If your partner wasn't a swinger would you still be together?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We got enticed into naughtiness by just discussing things and having interests sparked. We find for us the desire to explore with more than 2 comes and goes and when it feels right for both of us we'll indulge. One of the nicest things we find is the complete lack of jealousy we have. To see your partner satisfied physically by someone else and to only feel happy that they are enjoying themselves really removes any trace of jealousy from our lives and takes our relationship past a notional idea of being true to someone physically to being true to them mentally. Geez does this make any sense?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  it is kinda long story for but the short version goes alittle something like this after the birth of our 2nd child my wife had little, wait no sex drive what so ever..being the lovely women she is she said if i could some on the side to go for it, as long as she knew well i got a date and kinda wished i didn't go but anywho, when i got home she decided that she wanted some loving cause the thought of me with another chick got her going.. and now this is who we are...i make no secret of it, any1 that know me knows some people fail to understand but accept it.. scott p.s we had been togeather for 5 years before we started 2 of em married

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' We suspect a hell of a lot of people get into this to "save" their relationship and that's probably doomed to the most gigantic, catastrophic failure. Couldn't agree more. Starting out to 'save' your relationship with swinging is kind of like 'saving' it by having another child or getting married if your aren't already. All good ways to increase the pain factor of the failure. To answer the question; Lord and I started this journey together. We are strong in our marraige and ALWAYS our first priority is each other. If there comes a time when we need to slow down on the playing to pay attention to our marraige we will both be there with bells on. Otherwise we celebrate each other's experiences and benifit from what we have learned about each other and ourselves. JustFun your definition of Open relationship is your opinion and you are entitled to it but I know from speaking with other people in Open Relationships that Open does not mean 'you have my permission to do what ever you like'. It is something more like 'lets open our minds to the possibilites and operate within the boundaries we are both comfortable with.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  My wife and i tried it once and enjoyed it and didn't get weird afterwards.That was around two years ago now and we do talk about bringing another guy in,Any tips to getting into it again

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We are clearly not swingers ........ and bebe we dont want to be !!!! Sarah and I have decided to become hedonists ........... non of this rules and rubbish , no keys in bowls , no need to swap to have fun no need to be beholded to a false set of crazy rules made by ......who ?????? Give me joy give me fun, give me kink, give me filth hmmmmmmmmm all of it you can give me ! Oh lord yes we play seperately ....... we trust each other it works and it brings us no end of pleasure ........ I dont get "taking one for the team" lord I dont want the delightful sarah to have to fuck some bloke because I want to get sexy with his wife ......she is after all SARAH the magnificent .......... not a goat or a camel to be swapped ! ".....how much for the women...I want to buy the women ......" Am I saying swapping is bad?? Nooooooooooo not at all .....you play your way I will play mine. Enjoy have fun be a hendonist like sarah and I. Risk is a value judgement! Is it not do I risk this for my pleasure hmmmmmm will I risk this ? Sarah is just as capable falling for a sassy blonde gal as a sassy blonde guy and for that matter so am I ! So to answer the question posed intially has swinging made our relationship better stronger .....NO ........hendonism has made it strong made it a journey made it a ride ............. It has ups and downs ......It has very rough patches and very blissful devine periods of pure lusty pleasure .....yummmmmmmmm SO I am proudly now an ethical hedonist NOT A SWINGER ....non of your crazy rules for me ! Wanna join the fun ? Come with me ! Brae ........ new self elected captain of the RHP Hendonist club !

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Swinger? Open relationship? Nooooo I think the "Ethical Hedonist" is a label we can take cover under! Although on a quick Google and Wiki defines Hedonism as "Hedonism is a school which argues that pleasure is the only intrinsic good... In very simple terms, a hedonist strives to maximize this net pleasure (pleasure minus pain)." Now I don't quite agree with this as one persons pleasure could cause pain to others. Now Wiki has a go at Ethics: "Ethics (also known as moral philosophy) is a branch of philosophy that addresses questions about morality—that is, concepts such as good and evil, right and wrong, virtue and vice, justice". So yes if one can achieve moral hedonism and enjoy life without hurting others then this is the religion we all should follow. We Pups try to be hedonists in everything we do, not just the sexy stuff. We also try and give back to those in the world that are less fortunate than us and we firmly believe this is a hedonistic pursuit as well as it make us feel good, no altruism here, Wiki: "Altruism (pronounced /ˈæltruːɪzəm/) is selfless concern for the welfare of others." Concern is not selfless as concerning yourself with others makes oneself happy!

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