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I have quit relationships/love altogether
March 20 2026
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Introvertedfun
3 months ago
A girl with your looks will always get what they want when they need it👏👏🌶️👿
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Notice_Me
3 months ago
A favorite quote "I'll only have you if you're sweeter than my solitude" - Warsan Shire
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seekandplay
3 months ago
🙋🏻♀️ I’ve left an 18 year marriage. I never ever ever ever ever want a relationship again. The thought of having a man waking up to me every single day again… no thanks!! I’ve really learnt the difference of being alone vs being lonely. I am alone now, but am I lonely? Absolutely not. I was miserable and lonely in my own home, with a man next to me every single day who I had to beg and cry to for really simple, basic things. I don’t *ever* want to go back to feeling that way. I love my life now, no intention of ever changing!
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Shiroi_Akuma
3 months ago
I'm definitely with you on this one.
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JustAManNextDoor
3 months ago
I think a lot of people reach that point at some stage, whether they admit it or not. When you’ve seen enough examples where honesty and loyalty aren’t respected, it does make you question what relationships have become. I’ve been married for 26 years, so I haven’t personally lived through the cycle of short-term relationships falling apart since my early 20's other than a few FWB relationships ending. But from what I’ve observed around me, the fundamentals that used to hold partnerships together such as respect, trust, accountability seem to have eroded in a lot of cases. There’s a growing sense of disposability, like people are easier to replace than to understand. For me, it’s less about giving up on connection and more about being realistic about where I find it. I can appreciate the appeal of dynamics that are clearly defined, mutually understood, and free from the ambiguity and unmet expectations that so often lead to disappointment. There’s a certain honesty in that, ironically. I don’t think choosing peace over potential heartbreak is weakness, it’s awareness. And while I wouldn’t say “never” in absolute terms, I also don’t feel any need to chase something that, in today’s world, often seems to come with more risk than reward. You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way. But I choose not to give up on love and hope that whatever path taken is right for you!
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MsSuperFoxy
3 months ago
Not everyone chooses to be single because they’re wounded. Sometimes it’s simply the freedom to live life on your own terms. As a Sagittarian, I value freedom over constant negotiations. When life’s good, the calendar’s full, and quite frankly I’ve got hot girl shit to do, I’d say I’ve built a pretty great lifestyle. Plenty of people claim relationships are broken, yet somehow still expect loyalty, honesty and effort from their “playmates.” Others watch enough couples stay together for all the wrong reasons and quietly think, I’m good, thanks. Funny how that works. Ms Foxy
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MrandMrsEss
3 months ago
Ohhh I think most people feel like this at some point. I know when my first marriage ended I didn’t want any form of relationship for a long time then when I thought I was ready I was not at all impressed by what was out there. But that was more in this Western society where instant and continuous satisfaction is demanded by everyone, for me it’s not surprising I found what I was looking for from another culture where love, respect and loyalty are paramount and I feel I am truly blessed and can look back on all the crap (imposed by self and others) and be happy it all lead to where I am today. So I’d suggest to try meeting people from different walks of life, might not have to be different cultures but for me I always knew I didn’t really fit into the one I was born. Lastly it’s when you are truly at peace to be alone when it seems the right paths present themselves. Till then you can leave your shoes at the end of our bed any time you like 😈
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nightingale8
3 months ago
Ditch the relationships but don’t give up on love. It might just look different to what you’ve been looking for. Even if it didn’t last a lifetime doesn’t mean it’s not worth it. You deserve love too! ❤️
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Sescalinata
3 months ago
I love my single life, with the odd date here and there. I honestly don't think I could live with a man again. I agree with you totally. I see a lot more women on social media regailing being single. One guy commented that women would end up alone in their home with a cat and a bottle of wine. Someone answered " are you threatening me with a good time?" There are plenty of couples who are good together, but it seems women are realising you don't need a man to be happy.
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MsSuperFoxy
3 months ago
OP Maybe one day Prince Charming might arrive and kiss you while you're sleeping. But knowing modern dating, he’ll probably send a ‘Wanba root?’ text instead. Ms Foxy 😂🤣
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Evo6717
3 months ago
Little not all guys are like that just like not all women are the same. The right person will show up when you least expect it. My first wife had an affair with a mate hence we got a divorce and I also had no trust in people. Years later I found my life partner and have been together for 35 years and with that trust we’re on here enjoying life
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Unbecoming
3 months ago
I was very young when I met my husband... his red flags looked very different to the ones I was accustomed too so I didn't really recognise them. He always told me that he felt like he was never enough, but truthfully, that's what he made me. I don't know if I have the ability to trust someone implicitly ever again x my nervous system is finally calm and I have so much peace, I wouldn't trade that for anything. There is one man I have met here, and I'm starting to think... if I could see him every few weeks... I could be single forever!!!
