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Girls intimidated by wit?
August 22 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Even it its true, and there is evidence that it is (i have experienced it) I wont change who i am or what i say just to conform to what society or some women want. For me, if someone doesn't like intelligent conversation, then they can just move on.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I define wit as being funny, if by wit you mean more along the lines of being snarky and rude than yes I cam see why women wouldn't like that.
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RHP User
16 years ago
oh i get it now, you see in my business im surrounded by intelligent people,top of there class,and recently i took the guys (and one girl) out for drinks, i introduced them to some ladys i knew,the way they acted seemed strange to me then,but now i realize they were dumming down!! man its hard to keep up with you young people,always moving the bar.cant wait to see whats next.
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RHP User
16 years ago
i can wholly agree with this thread...i find alot of women cant keep up with the banter and flirting i so enjoy..sometimes OVER-extending myself so to speak and comin out empty handed when there was already an attraction...i guess a man not afraid of commitment is a scary thing on the dating scene amongst younger crowds...
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RHP User
16 years ago
stop talking to dumb girls?
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RHP User
16 years ago
People like to laughPeople like to communicateWit does it. You spoke to only a handful of people.
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RHP User
16 years ago
The average world IQ is 100. If you are, for instance, sitting on and IQ of 140 or 150, then chances are the marjority of people who you come across are going to appear to be a little dunce-like. I'm afraid that's just life. Look the positives, it's fun to mess with the idiots in chat rooms. Of course you could also read a book, watch a movie or do anything else.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sorry guys I have to disagree. Most of the time the reason people seem dumb is that the conversation is not interesting enough to start with. No one wants to get into challenging ground and lose face. I prefer having conversations with women that get deeper into what they are passionate about. If you can find the passion button conversation just flows. Even the lamest topic like say Ben Cousins can lead to interesting ground when you explore why a girl likes a pretty boy with a great body and totally self distructive tendancies as opposed to one who behaves himself. The key is to lead the topic into great conversation rather than waiting for the other person to lead you. Intelligent people can be uneducated, crass, foolish and rude .. but then so can I.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I can actually agree with you males on this...Being a female i have even noticed this with females when out and about..Funny how men look so bored and perve about...Even me being a female and agreeing...Ive also some men can be the same...Whats with this..Maybe one day we will find out hahaha Personality, Brains, Sense Humour And Now How To Hold A Convo is a huge turn on than dead twits.. Ok enough dribbling from me off to find another post to dribble on TIT
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RHP User
16 years ago
I love having a conversation that doesn't totally revolve around sex and positionsTo speak with someone that is quick witted and has a sense of humour is half the turn onsad to say that its not a common trait anymoreits great to be laying next to each other having a chat and laugh while having a breather before round 2
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RHP User
16 years ago
Give me intelligence and wit any day! Some men are very intimidated by a smart funny sexy woman too! I dont dumb down for anyone and would hate to think that would do that to me!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey mate, most of us are dumb enough without trying to act stupid as well. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
because I'm also smart, sarcastic, witty, funny.... but gee it's hard to guage how much to flirt with a guy sometimes. I worry I'm going overboard, and he's gonna think I'm a complete dork.... plus I love having a great conversation/arguement/debate over all types of different things. Sometimes I go too far and scare him off..... meh!
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bondage_reality
16 years ago
So if they are only partially intimidated Does that make them halfwits??
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well, aren't you guys all the top of the brain-chain?Jengirl has got it though... What you might see as wit and humour, they might perceive it as insulting and degrading.It's not the way it's intended, but the way it's received.At the end of the day, just be yourself. You can't be someone you're not, and it will all come out in the end. And through being yourself, you will find someone that is attracted to yourself!
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RHP User
16 years ago
how curious... Of course, I'm only speaking personally, but intelligence and wit are number 1 in my books and I've often felt (in my younger single days) that I was the one that had to dumb myself down as the men were intimidated by me! My, how the tide turns. All I can say is thank goodness I'm not single!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Dont know...but its perhaps an age thing??Alot of younger folks are so consumed with themselves that they have lost the art of the verbal banter.Myself....I love it...its what turns me on more than anything!Dumb does nothing for me at all.Just my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
i dont know any female who is intimidated by wit and intelligence.makes for a better experience if u can hold a decent conversation and fuck well.maybe u should stop trying to hit up the dead shit women on here. just a thought..
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well no. I appreciate intelligence and wit. I don't spend my whole time fucking, so some good conversation would be appreciated between the breaks. I can't stand it when people pretend to be dumb just to attract the opposite sex. I've known a lot of women who were doing doctorates act like the biggest bimbos when we go out. But it worked, they had guys flocking to them. Perhaps I'm envious of the attention, but I can't make myself pretend to be something I'm not just to get attention. So the same could be said for intelligent women. I noticed when I go out with my specs (the illusion of intelligence), I'm pretty much non existent in the male radar. But without the specs I get hit on.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I love a woman in specs. It reminds me of my high school english teacher... she used to wear tight little miniskirts (it was the '70's) and sit on her desk and then Sharon Stone me. Of course, every lad there thought she was directing her attention at them... but hey... all the boys payed attention in her classes and sucked up to her for more. She had us all under complete control. In any case, glasses on a woman thrill me... and I think that's why. HUgs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gaz, sharon stone....as in no undies under the mini? wow, that would have made for an interesting english class. When I was 13/14, I used to have fantasies about my geography teacher taking me out into the map room at the back of the room and pulling my school uniform up, bending me over the maps and having his way with me. It's amazing how I managed to get straight A's with those thoughts going through my head whenever I was in his class.
