Frist time swingers experience

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  One party.. Every thing and any thing can happen depends on the people, the general mood, subdued or party. Always ask, have and show respect. Each question you asked is up to the individual, some do some dont. i have never seen a woman use a dam when someone goes down on them. On the few time I asked if I should use one I got a rather cold response. I not sure why, maybe the though I was implying they where dirty, I asked to try and show some respect. Live and learn, in the end i left the option up to the individual and its never come up. Women dont like using them as much as men dont like condoms. Keep going have fun, make friends, maybe find a lover, and be happy.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I have to say you might me over thinking things a little, swinging isn't as scientific as that. You may have completely different observations if you went to a different party or the same party on another night. In any case... 1. I would say of the parties I've been to cunnilingus is very common. 2. In my experience this is very unusual, foreplay is to my mind an essential ingredient. 3. I haven't done a statistical analysis, but it does happen. Just depends on the preference of the participants. 4. Depends on the rules of the couple, some have little or no restrictions on physical contact others quite a few. But if they're at a swingers party (especially one where the men outnumber the women) it's safe to say they're pretty open minded. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  so many people are good at making assumptions that fit their moulds. I've recently massaged women who were completely surpised about what I could offer them. It doesn't hurt to have a look & see!

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  For spunking on a ladies tits. Fabulous! To answer your questions. Every party/place is different and every night is different. Sometimes there is a feeling of wildness in the air and other times it can be a little quieter. Sometimes you will see totally wild things and people who you can't take your eyes off, or all too often it will be swingers that seem almost bored while they fuck and are too busy looking at everyone else but their lover. 1. Cunnilingus happens of course. Quite often girl on girl, men do it as well. 2. Foreplay... Maybe against it's the men getting over excited and forgetting foreplay. :P And yes, I agree that it can often appear very wham bam. In my experience bi-sexual men show more affection, and touch each other kiss each other more than I have seen straight couples at swingers events. Just a general impression of course. What you want to do and how you go about it is totally up to you. 3. It is customary to ask the lady where she wants you to come. It's personal preference. You don't often see guys coming everywhere as thy hold it as long as possible so that they can get around to more ladies. 4. Every couple is different, usually they will tell you if there is a rule. Some couples have no kissing, some couples only play with other women, some men are allowed to have their cock sucked but can't have full sex with another woman. All sorts of rules can be in play. I wouldn't worry about it, if a woman or couple ask you to play just do what ever comes naturally... It's up to them to tell you if there are things out of bounds at the beginning. I think anyway.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  There are no rules to each there own.The clubs have rules but people have there own.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  but that is the norm in most cases of sex I get now. I love it when a guy goes down on me but most just won't or if they do it is for a very limited time, enough to say they did it. Foreplay and kissing is almost non existent also as well as touching anything other than the genitals. It makes for terrible sex and it seems like while I was married, men have forgotten how to have sex. I wouldn't even say forgotten, just become selfish. I had one guy that I refused to keep going with unless he went down on me so we just lay there like idiots waiting for the other to make a move. He then tried to argue with me that he was good in bed. I am glad that it is a guy who brought this up because I am sick of being made to feel like I am asking for the world with these basic things and exactly why I say I am treated like a cum bucket.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Do finish outside. ..ample amount makes for an appreciative audience ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Glad to hear you had a great time! So refreshing to hear from a single guy who had only positive experiences at a private party. As for your questions, I've been to a few private parties and swingers clubs to I'll try to answer based on my own experiences. 1. I can't remember not coming across cunnilingus in a group situation and find it very interesting that you didn't see any. (You didn't happen upon one of those male bi orgies, did you? More going down on men than women at those events :-p) 2. I agree about the foreplay. In my experience people have gone to events like these to watch, socialise and/or fuck themselves silly. Extended foreplay often seems to be missing. Maybe it also has to with the time restrictions?? 3. I've probably seen 50% of men come inside the (condom inside) woman, the rest on her body. I must say I quite like the visual, though bukkake is not my thing. 4. I've not been to an event with a serious partner, but I wouldn't want to have to restrict myself in the heat of the moment. (I'd probably forget anyway!) Not sure if that helped at, am looking forward to reading more responses.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Random sex is boring and men don't make much of an effort. There have been studies too where men have stated that they are not so concerned about their sex partners pleasure when they know it is a short term fling or a one off. I always say that it isn't women playing hard to get wanting a connection because if casual sex really was fantastic we would all be doing it - sadly it's usually mundane and not that good really. That is my opinion anyway. At swingers clubs and parties I stay with my lover usually, when he isn't there I often don't play at all. So I am not as promiscuous as I had hoped - not sure if it's my catholic upbringing or where random bonking is not really for me. Mind you happy to play in a group with my FWB. Just depends, I think I have particular taste in men and women. :)

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  AnnieWhichway

  11 years ago

  Yes, from my experience, the simplest needs such as kissing and caressing are missing from my swinging meets. If someone kisses me with passion and shows some attentive touch, then they will ignite my fire and be given everything back with 150%. But that is something that their partners, especially men seem to want to avoid. Alright to lick suck and fuck, but hey, what's with the affection. Could be the fear of showing them up in their relationship and thus insecurities. So a tendency to be sexual robots. Just generalising though. Prefer a closed shop these days with just one couple where there is more chance of getting to know them and therefore getting some passionate connections going with the sex. Don't get me wrong, the swinging room is fun but for me lacks that intimacy that I'm needing to make it special and there are so many invisible boundaries and egos that sometime your treading on eggshells. Annie. Xx

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Thanks people for your replies. Yes I will be going back there and to other events over the coming weeks (indefinately if all goes well!) Blindman I find it amusing about the "maybe find a lover" part. A bit different from the typical progression of a relationship. After you've sucked, licked, nibbled and screwed a bit, then, if things are going right, you can progress onto going out for dinner and watching movies on the couch together! But then again, I have heard many stories about fuck buddies etc becoming exclusive and developing a relationship, so I suppose it happens. And if you want someone who has the same open minded view of sex as you do, I guess you have to look in such communities. Meeka Some of the guys I talked to did come (ie didn't save it), but after a break were ready for rounds 2/3 etc. I know this is within my capability! I could have tried with some late arrivals but as I was going back to work early that morning I figured my priority should be getting at least a couple of hours sleep! Ralf In my case sex doesn't happen very often, so I am interested in making it as full an experience for all parties as I can. Maybe guys get lazy or selfish over time, or if they get too much that it gets repetitive, so just want to get off as quickly as possible and move on? Funny I spoke to a guy who said he'd once (elsewhere) turned down an offer of a FFMF as he'd done it all before/was tired. Frankly even in a relationship, I don't want sex everyday as some do, as I think that would lead to repetitiveness, and I prefer much longer sessions that I just wouldn't have time for it. But I understand the role of 'quickies'. Dareidy, Meander and Meeka I find most if not all women's bodies beautiful, if in their own way, so of course my preference is to "decorate" them! It just looks sexier, to me at least, certainly more so than facials, and more women report to enjoy it that way. Even in pornography, I need to see the women (appearing to be) enjoying themselves, that is, laughing/talking/interacting. (More typical of amateur stuff). Girls acting like mannequin dolls do little for me. Meander Early on a guy did get removed from the premises for good reasons. The others backed up the staff in order to do this. So not all technically positive, but for the rest of the night aside from being often quiet was all good. Anywhichway Yes I'd love to have private encounters, more intimate and involved, more time to explore each other. I've messaged most profiles I think might be compatible, so I think the best chance is to develop a connection with individuals/couples/groups that I meet in person. As I don't drink I've never done the whole picking up at the pub/club thing.

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