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Fisrt time meet etiquette
July 13 2016
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Etiquette......be on time. Let them know earlier in the day that you are still on target to meet them as arranged. Turn the phone off when you arrive. What to give?......Nothing but your true self and undivided attention. Bring the true you.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Etiquette......be on time. Let them know earlier in the day that you are still on target to meet them as arranged. Turn the phone off when you arrive. What to give?......Nothing but your true self and undivided attention. Bring the true you.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Dont repeat yourself......
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RHP User
9 years ago
Drinks or coffee,don't commit to a meal...if the person isn't floating your boat then you don't have to sit through an hour or more of awkward moments...be pleasant not silent. If you do feel a connection then let the other person know ,be engaging not worried about rejection,most people are not mind readers..enjoy the journey 🐞Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Everything that's been mentioned above is exactly how I like a meet to go. Confirming is a must. There's nothing worse than wondering if you're planning to show or not. And if you happen to be running late, let them know. And yep - just be yourself. You'll both get the most out of it that way. Have fun!
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
And one important thing if it is a social meet...... Never ever assume it will lead to play on the same day. If you sit there thinking you might get some at the end of the meet, then I can almost guarantee all you will be getting is a "see ya!" They want to get to know you a little to then make a decision if they want to play at a later date......and thats the mindset you need as well.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I had arranged a meet at a great coffee place in Melbourne. He turned up, we made eye contact, but he turned around and left, not a word spoken! Even if you don't like 'what you see' when you get there, politely have a drink, then say 'you're not feeling the connection as you'd hoped', common courtesy there! I go to a great deal of effort, first meets or otherwise, I'd expect the same from any meet! Look good, smell good, be prepared to at a minimum, share the costs! All the above posters have nailed it in their advice ;) Good luck Mary xx
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Just bring your true self. That's all you have to bring. Nothing more nothing less. There's always nerves with a first meet, so best be in a public, relaxed, calm environment. Things will naturally evolve. If you are not into each other, best to politely end, and leave it there and say "thank you". No expectations, no pressure. Just to be safe, take condoms just in case. (*I'm sure you would). The amount of people who don't carry, absolutely shocks me. Best of luck Ms Foxy PS- Your partner will be there to offer support; before/afterwards and give feedback, so take that on board too. :)
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
If you are meeting another couple, take your partner with. 😜 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Never overlook the art of seduction...be open to it being a two way street. Assume nothing and just have fun.
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
Great tips ,even though some things are common courtesy ,always good to read and refresh the brain ,nerves can do funny things to normality - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Im a little surprised at the question form a 39yo, ... nevertheless.... You (royal <you>) really should speak via phone before deciding to meet.... just because Im messaging someone doesnt mean its an automatic that I want to progress to meeting them. The tone and nature of that phone call(s) will dictate the mood of the meeting.... should you decide to propose and plan to meet. Thats why I feel the phone call is essential. On meeting... what they all said (See above)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Make sure your wife is on board. That would be my pro tip. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Eye contact... Be polite... Listen... do not talk over a person... Clarify any important things/issues not yet clear... Make light of the situation... Enjoy the other persons company... you only live that moment once... Should the connection be there... test it... push some boundaries... read the reaction... if positive... push more... if negative... you know where not to go. Finally... after you have reached across the table, placed your hand (gently) to her neck and pulled her to your lips, whisper in her ear that should she wish to progress then she should go to the ladies room and return with her knickers in her hand... a gift for you. If she sits back in her chair and spreads her legs to reveal no knickers (yes it has happened), then don't think that is always a yes... surprisingly. If she sits back and responds in one of a million negative manners... well you know exactly where you stand and you have and a pleasurable social experience... move on. If she simply stands and silently does as requested... there will be two warms smiles and perhaps even grins in the room as she returns... Above all it is all about the person...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' You (royal <you>) really should speak via phone before deciding to meet.... just because Im messaging someone doesnt mean its an automatic that I want to progress to meeting them. The tone and nature of that phone call(s) will dictate the mood of the meeting.... should you decide to propose and plan to meet. Thats why I feel the phone call is essential. each to their own but I wouldn't speak on the phone beforehand, I don't like being on the phone as per the recent thread about phone calls so I think its an individual thing . regarding meeting - effort effort effort - counts for everything - you choose the place but make sure its a good half way spot or somewhere she is happy with so many on here ask you to meet then have no actual plan on where to meet or what they might wanna do and leave it in the woman's hands to sort out. Its attractive when a guy takes the time and effort to actually figure out or suggest meeting places. Effort with appearance, effort with wearing a nice scent, effort with manners - its all about the effort for me . If he's tried it counts for a lot! I wouldn't take a gift .
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
To shower , shave , groom yourself and be presentable. We have encountered a few who have arrived in track suit pants and dirty runners ... it shows lack of respect , effort & personal pride. We also suggest : Arrive on time Be open & honest Be a good listener Be respectful Don't be pushy Don't have expectations and want to rush things or steer the conversation to play Be engaging & articulate with regards your conversation Establish the likes /dislikes and boundaries of the other person(s) Set ground rules if any Open the lines of communication Flirt a little Good personal hygiene Be respectful that there might not be any play during the first meet - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mstr_Full' I do... No outrage here.....as I know firsthand that it can and does happen that way Its called "being in the moment...."
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
OMFG! How rude. 👎 Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' Don't assume that likes, desires, fantasies, etc. you have discussed via message, or on the phone, are a given - especially on a first meet... Seems pretty basic, right? Apparently not 😳 On my first meet, a coffee date during the day (seemed safe enough), the guy walked me to my car afterwards. Nice gesture, I thought... until I turned back to say goodbye after unlocking my car, to have him shove his finger in my mouth. When I asked WTF he was doing he said he wanted me to taste his precum... To say I felt a little violated would be an understatement... Extreme example, and I'm sure not the kind of thing you would do, but hopefully you get my point :) B Um... yes a bit extreme... BTW... I did say the hand was gentle on the neck... and the missive was whispered.
