M42
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October 22 2008
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bondage_reality
17 years ago
Get a new girlfriend LOL
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RHP User
17 years ago
Firstly you need to work out whether you want to be with your girlfriend long term or not and whether its worth screwing it up for several pieces of ass lol Then make your decision from there. We all want to have our cake and eat it...but its not always possible. Best of Luck
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RHP User
17 years ago
Does your girlie know!!! Most people in this scene are honest and won't want to be involved with someone who is "cheating."
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RHP User
17 years ago
Your gf isn't interested, but does she minf if you get into it? This makes a difference - if she doesn't mind you could maybe look at swingers clubs that have single male sessions - I didn't look at where you are from, but I think Lotus Lounge in Syd has sessions on some Sunday afternoons when single males can attend. If your gf isn't happy for you to participate, but you want to anyway, you might want to try something a bit more private - look at the events listed on RHP, make contacts through hot chat, build up r'ships and trust, and play discreetly. For me, I wanted to do a few things my partner wasn't into and ultimately we agreed to have an open relationship - I personally couldn't have cheated, not my thing - but each to their own. Good luck with it :)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Gaz, I usually enjoy what you and agree with what you have to say but babe, we live in a patriarchal society. Read Damned Whores and God's Police. If women do enjoy sex and multiple partners, for many, many years they have been castigated and labelled. Overall women and men have been sexually repressed by the dictate of the monotheistic religions that are ruled by men. Notions of women as property too have impeded women in their sexual expression. Look at some of the goddess based religions babe and you will see that respectful mutual pleasure is their belief, whether that be with one or many. TruthBTold, you probably won't change her mind so maybe you do need to look at being honest with her and honouring your own true nature, even if that means letting her go. Good luck Wild
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RHP User
17 years ago
Our MATRIACHAL society would have it this way??? HUH?????
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RHP User
17 years ago
are you nuts you have a chick who is whilling to have sex you and only you not anyone else
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RHP User
17 years ago
I totally agree with you bailey21c! I have been single my whole life (nearly 27 + 1/2 yrs!) and I'm desperate for a proper relationship! So many guys out there are living life like me... getting laid occasionally... but never with any meaning... even suffering depression from that empty feeling.. But you... You have a girl who loves you in every aspect of a relationship... Willing to have sex with you on a regular basis... From my point of view: Wake up mate - You're a lucky guy... don't throw it away by sleeping with some random partner just for a one-off experience! In the end, it's your choice... but there's my 2 cents phantomcs
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RHP User
17 years ago
I totally agree with you bailey21c! I have been single my whole life (nearly 27 + 1/2 yrs!) and I'm desperate for a proper relationship! So many guys out there are living life like me... getting laid occasionally... but never with any meaning... even suffering depression from that empty feeling.. But you... You have a girl who loves you in every aspect of a relationship... Willing to have sex with you on a regular basis... From my point of view: Wake up mate - You're a lucky guy... don't throw it away by sleeping with some random partner just for a one-off experience! In the end, it's your choice... but there's my 2 cents phantomcs
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RHP User
17 years ago
Hey TruthBTold, If you really think that the group scene is the place for you then there is either a hard decision to be made like break it off with your gf (its better than cheating on her) or tell her that the group thing is what you want to do and see if she lets you go it alone or the other thing if you gf is the girl you can see yourself with for the rest of your life, then its time to slowly help her see that what you want is not such a bad thing, though this takes time, understanding, patience, and trust. now if you see that she is the one for you you need to start to let her have a new outlook on sex. You see most women say no to swinging and the group thing because they think its just the guys way of being able to get his rocks off with another woman and often it is! so if you truely want to embrace the lifestyle you will have to be open to her having sex with other guys, are you open to that? If you are then its relatively easy to help your gf have a different outlook on sex and swinging but it takes time. start by playing with sex toys and joking around that its another guys cock, slowly taking it a step further over time like blindfolding her and verbalising to her that the toy is a friend of your all of this play will help her to develop fantasies and ever so slowly open her mind to the ideas of group action. well this is just a start and there are so many things you can do to help her become more open sexually, the important thing is to let her know how much you love her and alway work to build her confidence, never knock her or say things that will lower her confidence in general. its a slow process but most rewarding when the woman of your dreams (your gf) is just as open sexually as you are. all the best.
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RHP User
17 years ago
thinking outside the box. hook up with a surrogate swinger partner from RHP so you don't have to go as a single. get cracking on that new profile now. LRE (d'bono)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Okay being non-judgemental lets think about this logically. As I see it you've got 2 choices; either stick with the gf or find a new one. Assuming you go with the first option and stick with the gf, your next choice comes down to either leading the gf to the group sex scene (as mentioned above, which may or may not work) or give up on the idea. Only you can choose, or maybe the gf will choose for you. All very locical but then logic rarely has anything to do with a relationship.
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RHP User
17 years ago
therefore truthBTold maybe you should first cheat and try out what it is you want to experience.... get it out of your system fast.... so many variants in group sex.....true you are very lucky... I would say your girlfriend loves you very much... seek no strings fun groups first and foremost....astralwalker
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RHP User
17 years ago
Seriously, thanks everyone for your contributions, am amazed by the response! lets_try30, I think ur right. Think i need to get her more comfortable with sex generally to be honest. Am the first to tell her I'm keen for whatever she wants to try cept may need to help her get more creative. Haha and Gazman u hornbag, ur right about not denying my inner slut - although if my plan A doesn't work I will have to cross that bridge when I get to it. Just don't wanna risk throwing away an awesome girl cause she wont get her freak on :P Your all awesome!
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