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In reference to newbies...
September 15 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do you have instant posting rights? I know that for new people their comments don't appear for a number of hours... And unfortunately by then the conversation has moved on. It's not that anyone is ignoring you... It's just people with instant rights have a can have an instant conversation. Keep posting!!! 😀
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RHP User
12 years ago
It happens to us all.I thought gosh my comments were pretty good, yet I felt like in invisible woman. When I first came on RHP. I was shot down in flames more times than I care to count.Also the regulars often let you ease on in before jumping on your posts. Give you time to get the feel of it.Sometimes we can take the gloves of and thats a bit daunting for a new person. If you look back you will see that all of the regulars at some time, have had a right tiff over different subjects. Like any group of people, we develop a respect or even a dislike for what people say on here.I read your posts, I find them interesting so keep at it.there are hundreds of people that read the forum, some not even members of RHP as you can read them without even going into RHP.People will love you, hate you, or a bit of both.I write because yes, I have an ego, love the attention and also because I learn to think a about my views and have changed them over time after learning from the people on here who are so generous to show themselves.welcome to the sand pit
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
When you're the OP you'll get direct comments, when you quote what someone-else has said and leave it open for reply you'll get comments but post which doesn't either have a question with in it or is more of a statement than anything-else is more than likely going to not get quoted or commented on.Some of the banter that is going on is between posters who are IRL friends. There's no popularity contest going on, it's just that through forums instead of messaging lurkers/readers are voyeurs of other people's friendships. I don't think people who have developed friendships online need to hide them.I have always loved forums, and have never let the fact that I'm not a regular poster somewhere put me off posting - if I feel what I have to say is relevant or of postential use to someone - nor do I ever expect anyone to really to anything but a thread I've started. Lurkers or fringe-dwellers - if you have something to say - say it! And if you want someone to comment on what you said with reference someone-else's post with a question or end your comment with 'I'd like to hear what others think about this'.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Howdy neighbor! *waves hello*Welcome to the forums.I am so glad you posted this Topic as I was talking to a friend this morning on this exact topic and how they feel intimidated by regulars who post.I understand exactly how you feel.When I first started posting in the forums I feel the exact same.It's just like walking into a room and not knowing a soul.It is quite scary.Some of the people who post regualrly do know or have met others in Real Life and there is a lot of banter that goes between posters, which of course would make a new person uncomfortable or at ease.Please don't let that stop you from posting.Keep on Posting.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
And welcome! Yes, the instant posting that some of us have has a lot to do with it. But don't despair. When I joined a year ago, I wasn't exactly welcomed either and accused by some of being the alter ego of male forum poster. Keep up the posts!
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
welcome Seizethemonment - I have had a little break from the forums, but slowly making my way back into them. keep posting....Mrs C
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Plain280
12 years ago
Its called the long introduction, you need to be in the subject, sometimes a bit contrary to either the OP or the direction the subject matter is going in order to be noticed. Remember also it is the written word is your only introduction, you miss all the physical cues you get on a face to face for instance. Yes it is daunting, but I think you need to give something of yourself to get accepted in any forum. I do it for my own reasons and I also like to help if possible, so occasionally tell the world at large a problem. The beauty of forums is the diversity of the people involved, you learn about your self, but above all balance it with fun as some the stuff is the work of genius.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like any new group it takes time to get to know people/personalities/profiles and for them to get to know you. I echo the comments above, it's just a matter of time.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
hi seizethemoment, i'm new to contributing to the forums, though have been reading them since mr funky & I joined rhp. when you follow the forums you can see the groups of friends amongst the regulars & recognise those who know each other off site but I have felt everybody is made welcome to post comments & join the members who regularly use this part of rhp. many times I have had posts left uncommented by the forum members & it did concern me initially that I was saying the 'wrong' thing or had put an unpopular view into the mix but I do try & take care with what I write & I stand by what I have posted. I don't post to see my name in print, I genuinely do have an opinion & want to add to the conversation though at times do get carried away when I become too 'passionate' about a topic ... i'm sure there are people who probably would prefer I did keep my comments to myself, but I have also had members send messages to our profile commenting on various threads we have added to & it is a nice surprise when these are received on top of any replies posted against what we have written on the thread. keep posting op, there are some great topics which get posted & it is interesting to see the different opinions from so many people. have fun :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
My resemblance to any RHP characters either living of dead is purely coincidental. Although..... I have been told to go fuck myself.... but that's not the same thing :-) On with the fun! DG
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madotara69
12 years ago
I am just a cheeky bugger, and Miss Freya and some of her girlfriends have been wanting to give me a smack since the day I joined in on this party.You may siezethemoment to if you feel like it. But it won't stop me from flirting with you occasionally.I am Mado and my lovely wife Tara lets me play in here.Plus I am just showing off, that I can type with two fingers and a thumb.Do you like my typing, you sexy looking ladyMado, Tara xx
