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How hard is it to say, "Thanks but no thanks!"
June 28 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
As a single female (and I'm sure there are others who have this), sometimes replying in the negative just gets you abuse, so it's safer not to reply. Or... you get the... "come on, just give me a chance" type response, even after you've said no. And you get it until you block them... Or... you send a "no" flirt response... and they STILL send you a message.
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LeoQueen
16 years ago
It's no consolation but you are not alone. Our feeling is that when they don't reply they fall into one of two camps: pretenders or just plain rude. In either case they don't deserve our time anyway.
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RHP User
16 years ago
its not that hard to do...thank you for your interest in me...but i am not interested in pursuing things....or... thank you for your interest...there is no harm in having a chat and lets see where it leads...simple!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
The ol we can't get a single girl,we dont want a couple problem...... I remember those days.....Eventually you will figure it out!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'NevandKj' The ol we can't get a single girl,we dont want a couple problem...... I remember those days.....Eventually you will figure it out!Cheers Nev LOL! No, Nev. We're not complaining about that at all. It's the lack of response we're talking about.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'lilmissflirty75' As a single female (and I'm sure there are others who have this), sometimes replying in the negative just gets you abuse, so it's safer not to reply. Or... you get the... "come on, just give me a chance" type response, even after you've said no. And you get it until you block them... Or... you send a "no" flirt response... and they STILL send you a message. Ok. When you say it that way, we see your point but still, I suppose we're a little old fashioned that way. Just like we prefer a face to face somewhere public instead of over a camera.That being said and done, I can at least guarantee that we won't stalk you or bite........unless, of course, you want us to.The He in our Dynamic Duo. Kisses
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RHP User
16 years ago
My profile specifically states No couples, women or men under 38 years old. If someone messages/flirts me and they are any of those then I do not reply because that is not what I'm looking for and if they had read my profile they would have seen that. That may be considered rude but it is just as rude to send a message to some who is clearly not looking for what you're offering. Sweet
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RHP User
16 years ago
There is a lot of competion....95% are after that single girl Agree with NevandKj,
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RHP User
16 years ago
Lilmiss I agree. Unfortunately Shuttlez it only takes a few to spoil it for the rest, who may have good manners. As a suggestion Lilmiss try setting up an autoreply, like I have done. It gives you the ability of saying what you need without the confrontation of reading unwanted come back emails. If you see another from the couple/single come up after, you just need to delete it or ignore without reading it then, saves the drama if they choose to ignore your response. It also allows anyone on here not just single girls to write something which may satisfy the person sending a message without an opinion being formed from the lack of response to those that have those old fashioned values you described, such as Sorry we are overseas for two weeks, will respond on our return; Due to work committments, I am unable to meet at the moment, happy to chat etc. This allows a temporary solution, without having to change your profile, due to your circumstances and hopefully keeps all happy. Oh yeah and gives you the option Sweet to put that...now did you really read my profile???...if not do not expect a response if you do not match... message for those that do the cold calling template message. People not matching your profile do get a option box saying they do not match, but can choose to send message anyway. If a second note with your autoreply saying do you really match appears, and they still try then they have a problem. Anyways hope that this may be a solution for some. You will find it under Auto Reply where you go to set up your settings. Happy huntin' xxMiss Honeyxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Wow, Miss Honey. What a simple, elegant solution. Thank you for that tip. I didn't even consider that and it's so simple. Mr. S
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'ShuttleZ' Quoting 'lilmissflirty75' As a single female (and I'm sure there are others who have this), sometimes replying in the negative just gets you abuse, so it's safer not to reply. Or... you get the... "come on, just give me a chance" type response, even after you've said no. And you get it until you block them... Or... you send a "no" flirt response... and they STILL send you a message. Ok. When you say it that way, we see your point but still, I suppose we're a little old fashioned that way. Just like we prefer a face to face somewhere public instead of over a camera.That being said and done, I can at least guarantee that we won't stalk you or bite........unless, of course, you want us to.The He in our Dynamic Duo. Kisses If you were in WA, you could stalk me anytime!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just turned on my Auto Reply. But can you do that for flirts as well? Sweet
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't think so Sweet, but try it out. Send me a flirt and see if you get my auto reply, that will give you the answer. xxMiss Honeyxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Us girls get flooded with messages and flirts,hard to reply to all.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'lilmissflirty75' If you were in WA, you could stalk me anytime! Hmmmm.. Thank you, lilmiss. *blush*Mind you, Mrs. S is trying to call dibs just going on your profile pic!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I totally agree with everything you typed in your post above...100%!! MrsP I think that alot of girls/couples are on here to boost their self esteem and see how many messages/winks they get just for the attention...I don't think that they have any intention of replying to anyone at all. I just wish that RHP could get rid of these people that never reply and leave this site open for genuine ones only. These attention seekers ruin it for everyone else. Why have sexy, provocative pics up if you have no intention on at least replying to messages? A "Quick Reply" can be sent as quick as closing the message (it even closes the message for you)...there really is no excuse for not replying at all. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Far out .. certainly not here to have a dig at anyone personally but for fuck sake. This is the internet and you have to accept that there are a lot of people on this site in particular who are just complete and utter time wasters. I agree that it wouldn’t be too difficult to simply reply with a No thanks but they don’t so don’t be too upset by it simply move on hopefully you find another. I think most of the time wasters are really on here for the forums more so than anything else... I can hear the abuse coming from here. But seriously at the end of it does it really matter one way or the other .. I think NOT
