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How come people don't show up?
April 14 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
We absolutely love the Perth party scene and have attended quite a few but I have to admit that due to family commitments we have had to pull out of a few at the last minute. But we have always let the organisers know ASAP - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
rude as cat shit, as its the internet so they can get away with it some skills like manners are not transferable to internet usage I like the ones that say I am gonna do this, and do that and make your toes curl and and and and what do you like and and show us your pics on phone. I am saying listen sunshine I am in a business meeting and I do not want to take apicture for you of my knickers...the ones that text all the time that send all the messages that want to become your pen pal who want lots and lots of your pictures, for their wank a tainment are the ones that crawl back into their hole when you say, step up and take your pants of sunshine. I got told once by a guy, who btw ask me to come to a party in Mandurah, that they were all full up, half hour before I was suposed to be there. considering that I already told him I am not a swinger, he said fine please come anyway as we want to meet you I said I am not bi, thats ok please come anyway we want to meet you he talked on the phone..and then a little trembly voice said sowwwy you cant come to my party then I realised it was some single dude, and his mum must have been out of the house so he got up the courage to call me. RHP the land of the sexual bermuda triangle
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RHP User
13 years ago
People are on here for their own agenda and it would be a foolish person who thought that every one shared the same agenda. For some it is all about the chase. They message, flirt, make all sorts if plans but this means that at the end of the day when a meeting is planned and eminent, the chase us over! Others are here to boost flagging egos. Some so damaged by prior relationships that the online flirt makes them feel loved, wanted and special for that moment! These people are only playing a game. For them this is fun. They genuinely go not even think they may be causing any grief to others. Please don't assume that what we see as the height of rudeness is someone else deliberately being rude! Yes it is annoying and wastes our time but we don't know what is going in in the minds if these people or the damage that has been done to them in the past- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
The sexual Bermuda triangle, I love it! No shows! Who knows!!?? Hardly ever happens for me. I have had last minute cancellations. Time wasters. I reckon they might just get better offers come up...someone more exciting?
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just_sayin69
13 years ago
We have had similar situation We don't meet single guys but have heard that they are the worst lots of bugging themselves up .... Wanting day time meets and never following through.... Seem usually its because there wives won't them out!!!!! Have a friend married and plays away and is honest.... His never lacking in attention ... His honest and rocks up .... Go figure lol We have had plenty of couples and a few single ladies who as previous people have said , lots of love to meet up, mob numbers and e mails wanting pics and even meets that have felt good arrange a follow up to play.... Ok we have some times declined dates due to child care but suggested alternative dates and nothing Dropped like the proverbial hot potato ! Ok know life is hard to juggle but its hard for us all and wasting our time just makes it harder Ok rant over Why it happens???????? Just people I guess
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71' The sexual Bermuda triangle, I love it! No shows! Who knows!!?? Hardly ever happens for me. I have had last minute cancellations. Time wasters. I reckon they might just get better offers come up...someone more exciting? Well how can they know if the offer is better if they don't show up. Doesn't make sense.
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RHP User
13 years ago
At least you get a response! 99% of people are too rude to even bother. Does being a single male immediately mean you have a disease??????
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RHP User
13 years ago
are all about timing and inclination.Sometimes life gets in the way,sometimes people just simply change their minds.....I certainly do ....meeting people is a process for me......I like to speak to someone on the phone before I meet them and that interaction can be either be a plus or a negative.....all the texting in the world does not replace hearing a voice,having a conversation but I always let the person know if I have changed my mind.
