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Forward or backwards

November 23 2018

I’m interested to hear others opinions on this matter. I have always moved forward and never gone back to the past. When it’s over, it’s over. However, I have an opportunity to see a past lover again. We had the most wonderful chemistry and fun over a few months and formed a great friendship. Time has past and water under the bridge. Would you let it go and meet someone new and start again? the whole process of getting to know each other etc OR go back to where you once were, and reignite the fire and pick up where you left off without the BS and drama? 🎭 - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    No regrets but I wouldnt go back there with any of them. Friends, fine, but you split up for a reason and I would rather meet someone new and embark on a different journey. However, I know it has worked for some people. So personally, no, but follow your heart

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    It can depend on the nature and position of the friendship as it was, and how it was left I am an experiences and opportunity based person so my mentality is never say never

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    If it was just friendship then what's the problem? Or did it end badly?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Yes I never say never either. Life has a way of little surprises sometimes. People come and go and sometimes return. Definitely no love. (is that even possible on RHP?) But a wonderful FWB and a great time every time! very like minded and adventurous and fun and we enjoy the same things and places. Yes ended badly, however water under the bridge and we remained good friends all this time. I don’t hold grudges... for long 😝 Be nice to revisit for old times sake I suppose. When you know a good thing stick to it..?

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    7 years ago

    I used to think the same as you but now I am open to what ever. People grow/change with new experiences\adventures that happen during that separation time. Getting back with an ex needs to be a positive step that enables both parties to go forward. If both parties work on issues together and make a commitment for a great future, then why not. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    the reality of reunions has never lived up to hopes and fantasies for me.Don't look in the rear view mirror.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I went back to a previous lover, we were never "dating", so no break up, timing just was bad and we stopped chatting and catch ups. About a year later my circumstances changed, and he happened to message around the same time, was a fabulous decision to pick that back up 🙂 Mrs A xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    A recipe for disaster. And I'd do it in a second for a minute of what I once loved. Love is a rare commodity theses days and worth the hurt of failure. Even twice. Follow your heart as we aren't as clever as our brains lead us to believe. Minds are for sex. Hearts are for love.

  • D_Light

    D_Light

    7 years ago

    This will be the burning question that'll never go away.. If you at least make an effort and it doesn't hold together then at least you've got rid of that monkey and be satisfied that you both gave it your best shot and be content with the outcome.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    What do you have to lose? Is it really going backwards? In my opinion, NO. It's moving forward with good intention. IF you raise the past within the reconciliation, then that is going backwards. Charge on forth and enjoy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Our motto is... buy the ticket, take the ride

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I only give people one chance. Never under any circumstances do i go back and revisit an ex lover. They're an ex for a reason.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Don't generally change their spots, so IMHP really depends on the reason for the split, and also the reason for the reconnection. If only for FWB (or without) & all are in agreement then I see no problem. If looking at a relationship then depends on why it ended the first time. I had a relationship end once purely due to poor communication / circumstance on a one-off issue (on both our parties). Learnt to have better communication since. (and no nothing bad had happened & no one cheated on anyone)