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  asiacouple

  10 years ago

  Swinging is a bit like finding a partner... You don't always click with each other... Sexual attraction matters to some people. It takes time to meet people and clubs and get comfy in the scene. Some people just want a quick fuck and bye... others want to get to know each other first... us we like to watch and chat meet with naked people. A nice nervous new couple finally met and played with us after a year of chatting online. I can safely say 9 out of 10 times we meet others, we chat and no sex happens. The time we actually play, it was great fun.

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  jenniecruising

  10 years ago

  We have assisted a few newbies dip their toes and although they are often nervous not knowing who does what first, providing a relaxed, humourous and safe environment works wonders for all involved.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Hi Guys, Thought perhaps it worth sharing one's thoughts on the first time in moving from one on one sex to multiple partners. As much as i had put faith in trusting the couple that i was with to be comfortable with themselves and honest with the communication leading up to the experience, i was not prepared for the thoughts and feelings that arose from the experience once engaged in it. With hindsight i realise that it was my inabilty to express openly what triggers were switched and this then put somewhat a dampner on the experience at first, yet my friends were very understanding and compassionate toward me. So it is so felt that above all else, physical attraction, fantasy over reality and the lust, it is the openness of communication that counts and how comfortable you will feel with that other couple, whether you feel they are being truly open with you and that you both feel to be both honest with yourselves and with the others you choose to engage with. Hope that doesnt sound too simplified or condescending, though merely as an honest share of elements around our physical and sexy natures. All the best, Nathan

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  Andremmo

  10 years ago

  I would recommend going to a party as a way to break the ice. Yes it is an eye-opener but you are free to watch and can choose to play with your partner or not at all without needing to feel any pressure for 'ruining someone else's night'. Then if the mood strikes you, you are able to get involved with someone you personally feel attracted to without needing your partner to feel the same way about their partner. A first meeting with a couple is tricky because it requires 4 people to be aligned, available, keen and brave enough and there is often something that goes wrong.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  An experienced couple would not guarantee a good start. Finding your own way is important too. Learning from each experience as you go. As a couple, you have each other to share the experience and laugh off the bad experiences and bathe in the glow of the good. I think its more daunting when starting off as a single. You are on your own all the way. As a couple, its shared. As they say, the journey is just as important as the destination. Good bad or otherwise, as long as you arrive safe and laugh together along the way. Mr Opal

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  The thing that I find the hardest in navigating this world is dishonesty and it takes many forms. Fake profiles, people pretending to be something their not, people grossly lying on their profile about age and pictures that are so far from the reality of what they actually look like. It wastes people's precious time. It also discourages me from exploring this world further because I am so often let down by these false truths. Bit over it actually. Maybe it's time for an rhp break...... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Hi LauraJackfun, As it has been found in many aspects of interaction with others, there is always scope for others to be motivated to express froma place without openness. Through looking always to be the optimist, it isnt felt so much that individuals are necessarily motivated by the intent to deceive, though more so that their desperation to express has them guarded against disclosing their true self. This i determine from a psychological aspect, along with having examined one's own ways of previously not permitting exactly what is thought or felt to shine through. So don't loose faith you guys, there are genuine souls out there that are comfortable with who they are and where they are, lookimg to continually lead a life that is true to self and which benefits others. Good luck on your quest and may you experience the joy and intimacy you desire. Regards, Nathan

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  QLDtwo4fun

  10 years ago

  And go to some swingers parties. Clubs can be a bit slow as people have often already made plans to mee there. Parties are the way to go. Work out what you are prepared to let/see each other do, and, rather see than the dream couple Match, the work out who you won't go with; that way the field is much bigger. Don't be shy, it's only sex at a party not a long term commitment.

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  JohnAnn2227

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Andremmo' I would recommend going to a party as a way to break the ice. Yes it is an eye-opener but you are free to watch and can choose to play with your partner or not at all without needing to feel any pressure for 'ruining someone else's night'. Then if the mood strikes you, you are able to get involved with someone you personally feel attracted to without needing your partner to feel the same way about their partner. A first meeting with a couple is tricky because it requires 4 people to be aligned, available, keen and brave enough and there is often something that goes wrong. We totally agree with Andremmo. Go to a swing club and then go with the flow. You might decide just to play together in a private room or in a room with other couples. But then you might meet a couple or group that you click with and take the plunge with them. At a club there is a lot less pressure (in our opinion).Ann & John

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  We'll here we go again this is for all the want too be couples that think there just better ...than most there female halves are a size 6. .... in dresses...... there partner's are a size 6 in there jockeys and they are just not willing too venture with others over there sizes. ........ . We are riskier I am a sexy curvy size 14/_16 yes all references too our public gallery ........ my husband is a size well slim super sexy looking 48/ he acts like he is 27 year's old but as mature as enstine with a 8 thick size that fits just right ........? We find that the 93 % of people we have met either female / couples or singles find this intimidating or they just send a flert back saying (( your not for us )) but then when you actually meet them at a club or party they are like manikins y ......would you go there just too stand around at a sexy party mmmmmm........ because we find that there pretenders that think there only for there kind skinny prim proper .......whatever kind that is ooooh yeah the kind of couples that go too all extends but not genuine because there .........just not that in too it . But it's there choice/// too waste time but don't waste others time's ....... they missing out on. ..................mingling meeting having a great time out ... as we know and have met many lovely people on rhp we have found that most couples are all talk ,,,,,,,,despite what there profile says there just aren't cluey about meeting ....... real people or generally easygoing over sized couples because .......... They think by drinking / ......... chilattes / over exrsizes / work professional job's / post hot photos / makes them feel like there .......there part of the SCENE whoohoo doesn't make you any better .?..................... NOW now here's a way you can feel better ................. just be your selves just be genuine just do it for your self YOUR NOT ON A TALENT PROGAME ...........IF YOU WANT TO IMPRESS ANYONE IMPRESS YOUR SELF LATER AFTER YOU HAVE HAD A GRATE NIGHT .........? Oooh don't be a pretender be a contender, you just might make some genuine friend's along the way, ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,i

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Yes party's are nicer places but if the host is not too picky picky. ....just because they think as a host there going too fuck your brain out just because your at there party size doesn't matter as long as you are //////// clean healthy respectfull and take adequate care in your appirance ..... just because some has a good beach pictures or a hot sexy lingerie pictures or a picture of a bulging part doesn't mean they are nice ......?

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Like others mentioned, parties and meets are a great way to meet like minded people. Yes the first couple of times you organize to meet can be nerve wracking and utterly disappointing when you get no shows. But even with experience you'll still get both of those things happening. Getting in with the "crowd" usually involves meets and greets and the best way to find out about private parties is to get out and meet these people on websites like this and I think you will find most people have the same feelings and stories like you do. If you check Events & Clubs section on this website you will quite often find meet & greets advertised there, i'd suggest you have a look at those and see how you both feel about getting out and meeting new people. We've been at it for 5yrs now and still get the nerves and still get no shows but the good times out weigh the bad times :) Good luck guys xx

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