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madotara69
12 years ago
Now Tara just smacked me. Since we joined in on this party. I never shut up and Tara laughs a lot, he he.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Don't take it to heart as we have been dealt the same thing lol but we have had some feed bak (mostly a bit lol) keep posting and remember its all light hearted fun. Lou n Dave
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BrightBubbly
12 years ago
I find it is like making new friends...It takes a while to get to know everyone and for them to get to know you.I lurked for a while before actually posting in the forums so that when I actually did I felt like I was already a part of the regulars because I was so familiar with them but it is very easy to forget that they had no idea who I was.My first few posts never got referred to, even though I thought some comments I made were worthy, but I kept on at it.Now, I am not one of the well known posters but I feel I have my niche and if I have something valid to say - that hasn't already been said - then I am comfortable to jump in.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' My resemblance to any RHP characters either living of dead is purely coincidental. Although..... I have been told to go fuck myself.... but that's not the same thing :-) On with the fun! DG your wrist must be sore, as your a good boy and always do as your told
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would definitely tend to agree with you. Some days I do like to read but mainly the posts where there are lots of different people commenting as it does seem that for the regular posters, every forum post needs to have their comment on it. Often it is quite good advice but when you read the same people saying the same things, makes the forums lose their appeal.Often I won't post because I don't feel like I need to comment on everything or echo something that someone already has said. ONly when I can add a different point of view do I like to indulge.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I dont post so people can acknowledge me often I think am invisible but I just sometime want to have an input. I get in moods where I post quite a few topics, some are well received some fade away.Feel free to say whatever you like. I find it interesting when people say hi to Newbies I also find it interesting when the OP feels they have to respond individually to each response.I often wish more people would step on in and open up about their experiences the more the merrier. It also lets us know were not just all here talking to the same people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
A lot of people will read what you have said and nod quietly to themselves in agreement ... limited response is not necessarily a bad thing ? If you cough up something everyone disagrees with there will be no shortage of 'opinions' coming forth.
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madotara69
12 years ago
But I soon worked out how to get around that.I started answering the posts before they were even written, and just took my chances that they would make some sort of sense.But I think everyone figured that out pretty quickly.I got lots ofand a few and once a
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RHP User
12 years ago
Welcome to the forums! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've noticed,there are some new posters here who have posted.See they just jump in and have a go.I haven't replied to their posts but I certainly have read them, smiled and agreed to what they have written.Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I joined about 18 months ago and have met many regular forum posters IRL,mainly at meet and greets.It is a great way to feel connectd to what is a very diverse group of open minded people.I have had conversations with RHP friends about subjects that I would never dream of broaching with anyone else that I know.But it is a bit like turning up at a party and trying to join in a conversation,just join.I am a self confessed forum tragic,sometimes I take a break,but just like crack,the forums draw me back....Foxy and I regularly meet for coffee or a drink and you and anyone else for that matter is welcome to join us...Foxy likes to tell everyone we discuss Chaos theory but she tells big fibs,sly ol' fox
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's all we have to say!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm only here to advertise myself... 😄 I'm shattered that mesmerised isn't really a guy...so many fantasy's destroyed... And ms siezethemoment, I'm still recovering from your rejection... But, I do sincerely appreciate your reply, thank you 💋 Hp xo 💌 I'm just here for the forums...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Do you have instant posting rights? I know that for new people their comments don't appear for a number of hours... And unfortunately by then the conversation has moved on. It's not that anyone is ignoring you... It's just people with instant rights have a can have an instant conversation. Keep posting!!! 😀 rhp actually do this? that's just stupid .. I consider myself abit of forum whore since I belong to so many tech and gaming forums , if something like this happened in any other forum , the mods would loose there heads over it lol I don't get why they would have a policy like that its just retarded ..anyway its like of like invited someone over to a dinner party ,but because they don't know your other friends , you gag them and tell them they can only speak once the conversation is over lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Foxxy's comment about feeling like you are walking into a room full of strangers is hitting that nail on the head, I found it very daunting... But the I have dribble that I need to subject the world to, and you guys have to suffer. What can I say other than suck it up... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can someone tell me how you get instant posting rights? Thanks Ms NC2147- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
My name is Inspirit and I have instant posting and yet no one still listens too me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
listen and obey
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RHP User
12 years ago
Inspirt goes to see her psychiatrist and says "Dr, no one listens or pays any attention to me !" Dr says..."next" Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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madotara69
12 years ago
I like yer tits inspirit
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madotara69
