How it all began...

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I'm not a swinger, I have had a couple of threesomes (FFF, MFF and MMF) but they were more a product of circumstance and not a regular occurance for me.I am however probably what could be classed as kinky. For years I thought I was normal, and it's only been in the last year that I've really embraced that I'm not.It started for me young, probably too young. I got into trouble when I was 5 for tying up the neighbour and playing with his willy. My first serious boyfriend at 18 had kinky thoughts and I'd bully him and bribe him with golden showers to do stuff for me. Was also with him I discovered the joys of boys bums. That relationship last 5 years then I hit the kink scene in Sydney and discovered there were SO many perversions to learn about! Queue a year of playing Mistress before entering another LTR (4 yearsl, then a couple of years playing around, back in the scene again, developing a latex fetish, deciding switching was more my go, then another LTR of 4 years where we did a lot! So it's been an evolution. I have to say, it's really bloody hard to meet nice, regular guys who are also kinky, who don't see kinky girls as being freaks only there for them to get their jollies off with, and who are not capable of anything else.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Me personally, I think the key is to not force yourself or your partner to try things you are not totally curious/interested/dying to try and always remember that you can change your mind if you aren’t comfortable. I have always just gone with the flow, not pushed myself to try things just to tick em off a list! Randomly for me it just happened to play out from the start by trying different things, girl, guy (one off’s), girl, guy (relationships), girl and guy (one offs, relationship, FWBs for years!) etc As the awesome opportunities presented themselves on sexy platters lol! But long relationships did put the brakes on for a few long stints, which eventually led to me not feeling like it was quite enough and my curiosity would start bubbling up... but i don’t think i was ready to swing with a partner at those times, i still don’t! The forums are helping me understand how that world works, bit by bit, but it isn’t my comfort zone...yet?! However, there have been things years ago that I was a definite 'NO WAY' on, thinking i'd ‘NEVER EVER’ want to try that or that ewwww! I have since learnt, never say never ;) Eventually my curiosity got the better of me and i naturally just started wanting to give a few different things a ‘TRY’ just to see what it was like...and i am glad i did as some of those ‘NO WAYS’, are like ‘YES WAY! MORE, MORE!!!’ lol! I have only been on this site for a few months; i was never looking to do 'on-line dating' but when a friend mentioned sex site, I am like ding ding ding!!! That sounds hmmmm interesting, I’ll just have a tiny look? From that moment my TV viewing reduced to zero and my computer time went thru the roof, couldn’t even stop when i left the house and wished the iphone had an app version instead of trying to view it thru the net lol! Facebook quickly became snoresville... But I sorta burnt myself out a bit after the first couple months lol! But eventually i thought, i might just take a quick look... and then i am hooked in again! So far i have met totally different peeps, into totally different things and it has been great! But i take it at my pace and don’t push myself into meets that I don’t really feel up to at the time, my pace has been too slow for many, but i didn’t read a contract stipulating that I MUST meet up with someone after x amount of messages! Lots of people seem to think otherwise and i have been told on a few occasions that i am not using the site appropriately?! WTF? Again is there a rule book somewhere? I think not... I do what works for me and ignore what doesn’t and i have got a lot out of the site i feel :) As far as finding a matchy/matchy partner, i reckon it isn't too different to other traits you might be looking for in a partner, you just need to be upfront about it, not secretly wish they might 'grow out of vanilla'. I am sure your chances would definitely improve meeting people from this site or at RHP events, but I believe if you really know what it is that you want, then you’ll have a great chance of attracting the right person for you. If you don’t know what you truly want, then you will never find ‘them’! My 2 cents worth! I do ramble, a lot, so that might have been more than 2 cents?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well I was about 22 I met a girl and after about 6weeks of some of the best sex I had ever had she said we were going out so off we went to my first swingers club and wow was I suprised She started talking to a girl there and off we went for a 3some after that she said I could fuck anyone in there if they were keen and off she went with 3 blokes I watched her for a bit then decided it was time to go have some fun of my own and we went to the swingers once a fortnight after that From there I was drunk and horny one night so went to a sex shop for some porn ended up in the adult cinema having a wank with the manager watching he then came and sucked my cock (first Bi experience) after that I was off to the nude beaches sucking and being sucked still an avid swinger now too I am moving in with a rather naughty lady from this site in Darwin and we are thinking its party time so I cant wait the more the merrier I say

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  For me I have never been a faithful person - guess I never found that one person who could stisfy my multitude of kinks...well that was when I was a young one (lol) I told my second longterm partner that if he didnt like it he could just walk out the door - 8 yrs later he pushed me out it - but thats a different story.. . How did it really start for me?? Well it all began....hahahaha...actually I was having an affair with a guy from work who loved to bite my calf muscles while we were having sex... the pain drove me wild (I am not talking little nibbles here but serious biting I was pretty much permanently bruised for the 6 months we were seeing each other) I couldnt believe how much the pain would turn me on...so I went looking for others to explore that with...and here we are...about 8 years on - from the pain aspect anyway - and I have happily discovered what I enjoy...am lucky enough to have found someone with which I can explore that part of me...and being single means I dont have to be faithful - or exclusive - to one person if I choose not to - ahh I love my life. . Kisses Focus

