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How Far Would You Go, For That One You Found?
August 10 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely Without giving up the true essence of myself the trick is to find that one person There is lies the real challenge.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The right person would not expect or want you to give up the true essence of who you are. A great relationship enhances that essence, because who you really are is what they would love. My best relationships have always been with someone that made me feel and behave more like the person I want to be - hopefully I diid the same for them. It is sadly rare to find someone who loves you for who you are, and not how they wold like you to be.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely. Personally I think everyone on this site would feel the same if they met someone that really blew them away. So it's a yes from me, although I would still want to have group sex on occasion. I want a relationship where we play together with others. And I would also like to keep my boyfriend. Not much to ask is it?? :P
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Done it before. a couple of times. Moved countries (Canada and UK) to see where it would lead as I would not want to be left leading a life of regret, and full of 'What Ifs'. I find that the only way to grow and learn and lead a full life (regardless of downs and ups) is to put myself out there, on the line outside my comfort zone. A insightful poster here mentioned an analogy of life (on another recent thread) - that life is journey, mostly straight sailing but with the occasional roller coaster highs and lows. The highs we hanker for and seek but for some, the risk of getting hurt may not be worth it. Am not so easy to scare and the views on top is great. so what's not to like. For me, as longs as it makes sense, it is reasonable and it gives me the feeling that I can't live without him (metaphor, people), I will pursue it. Yes, am a romantic fool when I let myself be. fortunately, it does not happen too often. Life is beautiful and full of surprises...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've done the marriage, moving in, living together bit. Once, for me, is enough. At the moment, I'm happy if he wants to sleepover every now and then but I don't think I'd want him moving in. I do love him and I think he feels the same way about me ;P I am enjoying my space and the freedom. Finally, noone moving my crockery and cutlery around lol But who knows what the future will bring :) As to your initial question, when I love someone and know the love is returned, even if I am on my deathbed, I will go out of my way and drop everything for them. That's just who I am. However, if the love is not returned after I've revealed my feelings for him, I'm the type who can easily let it go and won't pursue it and accept it's not meant to be, and move on. This has been the most liberating time of my life. I have my health, my kids, my own home - no mortgage, a man who loves me, at the same time, I'm not tied down in any way. Who could ask for more? I wouldn't change a thing :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Big call,been there once it's quite elusive these days! Personally love my space ,will not settle,must be quan for me! Lots to explore in life ,better shared with special lady,must be on the same page. Chemistry in and out of the bedroom,must want the same things xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will say yes to a relationship, just not the whole new living arrangement thing. But then, I'm a big softie and if he needed a place to stay, I would not say no. Sorry I didn't make that very clear in my previous post. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sometimes best to keep status quo on home front,both get to keep personal space! Conversely trust issues do occur ,if you don't trust what's the point anyway!