12 years ago
Some of the peeps on here have nick names, because it is easier than writing the whole username all the time.And I am developing a lisp trying to say your name at this moment, so can I call you sieze, or siezeth or ethe or mom or moment.Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' I like yer tits inspirit In the nicest way
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RHP User
12 years ago
will you fucking gag him..PLEASE lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi there seizethemoment....I just say what I have to say on the forums what I think at the time, with no expectation of acknowledgement, kinda like when I met someone for the first time, no expectations.What ever happens after that is usually a bonus and an unexpecteded delight.I do have a question for you though....You do have on your profile that you are single, yet your question uses WE...anything you are not telling us?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Started putting my nose in I felt like the invisible man. It takes a while. Carry on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
"we" is all the newbies
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think the ''we'' and ''us'' is referring to newbies.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And welcoming me, I love reading the forums it is where I grow and learn do much about myself and I certainly welcome everyone's different opinions :-) No I don't have instant messaging can you explain how to do this. It maybe perhaps that I only work from my I phone and I posted this comment last Saturday so I thought it hadn't been approved. Lady Tuscan you truly are an inspiration for all of us women and Meeka I do enjoy the same kink as you with your strap on :-) and to all the other ladies and gents for openly sharing your experiences with us. Keep up the good work :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been around only a little while - so not an old crusty in these here forums!! I kinda thought in the beginning, I might as well be talking to myself - but hey that happens IRL as well😩. So I just mutter away at times - but I do know someone reads my posts lol he tells me so (wink wink). Hi Tim. Anyways back to reading the forums. Oh I have some knitting to do as well........ Freya & Foxy where do you girls meet for coffee?? I am presuming Freya you are at Scarborough in Qld. I paddle out there all the time! Would live to catch up say hi! Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hate to shift away from the topic - but does any1 else encounter problems with posting topics on this forum?My last 3 topics haven't been posted. I thought maybe the first 2 - because maybe I broke some rule. But the third does not make sense.
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RHP User
12 years ago
They were all very positive.. No I don't have instant reply in fact I thought this post hadn't been approved as I posted it last Saturday....I only work from my I phone and it is quite frustrating. Pl excuse spelling at times. I'm mostly on here for the forums I learn so much about myself through all your inspiring opinions, especially Lady Tuscan, you go girl and Meeka you are such a genuine poster who gets to the point, and we do share a common interest, havent had any takers yet :-( I always think there is a right and wrong way to get your point across and you both do that. Thanks guys also with all the helpfull tips, I learn something everyday.... Keep it all coming I feel I already know some of you and the RHP Family.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry for boring you twice I have no idea at times how this all works, my first reply wasn't there so I tried again, technology is not my strong point...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'NewCouple2147' Can someone tell me how you get instant posting rights? Thanks Ms NC2147- Posted from rhpmobile On your home page, go down to the very bottom and there you will see "Customer Support".Click on that.A new window will open called "RHP help tips and FAQ"Scroll down to where it says " Can't find your question? Contact Support. Click Here for the Help Form. "Another page will open, to a form page.Where it says "Enquiry topic" click on that and scroll down and click on "General Inquires"In the Subject box type... "INSTANT POSTING"In the Enquiry box fill it out as to why you want Instant Posting.The mods will observe your postings for a while.If anyone is a trouble maker they will not give it to them, meaning had complaints or been reported for abuse.They will contact you once they've approved.Instant Posting can be taken off someone if the mods feel they have been naughty.Hope this helpsFOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'slickz' Hate to shift away from the topic - but does any1 else encounter problems with posting topics on this forum?My last 3 topics haven't been posted. I thought maybe the first 2 - because maybe I broke some rule. But the third does not make sense. I have had this happen a few times as well.I waited 24hrs once for a Forum once to be posted.Sometimes the mods don't like what you wrote??Maybe contact them and ask them why?Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Gypsy,We'd love it if you could join us!We normally meet in West End at a really cool cafe called "The Three Monkeys".We don't have set days or anything like that, just when ever we can.Freya just posted something in the Anything and Everything Thread.http://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Anything-and-everything-39028Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I did think that as well...but in this place, always best to check.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks Foxy! Ms NC2147 x- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I know the Three Monkeys well. Will have to do it!!! Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
would love to catch up...i am on holidays for two weeks from this Thursday,so is Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
We'll get in touch. Seize, haven't heard? As a newbie, would you like to join and meet other fellow posters as well, would be just a casual relaxed meet? FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' We'll get in touch. Seize, haven't heard? As a newbie, would you like to join and meet other fellow posters as well, would be just a casual relaxed meet? FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile What are you lot gunnu talk about, bird watching. bahahaMado xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
know dogging was casual hmmm
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RHP User
12 years ago
