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Has RHP taken over your life?
January 23 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have noticed over the last couple of years that some forum peeps are quite prolific. When is too much too much? When it stifles other opinions..At what point do you think that forum posting is an addiction? - 3000 or 4000, posts every year? Addiction is not such an easy thing to diagnose, lol. I'm still here though I post a lot less than I used to. I feel like that makes it an addiction on some level. :-).Has this addiction negatively affected your life? No. :-).Has your compulsion interfered with your daily responsibilities? I am reclaiming my life..We have all heard of sex addicts, well what about forum addicts on a sex site? It's not JUST a sex site. I liken it to a site based on sex. Not as much as it used to be when I joined though..Is the forum addict living life vicariously through others experiences, and does the constant posting afford them a position of authority, or one of perceived self aggrandisement ? I can't answer on anyone else's behalf for the first part and disagree on my behalf. For the second part, I would not give the credit of an authoritative stance for no good reason. Peachy
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RHP User
10 years ago
On the contrary, RHP has helped me enrich a part of my life that had lain dormant before. Do I spend too much time on forums? I guess some people might argue yes - whatever. I'm not on the forums to the exclusion of anything worthwhile in my life. I still spend time parenting, working, catching up with family and friends, going out, studying, etc. Since I've been on RHP though, some of that catching up with friends takes place on the forums, or via message or chat. I am loving my life more contentedly and more fully now than I even have in my life before - RHP has added to that, I think, rather than interfering or detracting from it. I can't speak for everyone though, that's just my experience (and I am sure that there are people who would tell me that I need to get off here, and stop having an opinion about everything! 😉) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Forus1234
10 years ago
We have been members for over 3 years now & it's fair to say, we aren't addicted to Rhp, but it's more something we enjoy. We log in each day to clear messages/flirts.We scroll through the forums & may respond to some posts if we find them interesting, avoid the ones that are in conflict, but tend to 'like' more when they are humorous these days. We may see who's viewed us & have a sneaky perve of their photos. To be honest, if you can park Rhp, for reasons such as travel, family , health, when needed, it's not addictive. We have found the balance & enjoy it! Most of the time when logged in, we are doing other things, like having sex ha ha! We can't believe this site is blocked, when you try to log in at Dubai or the airport in Abu Dhabi, really strict about sexual things there! We were worried at one stage if they found lingerie in the bag, what they would do! On a lighter note, circumstances can prevent you from being able to log on. We find, if we're busy with other everyday things in life, we don't really think about it!
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RHP User
10 years ago
do you want to go dancing- suredrink lot's of alcohol and get drunk- suresmoke cigarettes - alwaysmake passionate love - fuckbest pleasures in the world - heylets have them all - all of them - or pick when is to much to much ?- when you decide -... choose exit ...
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
RHP has taught me so much about myself, about others, it's showed me things I never dreamed of. It allowed me to find the true me, helped me experience amazing things, took me on an adventures, introduced me to some truely beautiful people, ok and some extremely weird ones too. I've slowed right down in the last 10 months, concentrating on things that needed my attention more, but I'm still here, still reading forums, still catch up with a few people, still checking my messages and still enjoying it. So has RHP taken over my life? NO, I rule my life and I just enjoying RHP being in it. 💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
I call myself a forum tragic. Im here every day. I dont have to but I choose to.But if others think I post too often, not my issue really.Ive met quite a few posters at the m&g so there are some friendships in real life that were formed. Being single with a grown family, I dont have as much responsability as perhaps a married couple do. I love sharing my limited knowledge on many diverse subjects and questions that are shared on here.So if that makes me come across as a forum addict to other posters or the lurkers who just read it, so be it. Learnt a lot more than Ive shared. And its more entertaining than watching the idiot box.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' I coined the term foraholic, I guess that says it all. Besides, without my dedicated followers on here I'd have no sense of self worth whatsoever. I'd like to thank all my fans, without you I'm nothing x ....Your welcome. I accept all major credit cards or direct deposits to my nominated account...
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cleopatrababe
10 years ago
My life has been enriched by the forum...ive learnt about so many things and its helped me a great deal in my life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't have a point of reference for what's a lot, or not, of posts in a year....but I would imagine that's quite an individual scorecard. Once a day might seem like a lot to one person...and so on.I think that most forms of social media...whether it's Fb, ADVrider or RHP...are healthy( because social interaction IS healthy ) when used in moderation.It's the same principle as our food diet.But, like many things, it's that "moderation" bit that's a grey area, I think. And just like real life...individual ego's come into play just the same. That's why I always harp on about this being no different to interacting in the real world....only in the real world we hide out in the open, behind a smiling face. Here, we hide behind our screens...distance and lack of visual cues giving many false confidence, no doubt.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hello 😘 I think RHP is like any other community in your life... It is a support network, almost a chosen family. You put in what you get out and everyone has different personality types so participate in different ways. It is the regular posters who hold the forum community together. They are the extroverts who put themselves out there bravely but really support each other and provide the skeleton of the forum for everyone else to participate in. Whether I'm an addict? I think it's just one of the myriad of communities I participate in- I always like to know what everyone is up to and to see how they grow. I don't think it's a question of addiction. Best regards, Xxviolet
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
LOL.What is the difference between a prolific forum poster and a forum poster that makes it a mission to have a crack at one or a few of those prolific posters.The former is a generally positive, the latter a generally negative................. Well yes I am one of the former.Am I addicted?YesHas it affected my life?Fuck yesChanged it totally for the betterIt has allowed me to find myselfAnd allowed me to find some awesome friendsA big positive experience Annie
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RHP User
10 years ago
With our kids grown (2 are still at home LOL) we have been able to find more time for ourselves ....and RHP has been the vehicle to provide us with experiences we might have struggled to find otherwise....the forums have also enabled us to connect with a number of people through emails, events and meet and greets - most have been positive experiences and its nice to say regardless of the adult lifestyle, we have met some really nice genuine people who have helped us to look outside the box, learn, grow and experience - we would not say that we are addicted as such but here in general terms, to continue to learn and connect.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I postTherefore I am.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hmm... I'm really new to RHP and this forum has been a nice distraction of sorts. I come from a rather conservative background and whilst growing up, my family and my society has always imposed "goody-two-shoes" values and expectations on me. However, I am currently taking the bold, massive step of challenging these morals, culture, etc. I am learning to let go and live free and embrace changes but it's not easy to turn your back on values that I have grown up with. Lots of you here probably never had to deal with this sort of struggle, and being here, reading others' thoughts and opinions, is a way of egging myself on towards an astounding paradigm shift. It's a scanty medium of enjoying that little bit of camaraderie as I venture forth. ;) I am not addicted to this forum because I am able to stay away for days when the daily grind of work stress takes its toll.
