Improving my game

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  These are all questions I have confronted in my few years on here. Like most you will simply learn from your mistakes, but I can offer the following suggestions to address your points: - Appearing too eager is probably better than not appearing eager enough. If someone messages me or sends me a flirt I look at their profile of course and if I think we are a match I message back straight away. Many people here who are seeking will cast out many lines and the line that twitches first is naturally the one they will focus the most of their attention on. - So yes, respond straight away to messages, but you have to work out how to tread the fine line between showing all your cards too early and appearing uninterested. - I have a rule regarding photos, and I learnt the hard way with this; whomever asks for them first should also be the first to exchange them. You don't have to give them face pics straight up, just do a body photo - naked or otherwise. Be very wary of pic hunters, but they usually give themselves away by asking for them straight up. - Rejection is one of the hardest things to get used to on here, although as a woman you will probably find not too many blokes reject you. Ghosting is another matter, and you just have to expect it. It will suck the first few times but a little less each time. I would say don't go too far out of your way for a meet, and resolve to have a date with yourself if it happens, so at least you can get some enjoyment out of it. Eventually you will reach a state of not expecting anything when communicating, that way if nothing comes of it it's what you expected and is therefore not disappointing. - Whether you are invited back depends upon them. Some blokes don't want more than one-offs and they will quickly stop all contact with you, some rude pricks will even block you so they don't have to hear from you again. Others will be respectful and nice, even if they don't want to go there again with you. - Dynamics post-fuck? Some people will just want you to dress and leave, others will want you to hang around and possibly go extra rounds. Everyone is different like that. You will get a sense pretty quickly after Valhalla has been reached for them which one they are. Good luck, prepare for a few (at the least) gumboots on the end of your line before you snag yourself an actual fish.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Eagerness is tricky; but it’s also a compliment to have someone interested in you. And a good conversation relies on timeliness of replies in my opinion. Ghosting is a lot lot worse after you’ve met someone, I think. It shows a lack of maturity in some instances. But a mutual silence post date is acceptable and an unspoken truce. I don’t know if you meant the minutes post fuck or the days... it’s worth discussing lightly on the date, pre play (if that’s happening!). I know play partners who liked cuddles and chats but not sleep overs. As to longer term, I feel it’s appropriate to thank via message after the fact if you’d be interested in a repeat (ie that’s the signal). Ask before offering your pics but I liked the suggestion to show yours first, if you’re asking to see theirs. There’s nothing that frustrates me more than the one fuck and ghost: the sex is seldom wow for me, and seems to be a waste of time to me 🤷‍♀️.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  There’s only one rule...in my view... Be true to yourself....not to someone else... Doing this will see you only attract those who you will click with, and be most compatible with, without the worry of all that other crap....cos lets face it, people that are on your same wave length, will be very similar in nature so you’ll just get one another and things will progress with ease, and not like trying to cure constipation....

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  They don't know themselves. Each guys dynamics will change with each partner. They are like a kangaroo on the road....who knows which direction it'll hop. I've had meets that go well. Then they disappear and you think that it didn't do it for them. Then 4 months later they contact you for a repeat and pester for a yes. As Antichrist says, just be yourself even if you fumble through events. A natural fumble bumble is always so much better than a preplaned choreographed routine that makes them feel like a number in the queue. A human makes mistakes, an artificial machine is predictable

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Get a frog and kiss it regularly. Good luck.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Amdt

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  We don't need no stinkin' rules, Cisco... shoot the sheriff. He's the jackass riding the burro...and should be shot for that! ʗɱ

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I appreciate honesty.I don't like games, strategies and manipulation leave me cold.Just be true to yourself your wants and desires anything less and the biggest loser is you.

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  meow111

  7 years ago

  I think you are overthinking this WAY too much. If you want to respond straight away, respond straight away. If you want to wait to formulate a response, then wait. Share intimate pics when you feel like you're into someone enough that you'd want them to see that side of you.If the sex was amazing and you want a second fuck, tell them exactly that. In terms of not being too keen, a lot of that is common sense. If someone responded to your messages straight away, would that bother you? Probably not. If someone sent you 5, 6, 7 messages in a row like 'why aren't you replying?!' you'd probably be creeped out. Likewise, if someone you'd be speaking to and flirting with for a while sent you a picture of his great big delicious cock.... fuck yeah! If the exact same picture was sent by someone who you'd never even spoken to before... fuck off. So my general advice would be to just chill out. It's not a game, there are no set of 'rules' you have to abide by (apart from of course consent respect etc). Try to stop second guessing yourself and follow your instincts. Note that this advice comes from a fellow woman who also overthinks everything and is trying really hard to stop!

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Totally agree with meoww. Dont over think it. Just be yourself. Youll only be comfortable when you are being yourself. There are plenty of guys on rhp. Realistically, you wont fuck them all, because everyone wants what they want and has a type. Dont take offense or get upset or anything. Just keep interacting with people in your way and someone will click woth you. And it will be amazing because you dont need to put it on and be fake or try too hard etc Hope ive helped

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Sorry just to add from my experience and to actually answer some of your questions haha I love when the woman takes initiative. It shows interest in me. If you were to msg me first and send me pics. Id be flattered and would atleast have the decency to reply either way.

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