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In this day and age....

July 22 2017

I could not believe someone from here saying that he thinks condoms do not protect agains STI's. Apparently 'its a fact'. I'm thinking it may be a Donald Trump alternative fact. We have been messaging and he said a couple of things that made me think 'Hmmm' (apparently cock tease is a compliment where he is from). I haven't heard this excuse/reason before. I've heard of guys saying their sensation suffers etc. and asking if can they go without. But the 'it's a fact' they don't stop disease from this guy in today's environment - WOW!. I told him I was ending the discussion there, signed off and blocked him. I get the feeling he mat be one of those guys who gets a little angry when women deny his right to unsafe sex. If you trust your partner and they you then it's your choice. However, I'm a woman that has always told her kids ' if its not on, it's not on'.

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RHP User

8 years ago

he was referring to the fact that condoms don't prevent STI transmission via fingers, mouths, other body parts etc., which is much more common than most people think. Gonorrhea can even be transferred via kissing, although I believe that's fairly rare. Regardless of what he meant though, if he was making that statement as an excuse to not wear a condom at all then yes that's manipulative and shitty, and I would have shut him down as well.

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RHP User

8 years ago

Cum buckets only and they didn't stop the spread of disease. I'm a well educated woman and I know condoms don't stop everything as they do have a failure rate. I also know syphilis and gonnorhea can both be spread by kissing and oral sex (open wounds in the mouth coming into contact with syphilitic sores or infection). Chlamydia can be spread by oral sex as well - rare but possible. He had asked if I was on the pill so I knew what was next... I was right. That's when I said if it's not on it's not on and got the cum bucket comment. I'm not putting my health at risk for some man cos he doesn't like condoms. No man I've met likes them - but they know it's a necessary evil. I wasn't going to give him the opportunity to try and wangle a meet by trying to persuade me....cos I could imagine the result! No thanks. KH

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RHP User

8 years ago

That condoms are not 100% safe but they massively reduce the risk! If you also get regularly tested for symptomless sti's you can reduce the risk even further to very manageable levels.Yes condoms can be akward and reduce the sensation but I'll take that over an sti.

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RHP User

8 years ago

...of condoms (some of which are quite comfortable) like Lambskins will not protect against STI's albeit are effective for preventing pregnancy. Others are highly effective at preventing both. I also totally agree with LD so no plan is foolproof. Worth checking the product before making any assumptions however sounds like this fellow belongs on the ''no thanks'' list. Best, CM

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Mask_007

8 years ago

I believe that does that is one of the most silly comments I ever hard. His and your well being should always come first. The condom is second nature by now. Is not 100% safe but helps a lot I sm always happy to use it. Maybe he was trying to say that does not protect if you don't use??? - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' he was referring to the fact that condoms don't prevent STI transmission via fingers, mouths, other body parts etc., which is much more common than most people think. Gonorrhea can even be transferred via kissing, although I believe that's fairly rare. actually they're working on that as the most common method of transmission in some new research, they've even done some experiments having the guys use various mouthwashes for extended periods of time and it had an impact on transmission rates (the study used gay males as subjects). To OP: they don't protect against STI's that don't have to go through the condom barrier. A friend (actually, not the Hyopthetical Friend) got hsv1 from some fucking idiot who couldn't join the dots between getting coldsores and saliva on your fingers possibly transmitting things, the stupidity of some people defies belief.

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RHP User

8 years ago

All guys hate wearing condoms but i'm not going to risk getting sti's / std's and pregnancy for the sake of sensation. I wouldn't expect a new partner to allow me to not use a condom. I'v found the Skins brand of condoms to be pretty good. Play safe and have fun everyone - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

I've either had the misfortune of chatting with the same bloke or his twin brother 🙄. The one I chatted to stated safe sex at all times in his profile, however his sexually explicit pic showed him not wearing a condom back when I was a paid member (good for that moment lol). I questioned the pic & the safe sex noted in his profile giving him the benefit of the doubt & wondering if maybe it was just a photo set up. Geez, did I set him off or what. Apparently he won't wear condoms & he can tell if someone has an STI by the general cleanliness & hygiene, ie, if there fingernails are clean etc 🙄. This was coming from a supposedly educated man ....... no thanks.

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RHP User

8 years ago

Condoms always for any casual partners outside of a primary or otherwise exclusive relationship, or trusted private groupings (eg polyfidelity), and regular testing required. However, even playing unprotected with a primary partner, one or preferrably both parties should be doing something about pregnancy risk. If you trust any sex partner enough to have the talk about playing natural so be it, and it can be done just fine with everyone clean and knowledgeable, but with the facts; I don't have time for lame ass theories or excuses. I've played unprotected with two people ever, both while exercising testing and mutual exclusivity. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

I'm waiting for the forum member to arrive who has been very vocal on this before Could make for entertaining reading if he arrives 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Re. transmission of Hsv1, that happens far more than people realise. Often because it can be most contagious at the earliest stages before any sore becomes apparent.

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RHP User

8 years ago

Something is better than nothing, and yep if it's not on its not on. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

He had the 'Safe Sex - If required' in his profile. Whether it is Aways, If Required or Sometimes, a discussion prior to any play is recommended. I require it, so unless the man is a complete douchebag they will agree without hesitation and not try to talk me out of it. I don't have to worry about pregnancy as I had my tubes tied. However, I have no desire to contract a STI. The only true protection is abstinence or masturbation. As that is not my desired lifestyle, condoms and regular testing plus open communication with potential partners is vital. I was a girl guide and 'Be prepared' was our motto. I keep a supply of various condoms - latex and non-latex with options in regular and large - just in case they forget or don't come prepared. If I have any doubts, then it's a 'no' from this little black duck.

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