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Alex_Lover
3 months ago
After a 30+ year monogamous and ongoing marriage, I have found that polyamory is my preferred relationship dynamic. Which is to say, I've not given up on relationships, I've added more. In this case a girlfriend of 1.5 years at this point. - Alex.
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TheVelvetKey
3 months ago
I totally understand where you are coming from… however I do still hold hope that there are relationships that can work well. I am a single full time parent, and I have no interest in a relationship. I firmly believe that this lifestyle is far more honest and respectful than the traditional monogamous lifestyle. It should be said though, that there are also dishonest people in this lifestyle, so ultimately we do have to accept that we alone are responsible for our own happiness and wellbeing…. enjoy life, treat people as you would like to be treated, and give no time or energy to those who don’t deserve it. One day we may just find our own version of the perfect partnership.
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dianet
3 months ago
@littlemspeachass I hear your pain lovely. You are not alone in feeling this way. There are many women who are confident and sexy on their own (and men too) that are having no luck finding real love. But as a friend of mine said, you can be open to best of both worlds until your Mr Right comes your way with substance on offer. And if he doesn't, you haven't wasted any time committing to a fake love or a relationship that never goes anywhere. I adore the FWBs I have made over the years in the scene. They are definitely friends first before benefits. And in practical aspects they have supported me more than the ones who claims to "love" me who never step outside their comfort zone. Actions over words, certainly my FWBs, men, women and couples, make me feel loved and fullfilled, that's not at all a bad place to be. 🥰
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RHP User
3 months ago
Single life is the best life :)
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nutsundae
3 months ago
@littlemspeachass firstly, I'm really sorry for what sounds a pretty shitty run you've had. For what it's worth, there are many users here who empathise. Betrayal is a special kind of hurt that cuts very deep. For me, there's a massive difference between physical intimacy, sexual gratification and even deep emotional connection that can be fulfilled with hook-ups/events/play partners/lifestyle friends/FWBs etc.. and having a life partner - someone you share the joys, milestones, burdens and tragedies of adult life with, who is always there and has your back and for whom you are #1, and vice versa, and that's even leaving a family out of the equation. Many relationships (mine included) fail because we incorrectly think those two things are integrated parts of the one whole and so we try to mash them together, where they are actually diametrically opposed. Recognising and embracing that these can (and arguably, should) be decoupled and happily co-exist is at the centre of the lifestyle, IMO. Some people are perfectly happy and live wonderfully fulfilled lives with just one, or neither, of these two boxed ticked. A lucky few have both. Others have only one and yearn deeply for the other. There is no right or wrong. It's what is right for you, at whatever particular stage in your life you are at. My advice (disclaimer, I strongly advise anyone ever thinking about listening to advice from me to seriously reconsider) is to give yourself time and space to heal, and to focus on you. In time, you might find yourself wanting a partner again. Then it will be a case of risk and reward. Am I prepared to open myself again to heartbreak, or do I want to shut myself off and live out my days single? Again, no right or wrong - it will come down to what's right for you. Do know that despite your painful experiences, there are amazing, wonderful, beautiful souls out there, just as there are sadly a shitload of arseholes. A question to consider - and this is by no means suggesting fault or blame as the betrayals were not your fault, it was theirs - is whether there is any pattern to the partners that have been hurting you? Are there maybe red flags you have missed, or indeed, been attracted to? Again, what has happened to you is not your fault, but reflecting on the question might help better protect your heart in the future - if you ever decide to roll the dice on love again.
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EarthQueen
3 months ago
I'm not looking but it's not because I feel like I can't trust someone. I'm just happy doing life solo. I have a busy connected life and lots of friends. I'm always doing something be it out in nature, catching up with mates or going to music concerts. I feel content and love doing whatever I want. If you told me I would be like this 5 years ago I would not have believed it. Yet here I am loving it.
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austeuro
3 months ago
first, let me apologize for the grammatical mistakes, but I hope you will understand what I want to say. I understand your position and I won't ask too much why you decided that way. as we get older, it becomes more and more difficult to find a person who suits us. we have all become very selfish and have deluded ourselves into receiving and giving and looking only at ourselves. second, we ourselves make mistakes so that the other person starts doing wrong things. if you haven't been lucky enough to find the right person for you, don't give up. we always do that easily
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S33kNud1stFr3nds
3 months ago
@Littlemspeachass , I'm in the same boat but I haven't given up on relationships. More so just enjoying the sexual lifestyles I enjoy and making friends has been awesome. Not changing that. If a relationship finds me then great , in the mean time I'll love myself enough to continue to enjoy life and the adult fun I seek. I hope you continue to enjoy yourself and let the universe send that elusive partner you seek. 🫂😘
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Staminastalion
3 months ago
100%
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RHP User
3 months ago
Yes. I will never get into another relationship again. I’m officially done ✅
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Misscheif
3 months ago
I find fwb fun way more fulfilling … you have the play and the sexual fun but none of the baggage After 24 years of marriage I’m happiest I’ve been I. Years
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RHP User
3 months ago
Couldn’t agree more!! Married for nearly 2 decades, then a couple shitty ending short term relationships after. Absolutely no interest in being let down again..
