F64
Friend with benefits or more
April 02 2018
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
People can say what ever they want. It's not until they action and follow through with what they say, then believe them. Till then, sadly it's just exchange of words Ms Foxy
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Rlee552
8 years ago
You only have control over what you say, feel, think and do. You don’t have any control over his feelings for you. So the question is what do you want to achieve, and then how you get yourself in the right frame of mind to get there. That requires you to open yourself up to the possibilities ... with one very very big note of caution. Opening yourself up to possibilities does not mean throwing caution to the wind. Be careful financially. What will you do if he asks you to help pay for his ticket, if you pay for shared accomodation etc. Also, have that honest conversation with him. He may see this as a fwb holiday and you see it as the start of something.
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RHP User
8 years ago
May be, may be not. Too difficult to say. Just let the relationship develop slowly, which is easier said than done when endorphins start flying around. Where it becomes more interesting is when to raise the question about are you “mutually exclusive”. Or do you want to consider swinging together. You are in the right site for it. What ever your decision, good luck with it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That you have doubted your situation enough to post here for advice is evidence that you should do one thing. Hit the eject button and move to the next.
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Katkat
8 years ago
It’s hard tbh once a guy is too comfortable and used to that situation then why would he settle down if he’s got an arranged FWB & can still see other women. Not saying he is but most men do, they don’t forgive if they can stick their stick to someone’s hole they will do so. That’s just my perception and find it hard based on my exp I say move on if he doesn’t want to continue on, you don’t want to waste your time when you can be with someone who cares for you & wants the same thing. Sometimes you have to be selfish and not please others first. Nothing last forever these days. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Also, telling you to grow your hair because HE likes long hair and inviting himself along on your holiday...."controlling" springs to mind, a sign of what might come .But when we develop feelings for someone its hard to see the woods for the trees, and we tend to give them the benefit of the doubt....Ive done it myself.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...never buy into anything that requires much change early on and look for reciprocity once you cross over into true emotional attachment. If that's too much for him to handle, move along. PS...don't overlook Beliz and be sure to visit Argentina. Estos son dos hermosos paises para ser compatidos por los amantes. 😉⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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usrightnow_Again
8 years ago
A fair bit to unpack there. Glad Koko mentioned the hair thing, was talking to Mrs. urn. about that before she went to sleep. Has a distinct element of control more than just preference. And agree with Ms Foxy, anyone can say anything, actions are what carries weight. Will he actually go overseas with you?It reads as though you are thinking in terms of relationship for both guys, however call guy 1 a FWB. How does he see it? A FWB is different to a relationship. Visiting overseas, where you have relatives, tends to indicate that you would spend time with them, perhaps stay with them, especially if you don't get over often. How would your "FWB" be with sharing your time? How would the logistics work? These are questions you would have to consider. Certainly too, is he paying his way over and half of all other expenses, accommodation, food, et cetera? Meanwhile, there's guy 2. Who you are also thinking of the possibility of a relationship with. Does guy 1 know about guy 2 and vice versa? It's complicated and maybe that's why you're asking for advice, and I wish you the best, however, there are a lot of questions, many you need to ask yourself. And be honest, what's your gut saying? You said re guy 1, "I like him I really do", which sounds more than FWB and that you aren't totally sure either. Best of luck.Mr. urn. .
