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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Have you asked her why she has stopped giving and receiving oral? And if so, what was her response?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Power of the pussy! Women have it and unfortunately once they have you in their grips (married) they will use it once again but in the opposite way they used it to get you before marriage! < This here shows why men look outside marriage! No excuse for not giving head if she doesn't want to receive it! Unless of course her jaw is wired up more than a prison fence! < As in talking to her...sit down with a cuppa or some wine (don't drink too much) and just be open with her...Honestly this should be the easiest thing to do...You do after all...fart in front of her...probably don't spray the toilet after you took a dump and pick your nose in front of her...Why should this be hard? < Just do it! You never know what will come out of it...she may also have problems and not find you sexually attractive anymore either! xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Maybe she found out that you where on here! Either way, sit down with her and have a good honest talk! Pusscat xx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well.... Surely anyone here could only guess. As Funloving suggested, it might be fair to say that she isn't pleased about something you've done or are not doing. If that is the case, then let this be a warning for all women. If you use sex as some kind of reward, and hold back until he does what you want, then he will, ultimately come to the conclusion that it is just as easy to look elsewhere. In fact it really is... and perhaps even less expensive in the long term. Being married is not a ball and chain.. it's not an excuse to take your lover for granted. Take your lover for granted and you will lose them whether you are married or not.What's more... women seem to go through this "I want to find myself" stage. (hopefully not co-inciding with his midlife crisis.. :p) Truth is, we have no idea what that "find myself" means but when they say it... your life will turn to shit. What does that even mean? So many guys around my age have split up with their wives because the wife wants to go out and find themselves... lmfao.... what that usually means is that they want to be cut loose to see if they can find someone "better" but keep you on a string in case they fail. It may be easier for a guy in his 40 somethings to find another lover... for example a younger one who likes the income, accumulated wealth and potential stability that an older dude can sometimes offer over his younger competitors. But those women in their 40's, not the career girls, the mummies... they're going to find it bloody tough while they "find themselves". Mate. In relation to your sexual relationship you could make the sort of comments about being taken for granted to her.. but you could do it in relation to any number of 40 something people you know from work or wherever... and in a way that she hears your opinion on it... and it could help open discussion for you. We're not to know what game is afoot in your relationship but rest assured it certainly sounds like one. You would know better than us.. if you think not, then maybe you could suggest that she see a doctor about that waining libido. Let's face it, that's also a distinct possibility... and it could be a physical condition rather than any problem in your marriage, or for failing to put the toilet seat down.HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I'd love to help and come up with an answer but really who can really know except her? Is it so hard to just ask her?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'stalky' Well.... Surely anyone here could only guess. As Funloving suggested, it might be fair to say that she isn't pleased about something you've done or are not doing. If that is the case, then let this be a warning for all women. If you use sex as some kind of reward, and hold back until he does what you want, then he will, ultimately come to the conclusion that it is just as easy to look elsewhere. In fact it really is... and perhaps even less expensive in the long term. Being married is not a ball and chain.. it's not an excuse to take your lover for granted. Take your lover for granted and you will lose them whether you are married or not......the women of RedHotPie ....lol

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Morticiaaa' Have you asked her why she has stopped giving and receiving oral? And if so, what was her response? I agree with Moriciaaa here, asking her would seem the obvious first port of call. Please though, when you are discussing this, or anything else of a sexual nature - don't put her in a position where she feels she needs to be defensive. This will completely negate all you are trying to achieve. There could be any number of reasons why she is not interested in oral sex at the moment - and I stress, at the moment. Women are subject to hormonal changes, feelings of inadequacy, stress, and on the list goes, which could in fact, be impairing her sexual pleasure responses. The key to anything in a marriage is communication - so talk, but do it in a loving way, where she feels supported and safe to expose her worries, fears and concerns. As for introducing new sexual practices into the equation - that's great, but deal with her first - if you add this into the mix whilst having the first part of the conversation, she may well feel you had an agenda the whole time and your 'concern' will rapidly be seen as nothing more than self serving. Just some advice from a long term married gal but I hope it may be of some help.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  When she / he stops the little things that keep a sex life simmering. its time to have a good look at yourself and your partner's needs or face the consequences.. I agree with xFunlovingx.. women will use thier pussie to lure you then once they have you in their grips they can use it to absloutely sink you. If this is the case I can see definate grounds for your interest to wane and your mind to wander. Not saying this is what you should do, but if your wife refuses to reconize the importance of keeping a your sex life a lil more stimulating, or, is just not interested, I can see a man looking outside the relationship for what ever is missing. This I feel is one of the main reasons relationships deteriate. Ignorance and selfishness.. Just my thoughts.. Mr JJ

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Morticiaaa' Quoting 'stalky' Well.... Surely anyone here could only guess. As Funloving suggested, it might be fair to say that she isn't pleased about something you've done or are not doing. If that is the case, then let this be a warning for all women. If you use sex as some kind of reward, and hold back until he does what you want, then he will, ultimately come to the conclusion that it is just as easy to look elsewhere. In fact it really is... and perhaps even less expensive in the long term. Being married is not a ball and chain.. it's not an excuse to take your lover for granted. Take your lover for granted and you will lose them whether you are married or not......the women of RedHotPie ....lol hehe.... Yeah I know.. how ridiculous.. as if the women of RHP could hold back.. :p I can see them now kneeling there, dressed in their finest nunnery outfits with remote controlled vibrators fitted discretely below their habits.. the controllers for which are randomly distributed amongst the dearly devoted. :p HUgsStalky

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