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How to talk to women on RHP (without being that guy) 1/3
April 24 2025
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Cococurve
one year ago
Step 2: Your Profile Matters More Than You Think If your profile consists of: ❌ No photo (or worse, just a dick pic) ❌ A one-line bio that says “I’m new here, ask me anything” ❌ An interest list that’s just “Dominant, Master, Alpha” Then sir, you are about as appealing as a pap smear. Want women to take you seriously? Try: ✔ A picture of literally anything that isn’t your genitals. ✔ A bio that shows who you are (and no, “I love control” isn’t a personality). ✔ An interest list that actually tells us something interesting about you. A little effort goes a long way.
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Cococurve
one year ago
Step 3: Messaging—How to Not Get Left on Read Let’s roleplay for a second (since I know some of you love that). Imagine you’re at a bar. You see a woman you find interesting. Do you: a) Walk up and grunt, “Hey.” b) Say, “Wanna play?” without so much as an introduction. c) Learn about her interests, find a shared one, and start a real conversation. If you picked C, congratulations! You might actually get a response. If you picked A or B, that’s exactly how bad your DMs look. Here’s a winning formula: ✅ Start with something relevant (“Hey, I saw your comment in chat about what you’re getting up to this weekend—what’s your favourite thing to do when you’re not at work?”). ✅ Show respect and interest in her, not just what she can do for you. ✅ Avoid making demands (“You live near me, we should meet.” No, geographical proximity does not equal instant attraction). Also, if she doesn’t reply? That is your answer. Do not send “???” or “Guess you’re not interested.” This is not customer service.
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Cococurve
one year ago
Step 4: Boundaries Are Not a Debate Some men treat rejection like a puzzle they can solve if they just… argue… hard enough. “I don’t play with people that are a lot younger than me .” → “Why not? I don’t have a problem with it. You just haven’t found the right guy.” “I’m not looking for a partner.” → “You just don’t know what you need yet.” Let me be clear: If a woman sets a boundary, your job is to respect it , not negotiate it
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Cococurve
one year ago
Step 5: Be Someone Worth Talking To You know what actually makes men attractive here? ✔ Sharing interesting thoughts, experiences, and insights. ✔ Engaging in discussions without mansplaining or being creepy. ✔ Being patient, respectful, and treating women like people—not kink vending machines. Basically, if you stop acting like a horny LinkedIn recruiter, you might actually have a shot at meaningful connections. And if all this sounds like too much effort? Then my dear, RHP might not be for you. Sincerely, A Woman Who’s Seen It All
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MsSuperFoxy
one year ago
No offence. This topic in the forums has been done to death. Grown arss men (and women) know all this, BUT choose to ignore. They will also ignore those who lecture them or tell them how to behave and what to do. For some it's a sport: iE getting reactions. Best to move on and ignore. Focus on those who do put the effort in. Huge effort = huge rewards. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
one year ago
Oh the joys of online dating/sex and hookups. I am sure these issues will be ongoing forever. Humans we really are a pack of arses
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RHP User
one year ago
Love your thoughts on the subject matter . I guess in some ways what someone says in their bio and how a person responds goes a long way .
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NeoAndTrin
one year ago
Quite recently a survey was done for users of an app that has something to do with bees, the women were saying how exhausting it was to initiate a first response all the time. And a lot of women I used to connect with on that app also used to just send a 'hey'. So it goes both ways.
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MrandMrsEss
one year ago
Hey Coco, a. I’ve little summary, yes as above said it has been said before but hey just one more bloke might actually have a read this time, but then again they never read anything anyway! What I’ve heard about a bit lately is even more insidious, it’s the guys that know exactly what to say to gain a woman’s trust then they go right ahead and abuse it. It’s the old men are just apes but that’s unfair on the 🦍
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Liz1487
one year ago
I like this post. Thanks.🙏 Your profile is awesome, I enjoyed reading it. But I’m a girl into reading not pictures. I’ve come to think that many men are more visually inclined and have a look-want-chase neural pathway locked in. When I come in contact with someone who doesn’t it stands out and lights me up!
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boobsandbusted
one year ago
Sadly most of the crowd you were trying to aim this at ,would have without doubt got 5 lines in ,if lucky ,before they tuned out and hit next in my opinion Mr b
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selfless__lover
one year ago
@Cococurve it's hard enough for half decent men to meet people on here, don't give the douche bags and fuck boys instructions on how to fake it. It's their way of self eliminating themselves from the pool 😜 Great tips though and a really good post 🙏
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RHP User
one year ago
I may be the odd one out but I seriously don't think so. All these tips for how a man should approach a woman. Sadly I never come across a post that gives another spin on what is happening. Basically women do nothing but a profile on all sites, no payment to initiate contact and then tell men how to contact them. The age of sexual equality has been upon us for some time now yet conveniently the first approach was not added to the list of equality. But what really irks me about these how to do it posts is none of my male friends have ever acted theat way and if they did they would not be friends in any way. Funny I have met as many ugly women with entitlement as men throughout my life. I suppose like life there are things to expect online and men behaving like boys is just one of those. On any dating platform this kind of thing happens. As it is for men to expect no replies and being ignored even when all the little steps mentioned in this post are taken. Life is as it is and can only be accepted as such
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boobsandbusted
one year ago
Having thought about this post a lot oddly ,my answer has changed as guy we prefer to be called to not at ,and this post is purely at ,,and your lack of interaction ,absulutly quantifys that thought process ,sorry but you missed whatever mark you were aiming at ,
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Felicitous
one year ago
It's pretty fascinating that this has almost 500 comments on the stories section and so little here! Shows (for me) how intimate this forum group is and that the wider RHP community are perhaps oblivious to this feature. I love that you posted it there and it's generated much conversation. V x
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SweetSerenade
one year ago
Shhhhh! Don't teach them. We get our share of lazy messages, dick pics, horrible profiles, and some grubs from the "wanna fuck?" Category. If we school them they'll take our advice and some poor people out there will meet them and subsequently discover they're a dud after wasting their date. Let the unsavoury types out themselves before they're even out of the starting blocks. And then give them the block. EZPZ 😉
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DdoubletroubleV2
one year ago
This is so brilliant. I just sent the link to this to a single guy with a one-line profile and who sent “hey”. He blocked us straight after, which saved me a few lines of boring conversation before blocking him - WIN! Love it when the trash takes itself out. 🙌🏻🥳
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