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How to find 'serious' guys??
November 23 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Donna_Brett, I have had the same problem at times trying to meet ONE guy for fun. I do meet some but what I mean is so often I have gone through with the messages and a phone call etc and then at the 11th hour they bail out. And that is why I always say about 95% or more of guys who contact me just aren't going to meet. So any genuine guys out there, please don't give up hope. Not all the guys on here are actually going to meet!!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
You guys are joking....right?? Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
hi we have the same problem lots of messages and when we arrange to meet they cant make it we know most guys are married and have to cum up with a good excse to get away thats the problem with internet sites our best expereince was 2 english guys we met at the beach no computer involved just talking on beach a few drinks
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RHP User
16 years ago
I host couples/swingers parties as well To get an expression of interest I start sending out invites about a month in advance so people can organise themselves with plenty of time we get a 3 bedroom apartment so numbers have to be monitered to suite the space available....usually max 10 couples but as you stated ....book in 18 ....yes everyone is keen a week out cut it to 12 by the thursday cut it to 10 friday you loose a few more then one the day the ones that dont even let you know they arent coming so we usually have a great time with 5 or 6 couples and add a single male/female or two to make up the party numbers and hope that you cover your costs for accommodation and food too all the pretenders out there...**** off and make way for the real players wow that was to the bone wasnt it but I feel much now Thanks
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RHP User
16 years ago
Personally I think this site is also a fantasy playground. It is very excitng but safe on here. When it comes to actual participation people have to make fantasy a reality which can be very confronting. I think most men have fantasies about bieng in a threesome or gangbang. I know I have....but don't know if I could go through with it. Trouble is the site has an alcholic effect on people. Gives them "dutch courage" as Gaz said in a previous post. They don't take into account that they are messing with a real persons desires, needs, emotions etc.
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RHP User
16 years ago
The idea of a GB sound pretty alluring to most guys - rockup, act cool, be the man - .....however in my experience (and from what I understand from others) expect to get around 10%-20% of people actually show....(randoms I am referring to). Don't feel too let down as many guys particularly first timers will "chicken" when the penny drops that they will have to not only drop their tweeds in front of a bunch of other dudes but that they will have to get hard and stay hard in front of everybody as well....this can be a daunting prospect for all but the most confident of men. In society we are socially conditioned that sex is one on one - "normal" sexual relations are not between 10 men and a woman which is one of the main reasons we find it so alluring...the 'taboo' factor. I have been to quite a few in my time and I always get that feeling in the gut on the way there....and I am a reasonably confident and outgoing guy....fortunately for me I get off on the woman....the fact that she is brave, beautiful and confident enough in her sexuality to even entertain the idea, let alone go through with it I find wonderful. How therefore, can I let her down.....? Personally I prefer lots of guys to one or two women ration for that reason....in fact I have never had a FMF )although that wb lovely). Once a guy "gets through" the first experience it does get easier and the pleasures of this kind of sex become aparent....but many guys who go through it in their minds prior to the event invariably and quickly come to terms with their possible prejudices - which may be as simple as other guys looking at him, comparing or judging - or their own preconceived inadequacies.....not every guy is a Woodsman (porn slang for male porn actors) and although it sounds cool, not every guy is mentally prepared to go where all the other guys are going....or are going to go....or have already been... Might I respectfully suggest that if you get hold of a guy who can do the business you hold onto him like gold....and then get another, and then another...and so on....eventually you will have your own private little group of guys you know you can rely on and who will be far less likely to let you down on the night....or day....or whenever you kinky buggers like to bring it on....so the solution ?.... keep going. persevere and dont put all your eggs in one basket...over order and consider guys you think unlikely....you may be pleasantly suprised...I have seen some unusual looking fellows fuck the lights out...!! It takes all kinds.... Of course there will always be genuine drop outs for genuine reasons....people have lives, they get sick, have hassles, get tired and so on... Just my thoughts on it. Great topic. Not an uncommon complaint. Dogma.
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Steveh67
16 years ago
No need to ask me twice if I am Serious ......Once is enough !
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RHP User
16 years ago
Oh wow!!! I'm jealous of the guys who actually get into the situation of a possible meet. My experience in numerous online sites is.. well.. initial contact, a few really nice, flirty messages... then.....then..... then..... then... still waiting for a reply... still waiting... hmm... maybe they died?? Oh wait, nope, there they are still logging in each day... Still no reply...If i wanted rejection so freely, I'd hit up randoms at nightclubs.*sigh*
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RHP User
16 years ago
some good comments.. Yes we have worked out many on here: guys and couples, are just "thinking about it" or just enjoy the fact "wow someone wants me" and thats enough for them...they dont need to follow thru . Sadly we call these people time wasters and dreamers, cause they waste our time...like Brett and Donnas. Weve found the longer it takes to hook up, the more chance people will think up a reason not to go or get cold feet. Thats why the story of picking up at the beach or bar or swing club usually works much better than organising. We hope to eventually have a small list of real couples who we can invite to a house party or play outside somewhere.. as they say "its a numbers game" have to sift thru the time wasters.. cheers Bernie (Neo)
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2more4fun
16 years ago
I help arrange a few guys to 'help' out at an exclusive party each year and it's actually not an easy task. It's kinda like conducting a job interview in the end but worth the effort to make sure the guys who have the balls to turn up, actually do. If they are willing to meet for a coffee to talk about what is expected of them on the night, they're generally good to go. Sadly many guys get worked up over the fantasy but bail out when they start thinking about it too much. I think the number of guys who will actually rock up at a stranger's house with minimal contact/short notice is fairly small. Good or bad? Not really sure but for ladies who want a spontaneous GB - that would suck!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi All, I also find it amazing how hard it is for people to actually meet from here. I know why i am here, I am here because I love sex, espeically with other people who alos love sex and want iot to be more than a rush job. If you would liek a guy who actually does turn up, please let me know. I woudl love to meet some regulars in Sydney, I seem to have more in Brisbane and Melbourne where i travel for work often. Happy to put you in contact with people who can assure you that I am genuine, or even better, just use your own gut to tell you whether ou think I am worth it. I ALWAYS get invited back :) Scrufffy
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yep, we have the same problem... But we seem to find guys with "ex issues" or "family issues" (And we don't even go for married men!)2more 4 fun pretty much got it. Quiet social meet and you get a good chance to suss it out. And it would definitely be a good idea to be direct and tell them what's expected. Then follow that up with a call a few days later to see if they're up for it.So we ALWAYS meet for a social time first. Now, if that all goes well, we're more than happy to play on that night. But if it's not what either party expected, we can cut ties and there's no hard feelings.Same with couples really. We actually do like to chat on MSN first, because we're short on time with our regular lives and often have to plan ahead, so when we do meet a new couple, we want to be as sure as we can that we're not wasting our time with someone we won't click with. At the same time, you get a feel if they're for real just by the what they ask/say/do on MSN. and there too, we go out for a drink first with no pretences!But arranging a group of guys, well, that's a lot of coffee meets you have to do. I love coffee too, but it's usually a take-away on the way to work!! this is where the validation system comes in to it's own. It'd be great if we could start up a "Reliable single males" registry too!!!
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