M46
Here is one to chew on!
February 23 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
OK, youve said this has happened a few times.... so, a pattern may be readable...and I dont think its the girls.... or that theyre just too busy to reply. Frustrating, isnt it.Without the privilege of reading your texts (and they can easily drive people away if done incorrectly) ... my view is that you have given too much, too early, and while you consider there was attraction, she wasnt convinced enough to feel that NEED to see you.Why?Firstly..... too much contact.When a commodity becomes rare, it becomes more valuable.Constant texting can drive people crazy, even if it seems that theyre happy to play along.... at first.Plus, there are ways to create that attraction and maintain it via text, but most guys simply dont get it and end up boring women, and even driving them into the Silence Zone. Guys wil usually use one of several "trigger" words that flat out turn women off... and once you've flicked that switch, its off.There is a LOT more that may be at play here, and Im happy to share it in the Man-Cave....... so rather than post it here, feel free to message me for the REAL story.DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Loss of interest can happen for lots of reasons. You might have been a bit tipsy on the night and feel differently later, you might be playing the field and someone else of more interest crops up, you might be horny one day and not the next or you might just get really busy at work. One thing I would suggest though is that you reduce the frequency of post date texting. Women like a little bit of mystique too.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Can equal'''NEXT''.TALK on the phone to organise the next date.Don't make it too far in advance.Turn up on time.Pique her interest,just enough contact ,not too much.Then the rest should take care of itself. DG is on the money here.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have the same issue...Except after the first meet and greet I wait for the guy to contact me...usually it's with in 15mins of me leaving via a text saying "Thanks I had a great time"...then BOOM nothing...sip, zero nothing.. As someone quoted in another Forum about this..." So you have to assume then that they have died although they still seems to log on to RHP each nite without fail Yes the nothing text...... Accompanied by a vanishing act that David Copperfield would be proud of !!!"This is so true...So I see it like this....we are all on this site for something...it's competitive..Who is to say this week I am the girl waiting to hear back from a guy..and then next week I am the girl who's attention he is trying to get..It's a cycle of what happens...it happens to the best of US (both men and women)!!DG is right tho, it's all in the way one communicates...too much is a turn off...too little comes across as uninterested.Women love curiosity...and like Bathsheba quoted "Mystique".The best thing I can say is "What will be, will be - if it's meant to be, will be".keep your chin up..Best of Luck with your future dates.FOXY
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RHP User
13 years ago
"the night progresses well but since its a school night we both need to head home...try a cheeky kiss...succeed...then say something that might suggest I want it to be more than a hug good bye....this ends with a "had fun, we will be in touch!"Do you think she may have felt pressured when you suggested more than a hug goodbye?? Foxy
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RHP User
13 years ago
When you used to word chic. But I'm pretty fickle and have a minute attention span. DG's right.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I find nothing sexier than sexting someone I am looking forward to fucking or someone I have fucked before! My problem is...I have to remember which one I am sexting at the time! The dirtier the better...I love the pussy twinges and heaviness I get in the pit of my pussy where I can't help but play with myself! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
She has had another date or met someone more interesting or hotter in that timeframe. You snooze you loose...lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox' "the night progresses well but since its a school night we both need to head home...try a cheeky kiss...succeed...then say something that might suggest I want it to be more than a hug good bye....this ends with a "had fun, we will be in touch!"Do you think she may have felt pressured when you suggested more than a hug goodbye?? Foxy Ahhh miss foxy.... you're on to something I know with 100% certainty that if I am attracted to someone, have generated attraction within them and wish to escalate things.... .....I ensure the first kiss occurs in the middle of the interaction.... so that theres no perception of "pressure" at the end of the interaction when its far more likely to feel staged or obligatory.And I will do it in such a subtle way that she will want more.DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Though I have to say DG, the thought that you have a 'plan' for when a kiss will occur etc creeps me out a bit - much the same as template emails, too manufactured for my liking ... but I digress. I think you're right about the reasons the women drop out of the communications - too much (frequency, explicitness etc) too soon. Still, if the woman doesn't bother to offer an explanation that's just rude IMO.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Lilmisschuckles' Though I have to say DG, the thought that you have a 'plan' for when a kiss will occur etc creeps me out a bit - Same...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Lilmisschuckles' Though I have to say DG, the thought that you have a 'plan' for when a kiss will occur etc creeps me out a bit - much the same as template emails, too manufactured for my liking ... but I digress.Those points wer'ee always goign to suffer a little in their explanation... as theyre emotional.My point is this..... if Im having fun with a woman, and she is clearly having fun with me, and attraction has been ignited to the point where Im thinking about kissing her.........then, it's time.