If you knew you were coming between a couple, would you continue?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  This is always the risk. Not the swinging as such but if you get to know other men and see them frequently you will always run the risk that you may fall for another man. You need to put rules in place to ensure this doesn't happen. Some husbands don't mind their wife having a boyfriend ... Maybe a compromise. :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  This is always the risk. Not the swinging as such but if you get to know other men and see them frequently you will always run the risk that you may fall for another man. You need to put rules in place to ensure this doesn't happen. Some husbands don't mind their wife having a boyfriend ... Maybe a compromise. :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I was actually thinking about this subject this morning before I read it on here. I was wondering if a lot of people on here that swing are actually looking for something more than their partner is giving them, be it a prettier face, better body or just better sex. For me and mrs h it's not about swinging, I don't want another woman as she is enough for me, she says she doesn't want another man touching her but craves the touch of a woman. So it's obvious that I don't give her enough softness as such that a sensual woman does. But are people on here looking for more than their partner is giving them?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  For Us2. We're not into the lifestyle to gain or replace anything in our lives, as we enjoy what each other gives. We swing cause we are comfortable with it, we enjoy it but never let it rule our life.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  If I thought I was coming between a couple I would nip it in the bud and talk to both or discontinue I don't think it's a place you should be . It's adult fun and its not a good game if someone gets left out. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  People in any kind of relationship are going to be surrounded by other people who may present qualities that appeal, and potentially entice them, or question their relationship. It can be as innocent as a genuinely thoughtful act from out of nowhere ("why doesn't my wife do that anymore?"), to the overwhelming physical pleasure of great sex ("This guy is MUCH better than hubby!"). It doesn't matter when, where, and how it came about, something that catches and sustains attention will usually bring more, maybe from another source.Swinging (a non primary relationship) does have the sexual element that's normally not present in outside companions with an exclusive monogamous relation, so when the sex is present and is really good (and every other factor too!) with another person it can contrast with other problems present in the primary relationship (the marriage) and can lead down the path of separation. This assumption is built on the idea that there ARE other problems (there usually are, but that's my opinion).Bottom line - It may be a factor, but it's definitely not the be all and end all.Answering your question - No, I wouldn't pursue, because as much as I hate exclusive relationships I still respect them, and I don't want to hurt anyone or be the catalyst in a breakup. It's why when we swing we always meet people first in public so we can observe their dynamic and can see whether they care about each other and their mutual pleasure.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  A) I don't play. B) if I felt I or they were getting too close...I disappear - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  ...it's a potential danger. People fall into and out of love for many and varied reasons. I'm not still with my first gf... So I have decided to move on to search for someone who suits me better. Just like the rest of you have too... The couples in here who have their shit together, you wouldn't come between them anyway... Because they have their shit together. But others have chinks in their relationships, and on some level one or both are seeking something more perhaps ? Vanilla people have affairs with friends, run off with the milkman, their mechanic, secretary etc etc. At an extreme level, if you're in a dysfunctional relationship and someone of hp's class (make of that what you will 😎) is nearby, then you'd jump ship. You'd be mad not to... Would I encourage a relationship to breakdown ? No, it's not my desire nor intent, but if something burns between two people... Hp xo 💌 Hoping I've expressed myself well... And posting anyway...

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  It's cool whatever you post. We are learning along the way, we found that hubby doesn't like to see me kissing boys (girls are fine) he feels it's too personal, so I stopped. I just always looked at swinging as adding a bit of spice, not looking for something missing. I personally if I saw a guy becoming to attached to me, I'm very honest in steering him away. However, my friend had been swinging for nearly 10 years and married 30 odd years Does anyone else know of couples moving over to sex partners?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  This seems to have really surprised you, about your friend I mean. Why? I wouldn't think its unusual. If she was ready to move on and she met someone whom obviously showed her what she was missing. Besides new lust is always going to be more exciting than the same old dude you have been sleeping with for 30 years. It happens in swinging, I have heard of people leaving their husbands for men thy meet in the chat rooms!!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'GMerst25' People in any kind of relationship are going to be surrounded by other people who may present qualities that appeal, and potentially entice them, or question their relationship. It can be as innocent as a genuinely thoughtful act from out of nowhere ("why doesn't my wife do that anymore?"), to the overwhelming physical pleasure of great sex ("This guy is MUCH better than hubby!"). It doesn't matter when, where, and how it came about, something that catches and sustains attention will usually bring more, maybe from another source. Wonderfully put. This is how Mr S and I look at things.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I love your advice and always look forward to your comments/suggestions. Thank you

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