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RHP User
16 years ago
lmfao... I've got a map room Casava.. hehe! No, I guess she wore a g-string.. but all of us young guys had great imaginations... and back in the seventies women's beaver was all bush anyway haha. Trouble was when it was time to leave the class... only a few of us could stand up un-noticed... haha. Those pesky random erections always seemed to arrive just as the bell goes. I'm glad I am not a teenager anymore... but I still sometimes get them when travelling on an airplane. I dont know why.. but in any case, I always fly with a large briefcase handy. hehe. Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
yes its true some women do pretend to be dumb so that they dont threaten the male species ego -but the reality is if the woman feels she has to do this in order to impress(or unimpress) as the case maybe she is going to be deadly bored and boring-hardly the start of an open and honest relationship.Most people I know dont bother with this sort of nonsense-who has the time to fuck around pretending to be someone you're not
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RHP User
16 years ago
byronlis69, i think this scenario is more common around my age group, i'd have to agree with MissBJ. I'm thinking the respect values of our general youth don't seem to contain that node of wit and intelligence. Of course youth grow older but it seems these values are sticking into the mid 20's which may be new plaque specific to gen y. I'm thinking this may be cultural and i'm only speaking from experience in Perth. I went to Melbourne and London where there's a totally different overall demographic in regards to this topic, made me consider a move. Here, some people are actually embarrassed to appear intelligent and there are a lot of closet brainiacs lol. I guess in hindsight i make alot of women jump through very subtle IQ hoops to demonstrate intelligence or freethinking rather than just repeatedly telling me they goto uni.... i guess that can be deemed as insulting or degrading to those that can't interpret or explain but for me it's been effective in sifting out posers....common i know you women do this, surely. Comforting to read that wit is not dwindling as quick as Peter Garratts morals anyway. lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think it would be pretty hard to get an accurate assessment of what all or most girls are/are not intimidated by. Sure, some maybe don't have the brains or wit to keep up their end of the conversation (and that, I guess, goes for guys too) but I'm sure that for an equal amount of girls it may just be that they are not that interested in what's being said or that you aren't coming across as witty and clever (not always as easy as you think in chat) as pointed out above by slowhands. We can't all be witty and clever 24 hours a day, 7 days a week!
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RHP User
16 years ago
What was the question again?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Having come from a grammar school where you needed to pass certain tests to enter, I never really noticed whether girls were intimidated by 'intelligence', which I do not percieve to be the same as wit. Wit to me, is being quick off the mark and funny, which I *think* most girls would appreciate and enjoy, because it means they are going to be in fun company.Now, I couldn't have a relationship without wit, I like bouncing off someone and vice versa, and a little bit of teasing goes a long way to having fun. My ex, and another girl we used to drink with (but not her so much) would often praise my 'intelligence' (i'm not super clever, but I like to think I have a bit about me, I did well at school anyway) whilst putting themselves down, which used to piss me off, because they shouldn't be putting themselves down and I used to correct them or highlight their skills they have that I don't.So, I think people (not just girls) in general, are more likely to be intimidated by intelligence than wit.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I just read what I wrote and it comes across as slightly arrogant, saying I am intelligent. I'm no mensa child, no scientist or whatever, I'm just a little bit more intelligent than average I'd say. The girls in question believe themselves to be thick just because they didn't get good grades at school, well grades aren't everything. Who gives a shit about grades when you can cook a meal for 100 people? People always put themselves down, it's what we do. It's very easy to put ourselves down rather than to praise ourselves, and that is why it's important we praise eachother.
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RHP User
16 years ago
personally, i was stuck with a guy who didnt know how to hold conversation for 7 years, and now that I am back out on the dating/meeting people scene I find it a little intimidating having a conversation with someone a little quicker off the mark than myself. For 7 years i had to 'dumb myself down' just to have a conversation with my ex... now i am looking for something the complete opposite, i need a guy who can stimulate my mind as well as he stimulates other things! I think a guy that can hold an intellegent conversation is the sexiest thing out there!!! A good conversation goes a long way further than looks and even bedroom antics :P If you cant hold a conversation with someone there is no point having a relationship... eventually looks fade, and your left with not a lot if conversation isnt strong!
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RHP User
16 years ago
These perspectives are so interesting... and I have to agree there seems to be a social set that is allergic to brains, intelligence, wit...whatever. I'm a bespectacled woman with letters after my name, an impressive rack and a great sense of humour. I don't necessarily care to go looking for a professor as certainly in my experience, I have encountered many "highly book intelligent" people with the social skills of goldfish. The competition of the wit kicks in and I won't stop till I win. That makes for a very lousy encounter. But someone that can hold a conversation about things they are passionate about,has strong communication skills, knows how to build rapport and keep the spark going in any interaction will get my time, any time! I couldn't care less whether they have any qualifications or not. The brain really is the ultimate sex organ and skillful banter certainly helps push my buttons!
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RHP User
16 years ago
and vice versa, i'm a really intellegent girl, and i find that men stick me in a "nerd" box because i'm not cute and giggly..
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RHP User
16 years ago
lol, Britneez .. I bet you can act "cute and giggly" to attract certain types of men but you don't, do you. Absolutely right. You're obviously the catch of the day and yet from the subject of the post, it appears that there are more than a few young guys who really think that it is smart to act like they have no brain... like... as if any of us needs more disadvantage. :p Really I find the concept of this topic rediculous. If anyone has to act like someone they are not to find decent company... well, they need to re-evaluate everything. Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gaz delete your post asap, before your sexy Sophie sees your spelling mistake! I know she's a little anal about these things :) Gee without my wit I would never have snagged my Puppy! She's one smart girl too but grounded and hiding somewhere in that racial mix is a natural blonde who comes out to play some times. It's nice to be well rounded isn't it!
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