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Ghosting why is it necessary ??
September 30 2019
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73bandit
6 years ago
Not saying your demanding but YOUR DEMANDING .Hire a toy boy .
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sw1ng3rz
6 years ago
It has happened to us to and I completely agree. Common curtesy and manners cost nothing. I guess I’m a little old fashioned in that I still believe in treating others how you would like to be treated. As you said op, we are all adults but I personally find ghosting a very juvenile act. ... hope you find the answer as to why they do it. Would be very interesting. Mrs S
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RHP User
6 years ago
The ghostings I have had have been with the first meetup, at least you got past that!
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Its an easy thing to do online. Great filter for you.... just onto rhe next (and there will always be a next). Dont overthink it though. Sometimes they're just not that into you and easier to ghost than explain snd face the barrage of abuse that may come with.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sucks when you get your dancing frock on and go to the effort of going to the meeting place then crickets...
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RHP User
6 years ago
It's an online way of simply and quietly saying "hasta la vista, baby" albeit not as polite as the former less contemporary terms of non-endearment. Just remember when they dusted you they dusted themselves so bonus as it will save more anguish later. 'Til then, Don't Swear the Small Shit...... just move on. ʗɱ
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RHP User
6 years ago
As someone who’s been the ghoster and the ghostee at times I think FFF got it exactly right. Don’t get too upset about it though, in the long run it’s easier for everyone I think but I understand that it doesn’t feel that way at the time. I also note that rejection is never easy, whether they explain it to you or not, at least when you’re just cut off like that you’re not going to waste your time trying to ignight something that’s never going to take off.. it’s annoying at first but i actually appreciate people not wasting my tome so I’d prefer to be ghosted than lead on a pointless journey to an inevitable end. Ms Phoenix
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teamaj2
6 years ago
Kimberley I don’t think you are asking too much or being demanding . Agreed I do think FFF said it well . Sometimes it is hard to say thanks but no thanks to people . People probably aren’t going to give you in-depth explanations as to why they’ve had a change of heart. They possibly don’t owe u or anyone any explanation . Ghosting often seems a safe easy option - as rude as that may seem . Often people don’t take the rejection well and that can lead to questions and demands of an explanation. Ghosting is preferable to stringing you along and wasting your time with promises of further meet ups when they have no intention of doing so . Goodluck on RHP .
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Yes, because people can do as they please, change their minds (most likely got turned off or another caught their attention) and/orare not that into you. They do not want to do the awkard discomforting conversations, which sometimes ends in an abusive exchange of words - no one wants that. I believe it is fair to say and not a cop out. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think ghosting is inconsiderate and shows that you have little regard for the other persons time. I believe that it's immature and disrespectful, and that if you can't show respect for someone who gave you their time (whether you enjoyed it or not), then you shouldn't be on here at all. I think that the whole basis of hookups should be maturity and consideration. If you can't have an adult conversation, you shouldn't be putting your cock in anyone in the first place. I think that even if you had a date or meet-up that went badly, you should still be able to say 'I'm sorry, the connection just wasn't there. Thanks for your time". If anyone has ghosted you, just know that they're the one being immature and you dodged a bullet
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Sawadee
6 years ago
Gone are the days when ppl took the time to show others a little bit of courtesy ? I must be caught in a time warp or something.. If you change your mind or whatever , whats wrong with saying so ? It might take a little bit of courage , but its not really all that hard.. ? 🤔 or is it just the way of the day ?