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  well for us it started slowly..............we have both been married before so when we got together we started as we meant to continue which was totally open and honest we wanted to learn from past mistakes and get it right this time around. As part of the being open and honest part we both discussed the prospect of 'open relationships' and 'swinging' of course we were rather niave and had no idea who you met people who were into that or how you even go about learning, then by chance i met up with an old school friend who was very openly in a relationship where they enjoyed the company of others and she told me about RHP needless to say we were ecstatic to learn about it and have been on a merry journey ever since. the rules have changed slightly for us along the way as we have tried different things and become more confident all in all it has been a great experience and something we hope will be part of our lives for some time yet.(A rather satisfied) Mrs GC

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I had an unexplored interest in BDSM for as long as I can remember. When someone suggested I take the dominant role I jumped at the chance. I enjoyed it so much I made it my profession.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well about 4 years ago the wife introduced me to a work mate of hers a guy about 10 years her junior. He was a keen fisherman like me and new to our area and she wanted me to take him fishing -she told me. The sexual tension between them was very obvious from the start and MRS SRFUN's libido went off the chart. Whilst I was enjoying this new found energy in the bedroom and just about anywhere else she could find to have her way with me I couldnt help wondering MMMM as to the cause. I hadnt changed my cologne so I eventually asked the question of her" Are you having an affair?" To my relief it was a resounding NO! Thank gooodness as i didnt want to loose a fishing buddy. But it did get us talking about sex and adding an extra player and to be honest every other part of our sexual relationship. To our surprise we both had some fantasies in commom but we had never been game to broach the subject. Well as many on here would know talking is a very good thing and over a period of about 2 years we progressed from joining this site to chatting online to camming to lets take the plunge. And thanks to a amazing couple we met here on RHP we had a incredibly positive 1st experience and have been hooked ever since. We are still on an incredibly exciting voyage of sexual discovery and having a lot of fun trying new things at least once and maybe twice and then a 3rd time to be sure LOL. We did eventually make an indecent proposal to our friend but he declined as he didnt want to put the fishing partnership at risk. LOL We have learnt a few things as a swinging couple 1. dont try this to fix a relationship problem. It wont! 2. Talk about everything with your partner it only improves your relationship and 3. Being confident and relaxed about sex is incredibly liberating. And of course remember its all about having fun so dont take it to seriously folks and when its no longer fun consider giving it away! MrSrfun

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Oil companies explore, you're in an inquiry here. Mr McFry, (hope I spelt that correctly) you can guess and wonder as you do about perplexities and outcome, but in the beginning realise you can have anything in life you desire, and it's a vision of who you are, a statement of what you do and it changes from time to time depending on your focus/ideals. Its not if you find a woman that....and can it be..... But When you find, and it Will be ..... (if you fall short on your ideals you'll have to get used to disappointment). . Just being here and having an inquiring mind tells me you're already in action about it. It's all good. . Thanks for the Novel you wrote there Booba, that will be $1.50 plus tax. And the 'Rule Book' about appropriate site use can be downloaded from: [email protected] . The answer to the query: It started with a kiss and escalated into sensual erotic adventures of exciting pleasures.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Just out of a relationship but nearing 6 months with no action and not a single fucking live C cell battery in the house. I'd been moping to friends of mine about how I could never go to a bar and pick up a guy and since I didn't want a partner I might never have sex again, etc and they had told me about a site they used when they were swingers so I thought if i was going to bother getting dressed and going out i should make it worthwhile. . Joined another site, put up some pics, went into their IM system and BAM, 2 hours later I'm on my knees in a corset in front of the hottest/fittest guy I'd ever had inside the limits of my 'personal space bubble'. He wanted more but I wasn't ready to have sex with anyone new after 14 years with the same person. I licked, I sucked, he came, I swallowed, I told him to stay laying stretched out deliciously spent on his bed and let myself out. . I couldn't stop thinking about it and soaking my panties and grinning like an idiot for a week afterward! . It was remarkable to me how easily I adapted to being comfortable meeting and talking with new people, i think it has really helped me socially. If you'd asked me the day before that event I would have told you I was a shy person and you'd have believed me. It actually took me longer to get out of the habit of describing myself as 'shy'. . xx Sarah

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Tonyerotic' Oil companies explore, you're in an inquiry here. Mr McFry, (hope I spelt that correctly) you can guess and wonder as you do about perplexities and outcome, but in the beginning realise you can have anything in life you desire, and it's a vision of who you are, a statement of what you do and it changes from time to time depending on your focus/ideals. Its not if you find a woman that....and can it be..... But When you find, and it Will be ..... (if you fall short on your ideals you'll have to get used to disappointment). . Just being here and having an inquiring mind tells me you're already in action about it. It's all good. . Thanks for the Novel you wrote there Booba, that will be $1.50 plus tax. And the 'Rule Book' about appropriate site use can be downloaded from: [email protected] . The answer to the query: It started with a kiss and escalated into sensual erotic adventures of exciting pleasures.I can't make the address work! (u know i am kidding, but for people who might not, i am...)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If one was to look at the last two letters of that address..... . I noticed curiousnewgirl78 mentioned 'C' size batteries. I have always wondered why there are AAA, AA, C and D cells but No 'B' cells, until you say it aloud and realize union-carbide manufacturerswere deliberate in their BBatteries stutter omission..... . Zzzzzzzzz

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