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Girl Crush
November 07 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
maybe you need to start making her your friend first, then you can get a bit more personal. You could also flirt and being a dancer is a great opportunity to throw a few compliments out there about her style, flexibility, how great her arse looks in that leotard and see how she receives them. Welcome to the forum :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Ralf, Get to know her and make some shuttle comments and she is she responds Let us know how you go Good luck x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Invite her out to a gay bar, get her shit faced, dance and wait for the magic to happen ;)
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
First up WELCOME - it's great to see new posters in the forums. :) Sorry no "Girl Crushes" recently for me - I love elegant cock too much, especially those with substance! If it were me in your shoes.... I'd be taking a step back and observing for a while...watch out for signs and signals... Watching body language that sort of thing, look for non verbal and verbal signs... May bemake a subtle short one liner joke and see if she picks up on that. I mean the woman is only 18 (a spring chicken), maybe she has very little experience or maybe is quite experienced. She maybe straight?? maybe a unicorn?? She may want he lifestyle kept quiet?? Who knows???? Swinging is just not something to bring up in the "Vanilla" world - some people just have little or no education in the lifestyle- it's quite a sensitive topic to some and not to others.. If others in your class are unaware of your swinging lifestyle and found out - it may make or break a friendship or start some malicious gossip within your class. Loose lips sink ships as they say. I'd keep it low key for the time being especially if you really like attending this dance class. Foxy XX
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RHP User
11 years ago
Take Foxys 2 steps back, then take yet another. You dont know if she's biYou dont know if she likes you as a friend.You dont even know if she's noticed you beyond just being present in class. Lots of observation, conversation and learning before you have the opportunity to see what she thinks. Also,... are you crushing as a couple/swinger... or merely as a single girl?One thing at a time... and the horse always pulls the cart. You have some homework to do.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Ralf and Foxxxy bring up pertinent points. Taking things slowly is a must at this time, merely because of the 'age gap' between the two of you. From her perspective, you are in the next 'age bracket', which may be a big step for her to climb. As you may appreciate, there is a big difference in mental recognition between your teens and your twenties, and approaching these types of subjects may simply be overwhelming for the younger person. Take baby steps at first, make up a basis for friendship, and slowly bring the subject of up her sexual experience/s, maybe even comparing it to your own in your earlier years, to make her feel a bit more comfortable to broach the subject. Invite her for a coffee or similar and get to know her over a little while - you should then be able to find out if she is then approachable or better to leave her alone. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
But the "don't shit where you eat" expression applies here. It usually means don't hit on flat mates and work colleagues but close. I wouldn't say don't , but tread very carefully !
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6exxy
11 years ago
Take in and use it effectively. The excitement is great but the negative effects would be longer lasting.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love having a girl crush... It makes your day sort of exciting... But keep it in fantasy land until you bump into her at a gay nightclub, and even then be careful.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
It's called the FOX TROT! 😆 Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for all the great advice everyone! I think the general divide is a) leave it be, or b) take it super slow and suss it all out first. I saw her in my class today and tried general conversation, and invited her out with some other dance girls on Friday. So we will see. Maybe leaving it as a fantasy is for the best :$ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't take advice from old people ie anyone over thirty :-) ...phone a friend xxFreys
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RHP User
11 years ago
My advice is simply this.... When she's mid pirouette, lean over give her spank and mutter "if tap that!!!" :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Btw.... I'd also take note of any potential swelling that may occur thereafter :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
She could approach just as you do strangers in the street. (Sorry, couldn't resist ;)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
TO start with your near the same age range so act like a person who wants to be friendsthen after 2 days of chat ask her what she likes and dislikes and then add---do you like girl on girl.This way it sounds part of conversation .
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RHP User
11 years ago
In a perfect world you ask her out, she says yes or no, other people find out or don't and everybody just gets on with their lives. That's how it should be cause it's really not that big a deal. People hit on each other all the time. Oh to live in a perfect world. To a large degree you own the impact. Do you mind if your friends find out? How 'out' do you want to be? Can you handle being turned down? Are the group of people involved the sort of folk that are likely to make snide comments and look down on you if this comes out (in which case you probably want to leave that dance class anyway ;) )? Does this have any ties to your career? We've been in a similar situation recently and went for it. The lady in question was somewhat interested but is involved. We had a long, fun conversation about what we do, the 'lifestyle' and how it all works. We laughed, flirted a bit, had a cocktail or three, hugged and went our separate ways. We're still friends. Our ability to make that choice was largely due to the fact that we are out to the vast majority of our friends, don't care if our family find out and really don't care what people think or say about our wonderfully sexy, awesomely decadent lifestyle. Fuck 'em; their problem, not ours. I realise that is a luxury not everybody has. There is no way to avoid the potential fallout, you just have to decide what it means to you. If you decide you are ok with it, then all you need to do is keep it respectful and friendly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I saw what you did there 😉
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with ginbased. Respectful, friendly but above all own it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Umm no I don't overly care if she rejects me (obviously I like her so it will be a little disappointing, but I'm a big girl). I also don't mind if the class finds out about the lifestyle (I've already told half of them yesterday, they said they know what I'm like and aren't surprised). However, during class yesterday a girl in my class made a comment to me that sounded like she needed a friend to talk to, (a different girl to the one I am crushing on, but in the same age bracket and also not one of my 'closer' friends). So I contacted her after class letting her know I was there to talk, she told me she is gay and is scared to 'come out'. So I shared my husband and my 'habits' and also told her about the crush I have on out classmate. She was shocked, but only because she too is crushing on the same girl. What are the chances??? Anyway, after initial "well this is awkward" comments (jokingly of course) I told this friend that I would back down, so to speak. But I still have been thinking about my crush all day... and I don't think it will dissipate any time soon.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Then who's the chick in your photos?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' TO start with your near the same age range so act like a person who wants to be friendsthen after 2 days of chat ask her what she likes and dislikes and then add---do you like girl on girl.This way it sounds part of conversation . Chev, elsewhere you stated today: "In most forums people take my advice and most times it works." Miss SydneyCouple, why don't you try this approach and let us know how you go?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with Ralf and ginbased. p.s. Why would you back off for a new friend you've only known for a day?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh no, the girl who confided in me I've know for like 8 years. She is a friend just not super close (although I think this might bring us closer). She has low self-esteem, it just wouldn't be 'right' if I 'got the girl' knowing she really likes her. I would feel way to guilty..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I get that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can't help but wonder how that would actually come up in conversation..... Is that how you score your 20 year olds at woolworths?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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