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Inequality
February 28 2019
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Yes we are inundated. And no, I don't think most Male members have the same "success rates" and the female members.... that's just the how it goes. Wouldn't label it as inequity in anyway shape or form though.
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
If people say they get hundreds of messages a day they're doing better than me or full of shit. And if men think it's only women that don't reply they're kidding themseleves. We just don't constantly whinge about it in forum topics. I know one thing for sure is l've never received an abusive message from a couple or a female. But that's ok l use those messages for sport until they block me 😀
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RHP User
7 years ago
Freaky this is by no means a complaint. Response rates are what you would expect, no one owes anyone a damn thing on here. Just wanted to see what the reality is... B
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
I was just saying that some people may embellish how many messages they get a day.
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
When I first started on RHP, yeah sure I was bombarded with contact emails. Nowadays, the contact I receive fluctuates each day. My success rate is due to me selecting very carefully, whom I want to be around and who is a equal/fit to me, with common interests. That is what I expect and want. The last few years, I have been very lucky and blessed. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Majority of women on here is my experience say they are overwhelmed... what a stupid word. Or dont have time, or send messages and I will reply. I feel that all should just be normal and politely say no I am not interested... or just reply with something.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Said"there are lies ,damn lies and statistics " Why tell the truth when a good lie is far more interesting. Yes perhaps most women depending on their level of pulchtritude initially receive an overwhelming amount of messages and flirts . Fresh meat :) But it does decline. So Buff dont believe all that you hear. Only 70 percent of women are telling the truth :) Hugs Q
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's not surprising we hear more from the men than women... But the fact is, many women do post to complain about ghosting and such, there is such a thread posted today. They just don't cop the same judgement most of the time. Also, men tend to be members more than women, so numbers would suggest they send more messages. I haven't mentioned other profile types to keep it simple, Peachy, no not inundated by messages but I skip the pretty pictures to attract more attention than I need and have a thorough write up so as not to waste anyone's time.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sounds like you’re asking for individual experiences... so here’s mine. I think it depends on the profile, as, I have certainly not been inundated. I respond to all flirts and messages as a matter of courtesy. I’ve had a perfect success rate as the people I’ve met, spoken to or messaged have been delightful. I think it’s a great platform if you verify, take your time, be patient and respectful. The forums are so insightful and gives you a moment to collect and process the broad views that ‘people’ have. Happy hunting!
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RHP User
7 years ago
If the op is after individual stories.....im really not sure what benefit there is in that as individual experiences obviously vary widely Scanning the forums ... as he has done.... is the most logical way to gain an insight of the “collective experience” which tells the pattern To me, a more interesting proposition is to learn what people decide “success” to be
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MzTracey
7 years ago
It seems to be feast or famine The last 6 months of last year nothing but this year has been really really great
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RHP User
7 years ago
Leelud, individual experiences are certainly what i am interested. Generalizing is never a good thing in my experience.
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nightingale8
7 years ago
Am I the only one having a giggle about the jizz on the hair look? 😁
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SxcMissM
7 years ago
In my first week of changing states i was the shiny new thing and i was inundated with flirts and messages yes over 100 it was overwhelming😮 and did i respond to all no i couldnt 🙄......thank god i only get 1or 2 a day its so much more manageble 😊
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RHP User
7 years ago
I've met with 1 lady in my city in the last 12 months and chatted with a few couples on messenger about possible future meets, I'm thinking patience is the way to go. Also the way my profile is written is utter shit and I could do a lot better 😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
Not inundated at all. I don't receive flirts because I've turned off that option in my settings, and even when I was actively looking I didn't get that many messages. When I first joined, when I was also looking for couples, and when I had amateur pic sets up I did have more inbox traffic, but it still would have been rare for me to get more than 5 messages a day. My location does have a lot to do with that, and I do receive a lot more messages when I post travel dates. Yes it is difficult for men on here. It is also difficult for women and despite what some people think not all of us can easily find sex here (due to a few reasons, location again being another big one). If we're just talking about hooking up then I probably wouldn't classify my time here as much of a success. I have met some great people I now call friends though, and that is where RHP has been of the most benefit to me.
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RHP User
7 years ago
In my experiences views flirts and messages fluctuate from day to day with no rhyme or reason... I’ve tried beating myself with a brick to understand why however only end up with a sore head that’s not worth the effort at the end of the day. Our profile isn’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is going to get to taste our sweetness as compatibility isn’t present. It’s life and I’m learning to bypass the brick for more favourable endeavours with those that see something in us.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m ML... Define “success” as its entirely subjective...
