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I see you watching me, watching you...

June 17 2012

So... this site introduced me to threesomes, and after some experiences on here, I’ve been able get more of an idea of the things I like and don’t like to do with couples. A couple of months ago, the last time I played with a couple, I discovered that I was a mite uncomfortable about having sex with the Mr of the couple while Mrs simply watched. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’ve got nothing against having sex with other women’s hubbies, but I’d much rather it be during the tangle of bodies, with her below me, above me, behind him, beside us, you name it! I also have no issues with him watching while we two girls explore one another. It was only her watching sans participation that didn’t sit quite right with me. It’s probably due to my number one rule that I never hit on another girl’s man… In the time since, I’ve received emails from couples and we’ve exchanged PGs, we like the look of each other, and then they ask about my experiences so far and my likes and dislikes. At this time, I’ll state this one discomfort….and then… *tumble weed* This has happened with no less than FOUR couples. Now I understand that pretty much all swinging couples enjoy the voyeuristic thrill of watching their hubby/partner with another woman. However I would have assumed that in the case of a couple with a bi-curious/bisexual woman seeking a single bisexual girl, they would be looking to concentrate more on the female play rather than the ‘watching my hot hubby bang a random girl’. I mean, if you’re a swinging couple, you can get those kicks from being with another couple.   So question…is it that much of a deal breaker?

Comments

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    13 years ago

    I'm a big fan of spaghetti, twister and yoga...

  • Sybaritical

    Sybaritical

    13 years ago

    That seems rather incredulous to me. The tangled, blurring of bodies and the accidental combinations of "non monogamous" encounters are the best part IMHO. Although, that said, there are many faces to the prism of sexuality and I guess, being up front about what you want or don't want when combined with an understanding audience is bound to be the best way to find what you're looking for... or avoid what you're not. Although being *tumble weeded* is a bit rough really.

  • avidmale

    avidmale

    13 years ago

    Now i could be completely wrong.. but from my opinion.. it just seems like its a couple profile mainly used by the M of the couple. And its really just the bloke wanting a good time.. I dunno, maybe there are more geniune couples like that than i give credit for.. but if everything seems to be going along well.. I wouldve thought a 1/1 play with the Man to be fairly rare.Having said this.. I dont have a swinging relationship with a partner, so I dont know how they think.

  • erotictouch4u

    erotictouch4u

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'City_Kitty'At this time, I’ll state this one discomfort….and then… *tumble weed* This has happened with no less than FOUR couples. From what some women have said before in the forums this sounds like it might have been a very cleverly disguised single guy posing as a couple ET xox

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Both love the daisy chain effect of three people working as one. Its always that kind of moment we look back on thinking god that was HOT!Tim.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    and declined.   All in for us too.   Sure a little FF play to warm up is cool and very rarely (Mr is very particular) some MM play. But it's all just a lead up to the all in free-for-all ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I can't even sit still watching the footy..I'm more a player then a spectator. Same with watching group parties or a couple going at it on cam..or even a couple going at it in the same room...unless Im in the thick of the action..it doesn't do anything for me. I'd last about 20 secs watching before I'd dive in..or Id have to go put the kettle on or something because having a bored expression on my face would be doing no wonders for everyones mojo there..

  • QLDtwo4fun

    QLDtwo4fun

    13 years ago

    As the Mr of this couple I can say that I like the experience of the M and F pleasuring the other F scenario, a bit of team work on Mrs Q or the guest. For me, fucking the other F is not essential.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    As blokey as it seemed was actually, as everything typed here is by me the "Mrs" of our little bat team..( If it was Mr..he'd still be typing first sentence from one of my posts that was done days ago.. ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Been there, played that. I'm more in the box of "not an exhibitionist" and not keen on being watched in general... I feel *awkward*. Like I'm waiting for the "adjustment" or "gold star". It weirds me out. But yes, I have to agree, being actively watched by a lovely lady while I fuck her husband... it's just not something I'm comfortable with, despite being comfortable with the shagging-him-part, and comfortable with the casual conversation with both parties prior/post shag. I was much happier with the her-busy-shagging-part. Same room/whatever/as long as I don't feel eyeballs I'm good :D I'm thinking it's a little odd that they just drop contact at that mention, though? Particularly if the lady in question is bi and they are looking for FFM(bi)?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Paradise - with such an underwhelming day at work today, I am seized with an overwhelming urge to play Twister right now.... I guess now I understand why I was such an aggressive Twister player all those years ago at tween birthday parties :p

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    13 years ago

    Now you've got me wondering about human jenga, where we all fit nicely together until we fall into a heap.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    It would be much the reverse. I would take a breather and sit back and watch or a while. ...And then ofcourse, there are the photography duties to be attended to. ...And at some stage, Jennylee would send me off to make her a cuppa. ...And eventually, I'd have to get up and shower to go to work. ...But all the while, Jen would still be hard at it.     ...You know, Jennylee is going to be the death of me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    We agree' many couples on here like the voyeuristic side of a threesome. Personally' we dont see a problem with that' and think most couples like the visual aspect as much as participating in the sex itself.. Lets face it' it is nice watching two people make love at any time. We recently chatted with a attractive young lady here on RHP who actually requested that exact scenario, nice sex with Mrs JJ while Mr watched only.. While Mr JJ was fine with this' Mrs felt leaving Mr out was not what we are about.. We realise the young womans reasons were very real to her and we respected her feelings regarding this.. Maybe in a few years time' and with more experience's she may see things differently... But for now' for us' it was a potential good time sent begging... and one we regret did not eventuate.. J & J

