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Help please!! Have trouble getting hard / premature ejaculation
September 08 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
get some! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mate, you're not alone...... there have been times when I've blown without even getting hard.... As an older guy, I've come to realise that sex is becoming more of a mental thing than when I was younger. I suppose it's the fact that as we mature our testosterone levels start to drop off.... But also stress, lack of sleep, drugs and alcohol can all effect us..... are you fit and healthy? I've noticed an improvement wince I started exercising more..... So the first thing, I'd suggest is take yourself off to the Dr to make sure that there is not something else happening which is triggering this issue for you.... Another thought is this thing can easily become a self fulfilling prophesy. As in, when it happens for the first time, it comes as a bit of a surprise, then you start worrying about it and before long, you've actually trained yourself to not get hard. (well that's my theory). But the mind is an amazing thing.... So, how about trying some viagra to get you back into the swing of things, provided your woman/women are supportive then I'm sure this is only a temporary thing....
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
to talk to your doctor regarding your options. Should be your first port of call to check your physical well being and then if that all good, work on the mental application side of things. Could be either or both. But you need to get the GP's tick first. And thanks for your honesty in the forum. Not easy to put yourself out there with problems like this. Good luck Annie
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RHP User
10 years ago
get off the cigggies for a start. Makes a big difference
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RHP User
10 years ago
As Annie said first stop definitely docs. But one has to consider lifestyle has it changed as you got older. Your diet consumption of drugs (yes that includes cigarettes and alcohol) and particularly your exercise regime. I do hope it is of that nature so wishing you all the best
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Reading your post i read it in the way that the premature ejaculation issue has arisen since you have trouble getting up. If this is the case it can be due to anxiety and the mind working so hard to perform. With all that going an orgasm can happen very early and often before you get really hard therefore compounding and confusing the original issue. If that is the case you need to relax and take it easy with an understanding partner. Just the way i interpreted that part.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hi, I suggest you go and see the doctor. When you said as you have gotten older I checked your age so at 28 I am going to suggest the erectile issue is medical. It can be many simple things. The premature ejaculation I think in your case can be linked to the other issue. If you are worried about maintaining an erection then that will stress you and result in cuming too soon. LC
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RHP User
10 years ago
Could be a single or many things. Work, Relationship , Alcohol , and of course Mental. If you're worried about what might happen before you start ' you already put pressure on yourself and begin to overthink things. Alcohol can relax you but it can also give you Mydicafloppin.. Think back to better times and how naturally things came.. it can happen again..
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RHP User
10 years ago
May be a catch 22, but you may be depressed. If you can naturally raise your serotonin then this should help ejaculation control, also sildefil, or a blood vessel dilator can help. Get your Testorone tested as well. Sounds like potential low T. it will get better
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RHP User
10 years ago
I did some research where do I get some from? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have had no trouble in this area but I have found with "swinging" the nerves got the better of me at first so I looked at male stimulants to help with those long sessions. I took some herbal stimulants from the sex shop and a couple that introduced me to Cialis the medical prescribed pill. They both get you strong erections and make it so you last a long time before you cum (Too long sometimes) they can make you feel a bit flush so be sure to hydrate alot...drink water and keep drinking it or you will get a headache and feel warm. Also the fitter I am and the better I eat I have found you have more self confidence and that helps raise the flag more than any pill can.
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RHP User
10 years ago
LC has it nailed. Happens to all at some stage of their life. Get it looked at and don't stress it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have a look at your circumstances and try to pin point any changes since you've started having issues. Then of course have a chat to your gp to make sure that all is well. It could be anything from fitness to low testosterone to a bit of anxiety or depression and many things in between. All the best mate
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RHP User
10 years ago
3 words men DO not want too hear.. A dude goes in for a prostate check - after the Doc is said and done he then leaves the room - The nurse then walks in and say's............... Who was that Boom Boom
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