How to overcome fakes and time wasters in this lifestyle?

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  mysterious_soul

  3 months ago

  I would say don’t give up, keep looking. pretty cool people here so you will definitely find someone hopefully soon. The ghosting part is sadly normal these days. probably has to do with society. MFF or MMF is still kinda taboo i believe and people don’t want to get judged. Maybe try it the other way around instead of you going to that person, maybe offer her to come to you. That could help, because the chance of her knowing someone in your city/town will be close to 0 so she will feel more comfortable and relaxed. And never take ghosting personal. There are lots of reasons people stop communicating. Wish you all the best 🙌

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  sublime

  3 months ago

  I completely feel your frustration, many times my partner and I have chatted, built a connection, exchanged pics , even booked a room and ghosted. Sadly I’m beginning to think quite a few of the female profiles have a hidden agenda, or some are posing as a female profile. Unfortunately it has become the norm .My advice, maybe schedule a video chat prior to making any concrete plans to meet Happy RHP travels

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  Flirty2020

  3 months ago

  Did you ever have a voice “chat”, on the phone, with these “women” beforehand ? If not, they were more than likely males, posing as women. It has happened a few times to us too.

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  Temptress_T

  3 months ago

  You are not alone with that one. I have a theory that there are many on here just for the flirt and the chase. They are not here to meet but rather to feel wanted and desired. It is often hard to find the ones that are actually seeking to meet. There are some awesome social events in Newcastle and that would be a great place to make real connections. It can take time to make true connections but they are out there xx

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  The_Perfect_Pair

  3 months ago

  Agree with all the comments above. We are sceptical of any solo female profiles without any validations - Ben if verified. A voice call or specific pic request is one way around wasting your time. If they don’t produce, move on. Sadly it’s the same with couples pages too. As some have said, it’s a mixture of fake profiles and the real ones where the online chat/flirting is enough to get them off. You’re good looking people. Hang in there and trust your gut when it comes to choosing which profile to interact with.

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  seekandplay

  3 months ago

  Why don’t you book a long weekend in Sydney and head to a venue? You could time it the same time as an event and start building connections there?

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  OpalRose

  3 months ago

  Been here 16 years. Nothing has changed. Only been ghosted at a first meet the one time and kinda already knew it was a fake profile. Verified profiles only. It takes 60 seconds. Validations I don’t care for. I don’t need the world knowing my history. So I don’t care if they have any. If she sexts with you, you aren’t meeting. If she’s straight away into dirty pics, you aren’t meeting. Single women rarely turn up to, or want, a hotel meet the first time. That’s crazy. Custom videos? Why are you doing that? You want to build suspense. Not encourage her to cum on cam. And now when the meet comes “I’m under pressure because I’ve done too much and they might expect too much” I’ve never had to send a photo of my pussy to anyone who I ended meeting. Why would you? Fakes need that. Every suitable profile on here is being inundated with messages. Why would she choose second best? She will have 5-15 new options every day. Be the best of the options she has. Be the person she’s wants to message with. Go to events. I meet most of my beautiful unicorns at events now. If they bought a ticket they are likely going to turn up (100% success so far). But it’s also just a great atmosphere. And there will be single women there. Also remember your approach. A unicorn is doing you a favour. They are not there to ‘help me to give my husband a fantasy on his birthday’. Also remember they are entering a solid relationship with two people. Think of how much pressure that is from her view.

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  nightingale8

  3 months ago

  You meet the single ladies in person at parties. Be nice, be good and they come to you Online is possible but slower and hit or miss

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  boobsandbusted

  3 months ago

  We just stick to meeting people for the first time at an event or place we are already going to ,works for us for numerous reasons ,and one being if they are fake or anything else than what they say ,that’s fine ,we can continue on on our night reguardless ,no harm ,no time wasted ,no drama and definately no fucks given !! Mr b

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  Apples_N_Oranges

  3 months ago

  We can definitely relate and know just how frustrating it can be, finding that genuine connection and someone/s who will commit to meeting up, seems to be getting harder and harder. You guys are an attractive couple, 🎱 says - go with flow, be open to new experiences and a lot of sexy mischief will come your way! J & R

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  SweetSerenade

  3 months ago

  That the thing about unicorns. If you chase them they run away. Although we're open to all combinations singles or couples, we find sexy single females to be the least hassle to find. It's probably more due to the fact that quality men who are in shape are in very short supply.... But we never find them online. Never. You'll have absolutely no success trying to find a single female using the apps. End of story. The only way is to attend meet n greet events, sex clubs on a vixens night,, or nightclubs where you could meet a curious vanilla...

