Going drinking alone

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Go for it. Never know, may find yourself another drinking buddy. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Keep going out to the local if it feels comfortable...but budget for the taxi to there and home. It's worth it. I have gone out for a drink by myself before, many times, but not any more..except when I'm travelling alone. I'm quite comfortable in my skin anywhere, these days...I don't feel the need for drinking company anymore. Maybe I've gotten lazy. Or confident. It's like drinking alone. By myself. Is it a bad thing? Shit no! Don't fall for that lie. Most of us are alone most of the time. It's nice to have a friend to share a drink with...but not really essential. Don't worry about it.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  you're comfortable going out by yourself, then just do it. I never go out drinking by myself. What am I saying, I don't go out at all 😜 I totally get the need to go out though. I've been feeling lonely lately. Not that I want or need lots of people around me, but I'm now wanting a soul mate, someone to dissolve into, lose my heart to. You can be in a packed bar or busy public place, a function maybe where you know people, but still be lonely. I thought I'd found my soul mate, or at least early signs were good, but alas I wasn't what he was wanting, and feedback was in relation to our incompatibility, vanilla vs promiscuous lol I would have given it all up for him. I_touch would have retired 😂😂😂 So disappointed, rejection sucks. Sorry, on topic, just before my marriage ended, I was lonely and extremely horny, would go to a bar by myself, during the day, have one drink only, leave music in my ears, sit and think/reflect. Music was my companion, still is, and I didn't want to look desperate, even though I was, so I'd try not to get eye contact with anyone. I rarely get asked out now because of the age difference. If you're happy going out by yourself though, don't even hesitate, just do it and have fun 👍

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  Dryphuz

  8 years ago

  Found out my regular sucks on a saturday, but moved to another before my evening ended. Had some conversation, but nothing spectacular. That being said, nothing to show for it except a depleted bank account and knowing i didn't spend another friday + saturday doing nothing. I'll have to give it a few days to decide if that constitutes worth or fail.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all. If going out and having a drink helps you relax then what's the problem? I do something similar... Head out to some shops I love, get my nails done, have an awesome meal and watch a movie. If I chat to people, then great but the main thing is that I don't feel like the walls at home are closing in.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  To me...... the question isn't about drinking alone...... but being alone. Correct? If so.... the only way to remedy that is by going to places where other people are. (Note though, alone and loneliness are very different things and a lonely person can still feel isolated among a crowd) My take on the question was about company. If you're engaging and interesting, company finds you. If you make people feel happy and good around you, they'll want to stay around you. Most of my friends are home with family much of the times that I'm available so going solo to meet new people who can also be available when I am, is quite common. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  EarthQueen

  8 years ago

  App that has social groups in your local area that go out for drinks, bands etc. I haven't gone out alone for drinks but would consider it for a band. There's nothing wrong with it. It's not easy when all your friends are attached. I like my own company but sometimes I bore myself 😬 Its a great feeling to go out and have an interesting and absorbing (or funny) conversation with someone. Much more fun than sitting home alone. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Don't say "I've been reduced to going out alone" We're all special. And you're taking out a special person for the evening - yourself. Personally, I go out for drinks, a meal or both at least 3 times a month, not always to the same places.If I am interstate for work or vacation, I do the same. Often, if staff realise you're on your own, they will stop for a quick chat.Depending on the type of establishment, staff may offer you a newspaper or magazine to read if they see you're on your own. And as Meander said, people watching can be fun too. Enjoy your nights out - use the time to discover bars you wouldn't normally go to and try different drinks you haven't yet tried - never know what (or who) you mind find.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Last time I went out for drinks alone (date canceled) i didn't let it stop me. I had the best night!!! I was free to meet random people, made new friends then picked up the hottest man 😜 Get out there! You never know, just go with the flow x - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Sawadee

  8 years ago

  Doesn't matter how many ppl are around or how many drinks you have.. If you feel alone it's because your not feeling the mood or the moment. Some time back ' I went to the club solo. I didn't feel it so I drove back home and had a early night.. The next time I went was completely different.. It can be the mood ...