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MsPeachass
3 months ago
@sescalinata
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Valkyrie_and_man
2 months ago
This is man here, normally Valky is using the account. As our profile indicates, we’re in a weird situation where she came out as gay, we separated last after years of just making it work by being open etc. I now find myself on the situation a woman I dated told me “you’re the most relationship guy I’ve ever met as a person, but the fact you still in the same house as your ex wife (for my kids sake) means that situationally, you’re a fuck boy only” So basically I think till my kids are older (8 more years) I’m resigned to being single. But it’s hard to get into the mindset of only having “fun” sex with no meaning behind it. Sigh. I didn’t mind it when it was mixed in with “love sex” too. So I’m at a bit of a loss. I might just go join a monastery or something 🤣🤣
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Fuckyousweetness
2 months ago
Congratulations on your decision would you like🏅i think I'm fresh out of sympathy at the moment.
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HotSeeker
2 months ago
I’m new to this site and the scene but I have just come out of a long term relationship with my partner, she was a lying cheating !! etc . Good riddance and I’m not looking for a relationship like that again, certainly didn’t see it coming. It doesn’t matter how good you are to them if they have internal issues they will be the rock on you. I have never cheated on a partner or girlfriend ever and just a line I’ll never cross. Flowers and respect just don’t cut it for some . It is what it is Pun intended .. Not giving up as everyone is different . Until then have fun. ;)
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ScottApril
2 months ago
I’m so sorry babe… relationships are hard but if honesty and communication are there you can find love again. I’m not giving up, nothing beats two people totally devoted to each other Like the song says Don’t stop believing 🥰
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Quietone
2 months ago
Try being a single male over 50, not ripped up with muscles, not swinging a horse. Just an ordinary bloke, works hard. Doesn't get noticed by one woman on this sight, not even a conversation from a woman to even get to know me. And women wonder why alot of men are jaded. I like to believe there is a woman out the for me. Don't know. By the way I had commented on your profile.
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FunnyBum
2 months ago
Never again. Stay single and have fun. Relationships are way to difficult.
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Shampus
2 months ago
Wow,I know how you feel.I have a great marriage except for the poor sex,ha,no sex.But that’s ok cos I do really love my wife and have tried all these years to have at least one night of mind blowing sex.Well that ain’t going to happen but I do love her so much.I understand how you feel and the want for that beautiful connection,please don’t give up.❤️❤️Shampus
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Fitandcut
2 months ago
Yep. Agree. Relationships are not worth it.
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dimples4fun67
2 months ago
Single 15 yrs and they just cant commit or havnt sorted their shit out, cant communicate, ghost,or just want sex until the next best thing comes along. Then all come back months or years later because they tried others and realised "she was a good person " Say no baggage or over their ex but they dont do the work on themselves. Talk the talk then disappear. Staying single because they all lie.
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OlderRavers
2 months ago
Yep, that was me for 7 years. Until along came Mrs Raver.
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TheRogue_Unicorn
2 months ago
I feel your words with all my heart! However, I am fickle and hate sharing my time and space with anyone.... I am having a great time meeting new people, having play time when I feel like it and going home alone until the next time. I think it would take someone truly exceptional to change my mind. I don't think there is anything wrong with this. Maybe we are simply just embracing a new and non traditional life style and that is ok ❤️
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RHP User
2 months ago
100 percent but we do crave some touch
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SugarSugar69
2 months ago
Oh I hear you loud and clear babe
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Brisbloke4006
one month ago
I’m in the same position and very happily so. Social expectation is for us to partner up whereas I now prefer to have a circle of close friends - play partners and platinic
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NewOldStock
26 days ago
I've never been in one so this is a little discouraging haha
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breeding_kink
21 days ago
No. Can't say I have.
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jay4u
19 days ago
@Mspeachass, I hear what you're saying hun, sometimes the outside world is a reflection of our inside world. We also look through a lens, whether that's trauma etc, but you are correct Hun in saying. If boundaries have been crossed, then there's no going back. Especially if a conversation has been said about what has come up for you. No relationship is easy, it takes a lot of work, commitment, healthy self and true love from the heart ❤️ 🪃 We are seeing a lot of relationships end right now ( myself included) and if you look at this astrologically ( we are coming into the age of Aquarius ) And I've experienced this myself were the universe will shine a darkness into myself, and ask me to face my fears, what I'm running from, what I need to heal etc. And until will face those demons, we can never truly turn up for self and learn to love self first,let alone anyone else 🪃🙏 Be kind to yourself hun through this challenging time for self, soft landings and I truly hope things work out for you. Marrungu Nyura Jason 🖤 💛 ❤️ 🪃
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RHP User
11 days ago
Dating just seems so complicated in 2026. But there are more options for girls. Its a girls world when it comes to dating in general. Enjoy
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