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Has porn sparked your sex fetishes and desensitized you?
March 10 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting points you've made there Curious... I tend to take a break from it every now and then, i like to keep the minds imagination active.. :) G x
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dubbadeez
11 years ago
I never thought about this until now. But if you are constantly exposed to gourmet food then you get used to it, and plain old spag bol is just boring. If you then starve yourself of the gourmet food, then the Spag Bol will start to taste a lot better. Am bordering on gourmet food addiction
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes and no. I do watch porn and yes some extreme stuff it's a fantasy. I do not always try everything I see in porn. I mean do you know how hard it is to find two guys to do a mmf? I know a lot of women would like that, but have not been able to. So the thought does not always become reality. I think we all give our little brain story that we use to tip us over into orgasm , irrespective of the porn. That being said a lot of men rely on porn especially the fifo men. It can affect how they fuck. We cannot all be porn stars ever time we fuck. So if you watch too much of it you may just find you need more and more porn stimulation to get pleasure. You can become disconnected from intumacy, you also flit from woman to woman looking for that extra high. I am also stimulated by knowing men wank over my pictures so I make myself a bit of a porn star. I found my kink I guess by watching porn and by being in a sex date sight. In here I have gone further and further into the rabbit hole and yes it stimulates my libido. Like all things in life moderation is the key. - Posted from rhpmobile
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CompersionCouple
11 years ago
Porn has sparked my sexual fetishes but there r some themes that I will never b desensitised to. I believe it all about balance. I love 3somes, gang bangs, bukkake & I've been lucky enough to experience role play gang rape. Heaven. This doesn't mean that I don't love the warm intimacy between just me & my man. It also does mean I want some randoms taking a shit on my chest like in some extreme fetish porn or get into sex with animals . - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
It can. Don't do much Porn because of that reason. It gives you scenarios that are not always realistic and can fuck up your reality. Best to keep it close to real. Problem with fantasies is that once achieved, they no longer get your mind aroused in the same way. Keeping it real allows you to enjoy your playmate for what they are, not what you wish they were. Good old fashion passion will always lead the way to mind blowing sessions especially when there is a connection to be explored.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have tried to watch porn,but for me it's like watching someone vacuuming..totally boring...I am much more affected by reading erotic stories...and by that I mean well written ones that have a narrative and stimulate my imagination..I do think that porn can affect someone to the point where real women just become a vehicle for the acting out of the porn fetish de jour...we have gone from milfs to gilfs it seems...particularly among the 20-30 year old demographic..to the point where some young men no longer desire women in their age group xx Freys
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've always drawn the line at the GB style porn mentioned, but I don't see it always as objectifying. Nothing past that turns me on, and I still have a strong interest in "couple friendly" porn, watching a couple make love (with all the kissing, stroking and undressing etc), often in an alternative setting like the bath or shower, or outdoors sometimes. I prefer more amateur porn where it at least appears that everyone involved is having a good time, laughing and talking etc. Basically, if the lady isn't enjoying herself, or the men are just trying to serve themselves and not please her, then I'm not interested or turned on. Having done MMF through to GBs now in real life, I can't see it as objectifying considering it is also the fantasy and interest of the female, who in all cases LOVES IT! And even in these scenarios, I am still taking every opportunity to kiss and stroke the lady all over. I can't say it's changed the way I have sex one-on-one, or view women, as I still adore women and still have the normal loving desires for giving and recieving companionship, cuddles, caresses, massages, kisses etc. In other terms, I'm still fully capable of having the kind of sex described as "making love". On a side note, harder porn is often blamed for objectifying women. But why isn't it objectifying men also? After all, they are often reduced to completely anonymous and interchangable penises. Maybe it's my philosophical ways of thinking and questioning that allow me to judge what kind of porn is a realistic achievable fantasy and what isn't. Or maybe it's because I never had sex until later in my life that meant I was mature and educated enough to make these judgements, that maybe those in earlier years (teenagers etc) cannot.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like Freya, I would rather read an erotic story, although I would watch it with a lover. It has buggered up a guy I know who would rather watch porn than actually have sex. It can certainly spice things up, but too much too often might lead to issues later. I can be a cheeky monkey but I don't want to feel like a performing one : ) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Words like "and probably to something even more disgusting after that ?" and "before I would need to think of some dirty fuked up porn scenario in my head" Totally defend your right to state your opinion, totally just sad to read it Everyone has their thing