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RHP User
6 years ago
I realise for some people this sucks...but I have very low expectations of people when it comes to integrity.....So I ask different questions and never discuss the topic.... So I’m curious what exactly it is that upsets you about this?? Is it just because you’re missing a justification for the rejection ? Would you honestly change everything about yourself that others dislike in an attempt to be more appealing at the price of losing yourself? I believe we are looking for something to blame ourselves for.....”if I’d just done xyz then maybe they’d have hung about??” Kind of statements...but that to me breeds a toxic neurotic mindset that is never going to be healthy or productive.... Sometimes...people are just cunts because they can be, not because you’ve got something wrong with you.... Mr Dragon
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Thanks, but I will decide myself if I should be here or not. It is not up to you to decide. Chances are, it’s not the ghost who frightens people out of relationships – it’s, ah, sometimes the person themselves and their berhavour. Ie: neediness, clingy, love bombing... Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Foxy.... I highly doubt curious was suggesting people leave Rhp if they ghost someone lol A bit over the top me thinks lol
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Love bombing🤣🤣🤣
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RHP User
6 years ago
Totally agree with Curious. It's damn right rude to leave people hanging, especially if it's gone as far as a couple of dates. Grow a pair and let people know thanks but no thanks. I still don't understand how some can justify rudeness. Maybe they are guilty of doing the ghosting.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Yep! Its happened to me (and others I know), after one meet where a person was full on with overwhelming stuff, saying things like "you are my soul mate", "I can't live without you" etc (infatuation)... Very scary creepy shit. Enough to ghost, ignore and block. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Most times when I tell someone I'm over them I get; them begging for another chance, questioned as to how they could do better and a fair amount of abuse. It's easier to just not say anything. I don't owe anyone an anything so I just do what is most convenient to me.
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RHP User
6 years ago
...it's a great alternative to saying "Fuck off, you have the table manners of a goat and should have warned me about the tattoo on your tongue". Could have even been the bad breath but seriously....you do know it's not going to happen and talking to Casper really is a pretty easy alternative. Now then.......................fuck off! 📴😉💨 ʗɱ
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RHP User
6 years ago
I think the most common reason for ghosting is the emotional, sexual or psychological state of mind running rampant when first talking to a new person. Thrill of the chase gets the adrenaline, dopamine and blood pumping but when the time comes to meet they convince themselves emotionally, sexually, psychologically, circumstantially etc it won't/shouldn't work. As well as the fact online it's so easy to do. Personally I think the most common demographic of ghosters are ones that are still tied to their exes. Percentage wise the number of girls I talk to that either have someone on the go or still have an ex in the picture would be 80%. Usually fence sitters that want an upgrade but don't want to lose what they already have. Attached girls on dating apps are more common than single ones now days I think. Then you've got the ghosters/re-appearers, they're a whole different story. Usually reappear when they have exhausted other options or been ghosted themselves so need to reappear into someone elses life just to ghost them again to help cope with their own rejection. Then there's the horny ghosters. "Sorry, I'm not horny now so I don't feel the same about you." That's also super common There's a big internet world out there, just try remember people's actions are a projection of their own issues and insecurities and there's no shortage of people with problems 😂😂😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
Also the fact talking online is like Russian roulette but the bullet is whether or not you'll be perceived as a creep/murderer/psycho and subsequently be ghosted over something minor. Especially seeing as online context is so hard to distinguish Once someone asked me for a few tips for talking to girls online, this is what I told them: Ask a girl out to tea: You're too nice Ask a girl to fuck: You're a creep Ask a girl if she would like to cuddle, eat chocolate and watch a movie: Cute and nice 😂😂😂😂
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Want2havefun
6 years ago
Thank you everyone for your comments. I guess I was raised with good manners and honesty - I’d rather be up front if I’m not interested than be misleading. But I do take on board that some people won’t take it graciously. Oh and PS. I’m not demanding but I do know what I’m looking for. 😉
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RHP User
6 years ago
I bet you have lots of “good friends” lol xxo
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
It's not ever necessary
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi, one thing not suggested so far......... since your looking for SINGLE blokes, do you really feel that the ghost was single. Sometimes I have found people say that they are single on here when they are not. They try to find a moment to get to be with you and their married or family life stops it from happening as they might get found out. It’s happened to me and it has also happened to my wife (open relationship) so consider this too. It’s a possibility.
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