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  ...is neither unusual nor does it make you an alcoholic. I start every day with a big bowl of 4 Weet Bix floating in scotch and don't have a problem. I start every day with a big bowl of 4 Weet Bix floating in scotch and don't have a problem. I start every day with a big bowl of 4 Weet Bix floating in scotch and don't have a problem. My memory is a bit clouded and I get confused easily but I'm just fine, thanks! The cool part is seeing the three strangers in the mirror every morning when I try to shave!

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  Dryphuz

  8 years ago

  I'm mainly worried thats its a sign of dependence on alcohol(or at least premises that are alcohol orientated) for meeting new people. I've met tons of interesting strangers at assorted pubs regardless of how much i'm drinking. But other than work or study, where interaction is more a matter of being forced together, i dont meet people anywhere else. And i've never developed any new friends, relationships or picked up at a pub. So i'm also worried i could be missing something about the experience. Its weird... When i stay home i feel l ike i'm missing out, but when i go out i feel like i'm wasting my time... Its an interesting dichotomy.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  You need to know, and feel, the difference between the two. There is a stigma about going out by yourself, as if that means you have no friends and are a loser. This is completely false, of course. If you can't abide Your Own company, how will anyone else? I travel lots, which means being on a foreign country where I definitely don't know anyone. If I didn't go out alone then I would have very dull trips! Take a book (and as a bonus, many women find guys reading books sexy!), do some writing, go people watching, or sit there and let your mind wander. Or try striking up a conversation with some random dude at the bar. Sure, sometimes the mood just isn't there, but if you start the night with that negative mindset it will never get better from there. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I do things and go to many places alone, holidays, even a 5 star restaurant once. But general going out to said drinking venues alone, especially as I don't drink much anyway or at all, I tend to look a little like a lost puppy. Except actual lost puppies get attention :p People come off more as a "no friends Nigel". Or perhaps I'm too self conscious, I'd prefer at least someone I know to go out with, or mix with a group of strangers with a known and shared common interest (eg singles night). - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I love to go out for a few beers with friends but equally love going on my own. I'm a little bit different in that if I go alone it's because I want to be alone, if that makes sense. There is a great bar on the main drag of town here, has a great shaded verandah that looks out over the world passing by. It really is quite glorious to sit by myself, sip away on a beer and people-watch. I very much love people-watching. I couldn't go to a pub where there wasn't something to look at though, and I don't count televisions as something to look at. I get the odd tosser who decides I must be lonely and I just really need his company, but I think they are the lonely ones not me. I have got the polite dismissal pretty much down these days ("sorry mate, I'm not really interested in conversation - just here to have a couple of quiet ones''), I have just put up with way too many pointless one-sided conversations (they usually want to whinge about something or other), basically copping an ear-bashing, out of politeness. It's something that not a lot of people can do, just going somewhere by yourself and being comfortable with doing so. Going to the movies by yourself is another unpopular pleasure. Most people just can't do it.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I love drinking alone, maybe once a year if that I'll go to a bar where Im not known (not that hard) and sit down for some craft beer and me time. Funny thing is I'm never alone for long, and you know, a deep chat with a perfect stranger is great therapy.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I find myself a nice little spot in the corner and watch people, and commenting on these forums...I find it incredibly painful meeting new people(for their sake) and I end up feeling sorry for them and heading home with some roadies... Then again, I could be taking a shit and commenting on these forums too lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Dryphuz

  8 years ago

  i believe i will be going out alone again. There's nothing else to do and my Masters is killing me. Why does no one else speak english beyond bachelors level. I cant understand them and they cant understand me, but my grades depend entirely on our ability to collaborate. Sometimes i just want to stand up and yell at them "English mother fucker! Do you speak it?!" Only they dont so their response will be A) Unintelligible and B)The answer to an entirely different question. This time my intent is definitely going to be getting drunk. Being sober enough to drive is just not going to cut it after the last 2 weeks.

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