Has the lifestyle improved your life beyond the 'bedroom'

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Absolutely

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  I've had to learn to communicate better. To ask questions because people like that. All the things I've never bothered to do with communication I am now learning to do at a rapid rate of knots. Yes diet and lifestyle is a big thing though mine was good. I'm probbly now more diligent with tidiness.. Lots of little things really

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Ive always tried to be healthy and make the best of myself, that hasnt changed. It has given me a lot more confidence, and a circle of friends I love and appreciate.

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Yes I have found that there is an expectation that if you don’t take care of yourself both physically and mentally “in the lifestyle” then you don’t stand out at all. I would lean towards physical as the primary driver for first impressions. I feel this is a bigger challenge for men then for women due to the sheer numbers of men on this site versus women. I am sure this will be argued at great length. The additional challenge for men is that most women will only meet with those that tick all of theirs needs without compromise which is totally their right and choice, where men will meet even if only some needs are met. This adds to the pressure for men to stand out. The odds of successfully meeting here are around 2,000,000 to 1 for men and pretty even odds for women, but when you add on most womens need not to compromise this will lift these odds to around 50:1. To cope with this you need to have the most refined resilience. I feel this is the top frustration and failure point for most men and can create mental health issues on sites like RHP if not kept in check. This is a double edge sword and can create fantastic skills but can at the same time create great dismay if not totally controlled and measured by the individual.

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  Flirty2020

  3 years ago

  We have met a few nice people, through this site, over the years. A few of which we have become very close & good friends with. For us that is a positive as we knew no one when we arrived in Australia and it feels good to have made some close friends who have welcomed us into their home and their lives.

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  nightingale8

  3 years ago

  I don’t know. Has it? 🤣 Fancy meeting you here 🥰

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  FeistyFatty

  3 years ago

  Can't say I agree totally with your summation OP. We've been together since we were 13 and I don't think thats made us "let ourselves go" (so to speak). Swinging hasn't made me want to get a gym membership or push my wine and steak to the side lol. Has made me more self aware and empowered to be ME... as is🤷 Being active in the Lifestyle for many years has definitely improved our communication skills and made no topic taboo. This includes with our kids that we're completely open and honest with. Hoping to send some enlightened/open minded humans out into the big world lol. The friendships we've made have been so special well. Has been a fantastic community to be a part of.

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  JohnAnn2227

  3 years ago

  Hi, We stumbled into the lifestyle in our early 20s (before we got married) and feel it has been so beneficial to our marriage. We do not have jealousy in our relationship, can be open about anything we are feeling or desire without fear and communicate well together and with others. We seem to be in synch on an emotional level as well. I agree with the fitness benefits as both of us always want to look attractive for each other and our playmates. Having so much regular sex is certainly a great way to burn carbs! The lifestyle has also blessed us with some of our closest and dearest friends. Our kids would have different god parents if we hadn't been in the lifestyle. Without swinging I probably would not have realised that I was bisexual let alone have the opportunity to enjoy and explore it. By no means are we saying that every couple would benefit from swinging as it would destroy many marriages. For us though it has been a blessing. Has it been all smooth sailing? Hell no! We have had dud dates, near fights when drunken husbands became jealous, lost vanilla friends who found out, been caught out on dates by parents of our kids' friends' and been caught at parties by work colleagues. But hey, life was meant to be an adventure.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  3 years ago

  Hello, I don't agree with your statement about vanilla couples who let things go. Anyone in the wrong frame of mind can "let themselves go". IMO: I believe it's not the "lifestyle" as such. Endorphins play a large part to help relieve pain, reduce stress and improve a person's sense of overall health and well-being. Ms Foxy

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  MrMrsSmithAu

  3 years ago

  Complely agree. Much more aware of others perceptions than my partners (sorry partner).

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  My fitness has allowed me to do things women half my age can't. Helps being an instructor too. Being at a mature age I'm very comfortable with my sexuality because I have confidence with what my body can and can't do. Looking after my health also reverses the aging process.

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Cool topic, I've really tried to think of something that supports your premise but it's really a no from me. In the bedroom, absolutely but out of it, not really

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