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RHP User
13 years ago
He talked to me for over a week we arranged a meet.He said he will leave Perth at around 1.30pm on Saturday so I was waiting.No show. Yes it happens.What do I think........chicken shit, fuckhead, lolol I could have had another date you swine.So now I had to schedule this other date for another week. You shit.Do I get upset.....nooo, I think it would have been nice to know but it doesn't upset me anymore, at the beginning being on RHP, it was.There are so many fish in the sea and the next one is much more colorful, I know it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I feel your pain OP. It's so annoying spending all that time messaging and "getting to know" the people (as if you could on line) before organising to meet up, sorting out weekend with no kids etc, and a few days before hand you send a confirmation message for your plans only to hear nothing whatsoever. Then you get the "sorry couldn't make it" excuse a few days after your arranged meet time, or just no contact whatsoever. Doing that to people is the height of rudeness and if that's done to us we will not reschedule another time. It's not that difficult to send a quick message saying "sorry, can't make tonight", doesn't need to be any more than that, just let us know and it's cool. We've had a couple of occasions where we've had no-shows but ended up having an awesome night with a different couple on the spur of the moment (being that we now had spur-of-the-moment time available, which is a rarity for us) and we see it as their loss because they miss out on the fun by not showing.I do think one of the warning signs for that happening is when the people need to message and chat for ages before meeting. Once MSN/Skype is mentioned, we're normally not so keen as you NEVER meet when they suggest that. We don't generally give out anything other than our phone number, after we've organised to meet as doing it all over the messaging system of RHP does seem to weed a lot of time-wasters.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have encountered only one no show and she was at least polite enough to call and apologize a little later and had what I considered a fair reason. What I am finding of late is a lot of people that seem really odd in their behavior. I guess they are like the no shows but rather than not turn up they are all keen in their messages and after seeing pics then all of a sudden with no apparent reason they go cold and disappear. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey,Maybe it is something to do with keeping their fantasies in their heads. It all sounds great when they are behind a computer playing with the meat mouse. When the time comes to turn it into reality, peoples consciousness takes over. Don't know what does anyone else think of this? Can anyone ad to this if it has any legs?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I must be strange....I've never had a no show, nor have I not showed up, without a good 2 days notice, as the only thing that stops me usually is organising a load to the said town/city, and usually it's weather that prevents me, or the order is cancelled. All of the people I have met have always been true to their word, and we've always had a blast. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Handmaiden' People are on here for their own agenda and it would be a foolish person who thought that every one shared the same agenda. For some it is all about the chase. They message, flirt, make all sorts if plans but this means that at the end of the day when a meeting is planned and eminent, the chase us over! Others are here to boost flagging egos. Some so damaged by prior relationships that the online flirt makes them feel loved, wanted and special for that moment! These people are only playing a game. For them this is fun. They genuinely go not even think they may be causing any grief to others. Please don't assume that what we see as the height of rudeness is someone else deliberately being rude! Yes it is annoying and wastes our time but we don't know what is going in in the minds if these people or the damage that has been done to them in the past- Posted from rhpmobile I'd have to agree here. Some people keep it all very light hearted and fun and don't take anything seriously on here 'cause that is just where they are at? I don't get caught up feeling any ill will or at all pissed off towards guys that are not serious because I always screen them or filter them out way before I would ever agree to letting them have my mobile number. I don't think I would ever end up at the stage where I have an organised date and then they pull it at the last minute? It's never happened to me yet! Besides that, I don't have the time, I wouldn't be interested in the first place and I'm just not that stupid. So I guess it still comes back to being accountable for what you are letting develop with people who are not on your page at all from the outset? Also I don't think people can point the finger when they have 20 or more irons in the fire at any given time and can't keep track of their own correspondence themselves. This is where people become complacent and a rogue one slips through. Clean up your own end, profile, correspondence etc, and the rest will follow suit. IMHO.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Think positively about no shows - what if instead they would turn up and were total waste of time then ?!? Freya - there is no excuse in "something came up", if people had an urgent thing, something came up etc then they would text or message at first opportunity to ease your mind. Some of us are actually considerate and if we made a connection with someone that is not turning up to pre-arranged meeting then we think of a worse case then "their cat got sick"... If I can't make it somewhere I'd let them know before the time, not after. Then I had a chick yell at me on the phone because she was inconvenienced - while I was thinking "oh well, should I have just not turned up...?" Polite people and those who are not the only ones in this world seem to be just become more and more rare... this might be a good topic for genetic research !