyond awesome completely mind blowing carnal festival of life.Good luck sir!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have experience with couples, the two biggest things is relaxed, be cool if you are tense, they will be tense. But more importantly read the other partner, if you see them looking wierd or it turning bad then slow down, change it up always have them in control and feel like they have the power (unless its a cuckold situation they have asked for)Good luck bud, I am sure you have already set clear boundaries on what can and can't happen? If not make sure you have them all layed out, ask every question you want asnwered as in the heat of the moment it might be very different from what they discussed which can cause issues!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thing brings me back to my first 3-sum which was actually a group setting instead.Thinking about it heaps back all those years and was pacing up and down to say to myself how I'd expect the night to turn out.What works...Be yourself and be honest- clearly you must have if there was some chemistry from the catch up.Know what they are after or looking for from your participation.Listen to them, especially if it is also their first time.Dont think... just do and enjoy it.. over thinking is a killerbreathe.. smile... and ask to go again :P lolWhite a post about how it went (no need for xxx details)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thank you so much! It's really appreciated... Can't wait! I'm actually more excited about the lead up - the dressing up, the flirting while we're out, the cheeky cocktail making, the chemistry... Then the main course (degustation?) that will hopefully ensue. Thanks again. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Simply throw away all you’ve seen or learnt from your mates, push forward its hard, push back ya fucked lol,so bring on the double adapter and jump in the middle of it all and cop it from both directions lol, and enjoy immensely xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Simply throw away all you’ve seen or learnt from your mates, push forward its hard, push back ya fucked lol,so bring on the double adapter and jump in the middle of it all and cop it from both directions lol, and enjoy immensely xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Now you are just being cruel MsDevious. Damn. Must I take my stepping stool every where I go!! ⊂(◉‿◉)つ
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you are overthinking it a bit indeed :-). If you have met them on rhp they will be a bit more rellax and open minded than people in general. They want you to join them in their fantasy, you are what will make their night different that the regular thing. And if you are 38 i assume they are not 18 and will be capable of andleling things with maturity, so chill out and respect both of them but do no delay the party to much ;-). For a starter as an advice i would say, let them begin in front of you and when you are ready jump in, or what i like to do as well, ask the lady if she would like a 4 hands massage (Both couple of hand should work in symetry and slow, and don't forget the oil). - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
oh so correct
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RHP User
13 years ago
From my experience (mrs here) with MMF, the woman is the centre of attention. Know the rules and then go with the flow. They obviously like you and have discussed wanting another man, so there's no need to ask the man permission (I'd be angry with that) but rather just make her feel like the goddess she is. A massage is great and talk to the man and tell him how beautiful she is. MMF play is awesome ;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yeah I must say, anyone who comes to bed with me is always the centre of attention. She gets 110%, every time. That's what I love about sex - spoiling her, pleasing her, then being pleased by her... :) This'll be no different. But I'll always be conscious of their wishes - again, it's their fantasy. I'm honoured to be invited to join them, that in itself is pretty special, so I intend on being the best I can be to make it memorable for them. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well that sounds like the protocol I followed mis70 lol
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LittleBitWeird
13 years ago
Too lazy to read all the posts so this may have been said before but.......ask about boundaries before partaking in the adventure. There's nothing worse than being the guest but over stepping the mark and offending someone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think it is great you have taken the time to meet them prior to anything happening I wish all single males would take this approach I haven't read your profile but if you are looking for a regular thing you are going the right way about it. In our experiences we just go with the flow we have a few drinks chat for a while most times the single male is way to nervous to make the first move as they never know if they should or not so I make it easy for them by stepping out of the room and hubby lets them know its all good if she doesn't like something she will let you know that way they don't feel like hubby is running the show my hubby is very much all for me which I love. I just think if all respect each other and if all feels right then go for it. Some couples might have rules which I would think they should of said prior to meeting anyway. By reading this forum of yours has made me think differently on our approach of meeting single guys now and for that I thank you. I wish you all the luck I am sure you will be just fine. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
From what I've heard though, apparently most single males don't really think like me, which I find puzzling. So, I hope you find another nice guy out there somewhere. Feel free to read my profile if you like, it's an abs, cars and cock pics free zone. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are very right you are an exception clearly, we find very common where a male will contact a couple as they have lucked out with the ladies we have had single males make plans to meet us on a weekend to find by the time the weekend gets here they have got a better offer or thats how it seems anyway. Well back to the drawing board. :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
So how did it go? What happened? Did you enjoy it?? Come on, don't leave us in suspense.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...it hasn't happened yet. Kids keep foiling their plans whenever our free time is aligned! Soon. We're in regular contact, so it's all good. Possibly this weekend actually... ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' The kind of sex that leaves clothes all over the place, bedsheets torn, neighbours complaining and the odd scratch or two. Messy, primeval debauchery with no no holes* barred and free from all inhibitions. Sound good? *Not a typoI want what some of that
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RHP User
13 years ago
Great post and some top tips! . I'd love to try but haven't had a 3some with a couple and I'm 42! (blushing) I'm a little shy at times so am cautious about intruding on a relationship. . Had a couple of 3ways with 2 girls but was a looooong time ago, and obviously a completely differant dynamic, so appreciate the couples advice here. Thanks folks : ) . Ha ha Meeka love the one about him fucking the guy 1st. Would love to see the rude guy's face.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just tell me where and when to come GunnaBHot Quoting 'GunnaBHot' Our greatest advice is - show up, be on time and smell good. No shows - WHY?? They can txt, call, email and skype for ages but then nothing, zip! Cost mony to get a room and time organise sitters etc etc - no second chances for them. On time - respect is what this is about. Ringing an hour AFTER the meeting time is not polite. Smelling good - for her this is an amazing first sense and heightens the meeting from the onset. Thats just some things we like but everyone is alittle different but we bet you there is some common ground re showing up and being on time. Good luck.
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