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Inappropriate? Or just pragmatic?
September 19 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was having a check up at a gynaecologist a few years ago and I snapped one of his plastic instruments His only response was to try and relax. I was a bit embarrassed but hopefully it was all in a days work for him. We can't control are bodies natural instincts, so no, I don't think your reaction was inappropriate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
As for someone who comes from a Medical Background, yes she would have ;) you're a good looking guy, it would have been her way of Non Verbally telling you she thought so! 😉 Get better soon xo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've maybe been harbouring a long term Scrubs fantasy... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't know whether to wince or invite you to Melbourne.
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RHP User
11 years ago
she was purposely molesting your cock and trying to get a rise out of you, lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And she could have found somewhere else to rest her arm. Inappropriate in my view, assuming it occurred as you described. If a woman had a medical procedure that involved that kind of inappropriate touching it would most probably be considered assault. If you're fine with it and you found it titillating then good luck to you :) But I hope she shows more respect for patients in future. Everyone deserves to feel safe and that their body is safe when seeking medical care. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
11 years ago
And I reckon she knew what she was doing. It's pretty impressive you didn't get a raging hardon - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
She was either being professional and not wanting an awkward situation by saying something or She was teasing you
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree if the roles had been reversed it would have been highly transgressive, and that thought was what got me thinking about it. I wondered whether I should have felt bothered by it, or whether I would have been bothered by it if she'd been substantially less attractive, but ultimately I think it was the completely casual and non aggressive aspect to the whole affair that made it just feel like a bright spot in an otherwise rather tedious day. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Tacit acceptance of inappropriate things perpetuates them. I sometimes get outraged on behalf of men because of the double standards women apply. I'm a bit annoyed with her :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Medical people enjoy their power and talk about it amongst themselves with great delight - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
she knew what she was doing, though it wouldn't just be the tease that she'd appreciate - sono's spend so much time holding their arms out to move the probe around they can get wickedly sore/tired arms,elbows and shoulders. A nice crotch wouldn't be a bad spot to rest I guess
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Nah, I reckon it was all in a days work and she was just doing what she had to do. BTW did she mention to you prior, how she was going to do procedure and where she was going to place her hand etc as in talk to you what would happen? Jeez some days at work, I have penises right in my face - no way would I make a person feel embarrassed or make an issue out of it, let alone flirt with them, especially if they were masturbating or had a hard on. I get paid to do a professional job - at work it's just an other piece of skin. Now outside of work - having a penis right in my face, masturbating and a hard one, my actions maybe a little different. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think I tend to agree it was a pragmatic positioning. She needed to hold the probe thing steady to measure pulse and blood flow etc, and would have needed wrist support for that. I think also that plonking her wrist down and proceeding professionally wherever it landed was more appropriate than awkwardly trying to avoid anything that might seem inappropriate. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Personally she should have said something to you prior; as in... "For me to get an accurate reading, I need to place my forearm in a position on your body in this reign *indicates exactly where*, if at any stage you feel uncomfortable please let me know." That way permission is given, a choice and a letting you know before anything rises. LOL! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a little appalled by her behaviour,twenty minutes is a loong time...on the other hand,if it was enjoyable and made what is usually an unpleasant, anxiety making experience more than a little erotic,good for her xxQ
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I hope your results are all clear. Foxy
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
I have to go to a haematologist every 3 months for a check-up. Also a female, probably early 50 mark, around 5' nothing tall. I have to lay down as she goes about her testing, which involves her placing her hands around various parts of the torso and doing that 'tap-tapping' with both hands. She gets very close to the bottom of my torso / top of legs, but she always makes sure she doesn't get too close. Never in all the years I've been seeing her has she made any kind of mistake in her positioning, so I think your case she may perhaps have been having a little bit of 'fun' with you. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
I tend to agree with Foxxy, and think that it was probably just the most comfortable position for her to perform the task she was doing. Radiologists need to be aware of this because they are at risk of overuse injuries from the prolonged, repetitive upper limb movements. No doubt she most likely would have known what her forearm was resting on, but if she was doing it at all intentionally to try and tease you or have some 'fun' with you, that would be extremely unprofessional and possibly open her up to a complaint of harassment and the associated implications of that. Yes as BL mentioned there are huge double standards in that respect, and no doubt some men would probably enjoy the attention, but others might feel uncomfortable about it and they have just as much right as women to feel that way and to not be subject to inappropriate behaviour during medical procedures. There is also the fact that medical and health professionals see and touch lots of bodies and body parts on a daily basis, including genitals, so it can become more normal and mainstream for them compared to the attitudes most of us have towards those 'areas'. I also agree though that she could have warned you before she started about the likelihood of her touching your groin area.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Burning_Love If this same situation had happened in the opposite orientation the male doctor would have been in deeper shit than gunger din If you look at the cases involving teachers I think you'll find that the judicial system is very gender specific and there are many females taking advantage of it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
She would have felt it, and I expect she completely ignored it on purpose. Doing that kind of ultrasound for twenty minutes (likely several times a day) without resting her arm could easily leave her with RSI, maybe even a tennis elbow. She could have said something, yes, but it sounds like she chose to not draw any attention to her "arm placement" which could have made you feel self-conscious. It makes perfect sense to me. Hope you feel better! x
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do a fair amount of 'procedures' myself at work. I have been known to turn someone in the opposite direction I.e. Head at feet end to obtain easier access, thereby coming at the area from the other direction. Of course, it does depend on the procedure. But yes, if you were tumescent she would have known.