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RHP User
16 years ago
ShuttleZ,I understand your frustration at the manners of some on here - easy to reply, really, even if just using autoreply.Excellent suggestions from all re the autoreply & I can understand the barrage some ladies may receive - at least you have the courtesy to extend a response. Have met some wonderful people here - but wonder about some others.Not sure if this should be another thread (apologies - NOT a hijacker), but on a similar vein how is that some messages just don't get opened?? I have a few that are sitting there, unread, but can see the recipient has been online, "this week", "today" etc.I extend my gallery pic when msging (face only first, until more possibly, is requested); not an oil painting but ain't no oil slick either - but can't even get the msg read? Don't believe I'm pitching to "players" as some have friends listed. Even if they are here as wankers, how do they get their kicks if they're going on but not reading their messages?any thoughts appreciated.best regards on the journey - K
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RHP User
16 years ago
we agree.. it is common courtesy to reply or auto reply with a thanks or no thanks.. no one likes to be rejected so totally without a reply or wtf.. as for the age bit.. it's hard to judge people by age, and sometimes you are cutting off possibilities by setting this and sticking to it.. Most guys reach a certain age & make you think..ohoh no way.. but then you have some like my hubby, who works at keeping himself fit & trim and is in better shape than a lot of 35 year olds.. a popular cut off. When these people have pics up..what does it hurt to look.. if they don't..so be it, that is their own fault.. The worst is when people say they are interested & then don't return the return message! As for the lady who says she doesn't reply because she gets abuse.. i'm sure there is a button that says 'report abuse' for just that!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Now that we've had a chat and thought about it, timerright, we have to agree with you there as well. We've taken the time to read the profile and make sure we're not wasting out time in the first place so is it too much to ask to at least expect our message to be read?The only time we'll send a flirt is if we're almost outside of what the person is after. It doesn't ake all that long to read whats been put up in her profile. Is she seeking a couple? Is there and age match? Does it seem like she looking for what we have to offer when she writes about herself and what she's looking for? Only when all these match do we send a message.We believe that a flirt simply is not enough to show that we're interested and hope that she is as well. We have our faces on our profile so you can see what we look like straight away and we include our MSN in case you want to cam or chat us privately so it's not as if we're trying to hide behind our profile and we are definitely not here to see how many friends we can rack up. There's another web site for that and, frankly, that's just a waste of time here. We're up front and honest about what we want and say so in our first email.Quoting 'parto63' *snip* As for the lady who says she doesn't reply because she gets abuse.. i'm sure there is a button that says 'report abuse' for just that! */snip*Parto63, you are correct. There is a button to report abuse in every email you read. There's also a button to block the user if you go into their profile and click "More Actions" or in "Interactions"on the left hand menu under Add Friend.Mr S. xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachypear'Cheers... Mrs P'>>> who loves working out puzzles And there's a puzzle I'd LOVE to work out. Mrs. S.Mwa
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RHP User
15 years ago
we have sent countless filrts and messages only to never get a reply or the reply we get is open pg so we do only to never get contacted again
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'ShuttleZ' Quoting 'MrsPeachypear'Cheers... Mrs P'>>> who loves working out puzzles And there's a puzzle I'd LOVE to work out. Mrs. S.Mwa If you ever work it out... could you pleeease let me know? Hugs... Mrs P' XoX
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RHP User
15 years ago
Mrs P, it easy. All you have to do is ....... oh look. something shiny!Mrs. S.MWA!
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RHP User
15 years ago
i have to week to realize that if you click on show that you have an option of a response (although it was a few days before someone answered me)......I am new to this ...but i do respond now...and yes common courtesy dictates you answer.There is one thing that we all must remember,we now live in a time where people just don't give a #### .Thankfully there are still people who care and have manners and they are the ones taking too!
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Bubbaj
15 years ago
manners i do have...but so hard to respond to ppl that are genuinely not in my interest range....if u send me a msg and im interested, ill reply. but if its something that doesnt work for me...just an auto delete is easier than waiting for all the replies that i could automatically do....slow comps and slow internet great combo
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RHP User
15 years ago
well i usually write a a thought out message to what i think people would like to know about myself and sometimes what i think of what they have written in there profile and was looking thru it all the other day the amount of replys even with a thanks but no thanks sucks,im guessing some people but be so self absorbed with themselfs that they are missing out on the real thing,speaking for myself here i dont judge people by the attraction and im saying i dont like these people but i like how people think and feel and when i read a profile that is well written that you can tell comes from inside them you would hope to get a reply back from these people because they appear genuine. well heres to hoping for a reply for my next set of messages adg x
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