M42

Ghost, Block or Let Me Down?

August 31 2025

Assume you’ve decided, after some conversation, I’m no longer for you. Maybe I talk about things for too long, I ask pointless questions or (to the utter despair of many) I’ve shown my cock far too early 🤦🏼‍♂️ How are you gonna deal with me? What’s your preference for diengaging with me and what’s the logic? 1. ) ghost my ass and just leave me on read? 2.) Block me and consign my idiocy to the past? 3.) Tell me I’m not for you in a blunt or roundabout way? I usually do 2 or 3. 2 for morons and 3 for nice people I just don’t vibe. Is there a 4? Am I missing another way you could eff me off? Does anyone do 1 for sadistic pleasure?

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FeistyFatty

9 months ago

Option 4 .... Tell you what I didn't enjoy about the exchange or what in particular I'm not interested in. Then, based on your response, I would block or just leave it at that.

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NeoAndTrin

9 months ago

Are the vast majority on here sending dic pics? Even after reasonable amount of conversation? I assumed it was a no no at any stage unless the other party requested it.

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MsSuperFoxy

9 months ago

Ooooh please! To anyone reading this: As if choosing #1 and #2 causes pain, suffering, or humiliation to the sender. There's no logic in that. If someone has bored me to death, has dished out inappropriate messages or sent unsolicited cock pics, then ghosting and blocking isn’t sadistic pleasure, it’s unsadistic pleasure for the receiver. Therefore #1 and #2 is appropriate. Yeah, people are allowed to ghost and/or block, if they want too. They dont have to explain themselves to anyone either. Silence is a reply. #3 is wasting time and setting one up for replies. Doesn't matter how the nice reply it is. Conversation is left open and places sender in a vulerable position. Best not to be butt hurt over just message exchanges or seek validation. Just move on. Ms Foxy

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MsSuperFoxy

9 months ago

Is there an Option 4? Absolutelythere is. Its called being accountable and owning your own actions, without turning it into a debate with her or coercing her into meeting. She's already turned off. She's not going to change her mind Sadly, The receiver is no longer it. Ms Foxy

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RHP User

9 months ago

I feel it depends on your experiences in life and of course online. But for me 3 is the only way to go. But I choose to treat online like it was real life. One does not just walk past someone who says hello on the street. My choice, my way as it is for everyone here. I can certainly say through my experiences here over a dozen or so years that 1 and 2 are the general here, which I consider rather sad but shit...... life is

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Thesunlovingsub

9 months ago

If you do something inappropriate - block. If you just stop making any effort to keep the conversation going - do nothing. If you’re a nice person but just not for me - provide as much detail as is appropriate for the situation about why I’m tapping out, and wish you well.

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Cucknshells

9 months ago

I try to treat people like I would like to be treated myself. So it’s number 3 for me. I thank people for their messages as I appreciate the time and effort the majority of people put into them. I explain where I am at and where I am coming from. I do generally delete the messages after a time as I like a clean mailbox. 😊 If the person doesn’t take no for an answer then I might blocked them. Shells xx

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Andrea_Sydney

9 months ago

Hm, I guess I sometimes ghost people by procrastination. During a conversation, I sometimes lose interest, it can just stagnate. Then often I will go - ugh, I reply later. Then look at the last message again, feel that stagnation again and close it again. Then comes the time when I think - ugh, it’s too late now to reply anyway and the other person must feel the same way. After all, the stagnation happens because both people stop putting in effort in the replies due to dwindling interest. At least I tell myself that. Dick pics before I ask for them - yes, off putting. Don’t know why. In the end I want to interact with that literal dick when meeting up. I think it’s like unlubricated sex - just too early. Sending dick pics before sending a couple of flirtatious messages is like skipping foreplay. So I lose interest. I personally only block when I feel uncomfortable/unsafe, so only a small number of profiles are actually blocked. And yes, I have told people when I’m not feeling a vibe but thanks for your time. I never had a nasty or abusive response to that. Every now and then maybe a disappointed one, but never anything nasty.

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Blueflamingo

9 months ago

I always aim for #3, but occasionally #1 and #2 must be used... unfortunately. #4 is the 'on hold' button for me. Every now and then, I get busy with life and will not have time to invest in new connections for a few weeks/months. Then I push the on hold button which leaves the door open for later. This is only if I feel there could be a potential connection in the future of course.

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Flirty2020

9 months ago

An unsolicited dick pic gets reported to admin and then blocked. Disrespectful unsolicited opening “lines” get reported & blocked. If a message starts out in a respectful manner and then quickly goes “pear shaped” we tend to ignore, and not reply. If it still continues after that, then it’s easier to simply block. If you clearly have not read our profile wording, and possess the attributes and habits that we find distasteful / offensive , we either ignore and or reply with a “Not interested thanks”. Often it is better to simply ignore and not reply to an unsolicited message. As a reply often results in a barrage of vitriol and abuse.

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RandR4U

9 months ago

How difficult is it to say... "Thanks for your interest, but no thanks" People must remember, you are not bound, obligated, committed, expected, call it what you want... but the decency to say No is minimal respect, not just to the other person, but yourself.

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Notice_Me

9 months ago

If I don't respond, it's not you, it's the Adderall shortage.

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RHP User

9 months ago

Just a polite friendly not interested is enough.

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SweetSerenade

8 months ago

Dikpic = instant block

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robvegas27

8 months ago

This is one of my biggest hates about this site

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RHP User

8 months ago

I am new here and If I dont feel like myself and another are on the same journey but I dont want to hurt their self esteem, what do you do?

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