(Unless she has already moved to kiss me... which happens too)I will not wait until the end of the night, when it will feel obligatory to end the interaction with some form of physical contact that hasnt already taken place.And a template only feels like a template... when no thought has been put into it to specifically personalise it. Personalise it specific to one person, their profile, comments and interests...... and it feels personal.DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' And a template only feels like a template... when no thought has been put into it to specifically personalise it. Personalise it specific to one person, their profile, comments and interests...... and it feels personal. Sounds like my "Thanks, but no thanks" message template. Sure, I enter a name at the top before I hit 'send', and I might even change a word or two to make it feel more personal. But it's still a template. You've been quite open on the forums about pre-determined things you do and say to the women you go out with. By making these 'tactics' public though, don't you think it might make the women who felt special before, feel... Replaceable? Even disposable? What good is a magician if he tells everyone his tricks are just that?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Its OK MissD........ ...any "pre-determined things" said are only as a result of commonalities of conversations that arise.... ..... my personality and intent is always genuine. DGPS.Saying "thanks but no thanks (insert name here)....... is a very different kettle of fish to, say...."Hey (Tiffany) Thanks or your message .... I dont wish to take things further because I am looking for (ABC)... while I notice you are seeking (XYZ). I hope your search in here is an enjoyable one."
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RHP User
13 years ago
hmmm yes maybe you came on a bit strong??? that turns me off, but even so i would send a polite text to say 'sorry you're not my type really'...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don't worry yourself ,life has a way of getting in the way.Don't try and wonder what or if you did anything wrong.If she wants to get in contact i am sure she will.People sometimes need space,im sure this is one of those things.Patience is a virtue ,just be patient and hope for the best.Ms D if i pulled something out of somewhere would that make me a magician?
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RHP User
13 years ago
One last thing if I may. Your: ...any "pre-determined things" said are only as a result of commonalities of conversations that arise...." statement strongly reminded me of another statement you made. Here's me quoting you a while back: (Your original post disappeared along with all your others recently) "I give everyone I meet a nicname... it helps me remember their name too, and creates a bit of a "private joke" effect when texting a new woman." I responded then: Women in your life who are reading this are feeling very special right now... Is giving everyone a nickname for the reasons you mentioned not a tactic that was pre-determined before you even met someone? Not out to attack here, it all just got a little too David Deangelo for me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ok...nicknames are quite commonly used to poke fun at....MissD, here's one of our little "private jokes" that extended from our early communications. If you recall, our little joke is about eating pigeon lol....so as to keep things casual, fun, etc I could be seen as Mr Pigeon to you, not saying you do refer to me as that, however you get my drift.I've known other ladies to use other nicknames to suppress people's true identities for discretion purposes, and a friend of mine would use their cock size.....so Mr 10" was used in conversations that I would have with her, other names she would use is "Mr Roll on" as his was....well you get it I'm sure. It doesn't necessarily mean a man is working any magic, it just means he has a plan to assign you a very individual name that's special to both of you....that make you both smile, or gag, or vomit in your mouth a little, whatever the case maybe.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
OP, do you actually ask her out? Make a definite follow up date? Endless texting is weird and a bit boring if there's not a plan in place. try..."when can I see you next?" or "would you like to go out next Saturday night, I know this fabulous restaurant" then make a date. Pin her down, as it were. Seize the day!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I recon it's a good thing. If she's the sort who's going to feel suffocated by attention, maybe it's for the best? If I'm going to have a relationship with someone (friends, lovers, partners, what ever) I don't want to have to stop and think "Ooops, should I not send this text/make this call, lest she feels crowded?"Do you think "Hmmm, I should not call George as i spoke to him yesterday and he'll feel wierded out" when you're about to call a mate? No. So why should women you have relationships with be any different.It's possible they've just self filtered as high maintenance?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' One last thing if I may. Your: ...any "pre-determined things" said are only as a result of commonalities of conversations that arise...." statement strongly reminded me of another statement you made. Here's me quoting you a while back: (Your original post disappeared along with all your others recently) "I give everyone I meet a nicname... it helps me remember their name too, and creates a bit of a "private joke" effect when texting a new woman." I responded then: Women in your life who are reading this are feeling very special right now... Is giving everyone a nickname for the reasons you mentioned not a tactic that was pre-determined before you even met someone? Not out to attack here, it all just got a little too David Deangelo for me. reading DG's posts, he is rarely wrong or far from the mark although sometimes I think the concepts he espouses are bit more text book than real life.Ms_D I have often wondered what a women's view might be of DG's "tactics" I think if I was a women I would be wondering what is genuine. And perhaps feeling somewhat like a trout on a line !DG, don't stop sharing your insights with us, I am sure many people including myself really appreciate them.I'd just like to see a little more DG.