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Handmaiden'People are on here for their own agenda and it would be a foolish person who thought that every one shared the same agenda. For some it is all about the chase. They message, flirt, make all sorts if plans but this means that at the end of the day when a meeting is planned and eminent, the chase us over! Others are here to boost flagging egos. Some so damaged by prior relationships that the online flirt makes them feel loved, wanted and special for that moment! These people are only playing a game. For them this is fun. They genuinely go not even think they may be causing any grief to others. Please don't assume that what we see as the height of rudeness is someone else deliberately being rude! Yes it is annoying and wastes our time but we don't know what is going in in the minds if these people or the damage that has been done to them in the past- Posted from rhpmobile Luckily I don't get many no shows but to the 2 or 3 that have done that to me, they are just time wasters and they won't be given a second chance but one wishes that they had the maturity and brains not to mess people around like that in the first place.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Haven't had any no shows as yet and hopefully it won't happen but oh well shit happens if it does. There is one last who I've been in contact with for quite a few months that I'm still yet to meet and have had to cancel a few times due to circumstances along with her having to cancel on me. There just seems like too little time. I will get there one day and shout you that brown brothers moscato one day!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don't get mad or even, just move on. Got to have thick skin to survive here.If we're meeting as a couple we're going to have a great time anyway because we enjoy each others company. Hell, we'll order another drink and make a day of it. If I'm meeting by myself I'll always bring a book or paper (got it for the commute during the week anyway) It might sound a bit rude but once a person arrives it's phone off and full attention.Always speak to someone on the phone and get a clear, recent pic of the person before deciding to meet up. If they make some excuse and want to meet (or again if they missed the first one) we'll say "We're going to *whatever social* see you there!" and let them decide how much they want to meet us.
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RHP User
13 years ago
They have either died or done the "Disappearing Act" in the Bermuba Triangle along with David Copperfield (he must be so proud he has followers) yet they can log on and off on RHP... I don't know?? What ever happened to good ol manners and maturity to communicate?? Maybe they are lost in their own fantasies in the Bermuba Triangle?? Majority of people I've meet have been true to their word and communicate... FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ten minutes of horny exchange can easily be forgotten. Some dont know how to say no sorry changed my mind. Some will go for the best offer and that can exclude memory of other commitments. Some just play a game and got what they wanted when you said yes. Some really have serious life issues and you are the last think they think of.Op you can put them down, but have to ask have you ever missed and forgotten... Especially meeting a stranger/s
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know that he had a good reason and I get the feeling he's about to make it up to me ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Joe if you read my post I did say that I always let people know if I can't meet them,sometimes people have cancelled on me,sometimes it's visa versa,Sometimes not often,people haven't turned up without letting me know but while that is frustrating it's not life and death,and I have found some excuses quite entertaining.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Are simply too rude to let you know that they have changed their mind (for whatever reason) or something has come up. I have had a couple of no shows... no explanations (maybe a better offer came their way), and I have had to cancel a couple of meet ups over time due to unforseen circumstances, but never without a phone call /text. A little courtesy goes a long way in my book.
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usnow
13 years ago
Its just another example of how people on these sex sites get lost between fantasy and reality !! Swingnew .
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess I'm lucky I've not had a no show before. I've had a number of people message me before that they can't make it for one reason or the other, usually medical related. It sounds plausible so I accept it to be true. After all, if you don't trust the person you are meeting, there really is no point in meeting. However, after reading experiences by some of you, I am coming to think differently with regards to multiple cancellations. One person recently made plans, cancelled, made plans again, cancelled again, then closed down her account. Girls, I'm a grown man. If you are not interested, just say so. I promise I won't cry or slit my wrists. 4some3somefun - Being a guy does not mean you are diseased. It means women just want to play difficult (some even impossible) to get. Well, some women are worth the effort but a lot of them just think they are worth the effort. Put up some photos in your public gallery and I think you might get more responses.
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