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RHP User
10 years ago
When you decline to go out with friends because you'd rather be in forums, or you're in forums via mobile device while out with friends or family. Posting in forums can be great therapy for some as well as a social outlet from the comfort of your own home. I've made some friends in here. At what point is it an addiction? When you can't get through a day without at least peaking in here (I guess that makes me a forum addict these days). It hasn't effected my life in a negative way, nor does it interfere with my life. There are times to pay attention to what's going on in your "real world" and there are times when you're not neglecting anyone or anything by stepping into the "forum world". If you know the difference between the two, you're balancing well. I don't see RHP as a sex site. Not all interactions I have in here are sexual.
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RHP User
10 years ago
RHP for me is just another part in my life. I came here as my social life had gone very stale. I cannot say that has improved really as I have met very few people but the forums are a small form of socialising for me, maybe an upgraded kind of people watching . Because I came here more for a social side than sexual (though that is a bonus) and it so hard to assess personalities through profile searching I find the forums a great way of seeing who people are. That said I occasionally log in as I read the forums daily and add to the threads if something grabs me, whether through my day or reading something on the forum. So I would say no, I am not addicted.
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RHP User
10 years ago
... glad that you are here for a similar reason - people watching and as an extension to a social life. My social circles tend to be of a certain type and I suppose I do have a more eclectic and wild side that draws me to this site. I don't think most of my friends will believe nor accept that I belong to a site like RHP! Hehe! I am toeing the fine line that divides the Madonna and the Whore and I think I am mature enough to finally come to terms with the fact that this is who I am, the Virginal Slut. LOL!!! :P
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Her post/synopsis resonated with me and encapsulated ( like that one?)my thinking. The forums without the regulars with the degree of familiarity, would be like a movie where every scene starred different actors each time. Be hard to relate to the movie. Hope that makes sense......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mind if I ask you, do you always post with your female persona or does the male side get a word in? Haha. Typical female traite of talking too much. But serious question there.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
I am definitely more female these days from when i came out so to speak. Going from male dominant to female dominate over the last 18 months. I dont want to lose my male side. He's there. Just ask my gf. When he fires up, big diff and she saw that and she was both shocked and pleasantly surprised at the time. Think she likes the both sides, the male with a bit of grunt. Lol. But in answer to the question its just the female. If i allowed him in here I'd lose my instant posting....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think, like anything on here, it is really not advisable to generalise. We have all sorts of regulars with some knowing each other better than others. Some Regulars cop flack regularly because people don't like the way they say things, or place interpretations they really can have no idea about. Some see themselves as knowledgeable but reveal themselves as simply people who jump to conclusions. The lack of open minds stifles open conversation on kinks. Innocent before guilty seems to be the last thing on people's minds. And there are expectations of all sorts by the regulars... including that people should behave the way the majority approve of. I'm only a teeny, tiny part of the skeleton that puts myself out there, lol. But not one of the crowd..Peachy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've just started to get into this and finding very helpful, I'm becoming addicted lol I can't believe I know so little but at least I'm learning from it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
10 years ago
Sometimes... But I wouldn't have it any other way. Have made some great friends here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' And there are expectations of all sorts by the regulars... including that people should behave the way the majority approve of. hey, I'm a regular (I think... am I considered a regular?? quick, someone validate me, aaggggh). When you say "behave" do you just mean "behave" (e.g. be nice) or did you mean something more along the lines of think/post in a way that goes with the perceived grain/groupthink? I have some basic expectations of how people should behave in here - the golden rule is pretty much "don't be an asshat". I wish there was also the "be logical, and if not, admit that you're not trying to be logical" rule. I also wish there was a "don't be a baby" rule, for times when people make statements/claims in threads then refuse to engage with anyone who disagrees. I often have an issue with majority views on here, they frequently lack solid reason IMO - and it's more interesting to examine the inconsistencies in viewpoints.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
You are a regular. You've arrived at the hotel.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' without my dedicated followers on here I'd have no sense of self worth whatsoever. I'd like to thank all my fans, without you I'm nothing x I haven't been on the forums for a bit, too busy during the school holidays! Nothing has changed though, good and bad. Agree with what BettySullivan said!
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RHP User
10 years ago
No I'm not addicted to the forums , check every couple of days fun viewing But a big but I wouldn't meet with a forum person for coffee as funny as it sounds they would be more focused on the forums than me checking there phone every 5 mins lol Having sex " hey wait a sec need to check what's going on " It's your life forum peeps do what you like none of my business just stay happy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bahahaha you make it sound like an episode of the love boat :p lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
the best potato chips ever!!!! Lmfao - Posted from rhpmobile
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