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RHP User
11 years ago
Porn does your head in.. Like you (Curious 68) I prefer the intimate sense of touch . Porn excitement becomes too artificial where interaction with a real live woman is far more recactive.. When I go down on a woman I enjoy the bucking and squirming , you cant get that by just watching... Jay
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RHP User
11 years ago
the fakeness of it all. Unrealisitic, bullshit moaning, pain masked by groaning, watching a face go from 'yeah whatever' to 'oh yeah baby' as the camera moves to her face. I prefer to watch some mutual satisfaction. In saying that though the production companies seem to be taking it all on board and becoming more female friendly now. As I order it all for my work, I see a lot more categorised fetishes and fantasies coming out and more couple style porn that isn't revolved around a stupid storyline.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We all like different things OP, and as long as we're talking about consensual acts between adults, who are we to decide what's disgusting or fucked up?You say in your profile you're open minded, but frankly to me your post sounds very judgmental. To answer the question: Porn (and an adventurous lover) got me into DP. I didn't even know it was a menu option until I joined this site! (Not a fan of American porn generally, give me the much more sensual and female-friendly European stuff any day.)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I understood precisely where you're coming from.. I know people are different in what it is that rocks their boat as the previous poster alluded to. But that doesn't distract from your experience. That is just as valid as anyone else's point of view... I get the intimacy bit ..
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RHP User
11 years ago
There's no doubt that it can harm a persons sense of reality in that area just as much as some video games just as this site can be addictive anything you derive pleasure from just need a healthy perspective what the hell that is I don't know. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've certainly taken a few hints & tricks- I gave up on porn a few years back now (2). The American stuff was becoming too vile- ridiculous "acting", you can tell it wasn't for pleasure anymore- every girl thinks they're going to be the next Jenna Jameson, stars in their eyes, no substance- blind Freddie could see that. The euro stuff seems a bit more classy, with prettier eastern bloc hotties joining the biz now. Happy to have it playing if the girl requests it, but I don't go searching for it anymore.
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RHP User
11 years ago
....If you would like to make one with me curiousgirl68, I'd be happy to accomodate and film it. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
My post is not judging anything I'm saying that for me I have noticed certain sexual fetishes I had have gone away since quitting porn which has lead me to believe that perhaps porn fucked up my mind a bit and it took me to go dirtier and dirtier everytime I would get sick of one catagory I needed something more hardcore. I still love hot sex and 3sums etc so far from close minded I'm just shocked about how much porn can fuck up your mind and make you desensitized
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RHP User
11 years ago
I really need to take a trip to WA... you guys are the best! ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Everything you come into cotact with in life weather it be touch smell sound sight or even imagination effects you. I like the spag boul analergy mentioned above. There are nicer more erotic productions out there. Pirates xxx is an example. Also try looking out for stuff on the internet from x-art (could be art-x I cant remember rite now) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'curiousgirl68' My post is not judging anything I'm saying that for me I have noticed certain sexual fetishes I had have gone away since quitting porn which has lead me to believe that perhaps porn fucked up my mind a bit and it took me to go dirtier and dirtier everytime I would get sick of one catagory I needed something more hardcore. I still love hot sex and 3sums etc so far from close minded I'm just shocked about how much porn can fuck up your mind and make you desensitized Whats the kinkiest thing you have ever done? Porn is fantasy and a bit of wank material. You could watch the most filthiest 4 cup scenarios and want a bevy of beauties doing multiple cup cream pies do get you off. Go on tell us what 3some hot sex is Missy. I could never do narcissism sex. Thats disgusting and fucked up.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes porn has stimulated my fantasies and things that I never would have thought would turn me on, surprisingly do. Things I never even knew existed. However, nothing can be better than a bit of sensual vanilla sex with someone you love or have a great connection with. Otherwise for randoms....... yep, has to be wild group sex or I am bored.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had never heard of narcissism porn before, but that's probably the term I'd use for most American porn I've seen. The "Yeah, bitch, suck me harder!" stuff where it's all taking and no giving.
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