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RHP User
9 years ago
"Fisrt time meet etiquette" Does that say Fister? If so that is a very different conversation...
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RHP User
9 years ago
That is totally gross! What a dickhead. I would have given him a "chocolate" finger back. Hah
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Sawadee
9 years ago
No more.. this is the opportunity to get a feel for each other. And never expect to jump in the cot unless you just cant keep your hands off each other. haha. But seriously . be on time , be yourself, show some respect and manners. You will know very soon if somethings brewing and you want to go further. If things are warm and cosy , you can take things from there. If not , (and you will know ) a nice peck on the cheek and a thank you will suffice. No need to overdo things..
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216'... until I turned back to say goodbye after unlocking my car, to have him shove his finger in my mouth. When I asked WTF he was doing he said he wanted me to taste his precum. Your knee...his nuts. Repeat again if necessary. Next question?
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RHP User
9 years ago
A big fat HARD cock, always a WINNER. Just Sayin Yo. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks everyone for all the great advice so far, all points that will definitely be taken on board. I am new to this and as my profile says I am married with an arrangement with my Wife, for both of us to play seperate, hence my age and lack of knowledge in this area of meets etc, in saying that I am a quick learner and am always open to advice. I do have a meet coming up this weekend which I am really looking foward to, and the advice given will help settle some nerves lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi Luke, I just read your profile and I think you are here without your wife's knowledge from my understanding and you are looking for women that are also here because they are bored with their partners. So not sure what the etiquette would be in that instances but discretion would be key. Meeting up somewhere out of the way so that you minimise the chance that you are recognised. You have asked about meet/play so if you can't bring people back to your house (and most likely the women you meet might be able to either) I would meet up close to a hotel or a park depending on your tastes. Haha. If you have a big car might be good to mention that ;-) What do you mean you feel like you should bring something to give? Do you mean like flowers or chocolates? I have never gone on a date were the other person has brought me chocolates or flowers :(
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RHP User
9 years ago
Plus... Diamonds 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
A big fat hard cock throbbing in time to his heart beat and dribbling precum. Yes, that is always lovely. 😜
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RHP User
9 years ago
Summersolstice hit the nail on the head lol:-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Aww now just offer to meet the twatbbrain again? I'd lay long odds he'd show up...then you know what to do! There's no chance in hell he'd file a police report, I can hear it now...can't you? Never get mad, just get even! Best...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Then I'll say the etiquette he may want to follow will be..... use someone else's name, park well away and walk to hide your car, tell fibs, pay cash and get home before 10pm smelling like beer and cigarettes 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I wouldn't take anything like chocolates - because I wouldn't want chocolates from someone I didn't already know. I realise the likelihood is low (but after nearly being drugged) it just might be a concern people have about taking food/drinks when they don't know and trust you already. Just a thought.
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On_Safari
9 years ago
as if you'd met her/him in real life and NOT on a sex site! 😎 You'd think this was a no brainer but it's amazing how obtuse some people can be when it comes to preconceived ideas about how loose a person might be with their virtue (or not) because they're on RHP. If it helps pretend you met them at church 😇
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RHP User
9 years ago
...a white one, a blue one and a red one along with a copy of Alice in Wonderland, all as gifts. You'll then also know if she works for the Federal Police or is a druggie. Simple.... sometimes etiquette is a process of elimination and Darwin was not wrong!
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
Welcome 👍 Best of Luck with your met. Go get em tiger! Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
S_OnTheLoose likes flowers 😝
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think you will find Luke's wife is his first friend on his profile ..so she and he seem to have an arrangement Regards Miss Marple aka Q🐞
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RHP User
9 years ago
Who grew gerberas as in farming ,brought along a lovely bunch of his blooms.I found it a charming gesture . But I agree that food or drink unless you are having a picnic is not really appropriate Q 🐞
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just to confirm you are correct, whether that dispels assumptions remains to be seen, but thank you. and great investigation work lol;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
How did you deduce that? My investigative skills are clearly lacking!! 😩 Luke, your comment wasn't there when i made mine. So you are here with your wife. Cool! Also agree that food might not be a good idea, although I would never in a million years assume that food would be spiked! Maybe I am naive. I don't think bringing a gift is necessary. I certainly would never expect it from an initial meet up. It's a lovely gesture though. You come to realise that online dating is very different and people's photos are taken at flattering angles or may be old photos so you may not always be meeting up with who you think. So flowers may lead to certain expectations which you might have to dash when you say that you don't want to take things further.
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Your HOT.....sizzling even 😳😎. Good luck on your meet and greet. Just be human. It's all a networking opportunity 👍🏽 ~ Indy
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RHP User
9 years ago
...''thank your for coming''. Then give them the gerbil you've stashed in your pocket and invite them to come again?
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Lifes_great
9 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' as if you'd met her/him in real life and NOT on a sex site! 😎 You'd think this was a no brainer but it's amazing how obtuse some people can be when it comes to preconceived ideas about how loose a person might be with their virtue (or not) because they're on RHP. If it helps pretend you met them at church 😇 Just stalk them for a few weeks to get to know what they like, you'll also have plenty to talk about!
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RHP User
9 years ago
How did your date go? Please share. 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks again for all the advice, the evening went really well, timing was good, and we both had alot of fun with each other, so much so that another play date is on the cards! Luke
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Then you can organise to meet each other and try a kiss after all these years!!
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