Ghostbusting

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I move on.... For whatever the reason she/he couldn’t make it....there’s no point dwelling on it.. If.... I’d organised a meet, I also organise a plan B so that I still have an awesome trip and it helps take the focus off any disappointment.. Win/win don’t ya think ?

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I give people 1 chance and 1 chance only. Anything more than that and yr giving them the power. They do this cause they can, because they have more options and dont care about common respect or guys feelings. Its not you that theres anything with, its them, and remember that. Take the power back.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  Nothing. You focus on something or someone else. To break the cycle of ghosting, do not do it to the next person you chat too. Also, too much text interactions can be a turn-off and turns into "benching". That's why I like to meet within a week. A GIF is not going to gain their attention or change their minds. Their minds are already made up, as their attention is elsewhere. No use getting angry. One only does that if they have invested or have high expectations. It is best to not invest until you meet a person face to face. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  This person has wasted yours without courtesy or consideration of your time. At the very least they could have contacted you prior to your date for an explanation. No point getting angry or investing any further emotional energy or time. Seems to me like this person would be a bland and boring date anyway. No strength of character...

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  EarthQueen

  7 years ago

  What can you do 🤷‍♀️ For whatever reason we aren’t aligned so I just move on. Like Foxy says my expectations are low so if things click it’s a pleasant surprise if not move on. Even with my friendship group there’s only so many people I connect with and want to spend time with. It’s the same online. I would give no response, no GIF other than a kind one. You don’t really know what the other person is feeling or is going through Maybe they’ve got stuff going on and the meet or responding is too much at that time or some little thing you said has put a doubt in their mind. Women are usually very safety conscious so it can often not take much to make us feel unsure and change our mind. Not saying you are unsafe, but most women have had negative experiences and it can make us wary and I know I have bailed at last minute if I feel any doubt.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  When I first started on here and other sites I would get quite angry at the ghosting; it's quite wasteful though (who do you vent your anger to?) and I mostly don't care these days. Still the tiniest little flare of annoyance when it happens now, but again I have learnt to just quash it and move on.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  (Cough cough) Excuse me Earthqueen, what do you think you're doing with your profile pic? I have the seat reserved for ''totally unimaginative gratuitous beach body selfie'', and you just plonked yourself in it. Don't make me call security...

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  FeistyFatty

  7 years ago

  Move on, it happens, no biggy 🤷‍♀️

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I’ve never been ghosted but I imagine it’d be pretty annoying. Mainly because I’d waste a heap of my time & niceness hoping that they were ok and nothing bad had happened to them, lol. It’s rude to waste people’s time like that but at the end of the day their behaviour is a reflection of them, not you, so there’s no point wasting your energy on something you can’t change.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Be cool dude. That's the best lesson I learned from a male friend here that I treasure. He's good to be around. Cheers, Peachy xo

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Quoting 'The_Antichrist' I move on.... For whatever the reason she/he couldn’t make it....there’s no point dwelling on it.. If.... I’d organised a meet, I also organise a plan B so that I still have an awesome trip and it helps take the focus off any disappointment.. Win/win don’t ya think ? A plan B is a must for me. I actually ended up discovering a great new pub I wouldn't have, had I not been stood up one night. *looks up Wamberal on Google maps*

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Been ghosted a many of times myself, yes its frustrating, that you have gone to all that time, attention, organisation and you end up sitting there like a fool🤔🤔🤔 or is the fool the one that done the ghosting?? The way i see it, "they" did you a favour by ghosting, they could of been a headache, drama queen, manipulator, a financial burden, etc, etc. Or that better things are falling into play

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