Fluctuations in standards

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  Nightglider

  7 months ago

  All I can comment on in that regard, is that I’ve become more fussy since I first tried RHP. When I first joined there was the of a rush of excitement. Dopamine hit after being in vanilla land for too long. These days it’s become more about balancing mental and physical connection. And forming genuine connections in the community. If I only go for a physical connection, I rarely get anywhere near the rush I experienced when it was fresh and new. It sometimes can feel empty and highlight gaps in my vanilla life. It’s really helped me know myself better, be better with my boundaries and work out what I prefer.

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  Sp_icemeup

  7 months ago

  I second that Nightglider and I really love this question. From the beginning of this site to now, I feel like a completely different person. Some of the best connections I have are based on communication and now great friendships, not just physical. If that's not what people are looking for, there will always be that quick dopamine fix. Have to say though, right now, I am loving myself sick 😆

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  Mrs_Deep_Love

  7 months ago

  I'm not sure self-worth really comes into it for me but certainly I'm more likely to pick a good looking absolute loser when I'm ovulating. You would think my biological urges would be seeking out a genetically superior man. Seems not.

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  madotara69

  7 months ago

  I think my self esteem rides on people who we meet feeling comfortable and welcome just being themselves, it’s important because it’s instinctual in people that are met by these standards, genuine standards in care and respects to the nature of exploring the very best of anyone is by acknowledging the characteristics in favour of self esteem and welcoming then that person will express their Intensions. Most people’s intensions are to feel comfortable and welcome just being themselves so I think self esteem is more of giving something of compliments and in return the compliments are enjoyed. I reckon if you feel your self esteem is great, then it’s probably because someone feels comfortable with you and in most the Intensions are what excites the very best in self esteem or a sense of caution which sets the standards if any of this makes sense. Tara’s much the same and I think she takes advantage of the types of Intensions a bit of lust turns into a whole lot of fun. Of course sex is on topic in this joint, if there’s anything for hi lights with self esteem, it’s time and time again having Tara on some form of spitroasting or DP or many combinations of great ideas a buddy and I can agree might work well and Tara sure let’s us know when we do, that is great for the self esteem. I dunno Mado Mado Tara xx

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  BellaMelb

  7 months ago

  I have found over time I have become more “picky” but it’s mostly as a result of what I’ve learned is/isn’t a turn on for me and what tends to leave me satisfied and coming back for more. Certain things I place far more importance on than others but those things I always have a reason for. It’s not based on my self-worth so much as maximising time input vs satisfaction output ratio. I have little to no interest in whether other people objectively agree with my reasoning.

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