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Girls - That first message from a guy

November 11 2009

Hello ladies!I am curious as to what kind of messages you feel warrant a reply on here. I usually introduce myself very briefly and compliment a woman on her photo's (not going to talk to people I don't find attractive, so can't call me a liar!), and then ask her what her interests are. I'll usually attach some face pictures too, so they know what I look like. Maybe this is why my reply rate is low!? lol. :PI try to mention something they might have mentioned in their profile, to show I've read it in it's entirety and paid attention. However, some girls have nothing in their profile, which is how I first started out, but then I added a bunch of information afterwards.So, what catches your attention, and feel free to share some naff messages you've received too. :)Thankies.

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RHP User

16 years ago

I think the way you put together your first message sounds great. It displays a willingness to share something of yourself, and find something out about her, and that you have actually read her profile. you are a pretty clued up guy, despite your young age, more clued up than some 20 years your senior, actually!! My pet hate are crude messages (cheeky or sexy is fine, but if your opening line is "i wanna wank on your tits" then most likely you will not get a reply from me!!!) and guys that fire off their personal email/ msm addy without any sort of introduction except for "add me sexy." So yeah, if you were in my age bracket, your profile/message would catch my eye, nice pic, good words, whats not to like? lovebittenxoxoxoxo

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RHP User

16 years ago

Mate. You got blocked again didn't you! I told you not to be too impatient and harrass them and what do you go and do?? hehe... norty boy. Im a gonna have to get sweetpetite to work you over properly for that indiscretion. hehe. What you do is you have to make people feel embarrassed if they do not reply. Here's an example I sent to one person recently....... ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Something something something personal to get their attention... followed by...... Are you new to RHP?? Why haven't I written b4, my lovely? Questions, questions lol. Would you like to see my privates? hehe. It's awwwright lol.... Everyone flirts with me just to get a glimpse of me privates... lolz. Then I'm left wondering why I almost never hear from them again. People are so unkind!! Lmfao. Meah, I'm used to it. I'll just wait here.. with my hands covering my dickie .... blushing like a pageant queen. No pressure, my lovelies. Hehe. Take your time, replying... you've got at least 40 seconds until I black out from holding my breathe. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Pathetic, I know.... but an old guy has to try to stack the deck. :p Hugs Gazza

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RHP User

16 years ago

you've pretty much summed it up. * read profile and show that you've read it by referring to something the person said on it. NOT just say that you've read their profile. * makes sure you fit what they're looking for, if not don't bother messaging unless you don't expect a reply. * "hi" doesn't' constitute as a message. put a bit more effort than that. * basically you reap what you sow. * even if you do do all that, there's still a lot that won't reply, get over it. No answer generally means not interested.

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RHP User

16 years ago

Was enjoying your post until the last bit, lol. But yes, I guess you've got to be realistic. Thank you for your feedback.Thanks for the compliment Lovebitten, I usually just use the subject heading of; 'Heya or Hey', maybe I should try to think of something a bit less generic... Can't believe anyone would think that something along the lines of 'wank on your tits' would work - wasn't Gaz that sent you that was it? lollol, nice Gaz. I have sent a couple of shit messages that were really short, but that was because I was a bit dispondant about typing out a longer message and getting no replies previously. I haven't been blocked again, no lol, not that I know of atleast. I just want to give myself the best chance of success. :PThat message sounds a bit strange but at the same time it's humourous and could endear the person to you, so I could see how it works. I'll have to get my thinking cap on!

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RHP User

16 years ago

LMAO...I just blocked a jerk who sent me a message saying that yesterday...bwahhahahahahaha..No more perving on my profile for him..tosser!! Caually..hun..your messages to ladies are just fine as we discussed this last night on msn..If girls are not replying on blocking you then yep...get over it...They either are not interested in a nice guy or scared of what they really want.... Or have a boyfriend...or many other reasons that they are not telling.. Now take my lil sob I had to you the other day...about Brett...I think he and I are 2 peas in a pod....But if it is not recipicated..got to move on. His loss..sigh............and for those girls out there your loss cause I adore casually_casual as a wonderful friend who will proberly kick my arse on the Wii fit/sports when he visits soon..lol kisses to all sweetpetite41 Gaz.....I am too honest a soul..So I don't think I much help..lol..

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RHP User

16 years ago

I'm no good on the Wii, I prefer 360/PS3! :P But I'll give it a go for sure, just beware, I'm a very sore loser lol.Wouldn't mind a few more girls opinions - can never have too much constructive criticism!

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RHP User

16 years ago

we meet a lot of different people either through work, sport, friends etc , but if you think of how many we do cross paths with before there is any sort of connection and interest, then this would be also valid for this method of meeting people, there is still the process to go through. Guys will initiate but girls control, they have it we want it, C'est la vie dzynr

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RHP User

16 years ago

i cant stand profiles that are just mobile numbers,a simple "hi how are you" or dribble on for ages about their life story..and no talking about sex straight away! I am about more than just sex,and i expect a guy to recognise that....Showing some wit,class and humor....a guy who makes me laugh will always stand out over the rest Yes a bit more of a title other than hey or hi will stand out more..i always tend to open the ones with original headings first. Pretty much what you have said you write sounds pretty good to me.And with you showing face pics straight away..thats a good thing!..i do the same if im writing the first message to someone. I got a great first email from a guy on here recently..cant say too much about it cos i know he will be reading this..but lets just say he had me hooked from that moment on...it was just very honest,polite and not pushy...and i have since met him,and he is just what i expected :-) Good luck...xxxx

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RHP User

16 years ago

Its such a shame I'm old enough to be your momma yeah yeah I've been told young meat is the way to go...I must be a bit more British than i realised, I seriously like my men like pheasant (haha)Why is it whenever I see your pic I get the urge to message you" hello sexy nice arse you have there, and a brain and you can make words into sentences , my god you have it all ? you beat the older boys hands(bottoms) down lol"Devine xxxx

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RHP User

16 years ago

Almost everything (joke!).All i need is a cock extension and a woman on my arm!x

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playfulminx

16 years ago

Messages that I received late that made me groan (and not in a good way)"Steve 0401 XXX XXX" (yes, just that)"Hi wana be frends" (not likely sunshine...)"I'm looking for some fun tonight" (I bet you are, and good luck to you)Anything that isn't like above are generally welcomed and responded to in kind :)

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RHP User

16 years ago

messages i hate: "how was ur day?" (& nothing else) "how r u?" (& nothing else - shows a high level of creativity & communicative ability!!) "do u like cock?" (durr just not the one hanging off ur forehead) at 8pm.."lets hook up baby" (& other such names like my girl & princess - thanks Daddy!) the best messages include: creative stories of seduction..stand out from the crowd & gets the juices flowing! reference to my profile...& having actually met my requests! its a miracle u can read!!!! a genuine interest in what i might be looking for to see if we actually click in same way shape or form casually_casual u seem to have most of this in the bag...u sound like a smart guy (nice butt cheeks too!) & much more inquisitive than the average fella (well at least the majority of ones that have been emailing me! - soz to u lovely ones!) Good luck honey...i am sure that ur attitude will attract like & i hope u find wot u seek kisses x

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