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MissBishere
11 years ago
It's a flat no. I will never do the conventional one on one living with get married relationship again. I am open to a different type of relationship though. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
11 years ago
That should have said "Not hard at all" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Knowing why I m here and why everyone I meet is...I don't think "the one" would be residing here!! Whilst realising everyone's got their reasons to be here...love isn't the reason and somehow not the place ....just my opinion
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RHP User
11 years ago
No I don't want a one on one relationship and even more emphatic no to exclusivity. My children are all I need right now relationship wise. I enjoy having multiple sexual friendships and my independence to do what I want without having to justify myself to anyone. Xxviolet
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Absolutely if I could find that one person that I mentioned in the "making love v sex" thread. That someone to have that ultimate connection with, someone to have that compatibility with in and out of the bedroom, someone to keep having experiences with, someone to laugh with, talk to, cry with, have fun with, who wants and needs me as much as I do him, to have that honest open relationship with, I'd go wherever I had to go I guess..... That's what I'm looking for and that's what I want, but until then I will keep having my experiences with the people I know and who know me, my friends and the ones I choose......💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'crazyastheyget' Knowing why I m here and why everyone I meet is...I don't think "the one" would be residing here!! Whilst realising everyone's got their reasons to be here...love isn't the reason and somehow not the place ....just my opinion Funny... that's not the bevvy of 'NO's' I expected... Like the above post by 'Crazy...' I thought that the vast majority of people on the site were not here for 'Love' in the pure sense of the word. And again, it also points out that "This is not the place"... I thought this but having spoken to a number of ladies and also having read hundreds, if not thousands of posts, and fro these discussions and posts I see that there does seem to be a good number of ladies at least 'open' to the possibility of a full-on (forgive me again) 'traditional' relationship, with 'monogamy and trust being the foundation. So, apart from the fact that the vast majority of people are here for sexy fun (for want of a better description), there are also a good amount who are really (dare I say) 'hoping' that the person they seek 'in the perfect world, may crop up and may, feel the same and be available. It surprises me, but it also makes me happy that there are few who have given up on the ideal of a completely equal, two way, shared and mutually enjoyed (sexually and non-sexually), relationship in which the degree 'need' for each other and of trust and happiness is enough to satisfy any needs that either might have. Obviously, I am an old fashioned 'Romantic' who hopes exactly the same thing... having been on Vanilla dating sites long enough to be an expert, I've found the level of honesty and openness on RHP to be the ONE big thing that is missing from those sites. That is, the need to spend so much time before you find it 'proper' to discuss one of the more important parts of a relationship, only to find that you don't really have much in common in a very important area. If only the level of honesty and openness here could be integrated with the intentions, purpose and reasons why people are on the Vanilla dating sites. (Of course, the fact that most of them are actively looking for and aiming towards a monogamous relationship and all that goes with it. They would certainly be far more useful and far less 'tedious'... And so much less 'game playing' going on.Thanks All
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lovinit28' Absolutely if I could find that one person that I mentioned in the "making love v sex" thread. That someone to have that ultimate connection with, someone to have that compatibility with in and out of the bedroom, someone to keep having experiences with, someone to laugh with, talk to, cry with, have fun with, who wants and needs me as much as I do him, to have that honest open relationship with, I'd go wherever I had to go I guess..... That's what I'm looking for and that's what I want, but until then I will keep having my experiences with the people I know and who know me, my friends and the ones I choose......💋 Hi Lovinit... Having had all that you describe in one relationship enables me to know, for absolute certain, that it does and can exist between the right two people. Having lost it, makes anything less, sort of 'pale into insignificance', from a loving, romantic point of view. But there are all types of relationships and many are WELL worth the while and also well worth every minute spent on them, and enjoying them (both in the bedroom and without)... So, I, as you put it. will continue to having my experiences with people... But I will also always be 'looking out' for that special one that could fulfill what it is I know exists and is indescribable to anyone who's not experienced it. I suppose that makes me lucky, just to have experienced it for the time we had... I DO see it that way, sometimes...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some very interesting responses... I would like to think (hey I may be wrong, I am male remember .. lol) that the majority of single people on this site would like to find that ONE! Now it might not mean a full blown relationship and might not mean being exclusive. What it may mean is you end up acting - or being - a couple and expand your sexual horizons from there. But until we find that one person, the journey on RHP is definitely a lot more fun than on a vanilla site .. Mooka
