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How to be a well-oiled sexytimes machine?

January 29 2013

Although we have both played here separately before, we are still very new at being a couple. It's surprisingly hard! Not the actual playing bit. Or the happy high-fiving each other afterwards bit. Or the sleep-deprivation bit from having too much fun. We're down with all that. No, I'm talking about both of us trying to keep up with messages coming in and out, who's interested in meeting with whom, who's going to chat, etc. I suppose it would help if we had a computer with two seats in front of it... But it's more than that. Personally, although I love the sexy times it results in, the actual RHP process of picking and choosing and getting in touch and feeling out who likes what, well... It's lots of fun but it's not all that sexy to me. Which means we don't want to talk brass tacks during our own sexy times. Which, at the moment, leaves comparing profiles on the train, or at the restaurant table, or on our iPads when we're all over the place, etc all of which just results in a big old mess (and probably a fair few people getting off the train with some eavesdropping stories to tell). Although we are slowly getting the hang of it, I'm sure there are people on here who have messaged with us back and forth, and then we suddenly disappear in a virtual cloud of disorganisation. It's a fairly unique conundrum! How much time do you put into it? How organised are you about when to schedule the basic admin of RHPing into your day? Hey, other couples, what do you do?

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Paradisepair

13 years ago

Apart from a bit of forum posting, but on a break from what I call the RHP Hamster Wheel, round and round we go. It would be interesting to see the stats, x number of couples you connect with online turns into x number of IRL encounters. 6:1 maybe? Anyway it's been fun for a while but it is time consuming. We'll only get back on the hamster wheel when life calms down a bit and we've got plenty of spare time and mental energy.

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RHP User

13 years ago

the problems of the excessively pulchritudinous,I feel for you kinksters,such a burden. But cheer up, the problem can be solved with poor diet,lack of exercise and old father time. Follow this advice and you will never need to sort a message again...Freya in helping mode today.

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RHP User

13 years ago

Well, I suppose you will just have to schedule it in the diary. One hour a week to assess potential playmates. Surely that isn't too much to ask now is it!

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RHP User

13 years ago

We tend to have one person "manage" the search-message/admin side of things. Usually I leave initial search/contact up to Mr Otori as often we are not home together (I tend to work evenings, so it's just easier for him to do it). Oftentimes, I will just pop onto RHP to use the forums and that's it. I trust Mr Otori's judgement when it comes to picking interesting profiles to message/wink. We have discussed in depth what we both want to get out of it and the types of people we are after on here. We are lucky that we have similar tastes, so that really helps in that respect.From time to time I will peruse the messages and catch up on conversations. We don't have a joint skype profile so we add couples to our individual skype profiles/phones so we can both make our separate judgements about whether we want to meet a couple. I find there's nothing more annoying than just chatting to one person in the couple. Having his and hers computers sitting next to each other aids the situation as well . Often we will flick profiles to each other to check out, or lean over and add our two cents to the chat.So really, I couldn't think of anything more boring than having to debate or discuss every single profile that I felt like winking. Talk in depth about what you both want and trust each other's judgement would be my best advice.

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