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Oh, oh! Can I just say that my Jenga skills are legendary amongst my friends? Nimble fingers ;) And JJs - not quite the same situation as I'm describing, but I catch your drift :p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Just as sometimes our Mr likes to watch a guy fuck my brains out, I do enjoy quite a bit sitting back and watching him go to town on the lady. We have had only one couple experience, and no single ladies join us for play, so not a wealth of experience, but I guess the main reason I like having a good looky loo is to see what it looks like, that amazing stuff he does to me. Frankly I'm looking for tips... I know what "I" like, but how does that translate to doing it to another girl? If I watch then I know.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    City Kitty honey buns....this place is selfish and everyone is out to exploit for their own gain. Most are not here to care for you or care for your welfare. It doesn't sound nice but it's the reality. Make sure you look after you xo.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    If the F part of the couple is straight and doesn't want to play with the single woman over for the threesome, she just needs to get her M to include her some other way if he and the visitor are enjoying intercourse. With some creative positioning F can receive oral sex/fingering/toys. She could kiss him passionately. She could lick the man's balls as they swing about. If he's an open minded man, F could give some kind of anal play to M. Even if the lady of the couple is just pleasuring herself, that's got to feel less awkward for the visitor than being a fly on the wall.   Alternatively, she could get the orange slices and Gatorade ready.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Different ? I'll have to reread. Thought the topic was similar , but what the heck . Being here is about happy endings.... yes ? hehe. If we look for faults , we find them easily enough.. cheers JJs xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Saturn65'I can't even sit still watching the footy..I'm more a player then a spectator. Same with watching group parties or a couple going at it on cam..or even a couple going at it in the same room...unless Im in the thick of the action..it doesn't do anything for me. I'd last about 20 secs watching before I'd dive in..or Id have to go put the kettle on or something because having a bored expression on my face would be doing no wonders for everyones mojo there.. Yep, I'm a kid in a candy store....cant keep my filthy mits off everything!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Jensman - you've certainly got your hands full ;) Enigma, you're an absolute sweetheart. I'll reply to your email when I can get the time in the next day or so to sit down and write a proper one x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    hahahah So typical you thats what makes you so special !!! xx s&h

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'City_Kitty'Jensman - you've certainly got your hands full ;) Enigma, you're an absolute sweetheart. I'll reply to your email when I can get the time in the next day or so to sit down and write a proper one x No problem :) x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I'm an all-in-melee kinda girl. I hate seeing anyone left out.xx Sarah

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'jensman1903' It would be much the reverse. I would take a breather and sit back and watch or a while. ...And then ofcourse, there are the photography duties to be attended to. ...And at some stage, Jennylee would send me off to make her a cuppa. ...And eventually, I'd have to get up and shower to go to work. ...But all the while, Jen would still be hard at it.     ...You know, Jennylee is going to be the death of me.I've never heard you complain.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    It does seem odd that a bi F wouldn't want to join in the fun. Step back and look on for a bit perhaps but then maybe they are looking for that special thing and you just denied it, hard to say. Perhaps you rumbled a single m posing as, and mention of the f being there in any capacity scuppered the plan.   If we were a few years younger we would pop down and make up for the 4 you missed out on Kitty

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Everyone is different and each combination of couple is a unique entity in itself. Some may say they "want / need/ are looking for" this or that, but in actual fact when it comes to the down and dirty of it- when the "fantasy" is played out, it may bring up feelings in them they did not expect- good or bad. As far as CityKitty is concerned, I think its great that you know what you like/dislike and know what you are looking for. I like that you are not afraid to be honest and upfront (a rarity and great quality in this day and age!) I think the couples where the one on one thing is what they want but not what you want, are just not for you- let them work their own way out in their own time- you obviously have more experience than them so the "deal breaker" has done you a favour !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Good on you Kitty 22 and know what ya want. Im one of those women that likes to watch. Seems I am alone... Something clicks inside me watching my man pleasure another woman. Then its all in

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Aww thanks, Swinging; that's nice of you I doubt that they were men posing as couples, due to their positive validations.Triton - I don't mean it as a negative fetish in the slightest, we all have our own things that 'float our boat'. And to be honest, I'm glad I didn't end up with those couples, as 2bulls has said, as what's the point when you have different aims and things in mind?

  • realcouple4u

    realcouple4u

    13 years ago

    We find their is no set rule weather its a mfm or a ffm , We dont mind how it pans out at the end of the night as long as everyone is satisfied why worry about how you arrived their

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    My first threesome encounter went like this. Mr & mrs cooked me a lovely dinner, lots of wine flowed freely. After dinner was asked if I wanted to play and said yes. He and I got it on while mrs watched naked on the couch and masturbated. I couldn't take my eyes off her! I came so hard and loud. Now it's what I think about if I have to play alone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    take control mabes its you being too shy..........i mean hey you wre being screwed so your there already...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    We think you need to come visit us.... Could solve your problems right there hehe. We love to be all involved :-)