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe in two people complimenting each other not complicating things.When i read the term "one on one relationship of trust" i am the kind of person that thinks wait a minute all relationships no matter what "kind" should be based on trust. I did not have to consider reverting to a more conventional exclusivity type of arrangement after 8 years of Single Experimental Swinging and Casual Encounters type of relationships, I just finished one of many relationship cycles and began another. I look at it like this, if we can experience sexual cycles, why can we not experience relationship cycles? I met my partner via here 6 years ago,as for moving in together we are pretty sure it will happen when the time is right.As for a future together? well all i can say is this,when we are asked to define our relationship my partner agrees that we are just two demented people who have had the skill and luck to find a non-threatening conscious accommodation between their relative insanities who might just one day live under the same roof fits us perfectly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Honestly can't see it ever happening for me, so I don't give it any genuine thought.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
If they can put up with me and all my perfect imperfections, is tolerant, has patience, can cook, grocery shop and hold my bag when while we are out. Then I will see and think about it. It's not going to happen overnight. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' If they can put up with me and all my perfect imperfections, is tolerant, has patience, can cook, grocery shop and hold my bag when while we are out. Then I will see and think about it. It's not going to happen overnight. Foxy Hi Foxy... The simple things you describe are simply the common courtesies and things that I (personally) have no problem with at all. Of course, all good things take time to develop... I do hope that we all find what it is we search for in the long run... Whatever it may be. LOL... I cook very well (and have surprise many 'Dinner party Guests' when my partner has pointed to me when one of the women has asked how something or other was cooked etc. I also shop now, obviously for myself, and did the grocery shopping, even when I had a wife and 6 kids at school. As far as 'imperfections' go... Who's perfect? Holding a bag?... Is that all!!! Give me something hard, please... The only request I have is the lady not be 'afraid/embarrassed' to show affection in public... (Not dogging!!!...LOL.. just hold hands, a little kiss or hands in each other's back jean pockets...) stuff like that. Do that and I'm pretty happy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Some very interesting responses... I would like to think (hey I may be wrong, I am male remember .. lol) that the majority of single people on this site would like to find that ONE! Now it might not mean a full blown relationship and might not mean being exclusive. What it may mean is you end up acting - or being - a couple and expand your sexual horizons from there. But until we find that one person, the journey on RHP is definitely a lot more fun than on a vanilla site .. Mooka This I must agree with. The Vanilla journey was an 'eye-opener' but as for making any great amount of progress in the 'learn and grow' aspect... Not so great. Definitely a far more interesting journey here... Even just from a 'friends point of view', discounting any sexual encounters.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think I could ever ask a man to hold my bag while we were out, I would feel like I was stealing his manliness!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lmao - I would love to have a life partner and continue to play together with others for years to come. Sharing my space as in moving in. ..hmmm not sure on that one. Would have to be a bloody big house lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
then finding a kindred spirit on here. Open to love and cherish each other but still comfortable to share the love with others too. I believe after you expanded your horizon on here and in life you can not go back to a exclusive ever after relationship. I am never lonely at my house I am happy on my own but I can share, and what we will do really depend on two people. The honesty with each other is most important. I was happy married and I have nothing against marriage, however I will not have or could have a marriage as I had before, because I grow sadly on my own but I grow.
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RHP User
11 years ago
... to the moon and back :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' ... to the moon and back :) I am really glad to see the answers that I'm seeing. It indicates to me the degree of faith I have in the need we have for each other, being justified. The need we have for that special person, regardless of how we express it or how far we're willing to take the 'specialness'. That's my happy 'Vegemite' smile.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I haven't met anyone who has said they want to take that step with me..lolz I seem to attract "Mr.Emotionally Unavailable men".... I think I scare them off when I tell them that. HAHA! To be honest I have never been in love. So I can't say. I'll just stick to "boyfwiends". Foxy
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' I haven't met anyone who has said they want to take that step with me..lolz I seem to attract "Mr.Emotionally Unavailable men".... I think I scare them off when I tell them that. HAHA! To be honest I have never been in love. So I can't say. I'll just stick to "boyfwiends". Foxy You're too much of a woman for them, darlink. . I have had a couple of men I have dated after my separation who would like to take it further, one proposed. I just could not as work demands and emotional state at that time was not conduciive to having a serious relationship. It was not fair on them and too complicated for my little mind to process and prioritize so I left the relationships before it got further. Maybe sometime down the road. And darlink, boyfwiends are not too bad. specially on cold nights.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Been a bag holder,does feel quite right to me! What is commitment duties I ponder,love ,respect,trust,me thinks! Surely we all want to have the feeling of excitement in our lives,but a life partner is a big ask! Need the same dreams ,energy ,desires and fun which seems to be first to go when relationships end!
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