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RHP User
7 years ago
My 'success' or 'liberation' as I prefer to call it, was borne out of introspection, self-permission and determination. Numbers of flirts and messages become irrelevant when a profile is found and a person or people at the other end can be connected with. My inbox has had a lot of mail yes. My desire to be busy with RHP and mail and new connections thankfully is tempered by my desire to be a whole person and busy with living my life. Might I add here, in this public space, I like your profile. And I wish you 'success'.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks Getme. Any form of reaasurance and or compliment is always welcome. I totally agree with what you say about living a balanced life. Certainly RHP is not a distraction but then again as most males on here the volume of my messages is managable. Success for me is connecting with someone online, arranging a face to face meet and for that to actually happen. It doesnt not necessarily mean there was an exchange of body fluids. The opportunity to meet new interesting people is also one of the reasons i am here. Therefore, as i said i have had some success.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I keep coming accross this phrase from both males and females "no one owes anyone a damn thing on here" No one owes you a reply. Does that mean no one owes you the dignity of being treated with respect too? You cant ask to be treated with respect then in the next breath state that you dont own anyone anything. IMO if you don't reply to a flirt or a text you are a not someone deserving of respect and I interpret being ignored very disrespectful. One can argue till blue in the face about this many flirts and messages a day/week/month and how "hard" it is to use the bulk reply feature on RHP. Alternatively RHP should have extreme blocking fliters to prohibit anyone not matching your criteria contact you. Would save a lot of time and hassel
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RHP User
7 years ago
When I first joined rhp I had lots of messages and flirts. But since I have been on and off of here for a few years it has slowed down to a few messages and flirts a day. I changed my status to looking for a fwb with social outings as well and not just hookups, well didn't that slow the messages lol. Anyway I don't think you will have any trouble finding some lovely playmates😉😎
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks Purple. I have meet some very interesting people already. I am expecting that to continue. Looking forward to face to face..
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RHP User
7 years ago
And I if I read that right, I hope you two hit it off!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'The_Antichrist' I’m ML... My whole life is lie.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Some are more equal than others. OP I'm a bit surprised to see in my stats that my message reply rate is 65% but that doesn't translate into a "success" rate. In the five years I've been on RHP I have only met one person in a one on one meeting we got on fine but won't be lovers. It's no surprise that a married man is not going to be the most popular bloke here, especially not an older one. It appears to me that your expectations are fairly realistic, so good luck and keep on being you. I've met a fair few RHP people at a social event and there was only one person there who I didn't like.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hahahaha I was wondering when some picked up on that lol.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Buff - your rationale for success is spot on. Anti - I don't get it? What's ML? I think I am not firing on all cylinders today. Can't seem to make sense of anything to do with RHP. Anyway happy Saturday to all.
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RHP User
7 years ago
After nine years of this running joke which Is actually based on a joke I made when someone in a private message asked for my opinion about you I shall now leave again.
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RHP User
7 years ago
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RHP User
7 years ago
Qefenta3 Sad to see you go 😔
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RHP User
7 years ago
To clarify regarding this joke.... I’ve spoken with Q regarding said joke, and it was one that I knew nothing of... My focus was on the fact I omitted “with” from my post....and the irony about it as it stands is that there are some people believe I’m a lap dog to ML which I find hilarious....
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm at a loss about any private joke, was having a laugh at the ongoing suggestion ML and Anti might be the same person (which, since I've met them both, is obviously not the case). Q, please come back.
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RHP User
7 years ago
By popular demand..Well in my own mind anyway :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yes, as you say... 😂 🍑
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RHP User
7 years ago
The "My whole life is a lie" thing is just an internet meme. A joke. Nothing more nothing less. No lies in my life, nor my profile. Glad to see you back, Q. Anyway, back on topic?
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RHP User
7 years ago
When you first join you get lots of messages but it quiets down after a while. We get maybe a few a day now but we focus on quality and not quantity. Success comes in many different forms for us. We organise social meet and greets so messages focus around those mainly now. We did change our preference to single guys for a week and then the floodgates opened and we were swamped but answered all of them and changed back to couples and girls!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Welcome back Q. Now give me some more words like "pulchtritude". Make me google stuff again. Buff/Purple...........How was the face to face?........Some people have more movements than a swiss watch in this place :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Solitary' The "My whole life is a lie" thing is just an internet meme. A joke. Nothing more nothing less. No lies in my life, nor my profile. Glad to see you back, Q. Anyway, back on topic? As the 'joke' has gone over the years which I have wondered about, it sounded like a replay. Ironic really. But thanks for the gaslighting yourself. Now if we'd stuck with the topic in the first place... Inequality? Yes, definitely as I said in my earlier post, expectations and obligations are the bane of the place that so many expect so much but give so little. Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
How about.Perspicatious:) Hugs Q
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RHP User
7 years ago
And peripatetic :)
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RHP User
7 years ago
I really seem to have missed something in this thread. Nevertheless thanks for the responses. Buff
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RHP User
7 years ago
Women have the luxury to pick and choose, 90% of the men are in the bargain basement bin. Men are on a fishing expedition, some cast their nets far and wide, some set their baits and patiently wait. RHP is similar to fishing where 10% of the fishermen catch 90% of the fish. There are some very busy anglers on this site.
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On_Safari
7 years ago
Unless it’s on RHP Oz Boy - lots of nibbles, lots of shit fish, only a few catch and release unfortunately.
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RHP User
7 years ago
and my point exactly. I will expand on that. 90% of the guys on this site cant fish for shit, use the wrong bait or put the cod nets out trolling far and wide hoping to dredge up a rare (to them) keeper. (AKA stunned mullet) Its the 10% who can fish, who have the right equipment (abs, hair, teeth), are in their prime (-50), have their wits about them and have a good stout rod (7"+) that hook 90% of the catch on offer. Safari I hope your kissing the ones that you catch and release and not donging them on the head catfish style :D
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