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RHP User
13 years ago
You missed all the cues....left it too saying goodbye to the kiss and maybe after all the lead up she had her sexy panties on and was hot to go and you say oh well school day tomorrow..........really .......... then a few days of texts and she realises you havent got the gumption/nerve to really pull it off...She doesnt want to be fucked around she wants to be fucked.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Is giving everyone a nickname for the reasons you mentioned not a tactic that was pre-determined before you even met someone? Its great that you ask MissD. (oops...... theres that nickname!)We all have nicknames given to us by different people for different reasons.I do it.... because its fun.You know what that is........ DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
(Apologies to Mr ICM for derailing his topic)THere have been some great answers from women....... I hope you're taking it in!DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
the answer lies within the last txt/email you sent......the one that she didn't reply to.As for working out a better "strategy" or "premeditated" approach - God no.Sometimes people can be so caught up with tactic that they miss the simple pleasures of "going with the flow"
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RHP User
13 years ago
To paraphrase the OP: 2-3 days pass with both helpful posts and people going off topic, Then....BOOM!!!! NOTHING!!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe he became a magician and died???? ~\(^^)/~ Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Who is to say then she's isn't waiting to hear back and the guy is too? Both parties are unsure of the other and want time to process? Then what? Both parties become magicians thinking the other uninterested?? BOOM!!!! NOTHING!!! That sucks.. :-( Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
ICM sent me a messageHe has decided to explore another adult oriented website... feeling that there were more, and more genuine women who responded to him there.DG
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just another opinion.........Women in general absolutely hate hurting any-ones feelings, so when they realise that the initial flirting & fun is all they can give to the other party who wants to take it further, they don't know how to express the fact that plutonic is all it's gonna be......I've asked people i'm gonna meet for the 1st time to tell me str8 up if the thought of kissing me turns you right off, pleez say so and i'll do the same for you, that way no-body's time is wasted and the honesty is appreciated...i don't analyse why or who i'm attracted to or them to me or not, it is what it is...eg: brad pitt leaves me cold, but i reckon dr. phil's a bit of alright, go figure.......cheers to all, R....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hmmmm I think he means that the women on here are a little smarter than he is..... :p
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is only my observation, but I do feel there is sometimes an element of people just wanting/gettig some attention, because of how it makes them feel, so maybe willing to have someone pursue them a little even if they already doubt that they will let it go further, or just haven't made up their mind yet. So you get the hot then cold effect. Obviously I'm not saying this explains all of these situations, but remember there are all types on these sites, and alot of people are craving more attention and the 'confidence' it brings, then they may be getting from the odd times they do go further?- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'robbieDoo'......I've asked people i'm gonna meet for the 1st time to tell me str8 up if the thought of kissing me turns you right off, pleez say so and i'll do the same for you, that way no-body's time is wasted and the honesty is appreciated..This is interesting! I want people be upfront with me, i suck at deciphering subtle body gestures or reading eyes (i'd rather just stare in them if you don't mind)... If more women would just tell me what they're really after, it would put my mind so much more at ease, even if it is a "negatory".
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