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  SweetSerenade

  3 months ago

  Also the minute you exchange sexts or nudes it's over. They're fake profiles or seeking a sugar date. The majority of female profiles on the site are fake. Verified and validated means very little, yes - those are mostly fake too.

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  selfless__lover

  2 months ago

  Sometimes people have a fantasy of what they would like to do but when push comes to shove, they get cold feet and realise that the fantasy is better left as a fantasy. I would caution about endlessly sending photos to anyone here as a lot of fake profiles too. A couple of tips to weed them out: 1/ verified profiles give you a higher level of confidence 2/ Ask for a specific selfie to prove they are real. Giving a peace sign while poking out their tongue isn't something they can pull from Google or AI quickly. 3/ Don't become penpals. After a bit of getting to know each other ask for a phone call or video call. 4/ If you are here to meet people, often it's better to attend events and parties. You can see the people who have registered interest which will give you an idea of who might attend. 5/ Validations usually come with an extra helping of mayo but they do prove the person is real and actually makes it to the meeting in person stage without ghosting. In time you'll learn your own system for what works and how to identify the fakes and pic collectors. Hope it all works out and don't give up hope just yet, it's easiest for couples looking for other couples or single women on here and in the scene.

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  TandDaddy

  2 months ago

  Hey guys! We feel your frustration! We had something similar happen to us. We matched with a couple, built tension, exchanged pics/vids and locked in a date only to get ghosted by the end of the night. Did it feel shit, yes, did we let it ruin night? Absolutely not. Only a few weeks later we actually met a couple that blew our minds. So don’t give up, you’ll find what you’re looking for. Maybe a video chat or something like that to make sure you know who you’re talking to is the real deal. Maybe try events aswell. This lifestyle is huge for events, that’s where the magic happens! You guys can connect with real couples/single ladies who are looking for something real and exciting with couples like yourselves. Best of luck guys!

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  Miss_fee_81

  2 months ago

  Speaking as a single woman in the lifestyle, what you’re describing is very common, so don’t take it too personally. From my side, a lot of chats can feel great in the moment, but when it comes to actually locking in a meet, reality kicks in. Nerves, logistics, safety concerns, or just not quite enough real-life chemistry yet. It’s much easier to keep things in the chat/sexting space than to follow through. Honestly, events are by far the best way to meet people. The pressure is way lower because you’re not building everything up toward one specific meetup. You can just vibe, chat, and see what feels natural. If you don’t click with one person, no stress. You might meet someone else that same night. It also helps us single women feel safer and get a better read on you both in person, which makes a huge difference compared to messaging. I’d definitely suggest trying a club or event. Go in with no expectations other than meeting people and having a good time. You’ll probably find connections happen much more organically that way.

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  xfitcouple

  2 months ago

  From my experience being on here both as a single woman in the past and now as part of a couple for a number of years, I’d honestly say single women who jump straight into sexting are actually pretty rare and that’s usually a bit of a red flag for me. Most genuine single women tend to be a bit more cautious because they simply don’t need to lead with that. They usually have plenty of interest and are more focused on whether someone feels safe, normal and worth meeting rather than building things around sexual chat first. We’ve actually had a really good experience connecting with single women and generally find it easier than finding genuine single guys. The biggest thing we’ve noticed is the real ones are usually happy to verify themselves pretty early if the vibe feels right. One thing I’d maybe suggest is flipping the order a bit. Try suggesting a quick video chat fairly early before getting too deep into chat or anything sexual. Just a casual “hey, let’s make sure we’re both real people.” Also worth remembering that a verified profile doesn’t necessarily mean you’re talking to the exact person in the photos. It just means a human verified the account. That catches a lot of people out. Unless that’s been changed recently it’s been a while since I’ve verified a profile 🙃 For us, if someone wants to stay in endless chat or moves too quickly into sexual content without wanting to verify or make real plans, that’s usually been a sign to step back rather than lean in. Ms xfit ☺️

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  TheaussieBull88

  15 days ago

  There's sooo many fake profiles on here. If theres a "couple profile" and it's only the guy who messages, and hes begging for cock pics to "show his wife for her approval" but she's too busy to talk" it's 100% fake and just some guy wanting to see cock lol I get these every single week.

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