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RHP User
11 years ago
that anyone thinks it's OK or even understandable for her to rest her arm on a man's (or anyone's!) genitals for 20 mins during a medical procedure. Having worked on many bodies for many years I promise you there are other ways she could have positioned herself, and that she would have been well trained to do so. And if there truly was no option for her, she would and should have offered a nicely prepared, non-confronting advanced-warning explanation of what was going to happen. Not on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry buddy, I'm almost certain she had no idea. It's not a massage, or a waxing job or anything else, there's a screen in front of you that has this profound ability to steal all your concentration. Ultrasounding can be tough. The sonographer reads as they go, but ultimately it is the radiologist (who rarely does the actual ultrasound) who reads and reports the images. That's actually hard to do when you're not the one doing it, hence the need for sonographers to do a meticulous job, to get such good looking images, as such they can definitely get swept up in what they're doing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Today I had an ultrasound,the technician explained every part of the procedure to me...she was very respectful and I was emonded of this thread...I think Rick that, thetechnician was incredibly remiss in not informing you of exactly what was taking place and the positioning of her arm....xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Reminded of this thread xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
You did say she was young, maybe she wasn't too skilled yet in how to approach the subject in a way that would not embarrass either one of you?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've read quite a few opinions on this one, but mate, I think she should either "stay off" or "wank you off", perhaps she was a bit excited and wanting more to happen? Lucky it wasn't me, my "tent pole" would have run straight up to "full mast" & "there she blow's". Lol. Cheers P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Pink_Lotus' You did say she was young, maybe she wasn't too skilled yet in how to approach the subject in a way that would not embarrass either one of you? I wouldn't think too many get trained as sonos before they've had to deal with plenty of 'situations' as radiographers in general x-ray, CT or MRI.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mate I have never met a woman who is not aware of a dick getting hard when pressed against it! This is appaling behaviour from a medical professional. If the boot was on the other foot and it was you completing a proceedure on her and kept resting your arm on her breast you would no longer be working there and be looking at damages claims. This is a professional environment and her behaviour is just wrong. I have supervised many staff who care for people in medical situations and this is a sackable offense if it was proven to be true. She is employed in a position of trust, and even a claim from a patient would initiate an investigation. As far as overuse, there are plenty of alternative places to rest your arm or reposition yourself. Straight out wrong!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'DomOvrU' Mate I have never met a woman who is not aware of a dick getting hard when pressed against it! This is appaling behaviour from a medical professional. If the boot was on the other foot and it was you completing a proceedure on her and kept resting your arm on her breast you would no longer be working there and be looking at damages claims. This is a professional environment and her behaviour is just wrong. I have supervised many staff who care for people in medical situations and this is a sackable offense if it was proven to be true. She is employed in a position of trust, and even a claim from a patient would initiate an investigation. As far as overuse, there are plenty of alternative places to rest your arm or reposition yourself. Straight out wrong! And here I was thinking this topic was only missing the "dear Penthouse, I never thought Id be writing in, but....."
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RHP User
11 years ago
I hope everything is going well for you hugs xxQ
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