You have to be deemed worthy by the mods to get instant posting rights... Sometimes they even threaten to take it away when you don't play nice. The forum used to be a very outrageous place and many characters and risqué topics... Hence the powers that be decided that you needed to prove that you were not a trouble maker before giving you instant posting rights. That may take a few months... Although if you post a lot they make get sick of reviewing your comments and give you instant posting rights. This means that even if you may see your comment on a thread, everyone else will not be able to see if for a few hours or even sometimes a day before it appears ... So it appears that people are ignoring you but it isn't true. You will notice when a whole heap of responses are approved as they tend to do it a few times a day and approve in bulk. I also agree that controversial or outrageous comments will get a response more so than others. :D
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is a dirty bird!!! Woo hoo. Lets spit roast some lovely boys. 😛
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Is a dirty bird!!! Woo hoo. Lets spit roast some lovely boys. 😛 exactly!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oops got some hate mail... Only happens very rarely. But apparently I am uneducated and offensive and my opinions are so ridiculous I amaze this guy! But if he was to show me a good time... Something I am obviously lacking and if he would lower his standards to fuck such a fat arse like mine... He would show me what I am missing. Lol. Some people are weird aren't they. :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
I only skimmed the email so he could be right... Apparently I am poorly educated lady who rates herself too highly and I am ridiculous ... Not my opinions. Woo hoo I must be doing something right. 😜
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just sit your pretty little butt on his face and give him the birdy, that might shut him up??? FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lordy... And I thought I had been behaving on the forums of late? Obviously my views can be very different to other people's and a lot of people don't agree with me. Which is cool and normal... But seems odd to send hate mail? I find that quite weird actually ... Must have have hit a nerve. Oh well. Hehehe 😈
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RHP User
12 years ago
LOL Who knows but he wanted to show you a good time!2nd thoughts maybe his good time would have been tied up by his knickers?? FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Whoooooooooooooooo Hooooooooooooooooooo!I received my first hate mail last night!From a 53yr old local man telling me to "Get a life FFS!" (that's all what was said) have no idea what he ment or why?Curiosity got the better of me and I had to ask him if his knickers were in a knot over somefink?The dear 'ol man, how sweet of him to acknowledge - bless his cotton socks. FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
They always expect you to know what they are talking about.... Ha! Like, whatever dude. Hehehe. It's usually men in the their late 40's and 50's. makes me wonder actually.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'You have to be deemed worthy by the mods to get instant posting rights... Sometimes they even threaten to take it away when you don't play nice. The forum used to be a very outrageous place and many characters and risqué topics... Hence the powers that be decided that you needed to prove that you were not a trouble maker before giving you instant posting rights. That may take a few months... Although if you post a lot they make get sick of reviewing your comments and give you instant posting rights. This means that even if you may see your comment on a thread, everyone else will not be able to see if for a few hours or even sometimes a day before it appears ... So it appears that people are ignoring you but it isn't true. You will notice when a whole heap of responses are approved as they tend to do it a few times a day and approve in bulk. I also agree that controversial or outrageous comments will get a response more so than others. :D and I know I've told this story before... When I first joined RHP, ALL posts and threads were moderated. A few years ago, not too long before before you joined the site Meeka, RHP updated the overall site, made the forums Nation based rather than State based and gave EVERYONE immediate posting including threads. (I feel like I'm reading Genesis! Haha!) That was so much fun for a while. Too many people took advantage of it though (posting contact details and vilification etc) and slowly but surely those prvileges were whittled down. Threads were no longer instant, newcomers no longer had instant posting, blah blah blah. Here we are now with the privileged few. On the flipside, not only can instant posting taken away but the ability to post at all can be as well. . We in the forums asked for guidelines about what was ok and not to post and RHP eventually posted guidelines, which were ignored or ridiculed until they were put aside on the side tab and sank into RHP lore. And so a new generation of the RHP forums moves along with a wide selection of posters from the very first days of the site, from before the State forums were a twinking in the eye of the Site Founders, to the existence of the State forums where many posters with wordy opinions were attracted lol (think me), to the National forums which has attracted more posters than ever before. + It is a bit bloody confusing that people can see their posts and not know they haven't actually been posted. Btw, hate mail sucks!!! . On topic Sieze, I get a bit shy about approaching people most of the time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes the we and they are us newbies.... Fortunately I enjoy being a free spirit.... Soo many men sigh but unfortunately there are not to many that gety attention due to fact they cannot write more than three words in their message...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wrote more than three words... Hp xo 💌 Because you don't know what you're missing out on...
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'seizethemoment' Yes the we and they are us newbies.... Fortunately I enjoy being a free spirit.... Soo many men sigh but unfortunately there are not to many that gety attention due to fact they cannot write more than three words in their message... To see you are settling in just fine, so you will probably want to smack me occasionally, all your other girlfriends do!!!!Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mado, bado and dangerous to know
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RHP User
12 years ago
So many men,such little words....lol
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