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Aren’t they fun for us overthinkers of the world! Lots of good advice above. There’s no reason you can’t continue being his friend if you can keep your feelings in check. But if he keeps you on an emotional roller coaster maybe ask yourself is it really worth the angst? When you have another guy who may be able to offer you more, maybe try that on for size. If you have open relationships you can see both at the same time? As long as your honest about your situation you don’t have to feel guilty about it. The travel thing if he’s making you feel this insecure here imagine if you did travel together and things went pear shaped? Probably don’t want to be in that situation. Good luck x - Posted from rhpmobile
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nightingale8
8 years ago
Contacts a guy she hasn't seen for months and tells him he needs to grow a beard because that's the way she likes it. She then invites herself to his family holiday overseas, maybe even for weeks. Wierd much? Because it is. NEXT! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
He told you to (or ''said you should'') grow your hair? Should you ask him if you should change the color to suit him as well? Are you skinny enough for his tastes or should you lose weight? Tell him to fuck off.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You joined the site for some fun.You found it, but you developed "feelings ". It isn't reciprocated?You still have control of your life , right?Sop you say you have family in Sth America and he wants to go.Wheres the problem?...............Unless of course he's expecting a free ride.If he pays his way, shares the expenses , i'm still not seeing a problem.Wouldn't it be better to go with a friend, have a meal at a nice restaurant together. Unless you enjoy eating aloneYou may do different things during the day etc, but having a friend with you can't be that bad.Having more friends than enemies in life is a good thing. Problem is. You've gotten into his pants, enjoyed it, wanted a little more than he was willing to give. But now someone else is on the scene that you want to explore with , and are a little confused. Even though you both are apparently still talking Simples..........Fucking decide what you want. Have the conversation. Don't compromise on your wants.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Tell him simply... Vete a la mierda! 🖕 Hey if you need a tour guide and translator, I work for food and perks! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Alarm bells ringing if he asking you to grow your hair long. If he dosent like you the way you are. Dont give him the chance. That should be the last thing on a guys mind. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Senor mas importantas...you know what to do..good luck
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RHP User
8 years ago
"So i joined this site for a bit of fun but along the way i met a great guy and FWB was great for winter but yes i developed feelings. " "He's a great guy might be a player or may not be who knows. " "In the meantime i met a lovely man on here and would like to see where it goes once twice or relationship. " - I read the whole post, and if he is a player than you must be the Master lol no offense. Why don't you just be honest with him, so there is no confusion? Maybe he would love to be FWB+TB (travel buddy) - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Maybe you could be giving off men's code "for a bit of fun" vibe. You know, guys say that all the time on here, "fun". I never have a clue what it means. It could be sending them mixed messages like it does to me. 1/2 the time I'm stumped, as it explains much to me. So asking you to grow your hair, could be their type of fun. Maybe they like playing with long hair or something. Ms Foxy.
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Fun = good sex (sexual intercourse) Let's go out and have some fun = have dinner or drink and sex! ( romantic togetherness with sexual intercourse) Men are very difficult to find out lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Ahh, was about to talk to someone about the overuse of Fun on his profile. Now I know why! Thanks Somethingnice. Sometimes I’m a bit thick 🤦♀️ I still think using it 5 times in 5 lines is a bit OTT. But probably sounds better than I want sex, sex, sex, sex, sex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You need to talk to those involved... Not us... We don’t know much based upon your thread....but you do.... Spas gr8distraction said...grow a set, have the conversation as clearly you’re trying to guess where you stand, and it’s clearly getting to you a bit being in limbo... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Do things have to be hard. The only thing should be hard is his cock. I woild pack the feelings away, he was good for winter as you say. Hang on its near winter again....... time to go again? As for the other, would it be fair to say, you're not that into him? At the end of the day...... tell him you have feelings and if he reciprocates, then its a no brainer. What have you got to lose? Good luck 😁 I think I'm.confused too. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I forgot i even posted this because i came off the site a few days ago. Thanks for your comments but i already made the decision to engage with the second guy, seems genuine. I get this is only a site for people seeking sex so if thats "cosi è la vita".... The ex FWB has more money than i would see in a lifetime but yes has always controlled every situation, not going to bother. V x - Posted from rhpmobile
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Service_man
8 years ago
Sounds like your first FWB is a control freak....and you sound more intelligent than being a puppet. He should accept you for what you like i.e. and if you like short hair --so be it.
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Talldark1
8 years ago
Nothing motivates guys like a little competition, lol. In your position I’d be telling the long hair fetish guy all about, and dating, the lovely guy until one of them feels like the right one to choose. The best way to tame a player is probably to be a person who has options yourself. You could next guy 1 as some have sensibly (given the way he makes you feel) advised but I suspect you won’t because you still like him. Spending time with someone else will be great for your objectivity about how you like to be treated, aside from anything else. Good luck! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Gawd scene the post friends with benifits, feel relaxed now thought I had to mow her lawns also lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
The FWB turned out the be a narcissist and the second guy who i would love to name and shame ghosted me on Saturday night... moving on. Leon 888 you sound like an ok guy and luvr4hot wife was a good plan. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Camelia. Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs
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Service_man
8 years ago
Keep away from narcissist's....sometimes disguised as dominant Alpha males. You can never win with a narc --I have have a sister who is one and the family has divorced her. The second guy well sounds like he threw his dummy in the dirt. As Gr8distraction said "you got to kiss a lot of frogs--and toads ....you know the fat ugly ones with warts. LOL
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