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Hosting our first threesome - etiquette?

February 23 2019

Hi all, We’ve found a third for our for our first threesome, have met him socially and subsequently invited him to our place for our first night together. So, the questions are: * we’re meeting at dinner time - appropriate to offer a meal or finger food with drinks? * how do we transition the vibe from social to sexual? Should we, as the established couple start being sensual then invite him to join at a certain point? Maybe my partner leaves me and the new guy alone for a bit so we can become a bit more tactile and then comes back to join us a threesome? Think that’s it for now. If you guys could help with any tips to make the experience a pleasurable one, we’d be most grateful. Cheers. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Curioustwo88

    Curioustwo88

    7 years ago

    Why don’t you have the conversation about foot with the guy you’ve invited over. We always like to have something. Generally dinner if dinner time otherwise something to nibble on with drinks. As for transitioning I don’t really like to pre plan, I like to go with the flow. I’m sure at some stage the vibe will change or the conversation will flow in that direction. For me that’s half the fun, the anticipation. Good luck. Mrs C Xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Step 1...... meet in a social setting to check if you even like him first You and your partner should have some non verbal signals to allow each other to know what your thoughts are, and which way you want to turn after spending some social time with this potential extra. You can progress, or eject.... based on the outcome of meeting and seeing if the plus 1 is worthy of being intimately involved with you 2 but you and your partner both need to be on the same page with that decision As you eluded to.... If you both decide to proceed.... it can be convenient for the Mr to step out momentarily to the bar/bathroom and create the free airspace to stoke the fire

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    A great starter is for one of you to lead a series of questions such as who do you think will get pleasure out of this? What parts of your body do you find particularly erogenous? And importantly discuss your safe sex and any other boundaries Then perhaps blindfold your lovely lady and invite the other man to help you undress her and touch and kiss her all over Another option is a card game such as spank me

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Boundaries and likes dislikes should be discussed before hand. Meet in a public space so that if chemistry and connection isn’t present in real life then anyone has the options to walk away. As for transitioning do what’s right for you. It’s got to feel comfortable for all of you and this can only be gauged with each person you meet. What works as an opener/transition for one meet doesn’t mean it’ll be effective for the next. We are lol unique and individual and as such need to be approached in this manner.., You’ll work it out on the night what your let’s make the next move is... don’t over think it just let it be natural

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Always discuss boundaries and expectations. That would have to be the 2 most important factors to clarify before meeting anyone. Hope you guys have a memorable night.

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  • lindos

    lindos

    7 years ago

    Once you've finished with dinner you could suggest he takes your wife for a shower, whilst you fix everyone some drinks. Gives them some alone time to get things started. It worked well for us and I enjoyed coming back with the drinks and watching them together in the shower. 😉

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Just let it be natural ,, once everyones comfortable then you really enjoy yourselves. My Husband and myself have enjoyed great evenings with a third wheel. xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Many thanks for the slew of replies everyone :) As posted, we’ve already met the guy who’ll be joining us, and there is ongoing dialogue between us atm. Some great ideas for getting things going - much appreciated. We can’t wait! 🙂

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    We've had some great mmf times and generally just go with the flow with MsRed starting things with a touch or kiss, but loving some of the ideas here. Look forward to hearing more. Great post OP Thanks.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Personally I'm not a fan of a sit down dinner as I find it a barrier and doesn't allow for much flirting and touching. I don't really like to have sex on a full stomach either. I also much prefer finger foods because eating with your hands can be sexy in itself... and you can more easily abandon your food whenever the mood feels right (or take it to bed with you). Maybe while Mr Narrabeen is getting more drinks or snacks from the kitchen, Mrs N could move in for a sneaky lingering kiss? Then when Mr N walks back in, he tells both Mrs N and Mr Third what a turn on the view is? Oh, my...

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  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    7 years ago

    Narrabeen Couple firstly congratulations, how exciting for you both . We’ve found it best not to ‘over think ‘ it with scenarios etc and go with the flow . Let it just happen . As you have already met previously and you don’t have to decide are we going to be attracted etc .. As you are in communication now it’s best to discuss the boundaries and no go zones prior. I ( I’m female ) would wear something sexy , that always helps with the mood . A sneak peak of a garter belt or stocking is always helpful. Snacks and finger food is great with the drinks . I agree with Solitary , dinner is a bit formal and play on a full stomach can be uncomfortable. The way to go is probably is being flirty , tactile and let it happen . You can tease the men that it isn’t at all fair that you are dressed the way you are and they are fully clothed and help them rectify that . Offer a tour of the house ? The tour of course leads to the bedroom . We are very mindful that any guest we have isn’t made to feel like a ‘third wheel ‘and they are not made to feel their being there is only to pleasure us . We would hope they would enjoy the experience as well . Just remember to try and relax and most of all have fun !

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    For a threesome, if strates outside à cocktail bar is always nice then you can follow it by a drink at your place. Fi get food is to be preferred over a never ending dinner. Sitting at the bar is very important but really depends of the context. If you never met the person, I'd say it's best to face the person. If you have met and every body feel some attraction, make sure (given their sexual orientation) to be slitted correctly to at least allow some touching. Back at your place, as other ones mentioned it. One of you need to go to the bathroom or whatever and give some space. Hopefully it starts from there with some passionate kissing. For a foursome (I know it's not the topic there but whatever) each couple need to be a bit self conscious about how to sit. You're about to swap for at least foreplay: make things easier by not sitting next yo your partner :p And in addition, put some music on to give some ambience! Enjoy your threesome!

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  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    7 years ago

    I nearly forgot Candle light and music helps . Sounds a bit cliched but sets the mood

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I’ve found a suggestion of a four hands massage for the guest star as a great start to break the ice. Next time someone else is the massages party ;)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    A massage windows that sounds amazing! How did you go Narrabeen couple?

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